Having a baby at the age 35...

Bella - posted on 07/09/2012 ( 93 moms have responded )

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Is 35 too old to have another baby even if i have 2 grls....?

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Lisa - posted on 07/09/2012

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Our first son finally came along when I was 33, our second when I was 35. I'm in complete agreement with The Michelle's. :-) The only thing I'll add is: sleep now, while you can!

Michelle - posted on 07/09/2012

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I had my 3rd at 35. I'm with Michelle, I don't have the energy that I had with my boys in my 20's but I have found I'm not as short tempered and am not wishing her to grow up too fast.

Michelle - posted on 07/09/2012

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I had an oops at age 34 so no not too old, but definitely don't have the same energy I had when I was 25 with my son.

Tristan - posted on 08/26/2012

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I was 37 when I had my last child (she's #5). It was harder on my body than when I was younger, that's for sure. I began having children when I was young (23) and finished when I was older (37). When I was younger I had more energy and fun in me. As an older mother I have more patience and love in me.

Danielle - posted on 07/22/2012

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I'm 39 and we're having another one. It's up to you to decide when to have a bay, it's not up to anyone else to judge you for it.

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Rita - posted on 08/26/2012

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Not to worry Bella. I had my son at age of 34. It all depends on yourself. If you eat properly, exercise (which I'm sure you get much of with the 2 girls) sleep properly, you will be fine. You more you think positive and not worry because of your age you will be so happy and enjoy the fact the your two girls' will be there for you. They will be asking questions, you can ask them to help. This isnt' always going to work because there may be some jealousy, lol. For the most part you will be able to handle the world. You have been through this twice and the third, yes you will tire a little more quickly however thats' when you tell the girls' "this is mommy time" I have to rest just like both of you get tired at times, "then its' your time". Explain to them early on that at times' there will be things that you can/cant' do, this way you are preparing them as well for the birth of the new little bundle of joy. Let them know that "yes" they can certainly help you with many things when the baby comes' but not everything because they are still young. Make them a part of you pregnancy, explain to them about when they were in your tummy. They love stories like this, and feeling the baby move. It makes them feel like they are really helping. You just have to remember that your still young and not to worry. This is an age when things dont' bother you as much as they did like in your twenties. We tend to wind down at this age and thats' a good thing. You dont' get all panicky, you enjoy your life so much more now. Your not to old you are mature remember that. Remember the more relaxed you are the more relaxed the girls' will be. You will be a wonderful "New" Mom again, a little more to do but you wont' be rushing around thinking "I have to get this done" believe me, I'm sure you will hear others' tell you the same. "Relax"

Ammiee - posted on 08/25/2012

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I had one at 36, one at 38 and one at 40. :) 35 is not not old to have a baby.

Diane - posted on 08/25/2012

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Bella, i had my 6th child(and sixth boy at 40, so no 35 is not too old, but take extra care of yourself and don.t do too much.

Sharyn - posted on 08/24/2012

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I started late in life .. got married at 35, had my daughter at 36 and now at 40 pregnant with 2nd child ..... i dont feel im too old .... i feel i am able to give them the wisdom and knowledge that my older age has given me LOL ..... and i've done all i wanted to do in my younger years ...



i dont think your ever too old to have kids - even if the Dr's dont agree!!!

Mary Kathryn - posted on 08/15/2012

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I had my first at 35, and my second at 38. They are now 11 and 14, and I'm lovin' the teen years so far. This is a decision you make together, so as long as you can have kids naturally, go for it! You're never too old until your eggs are!

Camille - posted on 08/15/2012

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I just turned 36 and I'm having my first in November. Everyone was there own reasons of why they have them late in life. I was more career oriented. Now I'm preparing myself to be a stay at home mom. Nope...35 is not to old.

Julie - posted on 08/15/2012

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I had both my boys after age 35. Healthy, normal pregnancies and babies :) Only thing is more testing required since considered "high risk" Talk to your OBGYN first.

