Full time stay at home moms, please help!

Kim - posted on 07/07/2012 ( 36 moms have responded )

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I've been at home with my son now who is 9 months since he was born, and I am also expecting baby #2. Currently a vehicle is not available and we are lucky to get out of the apartment 1-3 times a week on a good week! It's extremely too hot to take my son walking through the neighborhood behind us and we live in a small 1 bedroom apartment. I feel as if not only myself, but my son is getting extremely bored and tired of doing the exact same things every single day. I read and play and let him watch TV, but what else can I do to make life more exciting and fun for him, PLEASE HELP! Thank you soo much!!!!

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Sarah - posted on 07/09/2012

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Once baby # 2 is a little older you won't have this problem. :) This may sound wierd but I would stick to a schedule. Children that age are not bored with repetitive schedules. She will begin to expect and look forward to the next thing and it will leave you feeling accomplished. Just work in short activities for her age, believe it or not there are some. Thin simple, like sorting or counting colored cereal ect. The best thing you can do with her is give your time and attention. A day spent with mommy is time well spent. :)

Danyell - posted on 07/16/2012

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Take him for a walk during early morning or in the afternoon when it is cooler. Then when it is to hot out you can entertain him in the shade with a cooler or tub of water or in the house with a tent. When my kids were younger we use to sit outside with a plastic tote or coolers with water in it. They used them as their personal pools. Then when we were in house we would put a sheet over the table and use it for a tent.

Jo - posted on 07/10/2012

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When ur out try to stop by the dollar store and pick up some
reading books, coloring books and crayons, cars/ trucks, small bouncy balls, etc. and anything else u think he might be interested in. Buy a cheap plastic tub with a lid, doesn't have 2 be big and label it ur "boredom busting box". When u have a few extra dollars and u find something really cheap buy it and add it to your boredom toy box. U might find some cheap learning software for ur computer and let him try that if u have a computer and internet access. When he gets bored, bring out the boredom toy box and see if that helps.

Monica - posted on 07/07/2012

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Oh, I feel your pain. I am a stay at home mom as well with baby #2 on the way. We do have a car, however no ac, so we do not get out either do to the heat. Have you thought about walking in the morning? I know if we can make it to McD's, there is normally a large group of kids there to interact with as well as other stay at home moms to talk with.

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Candi - posted on 08/27/2012

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Join a reading group at the library. It is usually free, and libraries are usually on bus-lines.... I am in a similar predicament. I am a stay at home Mommy to my four month old baby boy. I have literally no female friends who live near me and I see on a regular basis. We only have one vehicle and Dad uses it for work, so it is just me and baby day in and day out. I sing, I dance, I read, he 'loves' the Backyardigans.... If you get some suggestions that work, pass them on!



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Brittney - posted on 08/21/2012

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I feel the same way, but if you look around your community usually there are things like a moms club. If you cant find one there are probably more moms in your appartment area that feel the same way. Maybe you can make a flyer and put it in the main building of the complex. if they wont allow it (put some on ppls doors)....the worst thing they can say is stop doing that. It would help your child be able to interact with other children and you to get out of the house and interact with other moms. something that i was lacking for a while lol it helps though

HappyMommy - posted on 08/14/2012

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Hi there! I know what it feels like to do that.... Do u have a garage or parking lot? I bought a small size pool and I put my 5 1/2 month old in there and they love it .... Or do bath time twice a day one they will love the water and two they will want more sleep and u can have your time....do I make sense?

Wendy - posted on 08/14/2012

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I know how you feel. I my self am a first time stay at home mom to a beautiful 7 month old baby girl. And like you I am always looking for new things to do I know that my local library has reading time I also go to my local park they some times have sprinklers on for the kids this way I can also socialize with other moms. You can also try to set up some play dates with other children his age. I know that its hard not having a car perhapps you can set up an account with a local taxi company. The mall is a great place for those hot days thats where I get my walking done lol. The mall has so much visual stimulation that will keep your littel one bussy Just leave the credit cards at home lol....They also have some of those small rides for like 50 cents and some malls even have carousels. You can also look on line there may be a nighborhood blogs type in your state and town and see if you can get together with some local moms but try to meet in a public place first then build a relationsip and set up some play dates. I wish you all the best Enjoy the rest of your summer :)

Jennifer - posted on 08/10/2012

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Oh wow I can totally relate. We only have 1 car as well and my husband takes it to work. Its been 103-107 degrees this week and we won't want to walk anywhere and when we do have the car, it does not have a/c either! My 6 yr old started school so now it's even more quiet and boring around here, that my 20 month old just went and took a nap on her own free will cause she's so bored!

Barb - posted on 08/10/2012

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Ok Mcds is good find one with an indoor play place let him play.Go to hobby Lobby get playdoh,crayons,paint,beads to put on string teach how to write name never to early.hide plastic easter eggs in the house with candys or other treats.Make a tower of dvds,pull cushions off couch and make tents in living room.I am a stay at home mom with 4 kids and disabled vet at home always coming up with things to do.

