Claire - posted on 04/29/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
My fiance and I go out maybe once every couple of weeks. I love to spend time with him and I know it's important for our relationship, but I just can't get over the guilt I feel when I leave our baby. It's never longer than three hours and she is with family that she knows, but she still cries for long periods of time (about an hour) when we are gone. Some people have told me this is necessary for her so she isn't so attached in the future, but I don't want her to feel abandoned either. And if she is with family she knows as is comfortable with, why does she still cry and ask for us? All three of us do things together, but it's not the same as seeing your man one on one and not having to worry about the baby. I just feel so bad. I don't want to leave her, but I don't want to sacrifice the only ALONE time I have with my fiance either.
Anyone feel this way? Any suggestions or advice?