DOES ANYONE ELSE STAY HOME ALL DAY EVERYDAY??

Lindsay - posted on 05/07/2010 ( 478 moms have responded )

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IM STARTING TO GO CRAZY STAYING HOME EVERYDAY TAKING CARE OF A LITTLE GIRL 16 MONTHS AND A 7 YR OLD BOY...I THINK MY SON HAS ADHD HE DOSEN'T LISTEN AT ALL CAN'T STAY STILL HES IN COUNCILING BUT HEZ MAKING ME CRAZY...I GET DEPRESSED STAYING HOME 24/7 ITS SO HARD NOTHING TO DO....EVERYDAY FEELS THE SAME TO ME...I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO???

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Raeleigh - posted on 05/09/2010

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I am at home all the time with my 2 daughters they are almost 2 and 6 months. I take them outside and it seems to help now that its getting warmer out.

Tanika - posted on 05/09/2010

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Same here, except i have 3.9yr old who has ADHD,he takes med for his.3yr old boy & a 2 yr.old girl.So i have a hand full.Iknow the feeling lol.Everyday the same.Clean-up big mess this includes the kids bedrm,kitchen,my husband & i bedrm every rm!Don't have to cook my husband does that.But when he does'nt cook i'm still setting the table for some microwaveable meals.I even take the trash out!Don't get any get aways,i still breastfeed the 2yr.old.No breaks.My guy get all the breaks in the world,even when he's at wrk.And as i'm typing this right now,my husbands out clubbin!He's slowed down a little bit.To keep my sanity i write & take pics of my kids of course.But yea this is my world.I miss working!HAVE'NT WORKED IN 2YRS.

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Hi ! I understand wereyou are coming from I have 4 kids ages 9 boy step daughter 9 17 month old boy and 7 1/2 month old girl and right now I am unable to drive cause I have a seizure disorder that well they just gotunder control 16 weeks ago and our state law says 1 year seizure free until you can drive again also i am disabled with 2 babies that need special treatment since they were preemies and have delays so its very hard at times plus my husband works 16 hours alot so we dont have to stress so much over money.but yes being stuck in the house feels like being in prison i tell that to my husband and family all the time but now it is getting warmer and my 2 younger babies can sit in a stroller and we go out side and work on the house doing gardening or painting or what ever i can think of that day but i do miss getting out of the house just to roam around with the kids or even have me time wow me time havent had that in almost 6 years but i promise if you do find a hobby the depression feeling will lift and you will feel a little bit better when you are doing something you like at home. well good luck and i hope things do get better

Sonia - posted on 05/08/2010

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OMG.... I feel ya girl. My 3 year old doesnt listen at all.. AHHHHHH and my 4 month old is theething so she's crying all day, i do my best to walk to the park or the libary to get them out of the house. we also play alot of games at home, but i know the feeling, if u live close we should get together.

Andrea - posted on 05/08/2010

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well me too am in the same situation, i am breast feeding and i kinda have to stay home.. like i cant go out with my friends.. but it dosent bother me cause i have my little girl.. my baby is the most important thing in my life right now.. and the dad is ussually gone so im kinda doing it all by myself.. it is very hard and stressfull but you gotta put your kids first before anything, thats what i have learned!!! i still get stressed out but i try to look for things to do like take her out for walks.. going to the store... mabey coloring time!! or learning new hobbies such a nitting lol i know it sounds weird but its actually pretty cool, my sister does it!!

Joan - posted on 05/08/2010

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hi

i stay at home all day except for maybe sunday.i don't have a license either.i don't have my license because of epilepsy why do other moms not have their license?

Elyssa - posted on 05/08/2010

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I got a great book called "the toddlers busy book" at barnesandnoble.com it has activities for every day of the year. tons of great ideas in there suited specifically for ages 1 1/2 through 3 years old. Great book, and most of the activities in there are with things you have laying around your house, so it's pretty awesome. send me a message if you want more info on the book, I'd be happy to get it to you!

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I am a stay at home mommy. I think that my hubby is the one with ADHD the only time he sits still is when he is asleep. It is hard because he works third so he sleeps during the day so he is here but not here. I have tried to pick up hobbies and other things that I can do with my 2 1/2 year old around to keep me from going too crazy!