Mia - posted on 08/14/2012

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One of my best friends was in an abusive marriage for 8 years and thankfully did not have kids with this man, but she just got remarried at 38 to an amazing man (several years younger) and she just had her first at 40 and they have just started trying for a second. She had a very healthy, energy-filled pregnancy and beautiful home birth. I am about to have our 3rd home birth at 32 with a 4 and 2 year old and we plan on at least one or 2 more!!! GO FOR IT! 35 is the new 25!!!

Tami - posted on 08/12/2012

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i had an opps @ 32 and my sister has an opps at 40!! you will probally find you have more patience this time around and more educated

Carrie - posted on 08/11/2012

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Hi Bella...35 is not too old to have another baby. I had my last baby at age 40. He was healthy and happy. Go for it! I have a 22yr old daughter,17yr old son,and another daughter who is 15.....my youngest is 5. The older kids are a great help with it. Live-in baby sitters! lol. If you are still able and have no health problems,then I say GO FOR IT GIRL!!!!!!!

Julie - posted on 08/10/2012

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I had both my baby's @ 35 and 38. Every thing went great. As long as you are in good healthy and happiness. As long as you are able to provide and take good care of all your children. As long as your husband is in on it 100%, i say go for it :)

Carina - posted on 08/08/2012

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Um nope my mother had my lil brother at age 46 while I was pregnant. Just as long as you gyno tells you its ok that you and your child will be safe

TAMMIE - posted on 08/08/2012

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Not at all. I had my son at age 40 and i already had 3 daughters. Ages 25, 23, and 11. I dont regret a thing.

Charity - posted on 08/07/2012

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Are you mostly in good health ? I come from a huge family where it seems many of my aunts and sisters never stopped having kids,LOL. My aunt had her last one a few days before her 48th birthday and at home without complications and my mom had my little sis at 40 at home without complications and my sister had her last at 38/39 ended up with a c-section after 40 hours of labor he was sunny side up. All moms and babies were fine. I think you should talk with your Dr. but at 35 you can still have a very healthy pregnancy.

Jamie - posted on 08/06/2012

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35 is PERFECT! I'm 32 with a 3 year old and almost 1 year old and we're planning for two more. You go girl!

Beth - posted on 08/03/2012

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If your body seems up for it, and you think you could be up for it, I don't see why you shouldn't try for another baby. 35 is considered "advanced maternal age" but is certainly not "too old" to have a baby. Talk with your doctor about it.

Annabelle - posted on 08/03/2012

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No I think it depends on you and your health. I had all my kids by 21 and now at 30 when everyone else my age is just now having babies I have teenagers and grade schoolers. I would love to have a baby now but that's not in the cards - I say go for it!!

Annie Matilda - posted on 08/02/2012

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I don't think it's too old at all..
We've tried having kids since we got married, I was 20 years old at the time, but after a lot of miscarriages and losing our son at age 3 weeks, we didn't succeed to have a normal pregnancy till now.
I turned 29 a month after having my daughter, who is now 5 months old. We will be trying again as soon as she's 9 months but we know we might have a long way to go. We want to give our daughter a sibling, but it wouldn't make sense for us to have one at age 38, my daughter would be 9-10 years old and wouldn't have that bond anyway but our age is not what is holding us back,

If you wish for a 3rd little miracle and think you all can handle that, then more power to you!

Alisha - posted on 08/01/2012

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I am 34yrs. old and I have 3 children. We are working on baby number 4 as we speak.. and I would like to end up with 5 total. So no I do not think it's to old. However people have strong opinions about things, and they look at me like i'm crazy. You know what you can handle, and you know if your healthy enough to mother at this age. 34 isn't even old... ;) so i'm on your side on this one... good luck!

Teresa - posted on 07/30/2012

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I had my 3rd child at 37. Which was my 3rd cesarean. No problems. My oldest was 8 at the time. Things were definitely different. Some harder, some easier. My other 2 children have been a big help. I realize a lot of the things I felt I needed with my 1st two children, we're actually not necessary. So things have been much more simpler with my 3rd. If that makes any sense. We unfortunately decided to try for our 3rd after we thought we were done and sold much of our baby stuff. So if you still have your most needed items, why not try for a 3rd as long as you financially can support the child & you both mutually would like another child? For us our 3rd has been a great experience.

