Ever feel stressed and cracking?

Kris - posted on 12/07/2012 ( 23 moms have responded )

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Am I alone in this? I have a cosmetology degree, and I'm good at it. But I can't get a salon job because all the hourly paying salons are owned by the same corp, and they give me the run around. Another salon said I'm not fast enough, and I can't afford to rent a booth.



Don't get me wrong, I love my kids, but sometimes I wish I could move to a deserted island with electricity and internet, and just sit on the beach and relax. I'm under constant stress, so much that I have bad stomach pains, I'm always sick to my stomach, and I'm smoking twice as much as I used to. I have to listen to fighting, arguing and bickering all day. Not only between my kids, but between me and my kids, me and my husband, me and my MiL, my husband and the kids, and my husband and his family. Sometimes I feel like I'm going crazy, and there's nothing I can do about it. I've been diagnosed with a few mental illnesses, and the mood swings can get stressful, even though I take medication for them.



Does anyone else ever feel this way, or am I just actually going bonkers? And if anyone does, how often, and how do you deal with it? Communication isn't my strong suit, so when I try to talk about things, it tends to come out wrong, and problems arise.

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Samantha - posted on 12/27/2012

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i currently am feeling this way. until a few weeks ago, i was the main worker of my house. my bosses found out i was pregnant and let me know how they didnt want a pregnant woman running there store. Ok so i was a manager at a gas station but still the money was ok, the bosses, not so much. they stressed me to the point i almost had a miscarriage and had to leave my job. Now my husband who has a night job has all the stress on him until i can find something else in this small nc town. on top of that, my ex husband continues to take me for court wanting custody of my 5 year old- so he doesnt have to pay child support after telling me he doesnt really want her but if he signs over his rights my husband now will adopt her. So im just praying and breathing( alot) and taking one day at a time.

Sarah - posted on 12/20/2012

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Don't worry. You are not alone. SAHM have a tendency to feel overwhelmed and anxious. I sure know I do. Maybe getting out of the house by yourself or with some friends will help? I know I feel anxious a lot. I never before staying at home would ever feel like that and now I do. I can't even watch the news. Stay strong and try not to worry :)

Christina - posted on 12/18/2012

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I'm nuts too, don't worry you're not alone. I'm 32 weeks pregnant, I have an almost 3 year old who is needy and clingy. I'm a stay at home mom, but I get stressed out because I'm tired of putting everyone before myself. Most moms are happy to be selfless. I force myself. I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder and borderline personality disorder. Both in which my psychologist said have improved enough for me to go without medicine during this pregnancy. All I can do is when I get too stressed I use my imagination to create a game for my daughter to play with her dolls and hopefully she'll go along with it and give me atleast 20 mins of silent time. Time for mommy to be left in silence is really the only thing that will help.

Kris - posted on 12/08/2012

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I swear my kids were switched at birth with alien babies in a human disguise! They fight like they hate each other, but when it comes to holidays, they do a show for the fam, and they work together so great, like they're the bestestest friends in the world!



my daughter will be 12 next tue.....:( OMG! and my son will be 9 in feb.....I know, I'm getting old.

Katherine - posted on 12/08/2012

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Oh, I know! How old are your kids? Mine are 7 and 3. They fight a lot too. But for the most part I have to admit they are good to each other.

Kris - posted on 12/08/2012

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That right there is a job in itself. I don't get paid for it, but if I did, I'd probly be making some good money. I constantly have to settle arguments and sometimes down right nasty fights in world chat, which is the chat that EVERYONE can see. Half the time I'm in the game, I'm just sitting there reading what people are saying. And they think I'm afk lol. I wish the officer rank had the option to sign in under invisible, like yahoo messenger does. Then I could really see what goes on when none of the admin are on or at the comp lol



That's another thing that stresses me out. Having to deal with certain types of people half the day. I haven't been on in almost a week or so. I have my own stuff going on.....like just now, my kids bickering and my daughter telling my son to shut up, knowing she's not supposed to say it to him.

Katherine - posted on 12/08/2012

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Stay at home mom lol. And yes, I've been here for 4 years on Circle of Moms. I'm Admin for a lot of communities. It's fun :)

Kris - posted on 12/08/2012

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Oh, I just realized you said you're "a sahm". I thought u said "I'm sahm", like sam, only spelled differently lol.....what's a sahm?

Kris - posted on 12/08/2012

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I think I might qualify for some kind of government business loan or something. We're on the qualifying list for pell grants.....ooh, I'm actually gonna look into that! Hope it'll be worth the time though. I know it's gonna take a while, and be a pain in the tuchus!

Katherine - posted on 12/08/2012

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Let's do it. There are a ton of grants for woman right now :) Especially single moms like me :))

Kris - posted on 12/08/2012

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lol right! There's no point in having your own business if you can't make any money off it.....non-profit's don't count :p

Katherine - posted on 12/08/2012

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That would actually be something quite inventive......hmmmm



It might work! I'm pretty good with the therapy aspect of things ha ha. But my hourly rate wouldn't be $10 lol.

More like $100.

Kris - posted on 12/08/2012

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Sure! I can make 'em feel sexy, while you make them feel sane. It's meant to be, I JUST KNOW IT! lol that would be funny though, having a therapist and a salon right next to each other.



OMG I keep hitting enter when I'm done with a message. I'm so used to chatting, it's become almost instinctual LMAO

Katherine - posted on 12/08/2012

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Ha ha you're funny! I would need money too I would imagine. It just isn't in the cards for me right now. Being dyslexic would suck :( I'm not bad with numbers......maybe we could open our own crazy business!!!!



lol

Kris - posted on 12/08/2012

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lol In order for me to open my own salon, I need money.....and an accountant. If I managed the money myself, I'd be broke within a month. I'm slightly dyslexic, and badly numerically dyslexic, so I'm always getting numbers mixed up and backwards, and I can't add for crap lol. I'd end up giving myself more then what I really have, then spend what I think I have, but actually don't. It wouldn't be the first time. But it's hard for me to find someone that would work for me, let alone some I trust enough with my entire income. I've had bad experiences in the past with "friends" stealing from me, so it's hard for me to trust people.



Besides, there's no empty salons, or buildings that I could convert that would be worth converting. They're either half demolished, or so old they're ready to collapse, but won't get condemned lol

Katherine - posted on 12/08/2012

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I would need an LLC, and a Masters. I could work under someone but I just haven't done it yet. Blah.



My own fault lol.

Kris - posted on 12/08/2012

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I go to therapy, I know my problems and issues, and I know that I can be an irritating patient. There's no way I'd accept only $10 hr to see patients like me all day LOL



Have you thought about opening your own practice?

Katherine - posted on 12/08/2012

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2 years......:/ I have had a "job" but I'm looking for a career. I have a degree also, in psychology. It's embarrassing! They want me to accept $10 an hour for a lengthy job description.

Kris - posted on 12/08/2012

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How long have you been on the job hunt? It's been almost 3 yrs for me.....that's a long story.



Ok, maybe not LONG, but it's complicated :p

Katherine - posted on 12/08/2012

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All the time! I'm a SAHM, I'm actively looking for a job and I too am going a tad nuts. Trust me you aren't the only one!

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