Feeling overwhelmed

Monica - posted on 01/13/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I am a stay at home mom of a 5 yr old,4 yr old and a 4 month old.I love my kids with every fiber of my being and appreciate that I am able to stay at home with them.The problem is that lately I feel so overwhelemed.I just can't seem to enjoy my days with them like I used to.I feel so emotional all the time.There is always someone constantly needing me and I feel as though I don't have anything left to give.I feel as though I can't get 5 minutes to just have to myself.I mean I get a night out every once in awhile but it just doesn't seem like enough.I feel ashamed to complain because I decided to have children.Anyone else have this problem? What do you do?

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Shannon - posted on 01/13/2010

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I feel the say way as you! I have a 3 1/2 yr old and a almost 2 yr old. I just get sad and miss whenever they were little and things seemed easier then. I just had a "fake pregnancy" meaning no baby grew and my doctor put me on paxil because I have really bad anxiety so im going to see if that helps with how im feeling. I feel like I cant even enjoy them because im getting frustrated with not having ANY alone time my kids wake up the second i do and when they go to bed im usually too exhausted to stay up and watch a movie or a show. It feels like the same thing over and over and over again! I feel like I miss the old times and days arent fun anymore and I just feel like giving up also. Hopefully the medicine will help and im also going to see a therapist.

I hope you feel better talk to your doctor maybe they can help! You need to be happy so your kids can be too! And you need to be happy for yourself but think of your kids too!

Jill - posted on 09/20/2011

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Wow, can I relate! I'm a SAHM to a 2 1/2 yr and 1 yr...I also do in-home daycare. My days are spent cleaning, cooking, washing clothes, folding clothes, changing diapers...everyday the same thing. Don't get me wrong I love my life, children, spouse more than anything; but lately have just been in such a slump. I get so annoyed with the littlest things, things i'm usually able to brush aside. I never feel I have a moment to myself - which I usually don't.

Mari - posted on 04/26/2011

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I am feeling like this now I feel like I want to give up what a horrible feeling I have always been the strongest person ever. We get to go out once in a while but if its not that one is sick from school then brings it home to the 7 month old and its virus after virus after virus.....its horrible non stop and I dont have a job right now I dont have a car to go out I am trapped all day long its horrible....I need help...

Shannon - posted on 01/14/2010

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Oh something else that has helped me is yoga! You can do it from home look up videos online or if you have comcast they have it on demand! Try it out it really really helps!

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LAUGHING REALLY HARD....you are sooooooo not alone in this world! Talk to your Doctor, find some supportive friend to talk to and let it be known that you are going to need someone to listen to you b*&ch for awhile! Even if you are not dealing with depression of some sort, it is stressful having children at times and it's okay to feel these feelings! You are not bad to feel this way and that it is normal is what you have to keep at the front of your mind.



Sit on the flippin couch, watch a program that your 4 & 5 year old like and cuddle your baby while doing this. Feeling over stimulated makes you feel crazed and you have to find a way to recharge, what do you do for your oldest child when he/she gets overdone? Use that same thing for you and let everything else become less important for awhile is a suggestion that works for me. I have 4 kids from 8 to 14 and OMG it gets hairy in my home.......I go into my room and read a trashy Star mag for 5 to 10 minutes and then I come back out ready to tackly the noise and questions all over again lol!! Find a routine that has each child singularly absorbed for a few minutes, nap time for baby and a video or activity for the 4 & 5 year old maybe and then recharge yourself by talking on the phone with a friend or just even going to the bathroom....lmao!



Good Luck seriously and talk to your doctor too!!

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Shannintipton - posted on 09/20/2011

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Hi Jill thanks for your response but this thread is a little old so I am going to close it. okay??? :)

Christy - posted on 01/14/2010

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All of the mothers make very good suggestions. I would recommand trying them all. A few months ago, right around Thanksgiving, I had a miscarrage, and went through those same feelings that you are having. Logically, I new that it was probably my hormones leveling out and more than likely a small case of depression regarding my miscarriage. On the worst days, I put aside the laundry, the dishes and any other chorses, and I spent the whole day just playing with my kids. The laundry and the dishes will always be there, but your children will not stay little for long. And don't be afraid to talk to your husband and ask him for a little more support while your struggling to center yourself.

Jennifer - posted on 01/14/2010

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I am kind of in the same boat. I have 3 kids also. The oldest just turned 6 about 2 weeks ago. I have a 4-year-old and a 1 1/2-year-old. When I start feeling like that, I call my mom and ask her to take the kids overnight for just one night, or I tell my husband that I need a date night and just the two of us go out. By the time I get the kids back, I have missed them so much and everthing is good for a while again.

Christel - posted on 01/13/2010

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I would talk to your OB. You could have post pardom or Baby Blues. I had it. Even if you don't ANYONE would get overwhelmed in your situation. Stay strong!

Carolee - posted on 01/13/2010

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Have you been tested for the baby blues? They can hit any time, even when the youngest is around a year old. It sounds like you might have a small case of that. If nothing else, see if you can have an extra day or two to yourself.

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