DOES ANYONE ELSE STAY HOME ALL DAY EVERYDAY??

Sarah - posted on 05/13/2010

For The Last Past Year I Was Always Home With My Daughter Who Is Now A Year. It Drove Me Nuts. I Found Myself Getting Annoyed From Being In The House Twenty Four- Seven. I Also Take Care Of My Six Year Old Nephew Who Is ADHD. I Use To Get A Baby Sitter For A Couple Of Hours Maybe Twice Week. It Really Helps To Get Time To Yourself Without Any Kids Outside The House. Also With Your Son Try Not To Show him That Your Going Crazy. Try Asking Him What He Likes To Do, Trying Getting In Some Play Time Between Just You Too. You Want To Talk To Him Calmly. Even Prescription Drugs Doesn't Always Help. Sometimes They Just Need To Know That You Understand Where Thier Coming From. Hope This Helps :) God Bless.

Andrea - posted on 05/13/2010

Adrienne we have the same problem... with a 1 yr old that doesn't walk yet and a 4 yr old who doesn't listen has a mind of her own and is extra hyper... park adventures are kind of difficult...:(

Pamela - posted on 05/13/2010

I so know what you mean, I have no friends or family here in FL and on a base its so quiet it just me and my three week old son, while my 6 yr old daughter and husband, so I'm all alone and bored and worse i'm not getting sleep, it sucks!

Adrienne - posted on 05/13/2010

My husband read this and said "That sounds like you!"
My boys are going to be 3 and 2 years old both on June 26th. My youngest is 6 weeks old. I'm home everyday all day. My 3 year old rather ignore me then listen and they spend half the day trying to beat each other up for no reason at all. The worst part for me is that if I can't get them to listen to me inside then how am I suppose to get them to listen to just go to the park or a walk. A walk would be nice. I do know how you feel! I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one!

Kristy - posted on 05/13/2010

My daughter has similar issue as your son. On sunny days it helps for me to take her to the park and let her run some what wild. I think that helps a bit plus it gets me out of the house as well.

Shantel - posted on 05/13/2010

I was in your shoes not to long ago, I'm the type that just cant sit still for too long. I need to feel productive. My suggestion, maybe you should start to just go out to the park, or a gym with a care center, you could start school and learn something new (I like to eat and will be starting culinary arts in the fall). Also, I found a great at home job, and I'm also going to start maybe taking my kids to a dance or ballet class so I can fellowship with other parents....try that

Mandy - posted on 05/13/2010

hi lindsay, i stay home everyday both my kids are at school everyday, i do walking and aerobics everyday to make me feel good, my son has adhd, with the doctors help he is a different boy, you mite feel lot better if you go for a walk or go to the park with the kids.

Lisa - posted on 05/13/2010

yeah me too. but I found something that has helped. Total Transformations Cds. they are teaching me how to be a better parent. my 9yr was getting abusive towards me and this has changed everything around. just a matter of having power, boundaries, and having YOU time.

Stella - posted on 05/13/2010

I have a 5 year old son, a 3 year old daughter and a 4 month okld daughter. I stay at home because it is much cheaper and eaiser to do it. It isnt easy but I do. My husband works 50 + hours and we have only one car so getting out of the house is about impossible.
What helps me is to look at the positive: YOU are the one raising your children, YOU are the one to allow what they do and dont do, YOU are responsible for the morals and standards they recieve. Watching their first steps, watching them learn something for the first time, etc always helps me. Watching my kids be free is the greatest joy I can ever have! Although it does drive me crazy, I love it!

Andrea - posted on 05/13/2010

I know exactly how you feel... It has gotten to the point where I run to the bathroom and lock myself just to have 1 or 2 minutes alone! my kids are 1 and 4 and the oldest is soooo hyper I just want to scream!!!! :( I also stay at home all the time.. Hope it gets better and soon ... glad to know I'm not the only one though ♥ Good luck sweety...

Pauline - posted on 05/13/2010

i have spent the last year in and out of hospital and now i am a full time mum. my little girl is 3 months old and my fiancee works 10- 12 hour days 7 days a week and might get a day off once a month so we hardly see eachother and conversation is minimal once he gets home as he is tired. but i found that going for a walk with the baby and my dogs helps and housework i have developed a passion for my house work. but ultimately i wouldnt trade being home with my baby for anything it is so special seeing her grow everyday. besides being home beats when i was stuck in hospital for weeks on end.

