Does He really need preschool before Kindergarten?

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Charity - posted on 11/25/2012

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I live in a very rural area and the closest preschool is 90 miles round trip away. So we do stuff at home and my son 4 1/2 knows his basics although sometimes simply stubborn when you ask him a question(about letters or numbers,colors) he doesn't answer it because he is stubborn. My sister in laws compare him to their kids and has made me feel really guilty. Like he should be writing his name or that he should know more.He will be 5 1/2 when Kindergarten starts. I feel confident he will do just fine. He is very social and is fine spending time away from me ( including week long trips with Grandma) and interested in "school" work. My sister in law asked me the other day so are you going to wait another year for kindergarten? She looked surprised that I said no. I was kinda offended. I have confidence my son will be prepared. It just annoys me that people think preschool is a MUST, it depends on what works for a family but your child will not necessarily be superior in school for going to preschool.

Stevee - posted on 07/09/2010

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In my opinion,it depends on the child.
I didn't send my daughter,she already spends lots of time with other children.And I have been working with her on her letters,numbers etc.She was just evaluated for Kindergarten and they said she was right on!!!

Jennifer - posted on 07/09/2010

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As a former kinder teacher if you are sending your child to public school for kinder I recommend atleast a few days of preschool the year before they start. It is more so they can learn how to be a part of a classroom, a part of a learning group, learning to deal with others and structure in that specific type of learning situation. Academics, socialization, skills are all easily taught at home and through things like playgroups, but there is no way you can replicate a classroom at home. Today kindergarten is so very structured and academic taht the kiddos that have had no previous exposure really do have a harder time adjusting and start off a bit behind because they are just overwhelmed! As a teacher you do the best you can for all your students but really in order to manage and teach groups of as many as 24 kindergarteners (17 is a really good ratio, but uncommen to have less then 20!!!) you have to have structure and high expectations!!! The year after I left public school teaching I taught at a 2day a week preschool program (I thought I'd be bored being full time at home, LOL!) My goal for those kids were to prepair them for kinder, I had to defend some of my methods because parents and my director felt I was not "academic enough". I focused on teaching listening skills, following directions, increasing attention span, and working on fine and gross motor skills, because I KNEW the academic expectations the following year in kinder! The next year those parents expressed how happy they were because their child "did so well in kinder" and "seemed ahead of most of the other kids". I am sending my 4yr old to prek 2 days a week this year and I even plan on homeschooling him! But because of the necessity of structured learning situations and the necessity of him being able to listen to another adult and learn in a group environment that he will be faced with, even in homeschooling, I want him to have those skills. I know it's hard, I feel like I am losing my baby and MY influence, but the way our educational structure is today it really is benificial.

Sharon - posted on 07/01/2010

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Research has shown time and time again that preschool is not necessary. Children learn more through play at this age than structured education. Children do need socialization, but preschool is not necessary for that. Take your child to the park or the zoo so he can meet other children. Read to him at home and give him lot's of playtime. That's all he really needs right now.

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Norma - posted on 02/05/2013

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I have twins they will be turning 3 years old, I can't afford to take them to preschool, they do socialize a lot, are they going to have a problem going to kindergarden?

Alicia Obungen - posted on 11/27/2012

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thanks for the comments.. i have my age 3 granddaughter and she does not want to continue her nursery class anymore.. but i encourage her to go by the way.. i agree with the idea that preschools are the preparatory ground for 3 years old children. my niece 5 years old had a hard time adjusting to school life because her mom does't want her to attend pre-school due to according to her she will find school a boring place latter on.. that,s not true

Jacqueline - posted on 07/11/2010

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i kept my son for another year and he dealt just fine with kindergarten, i would do small games with him at home to somewhat prepare him for it, and talked to him a lot about kindergarten on how he would learn to write his name, meet new friends, get rewards for his efforts. hes now going to 3rd grade this Sept. and does really good in school. he has all A's in his report card, he's is in honor roll, has gotten awards, he loves school and had up to now never said he doesn't want to go. follow your instinct, if you feel he is ready, than start him off early and if not take that year. don't feel bad about it. you aren't harming his education in any way. at home play games with him with out him noticing he is learning, that way he will see school just as fun.

Andrea - posted on 07/09/2010

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With all that they are required to now before the end of their Kindergarten year. I would say that some preschooling would be a wise ideal.

Louise - posted on 07/03/2010

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I am a pre school teacher and I can honestly tell you it is a personal choice you make as you know your child the best. Most parents put there children into preschool to get a couple of hours peace and not for the benefit of the child. I have had to deal with children that were not socially ready for preschool and were very distressed about the whole affair.My advice is if your child is sociable and needing stimulation and needing a place to vent energy and a quizical mind then absolutely preschool is the place to be. If your child suffers seperation anxiety or is not comfortable around other children just yet then wait and try and work on social skills at home before throwing them in at the deepend and swomping them with lots of experiences they have never had before. My youngest daughter is 20 months and is ready for preschool already as she is confident and absorbs imformation like a sponge. I will be glad when she is old enough to attend.