Brinda - posted on 07/28/2012

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I'm 35 and expecting #5. It is tougher when you are older. i had my first at 26.

Katija2013 - posted on 07/28/2012

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I gave birth to twins (naturally conceived) 7 months ago at age 35 (my first children). I don't think 35 is too old at all. To be honest, id be just as exhausted had i had them 5 years ago or more. I love that i'm an older mom - im wiser, have fantastic job security, have the confidence to take a couple of years off work and am a more confident person at this age. As long as you are healthy and take care of yourself, its a great age to have a baby.

Jodi - posted on 07/28/2012

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Just for the record, I had my youngest when I was 36. I don't see the big deal.

Jodi - posted on 07/28/2012

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Why would you feel that a woman shouldn't have their first child past 35, but it's okay if they already have kids. That's just illogical!

Jodie - posted on 07/27/2012

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I've always felt that women shouldn't have their first child after 35, and this may spark off any argument but if you've already had one child then I would extend that age to 40 due to the fact that you'd be 60 when the child is 20 and I feel that's adequate a gap between a parent and child. I have a 10 year old, 6 year old, 4 year old and 3 year old and I will keep trying for number 5 until I'm about 40 cus then my husband will be 49.

Lexann - posted on 07/24/2012

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Well, since I'm gonna be 43 next week, and I'm expecting my third...I'd say not. I was 34 when I had my first. All healthy. You go for it, girl & God bless!

Renee - posted on 07/24/2012

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I had my first baby at 39. I am now 41 and am 6 weeks pregnant with my second. I had an awesome and very easy pregnancy at 39 and no problems as of yet this time around. You are definitely not too old! What you are is... Blessed!

Christina - posted on 07/24/2012

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No, I didn't have my FIRST child until I was 35. As long as you're healthy, I don't see why not. I certainly don't have the energy I would have had if I had had my children 10 years younger but it's working out just fine. :) I say if you can afford another one, go for it!

Rebecca - posted on 07/24/2012

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I'm 37 and with a 17 year old and an eight month old and although I definitely don't have the energy I had with my 17 year old, I have more patience, maturity, etc. with the 8 month old

Jacquelyn - posted on 07/23/2012

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When your body tells you you're too old(menopause), is when you're too old to have a baby. My parents were Catholic so birth control wasn't an option. I am the 10th child and my mom was 42 when she had me. The Drs told her that I could have down syndrome and they put on her clipboard "high-risk mother". I'm fine, I'm not the smartest person in the world but it had nothing to do with my mom's age lol. They couldn't get pregnant for the first 8yrs of their marriage and then the floodgates opened. She didn't have energy to chase me around but I had siblings to do that for her. She did have all the patience in the world to sit and read with me though, so having children when you're "older" is the same as having children when you're younger...there will always be pros and semi-cons at any age. As long as you love and provide for your child(ren) you're never too old. ;D

Karen - posted on 07/23/2012

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I had an oops at 37 , my other 2 were 18/21,so for my hubby an i we were in shock lol, but now hes 7 , i beleive everything happens for a reason? Good and bad, sadley my husband died age 45 an our baby was only 4 but the child has so much to give am so happy i have him he is my guiding light :-) goodluck xxand wen ur older u do feel it more but its so worth it :-)

Karen - posted on 07/23/2012

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Tthings happen for reasons :-) good and bad, from my experience am so glad i had my son at37? My other 2 were 18/21 big age gap lol but so worth every moment :-) goodluck

Andrea - posted on 07/23/2012

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I had my second child almost 12 years apart exactly, and I was almost 37 at the time. I will be 39 this year and if my husband said ok I wouldn't hesitate to do it again!

Michele - posted on 07/23/2012

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I think if you are in good health and feel like you can handle another one - go for it. I had my first at 26 and my fifth at 40. My youngest is three now and I can't imagine life without her -she keeps life fun and me feeling young!