Mary - posted on 05/13/2010

If he gets counseling does he have a case worker? If he does, then check with them or ask his counselor about getting a behavior specialist that comes out to your house. Either that or a mobile therapist or a play therapist. We had 2 behavior specialists that came to our house they were a team they worked together a man and a woman. The man was older and the girl younger. Both very nice people and extremly helpful in many areas. They work with the whole family not just the child. Now she's getting play therapy and something else they're going to give her too but I'm not sure what it is I forget. I was in a hurry when we had the Dr.'s apt. and had an apt. of my own at 11 and hers was scheduled for 10:30 because usually the Dr. doesn't take very long but this time she did so my hubby had to sit in on the rest of the session. I guess they'll explain things to me as we go along. She's 5 now. She has a case manager too. That might be helpful to you that's all I can suggest. I too am a stay at home mom so I'm here with her most of the time while my hubby is at work all day. There are days I want to scream and pull my hair out but then she has some really good days too. At any rate I wouldn't trade her for any amount of money in the world or give her up for anything. She's a tough nut to crack though. Hope I was able to help a little bit.

Jolene - posted on 05/13/2010

I went from teaching full-time in a middle school to being a stay-at-home mom. It was quite the adjustment! Some things that helped me: I made a schedule with things like feeding times, play time, cleaning time, and time for me. That's a big thing-make time for yourself doing things you enjoy. Exercise, writing, painting, scrapbooking, cooking...sometimes you can involved your kids in some way too, like baby and mommy yoga, or you can try to distract kids with other activities while you do your own thing. Get lots of fresh air--it makes a big difference just getting out of the house to go for a walk. Getting out of the house helps with ADHD too (it keeps kids from getting too stir crazy and bored). Also, you can look to see if they have any classes/workshops for kids with ADHD. These classes help kids and parents learn how to deal with it, and, again, it gets you out of the house.

Stevie - posted on 05/13/2010

yup i know how you feel my son is 18 months old and i hardly ever leave the house if i do its to pay a bill or go to my husbands job or the local grocery store to meet up with my husbband or every other week when we go to town for grocery shopping but im pregnant so now we go to the dr every month too and that is in a different state so its nice

Gretchen - posted on 05/13/2010

Well.... "staying home" is a misnomer (sp? ! You don't "stay home" when you're the one at home taking care of kids. I've been home now six years with 3 boys. (19, 15, 12, now) Just make plans for short outings each day. Rain or shine. That way your son will also get the walking in he needs to burn off some of his energy. You'll get some fresh air and sunshine too Bring some old bread with you to feed the birds, ducks, etc. Have him help find bugs, plants leaves, etc. Just staying in won't cut it for them or you. You'll be fine :)

Cindy - posted on 05/13/2010

I'm a stay at home mother of 3 and there are days I wonder why I wanted to do this. Than when they do something thats awesome I think I'm so glad I didnt miss that. Just keep your head up and know that what you are feeling is part of being a stay at home mother and it's a great job when you see your kids doing those wonderful things they do.

Amanda - posted on 05/13/2010

Medication! i never believed in it until my 9 yr old boy was put on it for ADHD. now he listens to me, and has A-B honor roll, now i am dealing with the 4 yr old boy and the 19 month old girl and work from home, work kinda helps me um and so do naps lol, my husband works away a good bit, if not then he is a sleep during the after noon, but bare with him most kids grow out of it by the age of 16, but i can really tell the difference when he hasnt had it hope this helps a little
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Rachel - posted on 05/13/2010

Hi Dea - that's funny - we only moved here in January too! Also I don't drive. So I am a bit limited as well. That doesn't help either, does it?!

Dea - posted on 05/13/2010

i am in the same boat as u. i only get to go out when my husband is off woke. i only get to take the city bus to smiths and back nothing fearther cause i don't know my way home. i just moved to this town three months ago.

