Father coming home from IRAQ
Angela - posted on 02/05/2009
Thanks for the advice. I will do all that and try and make it a smooth transition. Appreciate your help with everything. Are you Both still in the military? If you are thank you, and if you aren't thank you for your service as well. :)
Amanda - posted on 02/05/2009
when he gets home a part of his reintegration training will be a little class/seminar/briefing on reintegration into the family, i beleive this is something that the spouse attends as well and they do have some really good info and ideas for it.... also, chances are it is going to be harder on you than on your daughter, as you are used to doing it all on your own for over a year, so just make sure you are allowing him to become re-involved (don't push him to, but if he wants to ,for example, help get her ready for bed tell him her where her PJs are and what her favorite book is and stand back and let him do it) also make sure you take time for you and him i am sure he will have a lot to tell you and a lot to confide in you (be his shoulder), also don't overwhelm him right away with any house work/tasks/chores, he just spent over a year of almost 7 days a week 24 hours a day work and may need some serious relaxing depending on what his job was....
my husband and i were both deployed to different parts of iraq for 15 months, so i know it can be a lot on your family. good luck and congrats on getting him home soon
Crystal - posted on 02/05/2009
the first time my husband left my daughter was 6mos and 20mos when he return and this last time she was 4 yrs when he left and 5yrs when he got home but she was excited too see him while he was deploy this last time I gave her a picture of him and she gave him a kiss every night so pictures help out alot cuz I use send alot of pictures of our daughter while he was overseas
Gloria - posted on 02/05/2009
Not really advice, just a hope that all goes well for you all. I am sure this is a diffficult transition for you all. Congratulations on the safe return home of your husband and a huge thank you for the sacrifices he has made being over there, and to you for your support as a wife and mom. Best wishes!
Jana - posted on 02/04/2009
First of all pass along a big old "thank you" to your husband! And for you, you have my respect for having the "job" you have. I know I would not be strong enough to have my husband away for so long. Having said that I don't really know if this is advice or not but my friends husband got back from Iraq in Nov after being away for 14 months, his 3rd tour of duty. At the time their children were 3 1/2 and 15 months. Their 3 1/2 yr old was very excited that Daddy was coming home (as soon as they had an actual date) but when he got home she was "shy" around him for a few days. She barely hugged him. Their 15 month old took to Daddy like he never left. They did "low key" family things until their 3 1/2 came around. They didn't really change their day to day things until their 3 1/2 yr old was used to Daddy being home.
Good luck with the transition and I'm so happy your husband is home safe.
Angela - posted on 02/04/2009
Thanks! Yeah, she was about 10 months old, Now she is 2 and a half. Thanks for the advice, just a little nervous about how this will all go but I am sure it will all be wonderful. This is his second tour, but first with our daughter.
Kate - posted on 02/04/2009
How old is your daughter? My son was 8 months when dad left and almost 2 when he got home. My husband and I talked about letting him sit back for a few days to watch and see what our routine was, he was always in the background so my son knew my husband was there too. Slowly we got my husband involved. I also had my son watch videos of his dad and look at pictures of them together. It has been 8 months since my husband returned and I can no longer keep my son away from him. Most of all relax and have fun getting to know each other as a couple and your daughter will be able to take it from there. Congratulations on surviving the deployment!
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