Dee - posted on 08/06/2012

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Oh honey I feel your pain. My daughter was 6 months old when I found out I was 2 months along with baby #2. I kept her busy with an online baby educational site BabyTv.com. Not sure if its still up but it began having problems so I quit the membership. But that was in 2009. She liked to push the keys on the computer. At that age I saw it was the simple things that we wouldn't think would be fun that they find the most fun. If you play with his toys alot try playing with something safe from the kitchen like a plastic mixing bowl and a mixing spoon. Or in the kitchen where there hardwood flooring for easy clean up, fill a plastic bowl with water and hand him a spoon, measuring cup and let him play with that. small or medium plastic bowl fill it with dry rice. Give him a spoon, shovel, spatula or just his hands. My daughter loved it. It has the same feeling as sand to us and its big to them at that age.

Jamie - posted on 08/04/2012

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It sounds like you need to find some mom groups in your area that can relate. Have you thought of extending bath times (most kids love to play in the water with mom) you're little one is so close being at a good crafting age where she will discover paper and glue ;h

Suzy Ann - posted on 07/31/2012

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I feel stuck in a rut. I love my children unconditionally but i would do anything to go to work. I only had 3 months left in college to become a special needs teacher an i found out i was pregnant with my first nearly 6 years ago. 7 months later pregnant with number 2 devasting. Love him 2 bits now tho an finally number 3 15 months old little monster. Just so bored being stuck want 2 get job but cant afford childcare. Any suggestions there no light at the end of my tunnel please help me thank you x

Jenny - posted on 07/30/2012

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We don't get out much either at the moment but that's due the the rain not the heat. lol. We just tend to do crafty (painting, colouring, drawing etc) or cooking indoors and my new 3 year old loves it! Lucky the weather has been ok at the moment as we go to a toddler every tuesday! :)

Elizabeth - posted on 07/26/2012

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Don't be embarrassed-kids will be kids!if people want to stare-let them,she's just expressing herself & being a child.

Tricia - posted on 07/20/2012

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do you have a Y near by? I take my kids there. Most every Y has a wiggles and giggles time, where they put out lots of fun toy for the kids in a large gym and you just let them go.. Sometimes the person watching the wiggles session will play follow the leader, duck duck goose, ring around the rosy and they put in the chicken dance song.. this group is 4 hrs long you don't have to be there right when it starts or stay the whole time. in my group the parents take turns bringing treats and drinks.. The cost here is 4$ so very cheep! At home my little guy loves it when I put on one of his silly Cd's and record him and let him watch it on TV I have a box of dress up clothes for him to put on. at the end of the Halloween season I pick up a few costumes. but when he was younger I just went to the thrift store and bought him easy fun looking clothes for him to put on tons of hats and goofy shoes.. at that age they love putting on and taking off hats and shoes. We would save boxes of all sizes and shapes, from jello boxes to a large box that a TV would come in I would wrap them in brown paper bags. ( they don't need to be pretty) and I would cut out shapes, people animals and stuff out of magazines or coloring books. or books from the thrift store. after I have a bunch cut out I stored them in a large zip lock bag or a shoe box. Then I would give my little guy a glue stick and let him glue the shapes and pics on the boxes and I would tell him what it was and he would copy me. it's a good way to introduce the ABC's and 123's. they are little sponges at this age, take advantage of it! after the boxes are all glued they can stack and build with them. I also made up games. I made huge bones out of brown paper bags and sewed dog ears on a hat. To play the game I would lay the bones out in a path and hide one of his toys at the end of the path. of course you would show them what toy you are hiding so they know what to look for. Have them crawl around the path while music is playing and have them stop when it stops. kinda like musical chairs. The possibilities are endless.
sorry this is so long.

Autismomma - posted on 07/20/2012

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In addition to the suggestion of searching on Pinterest, try this website: http://playathomemom3.blogspot.com/

Play at Home Mom has great play ideas for children of all ages.

As far as it being too hot to walk outside, I have to respectfully disagree. As long as you and your child both are very well hydrated, there is little risk of heat injury. Now, if you mean that it's too hot because you are in that miserable stage of pregnancy, I TOTALLY get that. Having been very pregnant with three children all during summer months, I understand how horrible heat can make a pregnant mama feel. :)

Lindsey - posted on 07/18/2012

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Buy a fish. As young as 6 months my kids have always loved having fish, even as they get older. Even if all you can afford is a 10 gallon tank and a bunch of "feeder" fish or a few gold fish, the kids love watching them with their hands and faces pressed against the glass. Their favorite part is helping feed them then watching the action :)

Wendy - posted on 07/15/2012

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i would check the libraries around they might have a story group that is usually free and instead of mcds i would try chick filet food is ok but in my town the play area is inside and it does not get hot

Jamie - posted on 07/13/2012

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Im also a stay at home motherof a daughter shes almost 3 n has epilepsy n autism!! We also dont have an extra car til my hubby gets another!! It does get very boring n sometimes stressful even with one child!!

Rebecca - posted on 07/13/2012

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this is my first time posting so hope this is okay but there are lots of ideas for activities on Pinterest that you can make fun days with, especially if you can not get out.

