Does anyone have a suggestions about teaching my 3 yr old his ABC's and 123's?

Sarah - posted on 01/05/2010 ( 87 moms have responded )

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My 3yr old son is very stubborn and will not work at his ABC's and 123's he can recognize them and tell me what they are, but will not say then in order. Any ideas????

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Debi - posted on 01/11/2010

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I used Post it notes and put them EVERY where mine would see them. I put a banner up in there room that went all the way around in order A-Z then 1-50. I played the songs on a cd all day in the back ground. Both my kids could read and write by 4. The post it notes went from ABC's to two letter words all over the house to 3 letter words. On the stairs, doors and cabinets. In the car any where I could think of that they would see. Good luck Have fun with it.

Asper - posted on 01/10/2010

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While he is around you sing them to yourself, Pretend it has nothing to do with him and sing them out as you go about your day. While you do the dishes or get dressed or whenever you can, just sing the ABC's or otther counting songs. It will sink in.

Teresa - posted on 01/06/2010

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First, don't try and force him. He'll hate it forever. You have to disguise it as "fun." I found a few videos on Youtube, that my two and an half year old absolutely adores. Sometimes, you just have to find something he really enjoys and sneak it in, like ABC building blocks. My son loves to put them into an ABC tower and knock it over.

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Chardae Loves - posted on 03/06/2011

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my daugther is the opposite she can say them but not recognize!!!!!!!!!!

Rebecca - posted on 02/05/2010

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these days computers have taking over and children are using them in prschool and kindergarten...so i bought a preshool hooked on phonics program and at first they sit in my lap while i played the games and showed them how...it wasn't very long before they were doing it on there own.... its amazing how quickly they learn! Now that my oldest daughter is six, we have a seperate computer in her room (with no internet access) with learning games and teaching tools, she plays on it a few times a week and its better than kids playing video games all afternoon.

Tracy - posted on 01/13/2010

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Hi why not just getting him to help count out the apples that your buying when shopping, and also see if he can point out the letters and prices on the packet or tins. He'll be high enough sitting in the trolley. Make it a game. I've done this with all my kids at some point and it works.

Myrtis - posted on 01/13/2010

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I have a very stubborn 3 year old too, I find what works with him is being SILLY. Like, you have to sing the ABC song all wrong, and then he loves to correct you like you're the one who needs to learn.

Also, when I sing the ABC song I put the name of someone we know into the space for the appropriate letter, it sounds dreadful, but he'll laugh and think it's great fun to listen to you.

Again, make mistakes and encourage him to correct you, the way to encourage learning is through example - you teach him, he teaches you, it also makes it stick for them because it is challenging to think about why the other person is making a mistake.

But, should all this fail, don't sweat it, some kids take longer to show an interest in learning and what you know at 3 years doesn't predict anything about scholastic attainment later on. Maybe he's really good at other aspects of his development right now and you could focus on that, maybe he loves painting or dancing or pretending, these are all important skills too and shouldn't necessarily take a back seat to pre-literacy skills. Good luck.

Margaret - posted on 01/12/2010

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Blues Clue teaches this well as Dora The explorer. I printed 8 x10 sheets from the internet with the alphabet and fun pictures and would have my son say the letter and then tell me what the pictures were and I also printed up index cards with numbers on them and taped them 1-100 to the wall and would have him tell me them after dinner or before or whenever. You have to make it fun for them maybe a book so you get them into reading early. the M&M has a counting book.

Noor - posted on 01/12/2010

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as for letters there's this amazing site called www.starfall.com, my son learnt the letters and the phonics through this only. and for the numbers also you can try the www. babytv. com...another way to say the numbers in sequence would be to sing the song 1..2..3..4..5..once i caught a fish alive..

Cynthia - posted on 01/11/2010

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Don't push him. He will want to learn soon. Just go with the flow and encourage him and let him know that you are proud of him for trying. My son is four and this worked for us. Good luck.

Claire - posted on 01/11/2010

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i got my 3 year old to count like when we go down the stairs to count how many steps there is and i have got her to count to 14

Becky - posted on 01/11/2010

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I agree with the others make it fun learning and exciting when they get it right

Nikki - posted on 01/11/2010

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My little one will be 3 in February and what we do is sing the song alot and when we walk up and down stairs we count. I sit down with her and "count her fingers" and have her count mine. Our new purchase was the Leap Frog Fridge Phonics and she absolutely loves it. She can put the letters in and say them and sound them out. Then there is this button on the top that she pushes and it sings it for her. She goes around the house now and says Momma I wanna sing my ABC's!