Ilene - posted on 05/08/2010

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I'm home everyday, all day long. I have no car. My bf has been telling me since mid-winter that my car was going to get fixed and the other day, same thing happend again. My car is still broken. I love my kids more than anything in this world and would die for them, but all 3 of them are rotten. My middle daughter listens the best and she's having problems too, but at least she feels bad about it. My other 2 laugh. Not only do they not listen to me but nobody in my household (bf & our 3 kids) hears anything I say except for the middle one and that's not much. I never know what day it is because there are many days I don't even look out a window. I took myself off of my happy pills. They were making me feel better with the exception that my mind was cloudy most of the time. I get depressed, but, I've learned how to snap out of it. Every now and then it dosen't work and lots of times it takes a few hours. Although I hear from another person (who will remain unnamed for now) now and then that I'm a bad mother and abusive and this other person could do my job a lot better. The other day he said the last on to me and I stood up for myself. I held back the tears all day long until all the lights were out at bedtime. When I say something I'm a liar. Oh yeh, I go to Wal-Mart, Weiss grocery store, I take my son to football practice every Friday evening and game on Saturday. I've been living like this for app. 6 1/2 years.There are many times I hate my life. It would be nice to have a friend. I have 1 or 2 friends, but nobody I can really talk to. I have my one sister, but she's got big problems of her own, so, I rarely vent to her. I belong to a wonderful site called BraveHeart Women. I love the site, but everytime I go to it, I feel as tiny as an ant. Allthose women are so empowered, battles their own battles, made their own way in life, have their own money. If I would have known this was gonna be my future as a mother, I wouldn't have. I love my children, don't get me wrong. But, I litterly have no life outside of the 4 others who live here and these walls. I was a dancer (adult) before I met this guy and made my own path. I can't do that now. I do way too much for the kids during school hours to work right now. I feel as though they are more important but I don't deserve this. I would love to meet some people.

Cheryl - posted on 05/08/2010

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Take a moment & pray.
Even if you have to retreat to the restroom!
Brush your teeth
shower/shave your legs
or just splash water on your face
Put on lip stick/lip gloss!
Paint your nails
Do 1 thing for yourself and then tackle the rest!
Breathe!
We often take that for granted. We have healthy lungs! Thank God! Just, breathe!

I'm 41 and worked all my life until 5 yrs ago! Our kids are 6 & 3
It's HARD to stay home! Bein' a "Domestic Diva"/CEO of the household, isn't all it's cracked up to be!

At first, the joy of drinkin' coffee & knowin' everyones rushin' off to work, made me happy! I loved it!
Then I got bored. Realized I couldn't afford to shop all day....
Wasn't motivated to work out or go to the gym.
Our 3yo sucked all the energy outa me! By 9AM she's ready to go some where...anywhere!
I have so much to do, I don't wanna go anywhere!
I feel like the maid & I don't get paid!

Any of this sound familiar???

Girl, "Hang in there"!
You are NOT alone!
Find something you love to do
Give & get hugs as often as possible
Give your son something to do...color/paint/plant something
Plan 1 activity a day for you and/or the kids
Take a walk
Ride bikes
visit your local library - free movies/books
Visit your Family Dr. & share how you're feelin' a R'x may help
Last but not least, Breathe & Pray again!
You have one more day. (some people won't...)

Happy Mother's Day to all the "hot mama's" who sacrafice so much of themselves & give all that they've got!
Hugs & lots of them!!!
Cheryl
San Antonio, TX

Sarah - posted on 05/08/2010

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I feel your pain. I stay home with my 16 month old son all day everyday. I also feel depressed and get bored doing the same thing every day. I try to get out of the house when I can. I go for walks and run to the store, but that sometimes isn't enough. Maybe try to do something for yourself one day without kids(if possible) and just relax and enjoy some self mom time. Good luck and don't lose your mind

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I am a "stay at home" mom, but I don't stay home all day every day.I try to get us out of the house at least once a day, otherwise I would go crazy. My son is enrolled in Taekwondo, which allows me time to chat with the other mom's while he is in class, or go for coffee. He is also in Little League (he started at 3yrs, but is 5 now) which lets me meet lots of other women. I split shopping into 3 days--groceries one day, Target another, and Mall on another. For one thing, all three in one day would kill me, but it also gives me something to do on days w/o baseball or Taekwondo. We also have story time at some location or another every weekday, so we go to that once or twice a week. On Monday's we hit museums (usually 1/2 price on mondays) which hold lots of kid classes.



I do have a question though, I hope it doesn't sound rude, I don't meant to be, just curious, but why do so many of you not have a driver's licence? Even if you can't buy a second car, you could at least wait until your hubby came home and do some of the weekly shopping while the kids stay home with Dad. You can stop off for a latte and have a little "mommy time" even if it's just a few minutes a week.

Lindsay - posted on 05/08/2010

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haha i dnt have a licence either it gets very boring im from mass and yes my son does go to school but it sucks when he comes home its like to late to really go anywhere time flys bye so fast....and yea im 23 without a licence would be much better if i had one

Marcia - posted on 05/08/2010

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Oh yes I know what that's like. I don't have my drivers license and its slowly killing me. My kid drives me nuts if I don't take him outside. He's 3 and he goes to nursery school 3 mornings a week. He is also enrolled in our community center playgroup. Maybe you can do something like that? He also likes to take walks around the neighborhood. I do crafts with him, baking, we read together and play toys. Oh and check out your local library. Mine has family time on Sat. mornings and we usually sing and read books together. Good luck to you and Happy Mommy's Day!

