does anyone elses child have night terror i am trying to work out if my son is having them ?

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Carmel - posted on 10/21/2009

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My son used to have night terrors, He'd wake up shaking and terrified still seeing whatever it was that was frightening him.. I used to get him to breath through it and this worked..Anyway I got him a dream catcher and told him it would catch all the bad dreams and he hasnt had one since,,that was bout a year ago!!! Worth a try if your child is old enough to understand what its for....

Mandy - posted on 10/11/2009

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Quoting LaTonia:

Do you believe in Jesus Christ? These are attacks from the enemy on your children. My nephew went through the same thing. My sister could not figure out what was wrong with her child. She knows that I am a God fearing woman. She brought him to me. I layed hands on him and prayed a prayer of protection over his life (Read Psalms 91) he has not had them since.



i am a christian, and i beleive in God.



 



But seriously? if that was the case, you could become a millionare as there are plenty of mums and dads out there who have children with night terrors.



Night terrors are NOT your child being attacked by "the enemy". My son is nearly 7yo and has had them since he was 2yo, and he isnt being attacked by anything.



It is important to make sure your child has a very regular bedtime and consistent routine. This will help to ensure that they get enough sleep. Fevers also make night terrors worse so it is important to try and keep the fever down when your child is sick. If the night terror happens at the same time every night, it sometimes helps to completely wake your child (for example by gently nudging their shoulder until they stir) 15 minutes before this time, letting them drift off to sleep again. This can be very effective - usually after 4 or 5 nights of this you can stop the partial waking and see if the night terrors have stopped

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User - posted on 10/25/2009

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buy a new book one that you and your child picked out long but not to long, and then take a bath, comfy jammys and get him in bed and read the book and then this might take his mind off things and take him out his world for a bit this always helps me go to sleep and take me to another place and while he's pondering the story in his head he'll be left with good thoughts - couldn't hurt to try, good luck

Kathy - posted on 10/25/2009

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Hi, my son had night terrors so bad that we all had to sleep with the lights on. I took him to a doctor, and the doctor instructed him to draw a picture of what he was affraid of, then stick it in the freezer. After a while, take it out, and have him smash it with his feet (showing him that he has more power than the "thing") and make him rip it up and throw it in the garbage. This worked for mine, good luck...

Jesse - posted on 10/21/2009

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My daughter will be 6 in January and has been waking up almost every night having bad dreams or sleepwalking and can't remember anything that happened the next morning! It's so terrible. I feel so bad for her that I can't comfort her and help her to not have this happen every night. I took her to her pediatrician who sent us to a child psychologist. She has only been to the "talk Dr." twice. So far we have not seen any improvement yet. It's very had as a mom to feel out of control! The "talk Dr." as she calls her, said that her night terrors are all related to life changing events. Such as starting Kindergarten, her new baby brother on the way in November, and my daughters best friend died suddenly in June of this year. So with her losing her friend that she grew up with since she was very little now she is afraid she is going to die too since he was just a little older than her when he went to heaven.....heart breaking! All I can tell you Samantha, is you are NOT ALONE! I feel for you and for you child. Hang in there....it's got to get better someday right?!

Anne-Marie - posted on 10/20/2009

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My son has had numerous night terrors for many years. He is now 13 and doesn't get them as often. It is a very scary situation to be in, because you really don't know what to do. He would act his out...eyes wide open, talking and moving around. The last time he had one, my husband and I were in bed watching t.v. My son came running in our room and literally dove underneath our bed. My husband and I just looked at each other not knowing whether to laugh or what. He kept babbling about seeing something outside. At the time, we did have coyotes that roamed the yard, so we thought he woke up and saw one out his window. He then started talking about flying monsters (while still under our bed). We then knew he was having another night terror. We got down to try to get him out from under the bed. Gently talking to him though, we didn't want to fully wake him, knowing that is not the right thing to do. He finally came out of the night terror, and he was embarrassed. He knows he gets them, but it doesn't make it any easier for him. I found that when he went to bed really tired he was more apt to get them. Like the other moms stated, you can only be there for them and ride them out. Speaking softly to them, as not to wake them, and let them know everything is ok. It may take a while, but like my son, they will hopefully lessen over time.