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We sing ABC's daily, usually while he is sitting on the potty. If my 3 year old wants to sing too, i encourage him, but if he doesn't want to, he just listens. We also sing 123 songs too. (1,2, buckle my shoe......) We also watch Sesame Street together and talk about it during the show and after the show is over.

Annalee - posted on 01/10/2010

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there is a magnet leap frog thing thats for the frig and my daughter loves it she learnt hers from that it sings then and she put differnt magnets in and it will tell you the letter the sound and say the abs each time my 2 1/2 year old even know the sounds of each letter because of that lovely magnet lol

Heather - posted on 01/10/2010

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To be honest, at age 3 a child should not be expected to know his ABC's and 123's.in order. I would suggest playing games with your son, watching shows, or reading books that have ABC's or 123's to get him more familiar with them but don't worry about the rest. Preschool is also a great idea.

Wendy - posted on 01/10/2010

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I know if you make it fun!! I have a basket full of cloth letters and i say how they've fallen, raining letters. Do not push your child to learn they will on their own. Count stairs with ABC. Go fishing , put letters on magnets and then go fishing. This is fun
Also, buy the frog movie with the letters/ Also, Discovery toys has a cd with rhymes , songs . GREAT!

Amy - posted on 01/10/2010

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I love Fridge Phonics!! To them it's just a toy/game but my 2 year started learning her alphabet within a week of having it. It's made by Leap Frog, is around $20 and you can find it at Wal-Mart, Target and such. Leap Frog also has a series of DVD's where Tad goes on adventures and teaches the alphabet and numbers along the way. Also singing is a good way to remember things, so if you just sing the alphabet and numbers randomly throughout the day it'll stick without him even knowing it. And remember the more a child enjoys learning the more they will learn :) Good luck!!

Stacey - posted on 01/10/2010

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Games. I catch buses every where so I made it as real life as possible. Counting up stairs, I bet you can't get there before I count. Can you find this letter in the shop. anything just make it up and make them do it to you as well., they love tricking you. This worked a dream for my kids.

Latoyia - posted on 01/09/2010

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Arts and crafts seems to work and a little incentive never hurts. If he has a favorite cartoon character you can do arts and crafts using the character(s) as decoration.

Lorraine - posted on 01/09/2010

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my son is 2 1/2 and knows how to count to ten and nearly know's all his abc's ever since he was 6 months old we have been reading books at bed time and have maid it our special time there all focus on you so they really take it in we read a lot of number book's and abc's two of his favourites are the counting bus book where you have to lift the flaps up to see how many and the little golden book's which has my first counting book and i make all different noises to make it interesting for him and now my son know's what happens in the book he tells me the storie and he makes the noises to so make it a special thing and a little bit each day is good so good luck

Pauline - posted on 01/09/2010

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Sing! Sing! Sing! I taught Kinder for the last 3 years and it's amazing how kids pick up songs. I have the Leap Frog DVD's like other moms who have already suggested on this thread. If there's a Lakeshore Learning store nearby you may want to check it out. I have bought many items (CD's, games, books, etc.) Good luck and know that you're already ahead of the game when it comes to your child's learning =) (Trust me - I've had kids coming in to Kinder not recognizing any letter nor number).

Erin - posted on 01/09/2010

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Just a tip that worked for me...Every DVD, T.V., or Tape that is played in your home no matter who is watching it...Put on the Subtitles...We did this for our Child and He is an extraordinary reader, he also enjoys foreign movies. The logic behind it is children see the words as they hear them spoken...It really did work for us.

Maggie - posted on 01/09/2010

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Ah I was reading some of the post and I agree Super Why is a great TV show and they have a great way of saying the ABCs, very catchy. But if all else fails remember repetition is the main thing right now thats how children learn by doing and trying over and over. So while your doing dishes or driving sing the song. I mix it up by emphasizing each letter and sometimes even by being silly. Just have fun with it!