Mandy - posted on 05/08/2010

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I feel the same way. I have a 3 year old and a 14 month old and I also babysit an almost 3 year old 4 days a week from 11 - 3:30....right smack in the middle of my day so it makes it hard to plan anything unless I take him with us and then I have to wait for him to show up.(those are always the days he is late, go figure) I've recently joined a play group so I have a calendar of activities to pick and choose from during the week....it also gives me ideas of things to do that I didn't know about before. We live in Phoenix and its getting HOT already so we"ve been going to the nearby splash park (its free) a couple of times per week to get us out of the house. www.meetup.com can set you up with a play group in your area. Oh, I also have my kids in Little Gym once per week, helps them socialize and stay active.....and gives me other mommies to talk to.

Brandi - posted on 05/08/2010

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i guess we all feel the same we just want are men to understand that we need to get out and its like we are trapped and are poor kids you know they get tired of bein home all the time to and you cant take little ones anywhere cause you just spend the whole time chasing them and trying to keep them out of evreything at least at home they know there bounderies well for the most part anyway and are babyproofed house but how can you have a chance to go do somthing yourself when you have to chase babys around the whole time so you give up and stay home i say dads give us a little HELP!

Brandi - posted on 05/08/2010

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thats funny im 24 and dont have one either lol i guess we have alot in commen

Brandi - posted on 05/08/2010

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i am currently in the same situation i have a 6 year old a 14 month old and a 4 month old and i am home all day evrey day and i cant seem to catch a break but its nice to know im not alone in this you know i talk to kids all day long and i would give anything for some adult conversation evrey once in a while you know a person could really lose there mind being alone all the time where are you from anyway

Marcie - posted on 05/08/2010

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I almost fogot to tell you that i also don't have a drivers license and i am 22.

Marcie - posted on 05/08/2010

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I know how you feel i got a little girl 3 years and a little boy turning 2 at the end of may and I am stuck in my ouse 24/7 while my hubby is working 12 hour days 6 days a week and then he is a tat artist on the side and that means not very much time to do anything out side of the house, and i figured i would just tell u that your not the only one. :-)

Andrea - posted on 05/08/2010

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HI SWEETIE! I STAY AT HOME EVERDAY TO I HAVE A SON WHO IS 3 YEARS OLD... I FEEL SAME TO! HOPE YOU HAVE A BEAUTIFUL MOMMYS DAY! HUGS ANDREA :]

*Lisa* - posted on 05/08/2010

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The more I stayed at home the more depressed I got SO I started going out. Even if it's just a walk to Starbucks or to the park I make myself leave so I don't go crazy!! Good luck. I also made myself meet new people. I'm normally shy but I actually started a playgroup now and I feel a lot better. Boredom is a killer!

Erica - posted on 05/08/2010

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I also stay at home pretty much all day everyday.I have 3 kids, one is almost 5, another 3 & a 7 month old. I rarely go anywhere throughout the week,sometimes I ll try to go visit my mom to get out of the house. But Im 9 times out 10 at home with the kids. my husband works 40 plus hours a week.Its hard to take all 3 kids out by myself right They get bored staying home & so do I.Thats why when my husband is off , I wanna get out & do stuff & he doesnt quite understand , that we ve been cooped up in the house & we re ready to get out .He wants to sleep all day & we re ready to go go go

Jennifer - posted on 05/08/2010

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,,,i stay home all day everyday i have a 11 year old who at school most of the day i have a 3 year who drives me nuts,,,and i have a 9 month old my hubby works 12 hours out of the day,, so if i work i would have to pay off a babysitter so thats y i dont! its hard to leave the house becuz my 3 year old just wont listen to me at all! i really dont have advice for u becuz i need some to...does your 7 year old not go to school?

Shannon - posted on 05/08/2010

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hi i am 41 i used to work up until i broke my hip when my twins were 2 at that time all 5 of my kids were home, now the 2 older ones are on there own so it is just the twins and my 15 year old. in the begining i tryed all sorts of crazy stuff. i bredd my 2 pugs did pretty good i babysat, anything to keep me busy, now i actualy enjoy my time home, my son has bipolor and ocd and other learning issues so yes there are days that he gets so bad i just wish i was out in the world, but i believe everything happens for a reason. i keep myself busy by staying connected with friends people i choose to be in my life, i go out asmuch i can we lost our home last year and everythig we ownd so i am trying to rebuild what we lost, you just have to keep your mind busy and makesure you go out with friends do not be alone that is the worst thing. i do miss working but i can not so i try to keep myself busy so i do not get stuck in a rut
shannon

Angie - posted on 05/07/2010

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I stay at home with a 19 month old very, very active boy and a 6 week old. I go stir crazy from time to time. Also depressed. You just have to get out. I started to break my shopping down into 2 seperate days a week. That way I get out of the house. I have had a misserable time finding play groups in my area that dont require me to be part of MOMMS Club (I live to far out of town) Look at your local library for story time too, that will help get you out of the house for a bit.

Elyssa - posted on 05/07/2010

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I was in that same situation for a while as well, I mean, I don't have an older child, but I was stuck at home with my toddler and it is very hard. One thing I found that helped me out a lot is actually taking the time to plan out a few activities to do with your kids every day. I even bought some books to give me some ideas, but there is a pretty awesome website that has a TON of ideas that will keep your kids busy. its www.familyfun.com I hope that helps!

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