Fear of bugs! Does anyone know a way to help an almost 4 year old little girl get over her fears?
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Bridget - posted on 05/05/2011
my little ones have the same fear! they won't even go out in to the back yard. but one thing that i have found that has worked is that i went out and bought some OFF bug spray (its the one for families) and tell the kids that they can wear their special magic bug spray and it will keep the bugs away and it actually works :)
Wendy - posted on 05/05/2011
I hate to say it but sometimes it just takes growing out of it. Maybe make a list with pictures of different bugs. Tell her about each one and explain which bugs that can hurt you to be scared of and which ones not to be scared of. List the good bugs like butterflies with pretty pics of it and explain their good traits and why some bugs will hurt you and why some won't.
Katrina - posted on 05/04/2011
My eldest is 10 and while she was a tomboy when she was little, she's now more girly and cannot stand bugs - especially cockroaches and anything with a stinger (or looks like it might have one LOL). My 2yr old son has started picking up her behaviour, and, while he's a daredevil at heart, you shouldn't put bugs near him! That was until I started sitting down with him on the "nintynet" as owen calls it, and looked up some common bugs and learnt all about them then went looking for them in our backyard. I put the information in his terms after I'd read it aloud and behaved as if I'd heard the best thing ever!! While we were looking at them, I said things like "wow those ants work really hard getting food for their family. Wow what teamwork". Things they can relate to. I found he responded well to this, and, once he could relate, they were no longer unknown, and therefore no longer scary. Just another creature in this big wide world!! I'm not sure if this helps at all but I thought I'd share, since you're no worse off than where you started if you try and it doesn't work :) Good luck and I hope your daughter can get some releif. xxx
Renee - posted on 05/05/2011
I had to deal with this as well with my son. He is 11 now. When he was little a bug flew in his ear and from then on he was scared of bugs. Last year we took him to therapy for it. I didn't know if it would work but it did. It was hard on our family to do anything outside because we could not get him to go outside. The thing that seemed to work in therapy was having him imagine that he was holding the bugs and making them his pets. A few weeks later we had him playing with plastic bugs and reading books about how bugs help nature. He still has days when he gets upset but not to the point where it is interfering with our daily life any more. I hope that you find something that will work for you.
Sarh - posted on 05/04/2011
Candi, your boys are awesome! I love the one carrying the snake, that would so be me!! :)
My daughter is not afraid of anything other then what she thinks is a bee. She tries touching ants and with my fear of bugs it is sooo hard to just let her be. She like has no fear of spiders! She plays in their webs, giving me goosebumps just talking about it. There was a spider coming down from my daughter window a few months back and she goes "Mama is that a spider?" I tried so hard to stay calm and said where honey, she replied on the window. I said oh shit sure is!! I was shaking, ran for the broom, and it was out of sight when I got back in there.... I was terrified to be in her room, but she was perfectly fine. I'm very happy she is fine with bugs, because I wish sooooo bad that I didn't have this fear. I love camping and playing in the grass with the kids, but there are so many bugs there.
Candi - posted on 05/04/2011
My kids are abnormal I guess. Since they were able to move, they loved bugs. My son doesn't care for ants and bees b/c he gets blisters and boils, but he doesn't scream over them or anything. When my youngest was 3 and my middle daughter was about 8, they both came running in the house screaming "Look what we found!" My oldest was holding a praying mantis in one hand and a grasshopper in the other while my 3 yr old was carrying a snake. I told them to take them back out so they can live. I work at a living museum now and one of my jobs is to feed hissing cockroaches. To me, they are just bugs. I can go to work and deal with the bugs, possums, skunks, and spiders the same way I deal with cats and dogs. I guess it helps that my father in law owns a pest control company, so my kids have always been around "pests". I can only suggest getting online and pulling up pictures of bugs and tellig them the good things they do and maybe show pictures of people holding them. Some books can get a little creepy with the pictures they shoo. Show bee keepers too. Those would be good for them to see. Maybe visit a zoo where they have bugs on display. My youngest daughter likes to go ladybug hunting in the summer. We run across lots of interesting things in the process. Good Luck
Sarh - posted on 05/04/2011
I'm 21 and terrified of most bugs. Flies are ok, gross, but whatever. However, if a moth is anywhere in eye sight and with in like 10ft from me, I get goosebumps, might even cry, and or run! Bees I used to do the same as moths, but now I am older and know that it will only make them attack, so I just try so hard to sit still and depending on how close they are I may start crying. If I see a centipede I will just run and plow through whoever is in my way!!!! Spiders, don't like to even see them, probably wont step foot in the room or area there is a spider in.
I'm 21 and I'm still terrified of bugs! If I'm not mistaken my mom said it all started for me one night when I was like 3 or 4 and it was dark out and I had refused to put shoes on (I have never liked wearing shoes) and stepped on a slug, my mom said I screamed such bloody murder she thought I was hurt or something. haha.
I don't trust my mom, I ask her to kill the bugs when I'm by here (we live in a duplex and she lives upstairs, I live downstairs), she will kill it, but then she will tease me with it... and I always end up down the block running from her before she has actually killed the darn bug. I think she used to chase me around the house with dead moths and stuff just teasing me, but don't do that, it truly does nothing but make it worse.
My advise would be to maybe try catching a butterfly outside and hold it in your hands, don't surprise her with it, but sit down with her and explain to her that it's not hurting you, it just sort of tickles your hands a little. And ask her if she would like to see the butterfly or maybe even touch it, but don't force her.
My 5yr old thinks everything that flies is a bee and like freaks out because my fiancee just lets flies and bees land on him. So gross, I'd be crying my eyes out if there was a bee on me.
But she is not alone! lol. Good luck hun!
America3437 - posted on 05/04/2011
Sorry can't help as I am 36 and terrified of anything that has more than 4 legs and fur! I didn't used to be as a child but you couldn't pay me enough to touch a bug of any kind! I once refused to sit on couch for months cause a spider crawled out from under it!!!
Sharon - posted on 05/04/2011
My nephew was majorly bug-phobic at this age. Today he is a little squirmish about bee's and spiders, but all in all he is okay. I've had him 4 days a week since he was little - while his mom was at work, and I saw what I thought was an unnatural fear. I began to pick up ants (they scared the heck out of him -ANTS, lol) and dug for worms. Eventually his fears were quelled when he realized that most insects weren't mailcious - it took an entire summer though. Good luck!!
Colleen - posted on 05/04/2011
Thank you, that does help. I have been up since 2:30am she has a dream that a bumble bee was stinging her in the back while in her bed. SHe is afraid they will get into the house and "get her" while she sleeps. It is so sad but so at the same time very frustrating to go through this. Ugh! I will let you know if I find anything that helps.
Alex - posted on 05/04/2011
i have been dealing with this for over 6 years with my eldest and now with my younger daughter too. if you find anything that helps please let me know!! nothing has ever happened to either of my girls so their is not reason for this fear! it's soo frustraiting and hinders us in alot of daily activities! I have to say that my eldest has gotten a little bit better with age, now that she understands more of what they are all about but she will still FREAK out if a fly or lovebug fly near her. now my younger daughter is picking up on and it and screams at the top of her lungs if bugs are close. i have done everything possible to change their view of bugs but nothing has worked. i'm sorry but just know that you are not alone!!
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