Does anyone feel bad about spending money and have there husbands keep reminding them that they didv
Jamie - posted on 06/21/2010
I feel guilty for spending any money really. He could care less as long as the bills are paid or we have the money in the bank to pay the bills. He buys what he wants when he wants it and he feels I should do the same. I just feel bad if I spend on myself and not on the kids or him. So I tend to spend on them first and me last, now. I used to way over spend but we had the money and I was working then.
Amber - posted on 06/20/2010
Nope. We sat down and figured out how much money I need for the month (not including groceries or household things). I've been budgeted for gas, lunches when I'm at school, and then I get a nice amount for shopping, facials, lunch out with the girls...whatever I can do with that money.
I know how much I get for the month; it's a sum that I, myself, came up with. He agreed with it, and that's what I have. If I go over, he teases me but has never been mean about it. And it doesn't happen often.
We both agreed that I should be "compensated" for staying home. I don't get as much as I would if I were actually a full time, live in nanny. But he is generous with me and I'm happy with it.
Katherine - posted on 06/20/2010
Nope, it's our money. I work too, as in SAHM, it's a job. Raising kids is no walk in the park and we agreed that because of the cost of daycare I would stay home. If he complains, I simply remind him of that. Of course this is after bills have been paid. Whatever is left is fair game....sorry, most of it is for the kids anyways.
Danielle - posted on 06/20/2010
awww sometimes you have to charge yourself a little happiness. I think as long as the kids have what they need, the groceries are done for the week, bills are paid up, then it's okay to get a little something for yourself.
Melinda - posted on 06/18/2010
i dont feel bad at all. i think of it this way. As long as i'm stayin at home with the kids i will make sure everyone has what they need. I made sure my husband understood that when we decided i would stay home with our children. He did complain once and i decided to let him pay the bills and do all that comes with being a SAHM. He never complained or reminded me of anything. :)
Erika - posted on 06/18/2010
I don't feel bad. My DH and I are on the same page. I don't go and blow money, but I do like to shop!! So as long as you and your Hubby are on the same page, then you shouldn't feel bad either. Being a SAHM is not easy.
Hope this helps.
Mandy - posted on 06/17/2010
heck no I don't feel bad.....we deserve something for ourselves every once in a while. Although he isn't really bringing in ALL the money, he brings in most for sure from his regular job but we also have a home based side business that helps to partially replace the income I used to make before I stayed home and since I help with that business then I'm still earning some of the money. (it took a lot of fights but I finally got him to see that point....he used to think it was all his until I put him straight...LOL)...and I also babysit a little boy part time which earns me a little spending money as well.
Danielle - posted on 06/17/2010
nope never feel bad. When you are married and you are taking care of the kids and household and he is working for an employer the money is BOTH of yours. My husband works hard so I can stay home, but I work hard to make our children responsible people in society. I am the one who spends the money on the bills, groceries, kids. living expenses . etc. I have just as much say in how the money is spent as he does. Dont ever feel guilty about spending the money on living expenses and once in a while a splurge on yourself, within your budget and means. Hey would you feel like you owned all of the money if you worked out of the house and your hubby was home? He would have just as much right to spend.
Jessica - posted on 06/16/2010
Yes, at first I felt bad but then I realized that it really is our money. He is the one that brought up the discussion about me stopping my job (that I had been at for 7 years). We both decided that it would be the best (toooo many people are getting in trouble for touching children and we didnt trust anybody with our daughter) for me to stay home. I never spend money on me, but I will after I am finished losing all my baby weight lol. Momma gonna go shopn when I get my waistline back lol He buys things that he wants when we have the extra money so when I go to spend money I remind him of all his recent purchases and then he gets quiet and lets me do what I want lol. But I agree with Donielle... you would be giving it to somebody else, so ya might aswell consider it yours lol
Mine never complains when I soend money on myself because I never do and he knows it kills me. i feel like I'm wasting it. He does get after me when I buy to many small items for our daughters because rather they TRUELY need it or not i buy them outfits or sippys and he's swears they will never wear/use them...lol but thats about the time they stain or tear their clothes or ruin a sippy!
Louise - posted on 06/16/2010
My husband and I opened a joint bank account before we bought our first house and have always shared our moeny. There has never been an issue of mine and his I have bought what I have needed no questions asked. Mind you back in 1988 I don't think he thought I would still be at home with a toddler in 2010! I have worked part time on and off through the years but at present I am at home and I intend to stay at home until 2013 when my youngest goes to school. But not once has he grumbled so I suppose I am lucky. xx
Anna - posted on 06/16/2010
yes, not as much as he used to. I hardly spend money on myself and when I buy food or things for the kids I remind him that these are things they NEED! My husband is the "penny pincher" and I like to enjoy ourselves within our means, of course. I wish I could buy more things for myself though. I think the last time I bought clothes for myself was bout a year ago. :/ I think the men of the house just want to provide for us so they get a little worried. It's his way of caring for us in a different way. :)
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