Hello,I'm a stay at home mom.

Neiva - posted on 05/11/2016 ( 20 moms have responded )

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I have 6 kids and what I am specifically looking for other moms that just need a break like I do from now and then. Maybe lunch or just go get coffee for an hour or something. I am in serious need of just me time. I am in springfield an have a car to meet places.

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Dove - posted on 05/15/2016

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As for looking for the coffee date... lol I don't drink coffee, but if you want to fly clear across the country and across thousands of miles of ocean just for a break... sure, why not?

It's not likely that one of the few moms near enough to you to meet up will see your post... what w/ 600,000 members on this page alone.... and there are also major creepers on these boards (who may try to plan a meet up to rape and kill you). It would be safer and more logical to look for a friend locally instead of on a world wide site, but I already saw that you don't want to hear logic... so good luck!

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Dove - posted on 05/15/2016

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Doctors tell you to wait at least 6 weeks for sex for a reason... one of which is the risk of infection (yes, even w/ a c-section)... another is the risk of another pregnancy (which is even more dangerous if you've had a c-section since there should be at least 18 months before you get pregnant again).

As for burping... I was NEVER able to burp my daughters... ever. Their father could, so if he was home they got burped... If he wasn't, they didn't. It wasn't a big deal.

Amanda - posted on 05/14/2016

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Thank you I was concerned bout that all. But I'm still having a lil of difficulties with the burping..she is a really good sleeper but she'll have at least one faze usually at night time where shell just be fussy andbu can tell her stomach is irritated for like 20 min or so. I know its normal for them to have fazes like that too but I'm pretty sure alot of it is cuz I can't burp her

Sarah - posted on 05/14/2016

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Unless you are bleeding heavily, then just continue to monitor the color and quantity of bleeding. If you go thru more an one pad in one hour, call your doctor. I responded to that post as well. Your body, even though you your vagina was not affected, the rest of your pelvis was. You uterus is still healing, your muscles are still returning to normal and there is a risk of infection. I'd back off the sex and be intimate in other ways until you get the all clear from your doctor. You are certainly not the first couple to get busy early, and I am impressed you even wanted to have sex. If you develop any symptoms of a UTI, odd color or foul smelling discharged, fever or abdominal pain; call your doctor.
How is the burping going?

Amanda - posted on 05/13/2016

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Hi this is Amanda again..since last time we talked and u asked if it was OK to have sex? Well I ended up doing it with only being 2 weeks from having my csection and I had stooped bleeding too.but the morning after I had sex I woke up bleeding again, you think I'm ok I'm not in no pain or nothing I just am concerned that my bleeding started again? Plz help??

Sarah - posted on 05/12/2016

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Good luck, if you do the over the shoulder, put a towel on the floor in case she shoots out a big volume.

Sarah - posted on 05/12/2016

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That can happen, messy but not unusual. Are your breast or bottle feeding? One trick that worked for me for a tiny baby was to have the baby sit on my hand with their belly resting on my forearm and the head up by my elbow. Then you can keep the baby from wobbling about by bringing your arm in close to your body so her side leans on your body. Once you have her steady, you can bounce a bit with your arm (your biceps will get a workout) and pat her back with the free hand. Pat, pat, rub from bottom to top, pat, pat, rub, pat, pat, rub. The pressure from your forearm on her belly, combined with you patting her back, might help It did for my tough burper. My husband and his bigger arms was better at it than me but I could still do it. One other option is to put her really high up on your shoulder, almost like she is leaning over to look at the ground behind you. It seems like having some pressure on the belly while you pat is helpful.
@Neiva sorry your thread got side tracked. if you have found local contacts then great, I was only trying to be helpful as I have never run into another person nearby.

Amanda - posted on 05/12/2016

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I have another question that hopefully someone can help me with! My daughter is 2 weeks now and I'm having a hard time burping her as easy as that is with her she just won't burp. I bounce her on my chest while patting her back,sit her up right while patting her on her back.and still won't work. Last night she threw up so much it like projected out. Does someone have any help or advice?? Please!

Amanda - posted on 05/12/2016

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Yes thank u. I appreciate all ur advice. I probably should of listened cuz I woke up bleeding again. Not alot but that obviously means not only were u right but my body def wasn't rdy.

Sarah - posted on 05/12/2016

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Amanda, no matter how good you feel you really need to wait for the amount of time your doctor advised. Even though your vagina was not injured during the insides of your body were injured. Your uterus needs to return to its pre- pregnancy state, the area where the placenta tore off needs to heal. If you are still bleeding at all, it is too soon. Having sex to early can damage your cervix, cause infection and also weaken the wall and floor of your pelvis and lead to early stress incontinence. That said, you can still be intimate with your spouse, just avoid vaginal intercourse. There is lots you can do to satisfy both parties without penetration.

Amanda - posted on 05/11/2016

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Yah that is true.We kind of alrdy had tonight all planned out hehe!! I just wanted to see if anyone knew if I could start to bleed again during sex?

Neiva - posted on 05/11/2016

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I wouldn't start right off with sex. I would wait at least another week. You guys could always just spice it up with some intense for play for about a week. This way when you have reached at least the third week and have sex. Which will be okay as long as you feel no pain are enjoying it. This will totally really up the sex drive betten both because the more intense physical and emotional attraction is stronger. From a mom of 6 I have tried this an it has turned my life upside down . You will be glad you took that week to think about each other and their needs. It will make you grow together emotionally.

Amanda - posted on 05/11/2016

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Hi my name is Amanda I had a question I just delivered my daughter Jahzara via csection bout 2 weeks ago.And me and my husband are rdy to have sex even thgh I know they say wait 6 wks but I stopped bleeding bout a day ago and don't feel any pain in my incision. But my question is if u can help is do u know if when we do have sex if while having sex could I start to bleed again. Cuz my husband is rlly concerned bout getting blood on his u know what haha.I couldn't blame him thgh lol.plus I don't want to have our first time having sex in a long time be awkward or have to stop cuz I started bleeding again.so if u could help let me know thanks.

Sarah - posted on 05/11/2016

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I get it, I really do. But this site is a worldwide site. Do you really think a local person to be here and happen across your post? That is why I suggested a more local forum. Unless you'd like to travel for a coffee date?

Neiva - posted on 05/11/2016

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I'm looking for time away friends not with kids activities parents. You just don't get it. I need some me time with a friend just to chill with now and then or to meet for lunch. Guess you just decided that person wasn't you.

Sarah - posted on 05/11/2016

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This is an international forum, how do you expect to find a coffee date here? Look on your local Face book page, visit your library to meet new moms and ask the moms,of kids who participate in the same sports and activities as your kids.

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