Steffinie - posted on 01/09/2010

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buy some floating ABC's and when it's bathtime put them in the bathtub, you pick up the letters from a-z asking him which letter is which. After that sing the ABC song with him. Do it as often as you can

Sheila - posted on 01/09/2010

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I had this exact same problem with my son. EXACTLY the same. It drove me NUTS! I sang to him all of the time, I knew he knew the letters and numbers... I just kept on singing whenever I thought of it. It ended up that at school he did really well even though he didn't want to show me... It took my boy a long time to talk too, but I knew he wanted to say the words right or not at all. Don't worry about it! You will see a huge change once he's in school ;) It seems like ages, but soon he won't stop counting everything in sight, singing the ABC's, and all the other stuff he's learning!

Jennifer - posted on 01/09/2010

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There is a free program on the internet called www.starfall.com which will help with there ABC. I used this with my 7 year old when he was having trouble last year. Sing the fish alive song.

Vickie - posted on 01/09/2010

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Leap Frog also has a 3 letter word Fridge Magnet for the ABC's.......my son loves it much more than the one with just the alphabet.....it teaches the sound of each letter as well as the words........I purchased it when he got bored of the other one.....

Sherri - posted on 01/09/2010

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the abc song?and sesame street. also at 3 its not a dire problem, relax and let him enjoy being a little one while he still can. :-)

Kristen - posted on 01/09/2010

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Use whatever he loves to make learning them interesting to him. If he likes trains put the a letter on each car. Make A the engine and Z the caboose. Make a fun game out of putting them on the track in the right order saying something like the train can't run unless all of the cars are in place. You can do that with numbers too or just count in every day life. Count cereal bites, fruit snacks, stairs, toys...again, whatever is interesting to him. The most important thing is to make it fun and don't force him because chances are at that age the more you push the more he'll push back and learning should be a fun experience not a forced one. Hope that helps :)

Jennifer - posted on 01/09/2010

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ABC and 123 magnets that can be placed on the refrigerator.Have a letter and number of the day and have you child find the letter and number on things around the house or places you go.Also talk about what words start with the letter of the day.

Rose Ann - posted on 01/09/2010

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Pre SCHOOL....my son is in K-3 and Knows his Numbers, ABC's, Color. Next year they will be teaching him to Read. Plus its great for Social Skills and interacting with other children. Have you thought about placing him in preschool? Its a way to start but every parent its different. Good luck

Kim - posted on 01/09/2010

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I used refrigerator magnets. Chose one or two a week and slowly began with the name of the letter, what it sounded like, found flash cards with the letter and an everyday object such as c for cat. I started with the most familar letters and sounds then added vowels, singing the alphabet song will allow them to place them in order but they wont really understand, it just a little song', but knowing what the letters loook like and sound like makes teaching reading latter on easy, both my girls were reading by 4yrs.

Alex - posted on 01/09/2010

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I wouldn't push him to learn them, if you wait until he shows an interest in them then he'll pick it up in no time. My husband and I are both avid readers and were really keen for our son to be so as well at first but he has been quite happy for us to read to him instead of having a go himself. he's now 4 and a half and in the last couple of weeks he has started to ask me what certain words say which I'm taking as him showing an interest, I've no doubt that he'll be reading in no time because we haven't pushed him in to doing it until he's ready. Just think how you feel when someone is trying to push you into doing something you either don't care about or just don't get. I don't know about you but I get really stubborn! LOL

Diana - posted on 01/08/2010

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my son is 2 yrs old and is autistic i thought him at 11 months and my daughter is 1 yrs old and thought her at 8 months they caught it in about 2months time but i always say it about 10times a day and go one, two, threeeeeee! and A, B, CEEEEEEEE....he'll eventually get the hang of it!

Amanda - posted on 01/08/2010

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if u notice children of that age just repeat and repeat so what i did was just continued to say the a,b,c's and count to mine over and over and they got it in no time. And u can also make it fun with the singing of the alphabet song daily you will be surprised how quick they pick it up. Then u will have them spelling their name counting how old they are in no time. Good luck dear even though u wont need it.

Helen - posted on 01/08/2010

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its not important at this age that they know their abc 123. Leave it up to a teacher. I am a teacher assistant and i have seen many mums in your situation. Too many people put unrealistic expectations on their kids and because their friends kids or other children in the family having done it early it doesnt mean they should all follow suit. If they are interested they will learn by watching shows, watching other kids, books etc.