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My son occasionally has them. Sometimes it's hard to tell the difference between night terrors and nightmares, but there is a difference. Night terrors usually occur within an hour or two of falling asleep. My son will be crying, and his eyes may be open, but nobody is "home". He may be trying to say something, but it's never a complete thought (he's 32 months old now). Mostly it's just a wailing cry that can last anywhere from a few minutes to...almost an hour, one time anyway. What I found works best for him is to sit with him, rub his back, but not pick him up. Just talk quietly to him, let him know that I'm there, and wait it out. It's really hard to watch, but after it's over, he generally goes back to sleep properly. Check out the Internet for some more information, that's what I had to do. Oh, apparently night terrors are related to sleep walking, so you should try to keep your son's room as safe as possible. We even installed an extra lock on the front door...just in case. Good luck and hang in there. Night terrors are just as hard on the parents!

Lisa - posted on 10/20/2009

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hi samantha
my 10 year old son has night terrors it is very scarry.
they first started when he was 3 he had'nt been in bed that long when he started screeming and shouting when i went to go near him he started hitting out and it was as though he was looking straight through me.
in the past 2 years the have become less and less ,but you would think with time you would get used to them ,but that is not the case it scars the living daylights out of me.
i find the best thing to do is hold them and sing to them if you can soothe them down the night terror dosen't last as long but whats right for one is'nt always right for another.
if you ever want to talk give me a shout.
i hope i have helped

Trich - posted on 10/11/2009

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it seems that most peoples children in this post are older, but my little man who is only 11 months has been having them since he was about 6 months old, he doesnt get them everynight or anything, he gets them every few weeks at about the same time and the same day of the week ( wednesdays about 8pm) its a scary experience as he is still asleep and i never know whether to wake him or just comfort him.

i just get him out of his cot and bring him to the lounge room and rock him gently and tell him its all ok it will go away soon and he usually wakes up after about 5 mins of rocking, smiles at me and then he goes back to sleep.

i have done lots and lots of reading on it and it happens to many many children, most of my reading says just to be relaxed and calm and the child will wake and wont remember at all what has happened.

LaTonia - posted on 10/11/2009

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Do you believe in Jesus Christ? These are attacks from the enemy on your children. My nephew went through the same thing. My sister could not figure out what was wrong with her child. She knows that I am a God fearing woman. She brought him to me. I layed hands on him and prayed a prayer of protection over his life (Read Psalms 91) he has not had them since.

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Yes, my son had them from when he was about 3 until even as an adolescent if he was sleeping or camping in a strange place. The best thing to do is be calm, try rubbing his back and whispering. Sometimes, if you can hold him gently but firmly he will calm down. They usually grow out of them by the time they are 6 or 7 I think.

Phyllis - posted on 10/09/2009

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My grandaughter suffers from night terrors. There is very little you can do. Just be patient and comfort her. Nobody knows why this happens. You are not alone in this. Many children suffer from this problem. We used to sit beside her bed and talk to her and rub her arm or head and let her know she wasn't alone. Eventually she would calm down and sleep again.

Beth - posted on 10/09/2009

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My 9 yr old daughter started having them just after she started school when she was 4 yrs old and she still has them but not as often.

When she first started having them it actually freaked me out the way she was freaking out,shrieking,teeth chattering and shaking all over.Her eyes would be wide open yet still be like she was in a sleep state.I swear her behaviour was like she was posessed or something.She would wander from room to room still freaking out and you could see in her eyes shear terror.She would flay her arms around and just scream.



It would take at least 15-20 mins to try and calm her down and get her to become alert again.The only thing I could do is talking to her in a calm voice and keep calling her name and let her know she was safe.

So there really isn't much you can do but try and talk to them in a quiet and calm voice and comfort them the best you can until they wake up.

Eventually kids do out grow them,my daughter is not having them as often.

At one time she would have them at times every night,and even on occasion have them when she took a nap.