Rachel - posted on 05/13/2010

Hi Lindsay. I know exactly what you mean. I am at home with a two boys - a one year old and a 4 year old. My 4 year old is extremely energetic and doesn't listen to me at all. Had his friend round today and it was HORRENDOUS! I keep looking at jobs online as I fancy going out to work, then I have a better day and change my mind. But I would like a part time job I think, it's just the cost of childcare.... I end up feeling trapped! Do you go to any mother and toddler groups with your little girl? Maybe that could help. Or go swimming and put her in a creche at the pool. Just try to get out and meeting people, maybe. I could be giving myself advice! The thing is, my one year old sleeps from 9.30 to 11.00 every morning, when I have to go and collect my son from nursery, and from 2.30 to 4.30 ish every afternoon, so it's a little limiting!

It is very hard being at home full time - I think we all feel like that from time to time!

Hope I helped a bit.
Rachel

SummerDawn - posted on 05/13/2010

I know EXACTLY how you feel!!!! I tried taking up crafts & hobbies and still ended up listless and going crazy. I even started taking college courses online. The best suggestion is just to make a strong effort to get out in some way a couple times a week. I get ot just to run errands in order toget some relief. I also live in a mobile home park so if I just want to walk I will walk aroun the park. I hav a 20 mo/old and I go insane when I don't have a vehicle and have to sit at home constantly. I promise, I know just how you feel!

Jessica - posted on 05/13/2010

i am in the same boat, and i try to get out of the house as much as possible, like taking the kids to the park or on long walks on a nature trail. they are so distracted that i actually get a moments peace here and there... i also would start a hobby like sewing or knitting so you have some distraction during the day and something to look forward to. try to go to a different park every day or something, find things that are free to do in the community, go to library story time, take a parenting class with other mothers so you don't feel alone. i get depressed sometime too... one of my kids is always napping so i can never get out of the house!

Vanessa - posted on 05/13/2010

I stay home. but i'v just got a 2 year old little girl. she don't listen very well eaither. i find bribes work better then punishment. she hates time outs but she'll sit there and scream the whole time. but if i say i'll give her a surprise if she listens, she dose very well. i know they say you shouldn't bribe your kids but.....whatever works right. and every day is the same it seems. same thing same rutien. with the weather getting nicer outside now ( i live in w.v. ) i take her out alot. if you are fortionate enough to have a fenced in yard it's extreamly wonderful. if not take them to like a park with a fenced in tennis court or basketball court and let them run wild. of course you'll need to bring their bikes and favorite toys, but it works. have you took your little boy to see a doctor about adha?

Vanesa - posted on 05/13/2010

hey i know that feeling im sure most stay at home must feel that way. i have a 2 and 3yr old i love my kids to death but they are a little overwhelming at times. just try to do arts and crafts w them. outdoor activities. hey kids are never too old for time out haha have friends go over and have little play dates kids love play dates!! kids love to help bake!!Have your bf/husband (if u dont have one ask a relative that lives nearby) to watch ur kids while you get an hr or 2 to urself! well there's some suggestions i hope your not going too crazy its not healthy, im sure you kno that already tho.

Kara - posted on 05/13/2010

I have a 20 month old little girl and I stay at home with her every day. What I have found to help is to find activities around town that you can take the kids to. My daughter really loves toddler story time at the local libraries. She also loves the toddler play rooms that most community centers have. I don't know how much those things would entertain an older child at least you would be out of the house. The park might be a good place to take them to also. 7 yr olds usually like the park and a 16 month old would need help but she might enjoy it! I know my daughter does. Hope this helps!

Melissa - posted on 05/13/2010

i'm 26 and no liscense

Iris - posted on 05/13/2010

Well have you gotten him tested for adhd? My oldest son has adhd and he was tested when he was 6 years old. I was having the same problems with him when he was younger.. Then we got him tested and he was put on medication. ANd it sure helped him. I still am a stay at home mom, and i enjoy it most of the time but sometimes it does get boring and depressing. All my friends are back home in british columbia , canada. So, I miss them alot ..

Erica - posted on 05/13/2010

I understand. I've been looking for a job, but no luck yet.