Christina - posted on 01/08/2010

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I sit with my son and watch Super Readers on PBS....we sing with them and answer questions together...this was just fun for us to do together and the next thing I knew he was spouting off his ABCs...He's 3 on Feb 18, and already he knows his entire alphabet by sight! We would sing counting games....we sit in front of a mirror and count fingers and toes....he can count to 10 in English and Spanish!! The more fun it is the easier they learn!

Angelique - posted on 01/08/2010

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Make it fun for him, count everything and he will start counting everything, make him aware of number and letter's in his life sing the ABC song on routine everyday like when he's brushing his teeth or at bed time for example ......My daughter will be 7 in a month, she could say and recognize ABC's and 123's at around 1 1/2 or 2, everywhere she seen words she would point and say the letters or numbers. this was only because before I handed her anything I told her the first letter in it's name or counted them out to her.....Then she followed and when she would ask for Juice, she would say " mommy can i have juice, juice starts with J" Or if she was asking for grapes or something I ask how many did she want or how many do you have.
Good Luck

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LeapFrog makes this "phonics" bus that teaches the ABC's. It does the sound of each letter and sings the ABC song. It also comes with 3 little play frogs that can sit in the bus and each plays music. We also have the fridge magnets, flash cards, etc. But you know what really worked? Unbelieveable because I would never really recommend TV, but there is this awesome show called "Super Why" on PBS. My 2 year old already knows her ABC's....including the sounds of each letter AND she can even spell some small words. All from watching this show because I had not really started anything more than singing the ABC song and playing with the fridge magnets. My 5 year old even loves the show and has improved his reading comprehension level.

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I like to use Foam puzzles with ABC and 123. It gives their hands something to do, but they are learning at the same time. Turn it into a game, that is the best way to keep them interested. Good for you that you are working with him. Some parents don't even try. They figure the teacher will teach it to them. That is not a good way to start. Good luck.

Michelle - posted on 01/07/2010

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Repetition, repetition, repetition. My 20 month old can count to 10 and say ABC's through I. We just do it a LOT. we sing em we speak em we write em we talk about em. It's not like we're obsessing with it, but he loves them! So we just wind up doing it a lot! One thing that got him started was using a video with a character he likes (We have Elmo and a baby genius fish video in particular) that have the ABC and 123 and he just started picking it up from those mainly.

Susana - posted on 01/07/2010

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We used the Leap Frog Alphabet Fridge Magnet and it worked for my son so well that his JK teacher asked US what we used for him to know his ABC's so well. We got it for him for his 3rd birthday in October of 2008, and he started JK this past Fall. It worked great for him and we are letting our 2 year old start to play with it now also.

Brenda - posted on 01/07/2010

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my son learned his abc's off of fridge phonics he pushed the button lots a times a day and now knows them the whole wat through they sell it at toys r us he just turned 3 in august

Krista - posted on 01/07/2010

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My son is two and while he's still slightly struggling with his ABC's he loves to count. We count everything and we make it a game. We count the stairs, we count how many raisin's he has, how many toes he has, how many toys he has.

And as long as he knows them, you shouldn't really worry about the order.

Shandy - posted on 01/07/2010

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well i really don't know i was reading some of your answer u got and i have tryed a lot of them and it still did not work for my kids but now my son is in pre school so maybe they can get him to do it.

Veronica - posted on 01/07/2010

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My son is the same way. He knows his abc's and 123's, but if you ask him to say them he says a,b,c,q,r,s...and so on to the end. For the life of me I cannot get him to say the middle.

Christy - posted on 01/07/2010

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i forgot to mention the book Chicka Chicka Boom Boom. it is wonderful for keeping a toddler's attention and there's even a DVD and computer game to further their learning and fun. they have a book called Chicka Chicka 123 too for counting all the way to 100 but there's no DVDs or games with that one.

Michelle - posted on 01/07/2010

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We used flash cards.Mine is also 3 .He know his ABC and 123..We just showed them to him everyday and say them all with him.We tried to do it around the same time everyday..It seemed to do better having a set time.Structure helps them a lot.They all learn different of-course.But I am sure it would work with your baby too..

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