Do you keep your kids on a strict bedtime schedule?

Erica - posted on 09/29/2009 ( 65 moms have responded )

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I think my boys do better when going to bed @ a routine time even on the weekends. Do you feel the same way?

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Jennifer - posted on 09/29/2009

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I try to keep the same schedule all week long, on the weekend I let it vary by a hour or so. I find if I don't they get so out of wack they are cranky cranky wich in turn makes me cranky.

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Julie - posted on 05/17/2013

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I feel the same way, 8:00 in bed, read to 8:30 lights out. 9:30 on weekends. However, my husband seems a bit lacks on the bedtime, and we take turns depending on our work schedules. This is frustrating because as non nonchalant as he is his with what time they are IN bed, he is obsessive with them getting UP on time in the morning! I try to explain, if he was diligent with bedtime, the mornings come easier, but he sees NO CORRELATION between the two..ugh
And so, the cycle continues.... I bitch about bed time, and he moans about getting up on time. Happy Family, Mrs bitch and Mr. moan (LOL)

Alice - posted on 10/16/2009

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yes, my 9 month old has a bed time of 8:00...I am lucky that she does ok if we occasionally have to stray a bit but she definately thrives on this routine. It's good for my marriage too as there is still enough time in the evening to relax with hubby

Tamara - posted on 10/16/2009

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my boy doesn;t sleep @a routine time but i should to reschadual his time to bed

Karen - posted on 10/11/2009

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yes i put my daughter to bed everynight at the same time. it is better if they have a schedule . then is gets easier when they have a routine. it works really well. even when they get older they still should have a routine.

Nicole - posted on 10/11/2009

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Oh yes! Ever since I got my son on a strict schedule, my life has been a breeze! And sometimes I can't help but look forward to that nap time or "night night" time! lol. And my son definately gets excited for bed, which is a blessing!

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Yes. My 10 month old is on the same schedule daily. It varies only slightly. If he wakes earlier, his first nap is a little earlier and so are meals and snacks. If his naps are short then I put him to bed earlier. I try to focus on the amount of hours he is awake between waking in morning, naps and last nap and bedtime. That's what I try to keep mostly the same daily. Doing this, I've found he is much happier, fusses less during waking hours and when being put down to sleep and he sleeps better. Some people think I'm being strict but I see the positive difference in my baby. I will let it be more flexible as he gets older and becomes more flexible himself. Until then, this is better for both mom and baby. Plus this allows me time with my husband each night, including weekends just for us. Every night is ours, always by 7:30PM at the latest.

Mandy - posted on 10/08/2009

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I wish my daughter liked to keep a schedule, but she is ten months old and didn't have a schedule until a couple of weeks ago. But her schedule is still not what I want it to be. She takes a nap around 11 in the afternoon and wakes up 45 minutes to an hour and then takes another nap from 4:30-6 PM and then gets to be around 11 at night. She will then wake up at 7:45 to eight in the morning. But I will take any schedule over none at all.

Sharon - posted on 10/07/2009

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Yes, TJ 6yrs. old has a routine. 7:30 shower and snack. Bed by 8 with bedtime story, which he reads to me now. Usually asleep by 8:30. It's so good, he tells time now. Does it himself without cues. My baby is being responsible. AWE. LOL!!!!!

Jacqueline - posted on 10/07/2009

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I put both of mine to nap and bed at the same time every day... 7 days a week.

This is the one thing I do not slack on... I really believe this solid sleep schedule is just as important as playtime, eating and everything else you do with you kids. Adequate sleep makes for much happier kids during the waking hours. Besides, we've been on this schedule so long... my kids practically take themselves upstairs some nights!!!

Elizabeth - posted on 10/07/2009

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Absolutely! Same routine every night for all 3. Bedtime between 7:30 and 8:00. It affords my husband and I some 'quiet/sane' time for eachother or ourselves, whatever we need! I'm preggy with #4, so I absolutely need it. It might vary by 1/2 hr to an hour on the weekend, but that's it! Good luck!

