Free Time? What on earth do you do with it?

Nicky - posted on 04/18/2011 ( 40 moms have responded )

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Ok, so technically there is never any free time being a SHM.
There is always laundry to fold and put away, meals to prepare etc etc During my daughter's nap time I used to run around like a mad woman trying to get the finicky chores done like mopping or scrubbing the bathrooms etc but of late, I have been saying "to hell with it (pardon my french), I am not going to clean, I am going to enjoy this rest and solitude." But besides surfing the net I am not sure what to do. It's been so long since I have had free time that I just spin on my heels. So I was wondering what are some of the things that you like to do when you do get a rare moment of silence to yourself?

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Mandi - posted on 04/18/2011

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Exercise bike, read, listen to music while surfing the web, return a phone call or two, bake...cleaning can wait until he's awake! He likes to help mommy with laundry and putting away dishes anyway :) you NEED this time to just chill!

Stifler's - posted on 04/18/2011

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Read, scrapbook, facebook, have a cuppa and talk on the phone uninterrupted.

Michelle - posted on 04/25/2011

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Read, catch up on the news on the internet, research stuff on the internet (don't have time or the stores to go to for best prices), garden, veg out with the tv or netflix, try to organize all the digital photos in digital scrapbooks, talk on phone with friends, have 'playdates' with moms over, etc.

It varies for me. I go through phases. Whatever is easiest, doesn't take much time, sometimes brainless, and whatever I'm in the mood for.

Cleaning is over rated. I'm to busy throughout the day with my kids. I try and have the house picked up by the time my husband comes home and sometimes dinner ready. Enjoy your kids now and yourself now. Housework will always be there. Your sanity might not be.

Stacey - posted on 04/25/2011

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Go for a walk read a magazine and try and not think of all things you "should" do :)

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 04/18/2011

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Paint my nails (been wanting to do it for weeks!), sort through my clothes and figure out a new wardrobe or how to revamp things. Sew. Bake. Plan my life smarter by looking online for how to make it easier. Ex: purging, downsizing, looking for simpler, easier to cook meals that still have all the nutrients and a wide variety of veggies (making my own cookbookscrapbook for it), scrapbooking, making jewelry, gardening...... it is really endless. Lately I read a book and have been addicted to Suduko as its easy fun and I can put it down if my son wakes up. I also watch stand up comedies during this time and a few girly romance movies so hubby doesnt have to. I like the odd, independent, off the wall ones like Into The Wild, EatPrayLove or Pride and Prejudice.

But for a long time I didn't know what to do with the freetime I was gifting myself. When my son would sleep longer than an hour I'd stare at a wall and think....... what happened to ME? I have free time and don't want to do aaaaaanything hahaha I think that was the funniest realization, the one you just had!!!! :D I'm there with you honey!

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Eillim - posted on 04/26/2011

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FREE TIME!!!! WHAT IS THAT????
On a more serious note, when I MAKE time for me, I usually spend it catching up on my reading. I subscribe to about 6-7 magazines, all mom related or household or crafts and I checked last week and i still had a Better Homes & Gardens from December in a box that i haven't even opened...LOL! again: Free Time, not sure what that is! :)

Sriwanti - posted on 04/26/2011

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Make a pot of hot tea and sip it while watching DVDs or sleep when i'm tired... :D

Lori - posted on 04/25/2011

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I like to eat my lunch in silence. I don't have to respond to anyone, or have an opinion, it is utterly fabulous!!

Christina - posted on 04/24/2011

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AAAAWWWWW! "Free time" LOL! I started sewing and making bows for my little girl. It is very relaxing and creative(which I'm not really!) I did a lot of research on youtube and the internet and got a ton of ideas! I tried scrap booking, but it wasn't my thing.... Like I said, not TOO creative. Sometimes, I just sit on the recliner and listen to music and soak up the QUITE! Good luck, enjoy your precious time. :)

Chrissie - posted on 04/24/2011

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I like to take a long hot shower, shave, turn on a little music and paint my nails.. Makes you feel like a whole new person.

Robyn - posted on 04/24/2011

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PARENTS RARELY HAVE TYME TO THEMSELVES... BUT WEN U GET A MOMENT OF FREE TYME ITS LIKE UR ALWAYS STILL GOING I LOVED WEN MY KIDS WER SMALL I WAS A LIL WEIRD ID WATCH EM SLEEP LOL THAT WAS MY FREE TYME U CAN ONLY CLEAN SO MUCH...SO TAKE A BUBBLE BATH OR READ OR MAYBE JUS REFLECT ON UR DAY OR WAT UR GONNA DO TOMORO BUT MY BIGGEST ADVICE I CAN GVE IS DONT BLINK CUZ B4 YOU KNOW IT THER GROWN AND OUTTA THA HOUSE AND ITS CALLED EMPTY NEST FEELING ITS SO HORRIBLE BUT SO WORTH IT IN THA END....