Adrienne - posted on 07/02/2010

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My mom homeschooled me and my 4 other siblings through grade school, and she told me that preschool isn't necessary as long as you're willing to put in the time at home to teach them things, and to get them socialized (lots of parks, classes, etc.) I have a lot of friends with kids around my sons age whom he plays with, we do nursery at church and then when he's a little older we'll do more together. Not sure about pre-k yet personally.

Soleil - posted on 07/02/2010

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I've been dealing with this issue myself, because quite honestly I want to keep my baby boy home with me, I'd miss him!!! My son is turning 4 in September, and for the past 2 years we have had him in a home daycare one day a week so that he can get some more social skills, and that has really helped him at the playground. No matter how many times other moms tell me the pros of preschool, I just can't see how a 13 to 1 ratio is better than 1 on 1 (well, 1 on 2 as of 4 months ago :) ). I know they say kids who go to preschool are more likely to go to college, but I went to preschool, and didn't go to college. I truly feel like kids who stay home with their mommies are more confident in themselves because they know they have a great home support system. We have decided to put him into a structured preschool 2 days a week, mornings only after his birthday so he can become more accustomed to listening to another adult, and not being the center of attention. But honestly, this is the first generation where preschool has become the norm, and all generations before did just fine going from mom straight to kindergarten. If you want him home, keep him home... I feel like we only have so many years to be "Mommy" and I know that I want every single one of them!!

Paulette - posted on 07/02/2010

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I think what is important is making sure your child is ready for K (following the guide lines) however it's done.. If for whatever reason you can not have them at the K level, then they need Pre-K. My godson 8yrs old, skipped a grade and he did not go to pre-k. My friend made sure to cover all grounds with him and she still do. She do not depend on the school to educate her child alone. They have a very active well rounded life. My son is almost 26 months.(-: so right now my concern is making sure I get him in a good private school for K. Not sure about PK yet because I'm doing a great job with him now..and know he will be more than ready..but I am willing to do a few hours in PK for socialization. Well, I'm thinking a lot of outside activities might do the trick.

Jenelle - posted on 07/02/2010

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Depends on you and your child! My oldest three did Preschool before K, and one is above her class, one is still behind, and one is Average. I didn't put my fourth in preschool, not because I didn't want to, but we didn't have the extra money. My MIL is a K teacher, and just says that the biggest difference between kids who went to preschool and kids who didn't are their social skills...and even then that is a hit and miss. Here we still do half day K, and they adjust pretty easily and quickly! I wouldn't feel bad either way. Depends on what you want and think is best. BTW my one child that did preschool for two full years before K, is my "Average" child...whatever "average" means!

Christy - posted on 07/02/2010

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The sad reality is typically those kids that go to kindergarten without some school structure prior (these days, anyway) are already behind in Kindergarten. Used to not be that way. My son just turned 3 and will be in pre k in the fall. I think it will be really good for him.

Christi - posted on 07/01/2010

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I don't know where you live, but here in California you can have your child take a test that indicates whether they are ready for kindergarten, at least academically. Several local preschools were offering it when my kids were that age. You can also go online and look at your state's standards for a given grade. You can see what they'll be expected to know. Where I live, it's more important than ever to have a child ready for kindergarten. The classes keep getting bigger and bigger and the teachers only have so much time to teach soooo many kids. Again, this is all academic. There are a lot of other thing to consider as well.

Jessica - posted on 07/01/2010

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Of course you can! But you need to make sure he's ready for Kindergarten, so call the school and find out what the Kindergarten teachers would like him to know before he comes to school. Yes, teachers may be able to spot that he didn't go to preschool, but who cares. He won't be behind, he'll be fine. I'm a former Elementary school teacher by the way.

Christi - posted on 07/01/2010

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I chose to send my boys for a year, a couple mornings a week. I chose a school that was set up just like the kindergarten. It made for a really smooth transition. They became very used to the way a school day went. As a side note, every teacher I know (and I am friends with a bunch), say that they can immediately spot a child who has not been to preschool. They tend to need more help from the teacher as they adjust and are often behind the other kids. All kids are unique, so you should to do what makes sense for you and your child. :)

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I kept my son (now 5) home with my right up until 5k. I did make extra efforts to have very structured days, so that he got used to working within those time constraints and not being able to do what he pleased, whenever. I also made efforts to keep him very socialized--we do taekwondo, swim, and Baseball, and we also go to several story times, craft times, and parks for play. He also goes to vacation Bible school for 2 weeks this summer, and has "day camps" with our YMCA, Taekwondo school, and Church.

Academically, you can teach him all he needs to know by the time he starts kindy. You can look at his school's website to see the curriculum and what he should know. The most important thing is to make sure he can adjust to a highly structured day, and not be freaked out when you leave him for several hours.

Medic - posted on 06/22/2010

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I think the benifits of preschool for kids that are used to staying home is that they get the socialization in a school setting. They get used to being away from you and get used to the structure and the rules that they encounter in school. My son went this year to 3 year old preschool and only went 2 days a week and loved it.
I would hate to just throw my child into 5 days a week 8 hours a day and not have given him a chance to warm up to the idea.

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