Amanda - posted on 07/23/2012

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no you can have kids whenever life give you one it up to god you could have one at.20 or 35 or 60 if you what do not let people tell you it wrong

Shelly - posted on 07/23/2012

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I don't think so. I am 35 and I am pregnant with my 3rd child. I have two boys with autism and some people would probably question why we decided to have another baby. My sister-in-law is 40 and just had her 4th child. But it is yours and your families chose. You should not let anyone tell you different. In the end they are your children which you are raising. Not anyone else's.

Althea - posted on 07/23/2012

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35 and having my 4th next year I'll be 36 when the baby is born and I'm very excited.

Stacey - posted on 07/23/2012

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Nope! I'm 38 and pregnant with my 3rd. We have two girls, ages 7 and 5 and just felt like we weren't complete yet. Plus we wanted a boy. And that's what we're having. I'd say if you are healthy then go for it!

Deb - posted on 07/23/2012

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Absolutely not! I had my 5th baby at age 41. He was a little surprise. I never thought I would have another as my children from my first marriage were grown pretty much. I was pregnant 3 months after marrying my second husband. It wasn't planned but I wouldn't trade my now 10 year old son for anything. There were no abnormalities ( I didn't do an amnio either, figured why bother? I was going to keep whatever God gave me) I knew he was perfect and healthy and the pregnancy, even though I was 20 years older than when I had my first baby wasn't any harder or much different. I delivered normally. So if you want another baby... Go for it. Tell your doc no Old lady Drama though cause you are hardly an old lady at 35.

Christine - posted on 07/23/2012

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If your too old I must be crazy. Lol. I am 43, and have a 19 month old and I was 37 when we had our 1st lol so as long as you are healthy, regular cycles, then why not! Over 35 they recommend having an amniocentesis, and I did for both!! Good luck, patience is less as you get older, lol

Sharon - posted on 07/23/2012

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I had my third child at 41 so never too old...true that i dont have the same amount of energy but birth was fine abd as usual thr best pregnancy ever but yhen again i adore bring preggers!!!!..i say go for it !!

Tina - posted on 07/23/2012

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No, definitely not...if you want another one and think you can handle it physically, mentally, and financially. They are expensive! You have to think, " Can I provide for 3 as well as 2? and you have to think of being able to spread yourself thinner with 3 than 2. And don't forget your "baby" now may feel the middle child syndrome.

Heather - posted on 07/22/2012

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Absolutely not! I will be 35 in November. My husband and I are planning on having 3 children. I believe that so long as you are able to provide for your children, emotionally as well as otherwise, then there is no limit on when you can have children. They are an incredible blessing..don't worry about age when it comes to increasing your family. Your children will love you regardless of your age.
GOD bless you and your family =)

Cari - posted on 07/22/2012

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No way are you too old! I had my first when I was 24 and we waited sooo long for our seciond daughter- I was almost 34! Go for it!

Kylie - posted on 07/22/2012

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I'm 39 now, have two girls (5 & 3) & am pregnant with our third child. So I'm happy to say that 35 is definitely not too old to have another child! Enjoy your new baby :D

Amy - posted on 07/22/2012

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I had babies at 19, 22, 25, 33 and 35. My friend just had her 4th child at 38. I think if you have the energy then do it. I did discover that having kids in my 30's was much harder than it was in my 20's though. I don't have near the energy I did when I was younger. I do find I am a better parent and enjoy my kids more now that I am older. Good luck!

Jessica - posted on 07/22/2012

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I'm 35 with a two year old daughter and I am being induced on Wednesday with baby girl #2. So, no - I don't think it's too old. I'm also a very high risk pregnancy due to kidney disease and MTHFR; if I can do it, you can, too! Good luck! :)

Heather - posted on 07/22/2012

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I definitely don't think it's too old. I've seen plenty of women have babies at 35 or later. My sister had a miracle baby at 37. Sure she's tired but she handles being a mom just fine and her boy is older now so I don't think it saps as much of her energy as it used to. She did have a couple complications and he was born 6 weeks premature but he's been a very healthy boy. I personally don't want anymore kids after 35 but that's just my personal feelings. I think if you feel your up for the task then go for it.

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