Sarah - posted on 04/23/2011

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Haha, good question and some good suggestions. I know exactly how you feel and every time I do find myself with a spare moment in which I don't know what to do with myself, I keep thinking, "I really MUST find something to do other than sit on the computer and waste time on facebook". Whenever my 15 mo is napping I usually try and get some sleep myself, being 28 weeks pregnant. And I guess once #2 arrives I probably won't have the problem of wondering what to do with myself! But there are certainly some great suggestions here to keep in mind for later =)

Lexi - posted on 04/23/2011

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Read a book, sit out in the yard, start a craft project, watch tv, call old friends, take a nap =)

Sharhonda - posted on 04/22/2011

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Hi, how are you? I'm a SAHM with and almost 4 month old and a 3 yr old. I know it's very hard to get all of the house work done and have time for yourself and I do the same as you, I say to myself, today is my off day. I refused to do anything dealing with chores! So I would take the kids to the park, maybe go out in town and do a lil shopping and meet other people. In doing this, I work from home and get paid to shop and refer people to my business! It's an amazing opportunity because I get to spend time with my family, meet and help people, and get paid for what I love doing! If you're interested and work info., email me on here or @ sharhonda.richardson@gmail.com with your number so we can talk! also go to www.zamzuufreeagent.com/1016646 and sign up for a free site to shop online at your favorite stores and get cash back plus commission! Hope this helps! :)

Deena - posted on 04/21/2011

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I love to scrapbook! It is a hobby i have been doing for a couple of years now. I also enjoy reading. And sometimes I will admit I stay up late so when my son takes a nap, I do too.

Lia - posted on 04/21/2011

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Never! there is never a moment of silence, but I create me time! I am a type A so I have to keep doing something! I like finding sites to earn cash so when I have a few minutes that is what I do!

Amanda - posted on 04/21/2011

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With my free time (only when my MIL takes my daughter for a night sometimes) I like to just lay in bed and relax and have me time watching lifetime movies :-)

Jennifer - posted on 04/21/2011

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I personally like to read. If daddy's home I'll go have a cup of coffee with a friend. Although, during half of my son't nap time I do still do some chores :)

Susan - posted on 04/20/2011

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When my LO is napping time seems to just fly by, I tend to just have the time to go online, do research, Facebook, email, chat on the phone or have a tea or a rest, nothing really productive happens which is dissapointing. I am an artist and have been wanting to get back into my painting, 12months on after the birth of our LO and I just seem to get busier with him all the time, I wonder will I ever get the time to sit down and paint...maybe when he starts school.

Kimberly - posted on 04/20/2011

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I used to do the same thing, but not anymore. I enjoy & relax to every second of naptime. I usually goof around on Facebook while watching my Tivo'd shows.

Jane - posted on 04/20/2011

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I read or read while taking a bath. With kids there is never time to just sit and read.

Teresa - posted on 04/20/2011

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I enjoy making new friends on FB & Twitter and see if anyone is interested in my Home Based Business I do part-time because I help care for my elderly Mother otherwise I'd do my business Full-time. It's really awesome because the business I'm in; helps people remain healthy, become healthy, & earn extra income....it's such the PERFECT business! ; )

Krystal - posted on 04/20/2011

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nice hot bubble bath and or a good book a movie that you cant watch around your little one talk to a girlfriend and catch up on the local gossip there is so much you can do

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I often play videogames, sew, write, watch netflix, read, eat. Right now I'm waiting for some dough to rise to make cinnamon rolls for Easter. I've also done video editing and recording.

Sal - posted on 04/19/2011

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watch a crappy show, have a glass of wine (if hubby home) a nice coffee paint fingers and toes, have a facial. or read a book or a mag.....

Charlie - posted on 04/19/2011

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Im telling you a garden is the ultimate zen ..for me anyway you dont really need much space even a balcony will do !

Nicky - posted on 04/19/2011

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Chairettie and Chrissy, I am exactly where you gals are. My mind is always racing and yesterday when I tried to do some deep breathing, I realized my shoulders were hunched up which sadly has become my normal state of being. So tense. I am known to do laundry at 3am etc because I awoke and the mental race began. Ladies, we need to achieve what these other wonderful moms have achieved and learn to block out the never-ending to-do-list. Accept a level of mess and chaos and relax during our power hour(s). From these suggestions, I will be doing some reading, movie watching and talking on the phone. Maybe some napping myself too. I am tirrrrred.

Chrissy - posted on 04/18/2011

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im sick of running around like a mad woman myself when my son is alseep, im not the only one:) im sick of being so exhausted.....

Charlie - posted on 04/18/2011

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Read a book , go an potter around my veggie garden , go on the net , ask a friend around for a coffee .

When their Daddy is home from work I go for a walk , go for coffee with friends , go to sleep LOL , go to the beach ...alone !

Chairettie - posted on 04/18/2011

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LOL... that is a very good question Nicky! I did the exact same thing you did - I have twins so any nap time I ran around like the mad woman doign anything and everything trying to maintain it all and it too 8 months of that for me to say I am EXHAUSTED... but now that I allow myself to sit and try to relax I think of all the things that aren't getting done. When I wake up too early my mind starts to wonder about what I have to do that day and that is the end of my sleep no matter how dark it is outside :o( I use to read but my mind just can't relax enough to do that these days....

Shannon - posted on 04/18/2011

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When i have "free time" i read a book, sew or write. Lately since my kids are older and we no longer really do a nap time after the daily chores are done we play on the wii :-) I recently just made all new curtains for the upstairs part of my house, granted it toook a while to complete them all because i did so in my "free time" but it was well worth it and it gave my upstairs a new look :-)

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