Suitjie - posted on 05/13/2010

I have 2 boys 7 and 3 yo, and stay away from my husband, so i have to take care everything :(,night after kids sleep is the best time of my day ( or night?) my older son also in counciling, he gets upset n angry easily..... sometimes i m feel very low, but thinking this will influence the kids so force to smile :).maybe go out take a walk, enjoy the moments, kids will grow up, today will pass....when i looked back i cannt remember the stress, just know that we always together......

Cindy - posted on 05/13/2010

I hear you I have a 3 year old and a 15 month old as well I take care of my brother in law (47) who is sick and can not be left by his self. as well befor oma passed a way her as well been doing this stay At home for the family for 9 years, day in and day out,DEPRESSED for me it is a given, I feel so lost as well Sorry I can not help you on what to do because I am in the same boat I still don't know what to do after 9 years,

Nikki - posted on 05/13/2010

I've been where you were. I went out a found a job but I notice the kids were acting out because I wasn't around all the time so I have gotten a license to do childcare in my home. So most of the time I'm working on getting the house prepared for inspection. This is the best solution for me because I can be around for my kids and also they have other kids they can play with and have income coming in the house. I hope this helps.

Sue - posted on 05/13/2010

yes i too stay home 24/7 and feel like i am going crazy. i have no help either

Sue - posted on 05/13/2010

Yes, I stay home all day everyday and have the same problem. I have a 1-1/2 and 2-1/2 yr olds and they are 11 months apart and they to drive me crazy. My daughter can't sat still and so ever needy. I get depressed to. I have no family or real support so doing it alone. Hand in there. If you need to talk ot vent I am here.

Ginny - posted on 05/13/2010

I'm 60 yrs.old and have a son who is 6 yrs.old now and I raise him bye my self and I have never had him away from me in six yrs he goes everywhere I do and I don't go no where but he makes me laugh he found out that when I'm down he puts on a show for me that makes me laugh his dad and I don't live together and he has ADHD and his father can't handle that. In one way or another we are all there and I pray for strenght every day. But I love him to bits. Go for walks, go to the beach and take sand toys with you and have them sit around you and play or play ground. Bless you all

Tiffany - posted on 05/13/2010

hey...i stay home with my kids to! u gotta look at both sides.(my kids are 2 and 5) u could have someone else taking care of your babies. then u would have the hassle of paying a sitter! :( u gotta get em outta the house. take them to the corner park....ride bike..find some fun craft stuff to do with them. It's hard.. im only 23! i would luv to go to school...and get a cosmatology license but that is alot of hours away from my babies

Liz - posted on 05/13/2010

you do need to get out and do some things outside the house but there are many things you can do at home also... if you have an active kid, get a ball and started playing with him...find out what he likes to do and do it with him... there are also activities on the computer both educational and games (although too much is not good)... make sure that your kid is on a very good diet, because this is proven to be a contributor to ADHD... and pay attention to him, he'll get worse if he thinks he's a bother... this is a time to think of your children and focus your attention on them and not just yourself...

Heather - posted on 05/13/2010

i do stay at home sometimes all day everyday. i dont like taking my two year old out on his bad days when he is cranky. but when he is in a better mood, we go to the park, to grandmas, a trip to the mall, monkey joes. my little guy gets bored easy, so try keeping ur boy busy at all times after school, he might not have adhd

Eve - posted on 05/13/2010

make regular trips to the park. your 7 yr old can run wild n u can get fresh air. I only have n 18 wk old boy that is what we do. I too am getting depressed not to mention my husband is over seas just so he can provide for us. Maybe start doing some arts n crafts with your lil boy I dont know how wild he is but mayb this will help. If you think he is adhd maybe get him to a dr so that you dont lose your mind

Debbie - posted on 05/13/2010

Yes, i have been a stay at home mom for 9 years i have a 9 year old, 7 year old, and a 4 year old and i have my days i could scream. It is always the same here nothing to do, nobody to talk to my youngest goes to head start this year so not sure what i will do then

Emily - posted on 05/13/2010

i go crazy too staying home all day. the only thing that i can do and that helps is to get outside. have the kids play outside or everybody can go for a walk. get some fresh air!

Paula - posted on 05/13/2010

i also stay home all day every day with my 14 month old son. but have joined a few class that my son and i do together we go to music classes, swimming classes ect so maybe see what classes is around where u stay for u to join. he loves them and i look forward to them each week.