Patti - posted on 10/07/2009

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yes, I do agree. My daughter is only 2 and if she don't go to bed at the same time even on weekends it makes the following week very crazy

Debra Dunnivan - posted on 10/07/2009

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Absolutely! Yes makes kids happier and healther , and gives moma and daddy their own time....

Shenell - posted on 10/07/2009

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yes definitely.i have a 5yr old and a 2yr old and theve been on schedules since they were babies routine is very good for all kids

Angel - posted on 10/06/2009

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Yes, my boys have went to bed at 7 since they were 2 months old every night and they sleep til 7 in the morning, They have learned sleep time is sleep they are going on 2 and still sleep this way. It gives mommie and daddie time too!

Beth - posted on 10/06/2009

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I wouldn't stay strict, but they do have a bedtime routine. Every night, we take our baths, read a couple of books (my son is 6 and learning to read, so he reads one too), and then we give kisses and hugs, make sure that everyone has used the potty, got a drink of water, and brushed their teeth. Then we tuck them in the bed, turn on a CD of programmed music, and turn on the hallway light. Bedtime finally! haha...

Katy - posted on 10/06/2009

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Definantly! My kids are on a nightly schedule. Bath time at 630, then quiet time(they watch tv but no playing or running around) and then bed time at 800. On times that we've been off schedule, their attitudes completely change, they are grouchy.

Groth - posted on 10/05/2009

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That's what we always did. There where exceptions to the rule, but most of the time that is what she did.

Nicole - posted on 10/05/2009

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Well at our house Jillian goes to sleep around the same time give or take... We don't however put her in her room and make her stay there we let her fall a sleep on the couch.... Even though I know that's a bad habit to get into....

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No doubt, kids do so much better with routine and stability in their life. It makes everything go so much smoother and you are in control not your kids!

Groth - posted on 10/05/2009

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Yes, I did when my child was little. It was 8:00 pretty much all the time. At six oclock, it was quiet games only. Nothing that would get her wound up. This always works, she is 24 now, and still needs some quiet time before bed, to wind down from work and school.

Cara - posted on 10/04/2009

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yes my kids are on a time limit for eatting and all so they know when one thing happens bed time is right around the corner

Cami - posted on 10/03/2009

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just to add one more thing, make the schedule that works best for you. My husband used to work till 9pm, and didnt get home till 930, then would go back to work at 7am the next day so i would keep he up so they could see each other for a half an hour. No big deal

Cami - posted on 10/03/2009

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I think its a parents choice to put their child on a schedule. I have an 18 month old and a six weeks old. My daughter usually goes to bed at 9, but it can be different depending on the situation. it can be from 8 to 10 or even 11 sometimes but rarely. Sometimes we are out and she just stays up. im not going to force her to sleep. She has no reason to keep her on a schedule. She is not in school, she does not go to day care, and i stay home with her all day.once my son starts sleeping through the night then they will both be on a schedule. Until then there is no point for me to have a set bedtime. But that is just my situation

Kim - posted on 10/03/2009

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Not so strict. My daughter is very much a routine girl. She goes to bed between 8-8:30. I haven't gotten real strict with bedtime because I feel that we don't go to bed at the exact same time every night but generally the same time so why should she? As long as she doesn't fight with me on it and she gets enough sleep, I'm fine with her flexible bedtime (although, I have never allowed her to stay up past 8:30). Not to mention, her body is telling her she's tired and she very rarely tries to fight that feeling.

Devin - posted on 10/03/2009

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Absolutely!! My girls are in bed by 830 otherwise when they get up in the morning everyones grouchy. Also that gives me sometime to wind down

Yolanda - posted on 10/03/2009

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Absolutely! Even my 3 year old knows when it's bedtime because he knows the routine. They function so much better with a schedule. I may let them stay up an extra 30 minutes on Friday or Saturday night, but not all the time. My kids go to bed at 8pm.

