Jennifer - posted on 04/08/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )
I don't want this to come across as another "my husband doesn't do anything" post, because my husband works very hard. He is usually up at 3am and doesn't get home til 5:30 or later most nights. He then has to be in bed by 7:30pm, because if not he has an incredibly hard time getting up for work and is usually late if he goes to bed later. I just want a nice way to tell him, that I need a small break preferably every day, but will settle for every other day. All I want is to be able to get my shower in peace. We have 4 kids, and I'm perfectly fine with being responsible for all their care, school work, food, clothes, etc and all the housework. I would much rather let my husband have fun with his kids the little time he has every night, then have him doing chores. I just would like that 10-15min break where I'm not "on call" so to speak. Our kids are still pretty young, and even though 2 of them are in school, I still have 2 at home. Our youngest is only 6 months and only sleeps through the night occasionally and of course I'm the only one that has ever gotten up with her. I know, he knows I don't need him here to take a shower, but he doesn't understand the shower is just my excuse to get away for a minute to regroup. All he can think about is the fact that he has only 1-2 hrs. to see me and the kids, eat supper, and get his own shower. I just honestly don't know how to tell him. He is a very sensitive person (though he'd never admitt it) and gets his feelings hurt easily. Any time I have ever mentioned even having him home while I cook supper and all 4 kids are going crazy, he appologizes about his work schedule over and over and then says something like if he wasn't such a dummy and graduated high school. then maybe he could have had a better paying job that doesn't require such long hours. If anyone has any suggestions please help.