Allyson - posted on 05/13/2010

I am a single, stay at home mom of 3 boys, ages 9, 8, and 2 1/2. My 8 and 9 yr old fight nonstop, no matter how many times they are sent to their rooms. My 2 1/2 yr old is really sassy, and gets into EVERYTHING. He has to constantly be at my side, I cant even shower or go to the bathroom without him! I try to get out when I can, but I suffer from Lupus and Polymyositis, and it makes me SO tired, I all but shut down! The effort it takes just to get my son ready to do something all but drains me, not to mention trying to get him to listen when we DO go somewhere. I dont have the energy to fight with him anymore. My house has been a mess, which just depresses me further, because I'm usually a clean person. I never get a break from my son, because I dont have alot of family that are willing to help, or many that live around here. Money's tight, so I cant afford a sitter anyway. My older boys go to school, but within 5 mins of getting home, they're at each others throats. I have to do EVERYTHING each of them needs, no one to help, which is hard when I have bad days, cuz I can barely muster up the energy for anything, let alone try to keep my son busy. I do as much as I can on the good days, which are few and far between l8ly. I miss having a life!!! I try to remember that no matter how hard it is, I have to do this for my children, cuz its not fair to them not to! They cant take care of themselves! I remind myself that one day they'll all be grown up, and I wont have to do this forever! I love my children with everything I have, but it is SO hard sometimes, being so ill and having to do everything myself. Some days I feel like I expect too much out of my kids, and it makes me feel even worse! I want my children to remember that when they were little their mom took them to do fun stuff, and thats what forces me through the times that feel like they'll never end. I would love to work, but I dont know how I would ever get the energy to work all day and do everything else that has to be done for my kids and around the house. I get very depressed. I'm only 31, and in so much constant pain, and so exhausted all the time, I feel like I have failed. Somehow, I find it in me 2 keep pushing on. I have to be very careful with how I alott my time, cuz I never know how I'll feel on any given day. So my house is kinda messy? Oh well. I'd rather let my house be a lil messy, and use my good days to do something with my kids! When my kids are older, I wont have to worry about a messy house anymore, I'll have all the time in the world to clean it. But my kids will only be young once. They deserve the best I can give them. If I woulda known how hard my life was going to get, I may have never had children, so I'm glad I didn't know, cuz I wouldn't give them up for the world! They are what keep me going, even on the days I think I cant go one step further!

Allyson - posted on 05/13/2010

I am a single, stay at home mom of 3 boys, ages 9, 8, and 2 1/2. My 8 and 9 yr old fight nonstop, no matter how many times they are sent to their rooms. My 2 1/2 yr old is really sassy, and gets into EVERYTHING. He has to constantly be at my side, I cant even shower or go to the bathroom without him! I try to get out when I can, but I suffer from Lupus and Polymyositis, and it makes me SO tired, I all but shut down! The effort it takes just to get my son ready to do something all but drains me, not to mention trying to get him to listen when we DO go somewhere. I dont have the energy to fight with him anymore. My house has been a mess, which just depresses me further, because I'm usually a clean person. I never get a break from my son, because I dont have alot of family that are willing to help, or many that live around here. Money's tight, so I cant afford a sitter anyway. My older boys go to school, but within 5 mins of getting home, they're at each others throats. I have to do EVERYTHING each of them needs, no one to help, which is hard when I have bad days, cuz I can barely muster up the energy for anything, let alone try to keep my son busy. I do as much as I can on the good days, which are few and far between l8ly. I miss having a life!!! I try to remember that no matter how hard it is, I have to do this for my children, cuz its not fair to them not to! They cant take care of themselves! I remind myself that one day they'll all be grown up, and I wont have to do this forever! I love my children with everything I have, but it is SO hard sometimes, being so ill and having to do everything myself. Some days I feel like I expect too much out of my kids, and it makes me feel even worse! I want my children to remember that when they were little their mom took them to do fun stuff, and thats what forces me through the times that feel like they'll never end. I would love to work, but I dont know how I would ever get the energy to work all day and do everything else that has to be done for my kids and around the house. I get very depressed. I'm only 31, and in so much constant pain, and so exhausted all the time, I feel like I have failed. Somehow, I find it in me 2 keep pushing on. I have to be very careful with how I alott my time, cuz I never know how I'll feel on any given day. So my house is kinda messy? Oh well. I'd rather let my house be a lil messy, and use my good days to do something with my kids! When my kids are older, I wont have to worry about a messy house anymore, I'll have all the time in the world to clean it. But my kids will only be young once. They deserve the best I can give them. If I woulda known how hard my life was going to get, I may have never had children, so I'm glad I didn't know, cuz I wouldn't give them up for the world! They are what keep me going, even on the days I think I cant go one step further!

