Does anybody else feel this way?

Sara - posted on 08/04/2010

thank you guys for all your help and advice. things are starting to turn around for us. We just found out yesterday that we dont hafta move and that my fiancee's dad is going to catch up on rent b4 we hafta start paying so that gives us a chance to catch up on our bills that are behind. As soon as i can im going to get my case transfrered back to weld county and apply for a couple other programs I hadnt b4. Things have settled down between me and my fiancee.

Tracie - posted on 08/04/2010

go to your local department of human services for the county u live in. they have a form to fill out for cash assistance, also there is a program called general relief that can help you pay deposits to get into a place. as well, not ALL low income housing is in bad neighborhoods...where we are the low income apts are just as nice or even nicer than private owned! go to a food pantry if you have no food, and there should be info there on how to get basic needs met...oh, and check into verizon, or whoever ur phone is through...they have a program that can get u a phone and minutes for like 1/2 of what it reg costs...keep in mind, it is a basic plan, none of the bells and whistles...otherwise when you get a place, get a land line...regardless of what young people think cell phones are not a necessity. just make sure your child is taken care of first and foremost....you mention you are afraid ur going to lose "him"?!...as far as im concerned ur daughter's well being and health and safety are far more important than ANY man. good luck.

Megan - posted on 08/03/2010

Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. Keep on truckin and don't give up. Now's the time to hold on to your love for your family the most. Have faith, it WILL get better and I wish you all the luck in the world:)

Shiloh - posted on 08/02/2010

Most counties have a Trustee (look it up in the GOVERNMENT section of the phone book) that can help you out with things like your rent and phone bills...like someone above said sometimes you have to omit some of the truth to them such as if you have cable or satellite. They won't help you if you have "frivolous" expenses. Good luck and keep your head up! I have been there and it will get better. Apply for everything even if you don't think you are eligible. There are tons of people and programs out there to help especially during hard times like these!

Sara - posted on 08/01/2010

thanks

Sheena - posted on 08/01/2010

I cant really give any advice except to go day by day..
I kindda know what your feeling like, it hasnt been all bad but having a child is a big life change..
It is very emotional for not only us the mother but also for the father.
Life is hard sometimes thats just life and things happen..
I have been in some pretty sticky spots myself, but talkin to my hunnie always calmed me..
If he loves you I am sure you wont loose him over this, he is most likely thinking he is going to loose you..
Just do what you can do, and look into some other organizations that could maybe help you out for the time being untill you guys get back on your feet..
Things will come around for some reason I always found the more I thaught about sometime the more things messed up......
And trust me I know it is hard not to think about these things but just try to think about the happier things a little more ofter during the day and make sure you just comfort and confide in your man just so he knows you dont blame him... Because I am sure he is worried tooo...
Well I dont know if that was much help or advice but hopefully it made you feel a little better

Sara - posted on 08/01/2010

I am on wic and both me and my daughter are on medicaid. Section 8 waiting lists are long and i think weve found a place. I need help paying for things like my phone bill and storage and getting the money so we can move into this place. I kno ther are programs out there that can help us i jus dont kno where they are or how to access them.

Kelly - posted on 08/01/2010

Hey, you probably qualify for a couple of welfare programs in the US. Are you on WIC? That works in conjunction with foodstamps and can help you afford healthier options than the foodstamps alone, and it will stretch your food tamp $$ further.
There is also Medicaid for your daughter, do you have her one that yet for medical bills?
There is Section 8 for low income housing. It will not be in a good neighborhood, but your little one is not in school yet, so it won't matter for now. Once you get on your feet and off of welfare, you can get a place in a better area.

You can sign up for food stamps at your local Social Security office (in most places) or at your local Food Stamps office.People at your local Social Security office, Health Department, or Food Stamps office can assist you with applying for other programs. You may have to go to several different places to get signed up, but most offices have information for you on all of the low income assistance available.


Here is a link to the SSA website, you can get a lot of info clicking around on there.

http://www.ssa.gov/pubs/10101.html

Sara - posted on 08/01/2010

ok

Rebecca - posted on 08/01/2010

Ok i looked you up on Facebook and i'm going to PM you some links there ok.

Sara - posted on 08/01/2010

usa

Rebecca - posted on 08/01/2010

Are you in the USA or Canada??

Sara - posted on 08/01/2010

how do u get on welfare?

Rebecca - posted on 08/01/2010

Then try to get Welfare...my sister pays 140$ a month for a 3 bedroom apartment. It's not in the best neighborhood but it's cheaper..

Sara - posted on 08/01/2010

thanks. i kno theres welfare out there the problem is i dont kno how to get it. i dont think im eligable 4 unemployment as i havent worked in over a year

Rebecca - posted on 08/01/2010

Are you telling the government you are back together? If you are...stop telling them. You can get assistance that way. I know it sucks to lie to them but really if they wont help the people who try then why tell them the truth.
I owned a business and here, in Canada, you can't get Maternity leave when you own a business so i sold the business and filed for unemployment that i've paid in to since i was 14...I was still with my fiance and he is the father of both of my kids...in the mean time my scummy sister was sitting on her butt doing nothing and she was very capable of doing so but figured since she can get welfare why should she work. So i fought my ass off for 7 months and won! The back pay was awesome and i told them that i found it pathetic that because i am now the minority for staying with my kids father i can't get help while all the other people who don't even try can get 1500$ a month to do nothing. Anyways, my point is, you need it, you take it how you can. Don't back down. I know a girl who went to the unemployment office and was told they couldn't help her at the time so she took off her backpack got her lunch out and told them she wasn't going anywhere until someone helped her...5 hours later she got a cheque.
I wish you guys luck, it's not easy right no for some(my fiance is military so we've never had to worry) but i'm not too sure how i would handle being without a job. Keep your head high, you are doing great and keep assuring your fiance he is doing an amazing job. It will be hard on you guys right now but the ultimate reward is coming out on top as a family and remember that no matter what you will always have each other.

Sara - posted on 08/01/2010

well the place were going thro for housing put us in a two bedroom but it like 525 a month which is what we were paying at one point for a one bedroom . n i do reasure him constantly Im not sure its doing any good tho. Thanks for your advice

Alicia - posted on 08/01/2010

Wow!! I am sorry!! Right now is just a tough time in general. It is great that you are back on food stamps. That helps out for sure. For now do you have the option of renting a 1 bedroom apartment? My mom was a single mom and we lived in a 1 bedroom apt. for 4 years. But if your child is young it should not be a big deal to share. Remind your husband that it is not his fault. As long as both of you are trying to make it better that is all that matters. Just reassure one another that it will work out and it will get better. I really hope it works out for you and your family.