Genevieve - posted on 07/12/2012

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I have been a stay at home mom full time for 6yrs with my daughter. I do not have a licence and I live outside of the city. So I feel the pain of not being able to get out. I am lucky to have friends that come over for play dates and have great neighbours who always ask if I want to tag along if they are going into town. 9Months is a hard age. Just getting into stuff yet not quite able to do the things they want to. I think bath time was always fun at that age. And if we had nothing going on a bath was a fun way to kill an hour. And then of course there is the hour of the kid running around naked and then you getting them dressed and nails cut and hair brushed... I went for walks and played in the yard. Made playdough and let her empty the tupperware cupboard over and over. Also she liked to brush her own teeth. If you have a computer there are some great baby games on the FisherPrice website where the baby can touch any key on the keyboard and it works. You might want to see if that is fun. Good luck!

Kim - posted on 07/09/2012

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You say your son is 9 months old right? No he is not getting bored. He is not really old enough to get bored. Wait till he is 3 then he will be bored. lol However, if it bothers you then I can give you some suggestions that might help; do you have a sandbox? If you have a playground with a sandbox, kids can play in those for hours. If not you could buy one pretty cheap at a consignment shop etc and place an umbrella next to it cause of the sun and put little toys in there. Play dough is a great thing too (as long as he doesn't eat it). My kids still play with that stuff. You can buy plastic cookie cutters to make shapes etc. Blocks-they love to stack them. Bubbles are great too-as long as you do the blowing cause he might spill it. Balls- just teach him how to catch and kick and throw (like a big plastic ball or even a hand held one-just not a golf ball size one or smaller cause he might swollow it). My kids love balloons but they are a chocking hazard especially for this age group but are loads of fun. Those are just a few things. It sounds like you are doing a pretty good job already. This is mainly the time when they just like to be held, so I would just love on him and give him your time before baby number 2 comes along. Good luck! Oh and you could even let him bang on some pots and pans-that should be entertaining.lol

Kristie - posted on 07/09/2012

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My kids would love it if I would fill op the.tub and let them stay in it all day. Well more so the girls especially the youngest. Susie is such a waterbaby. Hard to get her out of shower or tun

Jamie - posted on 07/09/2012

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Hi, I have a 3yrold and a 10mo old. A baby around that age is starting to get interested in stuff. Start making games, see if you can get him to look for things around the house, etc. I found that researching on the internet for stuff to do and make is what really helps me when I start getting in a rut and bored out of my mind. If your within walking distance of a library, then you should go, or maybe a church with a playgroup. I'm not in walking distance of anything but the woods and farming fields so maybe your the same.....
Anyways, if your stuck in the house, use your internet access to come up with new things to do for him and for you. Hope this helped.

Kristie - posted on 07/09/2012

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we have 2 trucks, and I dont have license so we dont do much of anything.. when its nice out the kids go out in the yard off and on during the day. they play with each other(unless the are fighting), they take the dogs out and if the find something to color with they do that. there are a couple of other kids that live on our street(we have only 8 houses on our street) and those kids we dont see out that much. well theres 9 houses but one is illegal since it's not what the street is zoned for. 2 empty houses(the illegal and another). I get out go somewhere once a week(that's to the grocery store) that's a weekly thing. Sometimes we go to walmart or other places, so maybe twice a week. with the 3 kids they seem to keep themselves occupied pretty good. on occasion they are bored, which I am 75% of the time. if I have the ingredients we make cookies or muffins or whatnot

Ginette - posted on 07/09/2012

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I have 4 girls ages 9 , 6 , 4 , 2 .. Some days we do crafts or baking, if it is nice out we got out side and they have water fights.. play in there pool usually in the morning before it gets to hot we got for a walk... In our small town there is a play group for the kids on wed which is nice for the kids to play with other kids and the moms to have adult time...

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When my daughter was around 9 months I would set her out on the back patio in her baby tub (a plastic storage box works too) with a bathing suit, rash guard, and hat. She would play in the cool water. Our patio was in the shade which made it nice. You can also do it in the kitchen.

Lindsay - posted on 07/08/2012

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thats exactly how i feel. small 1 bedroom apartment and its been to hot to go out. even with a car that also has no ac, i dont know anything i can do with my daughter, shes 16 months. i also can hardly ever go to the store with her or anything because she does really loud shrieking screams and its very embarassing and i dont know how to make her stop so being inside is my only option it seems.

Cleaver - posted on 07/08/2012

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im the same way, at 9 months old... that was when i started crafts. my sons favorite was foam stickers then not its painting but hes 22 months old. and i like the mcd's idea id do that if there was one closer to me.

Amanda - posted on 07/07/2012

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hello my name is amanda i just joined this im not even sure if im doing this right lol first time sending a message i am a mother of a 8 yr old and 3 month old and i stay at home a s well and completely understand how you feel

Sarah - posted on 07/07/2012

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Is there a nearby parent and toddler group or something like that you could go to?

Kim - posted on 07/07/2012

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Ah so glad to hear someone can relate! I mean we have a car but it's being worked on and I never really get to take it out much when it's here. What do you do all day inside, how old is baby #1?

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