Jennifer - posted on 10/09/2009

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My daughter use to have them when she was around 4-5 yrs old. One night she woke up(my husband was on a trip) crying frantically, she had walked down stairs and said someone put her on the couch in our family room! This scared me to death, I'm thinking someone is in our house(my son, her, and me were home)!!! I start checking all the doors and windows(they were all locked:)I got up, and got her, she apparently had walked down stairs in her sleep???? She was screaming, wouldn't let me hold her, and I could NOT calm her....eventually she calmed down. She went on having them for about for about a year or so, she's pretty much grown out of it, but still she gets up in the middle of the night VERY disoriented, and talking craziness, when she's still half asleep. It is very scary, and sad to the parent that they can't console them. I hope yours grows out of it soon. Good Luck

Mickie - posted on 10/09/2009

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night terror is where the child is not awake but they look awake and any thing you do to try to comfort them will not work you can not wake them they do not know who you are the best you can do is be there to make sure they do not get hurt they are way scary for the mom and dads my son has them and its hard to handle

Lisa - posted on 10/08/2009

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one of hubbys other kids had them up till she was about 12 and they tried everything to help but the only usefull thing he said was if she didnt wake herself up than just leave her. Nightterrors are like sleepwalking. wake them up and its a lot worse and they feel bad. nightmares they will wake themselves up and usually just need a cuddle. With the night terrors she didnt even know about them but was very self conscious when told.

Meghan - posted on 10/08/2009

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My son had them when he was between two and three I never realized what they were until it was all over the news a week later..He had them at least 2 times a week and his eyes would be wide open but he would be sleeping most of the time he never realized what was going on I could not wake him. The doctor said to let him wake up on his own and most of the time they dont wake up from them, but make sure he could not get hurt with anything around him, most of the time he would kick and scream with tears then he would just stop like nothing ever happened and he just stayed asleep, they usually lasted about 3 long minutes.. It was very scary situation to be in, but my son now 8 never knew they happened to him.. I hope it gets better for you but alot of us parents have been through it in all different ways....

Jaimie - posted on 10/07/2009

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My son use to hve night terrors 2-4 times a night. he would scream for me like i have never heard him scream before and when i would get to him he would scream more cause he was not awake and hearing anyone talk made it worse, he would scratch himself if you touched him it was like you were murdering him. all i could do was just sit there and wit for him to wake up, the doc told me if i can't hold him to get him into the cool night air then to crack his window a little, it helps but dosen't cure it! all you can really do is ride it out, it will brake your heart to see him like that but there is nothing really you can do.

Corry - posted on 10/07/2009

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My little girl has them almost all the time! The hardest part was figuring out if it was a nightmare or night terror. Yes, there is a difference!
Children are easier to wake from a nightmare (and most times are already awake by the time you get to their room) than a night terror! As well, after they have a nightmare it is harder to get them to go back bed because they are still scared!
When a child has a night terror, they will scream like you have never heard before (and never want to hear again) and at times become violent (like they don't want to be held). They also go back to sleep really easily! Night terrors are only supposed to last a short time, it's like a phase that kids go through, but for some kids it happens all the time! My little girl is 21 months old and has both night terrors and nightmares, and she started having the night terrors right around her 1st b-day. At first it was hard to determine whether she was having a terror or nightmare. I soon realized that the blood and bone chilling screaming was the terrors!
I hope this helps, and believe me you are not alone in this!

Amy - posted on 10/07/2009

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My son had a bout of night terrors. The only things that we could do was in the beginning we would hold and rock him, tell him where he was and that we were with him and that he was safe. After a little while we would hold him next to his bed and tell him that same thing. A little while after that we would leave him in bed and sooth him and tell him the same things. Eventually they went away but all we could do was ride it out. Good luck and you have our prayers that things get better quickly for you and your child.

Francis - posted on 10/07/2009

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my daugther has them. Not long ago we had to get her a new crib it was one she had slept in before because somehow fire ants where getting into her old crib and she was getting bit. she had several bites all over. Ever since i have switched her bed she wakes up several times a night screaming and scared. I have to hold her and rock her back to sleep, sometimes i have to let her sleep on me because if i put her back in her crib she will immediately wake up screaming as soon as i put her in her bed. She is only 14 months old. The doctor said it will take her time to get over the nightmares, she told me to just be patient. If you find any other solutions i would love to know about them.

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