Cassie - posted on 01/14/2012 ( 53 moms have responded )
We have been together for 11 years and have been married 8, we have to beautiful lil girls and now a son on the way, For the past 8 months his whole attitude toward everything has changed, he started ignoring me, we only had sex once and that's when I got pregnant with my son, and nothing since then, the only time I get a kiss is when he leaves for work, and it's just like a pop kiss, I asked what was wrong with him and he keeps giving me excuses like, "the house isn't as clean as I would want it to be" You know I have two small children my house is never gonna be spotless, but I did I spent 13 hours one day completely cleaning every room in the house all the laundry is done and my house has been spotless for going on 3 weeks, with alot of my picking up after the kids but it has stayed spotless, and nothing has changed, I almost feel like that was just a cover up for what he is really feeling, Then 8 days before christmas I finally broke down because I feel like our marriage is falling apart and I am the only one working to keep it together, I asked him if he still loves me and if he wants to be with me and he says yes, but his actions are speaking alot louder than his words. He tells me that maybe me and the kids need to go stay with my mom for awhile and see where it goes from there. I totally freaked out, I mean how selfish can you be to kick your pregnant wife out and your two 8 . days before christmas. I can't work because of my medical condition, I just lost it, I mean what am I supposed to do, So my mom came to get us and she flew into him and let him know real quick that if he wanted out that he would be the one leaving and that he wasn't leaving us homeless, She said do you love my daughter or don't you? Do you wanna be with her or not, Because if you don't I will pay for a divorce but you need to know now that There is gonna be lawyer and you will be paying for these kids. He just said yes I love her and Yes I wanna be with her, Mom asked him what was going on with him and all he could say was I don't know. He knows that I love him to my soul and that I would never leave him, I want to be with him and only him for the rest of my life. He knows this so he takes advantage of it. He treats me like I have the plague and treats me like I am a room mate not his wife. So I had finally gotten over the crying and went to my local Department of human resources to see what kind of benefits I could get for a single mom, I was told to not leave the house that he could leave, because me and my kids need a place to stay, and that in order for me to get and benefits I would have to sign paper work to go after him for childsupport, and because of my medical condition I can't work so they are gonna get him for alamony to. I went home and he asked me what I was told and he was in shock, he couldn't believe that I had actually done it, I had actually took some kind of action, he immediatly changed his attitude, he started telling me how much he loved me and wanted to be with me and how he didn't want to get a divorce, but the way he has been acting I have just been waiting for anyday to get Divorce papers in the mail. What do I do? I feel so helpless, but at the same time I don't want to lose my family, but I don't wanna stay in a relationship where I am treated like crap either.