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Yes definitely, it keeps them happier. Our 1 yr old goes to bed at 6:30 and our almost 4 yr old goes to bed at 7:00.

Jennifer - posted on 10/02/2009

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I do during the school week for sure!! But weekends they stay up later, hoping maybe they'll sleep in a bit. Sometimes they actually do!!

Nicole - posted on 10/02/2009

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I definitely agree with keeping them on a bedtime schedule even on the weekends...I even find that regardless my kids are ready for bed at that time anyway on the weekends so it isn't difficult. Giving a child structure is a great way to keep life balanced for them.

Jessica - posted on 10/02/2009

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yes, a routine for bed in very important. Because my boy's know once we read a book it's time for bed and they never complain. It works so well when we go on trips even camping they now when bed time is.

Skye - posted on 10/01/2009

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I have tried the whole routine thing but it just doesnt work he used to go to bed at 8 but it changed to whenever he is tired

Jenn - posted on 10/01/2009

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Quoting Mandy:

yes. my 6yo goes to bed at the same time every night, weekend or not. he is allowed the occassional late night, but not very often


Same here - only mine are 3 1/2 and 10 months.

Stephanie - posted on 10/01/2009

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YES I have had a strict bedtime for my kids since my 12 year old was a baby! I have a very hard time with the kids going to sleep and getting up in the morning when we dont keep to our bedtime schedule.

Allison - posted on 09/30/2009

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I have four kids so it seems that for not only them but for me they need a set bedtime. This also keeps dinner, homework, snacks and so on, on a routine. I do allow my older son who is ten stay up a bit later then the others so he can have quite time. Each of them once in a while have a mommy and me night which is so wonderful for me. take care Allison

Bethany - posted on 09/30/2009

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Yes! 7pm. I have also found that with a consistent routine, my daughter bounces right back into the groove even if it's thrown off for a couple days. So we don't have bedtime struggles or tantrums. She knows that when we put her in bed it's time to sleep, and that's that. :)

Leslie - posted on 09/30/2009

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Yes, my kids go to bed at the same time every night. i have to keep my son on a schedule because he has ADHD and he doesnt handle interruptions at all.

Julie - posted on 09/30/2009

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Yes, we try to stick to same routine even when sitters watch our son we remind them about our routine. We try to make sure that happens when the grandparents watch him but we know that doesn't always happen!

Laura - posted on 09/30/2009

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Pretty much, mostly to avoid meltdowns....we always put her to bed within a half hour of the same time (8:30), unless there is something unusal happening like family visiting late.

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Oh yes - the routine got my son to sleep like a log - and I am convinced that it would not have worked without a strict routine

Sarah - posted on 09/30/2009

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Absolutely. I know my son is always ready for bed by 8:00 every night anyway so that's when he goes down.

Crystal - posted on 09/30/2009

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yes both my two boys and daughter go to bed at 8:00pm on a daily basis. I think haveing routine and a schedule helps them learn and respect your duty as being a parent to them.

Summer - posted on 09/30/2009

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I have an almost 8 year old son, and 2 year old fraternal twin boys. They all go to bed by 8:30pm through the week, but if we don't have any early morning weekend plans then I let my 8 year old stay up until I go to bed on the weekends. The twins usually wake up around 8am, and they also take about a 2 hour nap after lunch.

Nichole - posted on 09/30/2009

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It's better for us to keep the same schedule all week long.My Husband travles for his job so even when he isn't here things go smoothly because they know what to expect.

Tegan - posted on 09/30/2009

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Both my kids are in night time routinues wehave dinner then shower/bath tv till 715 for 1yo 730 for3yo then book and bed. Was hard to start it with when we moved to big bed as it took on some night up to a hour of screaming to get him to sleep but glad i did causeit givesme time to to uni after they are asleep

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