Melissa - posted on 05/13/2010

I STAY HOME 24/7 WITH MY 18 MONTH OLD LITTLE BOY SO I TOTALLY FEEL YA GIRL!!! I HAD ADD AS A KID THEY GAVE ME MEDS AND IT HELPED ME ALOT ALSO AT 18 IT WENT AWAY IF THAT GIVES YOU ANY PIECE OF MIND HE MAY TURN 18 AND BOOM IT'LL BE GONE.. DID THEY PUT HIM ON ANYTHING? I HATE MEDS BUT HONESTLY THEY HELPED ME AS A TEEN WITH THE ADD.. BUT WITH THE BEING HOME YA I DONT DRIVE I LIVE IN A SECLUDED PART OF MY TOWN AND I AM HOME ALLLLL THE TIME WITH MY SON.. IT GETS LONELY.. MY HUBBY WORKS THE NIGHT SHIFT AT THE JAIL HES A CO SO I SPEND THE NIGHT TAKING CARE OF RJ AND THEN THE DAY MY HUBBY NEEDS TO SLEEP SO AGAIN I'M PRETTY MUCH ALONE.. AND THE SLEEPING IS INSANE IF I GET TO BED BY 3AM IT WOULD BE VERY UNCOMMON.. SO USUALLY I'M UP TILL ATLEAST 4 THEN GET UP BETWEEN 9-11 SEE MY HUBBY FOR A FEW HOURS THEN HE SLEEPS AND RJ DOES USUALLY SO I DO THE SAME.. BUT YA I TOTALLY CAN RELATE HUN

Melissa - posted on 05/12/2010

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Verity - posted on 05/12/2010

why cant u go out? if ur son has adhd its good to get him out n use his energy take him to a play centre where he can run around 4 hrs! n when i stay at home i clean the house or read my daughter books or sleep when she sleeps lol u should get a swing set my daughter loves that

Chelsea - posted on 05/12/2010

yes i stay at home all day everyday too and i dont even go outside most of the time. i went from working allll the time to staying home. i dont mind though. i do get bored alot and just watching tv or playing with my son does make me feel like a ghost or something lol . my sons only 5 months so i cant do to much with him . we watch baby can read which those videos drive me crazy now cos we watch the same one a couple time a day for a month then we switch to the next. but in return my husband and i go out to target or baby stores or to eat so i can get out that helps . but that's mostly on like a Saturday . i think getting mommy friends would help. i need to get those lol

Heather - posted on 05/12/2010

Im at home all day everyday with my 2 and a half year old lil' girl and my 3 month old son. I'm starting to go crazy. I agree Lindsay, everyday feels the same to me too, doing the same old thing everyday gets really old after a while. but i can't seem to get my husband to understand that.

Karin - posted on 05/12/2010

Check out your local MOPS, see if there is a free Mommy's Day Out program at a nearby church, enroll in a Mommy and Me class, check out your library times for story-telling for toddlers or pre-k, check out your local recreation center, and sometimes just going for a walk around the block can help break up the monotony. My kids love a ride in their wagon (even my 8 year old!). Sometimes just walking to a nearby playground makes for a good day. It's a hassle, but it can be so worth it when it starts to get like this!
I have also found that getting into a women's group with my church that provided child care for a few hours helped A LOT! I was able to have adult conversation, have a break from my child, and they got to socialize with other kids.

Good luck!

Laura - posted on 05/12/2010

I am 26 and i'm home all day iwth my 7 month old and while it can get frustrating at times, i love it too. It's so amazing to teach her every day and to see how she grows. I do try to give her to my husband when he gets home for work even for a few minutes to have to myself, but it's fine cause he misses her too