HELP!! i have no energy at all!

Heather - posted on 01/08/2009 ( 21 moms have responded )

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I am a stay at home mom to a 20 month old daughter.. I used to have it all together but for the last few months i cannot find the energy to do alot of things i used to.. like keeping the house in tip top shape! I keep it picked up but now that Alissa is old enough to be into everything it is so tiring picking up all the toys, keeping her out of everything, and still finding time to do dishes, laundry, errands and etc. It really boils down to having no energy at all! Its so hard for me to get up in the morning & im tired all day long! I recently discovered a vitaminenergy drink that gives me a boost but i do not want to depend on that!!! Any suggestions??

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Julie - posted on 02/19/2011

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Have you had your thyroid checked? When I go hypo-thyroid (it varies with the season), I have zero energy and need a higher dosage of thyroid hormone supplement. Other times, I feel like I can drop back on the medicine and live life normally.
It's not just you, but you should consult a doctor. There are lots of causes for fatigue.

Jasmin - posted on 02/19/2011

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I feel exactly the same. As mother of a two year old and an 8 year old there seems never to be enough time or energy to go around! I feel great some days and others I feel like a vacuous pit and those days are just hard for everyone. I realize it may be my body telling me that I need help, to perhaps do things differently and especially make more time for myself. So that means setting a better rhythm with my kids, getting them to bed early enough, and having days where I get some room for self expression. Also I thought it may be nice to have moms help one another out more by passing the kids around. This all spounds good..and now to actually do it..!

Vikki - posted on 01/11/2009

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Hi Heather,  My kids are a little older and in school, but one has some disorders so I'm constantly on the "alert".   I gave up caffiene last year after I had sinus surgery and couldn't swallow (from the tube) so I don't have that coffee thing.  Last year I noticed I was tired ALL the time, no matter what I did, workout, not workout, sleep, nap, etc.  Part of it turned out  to be allergies interupting my sleep habits, and even though that issue is being worked on with weekly shots, I'm still always exhausted, so my doc is testing my thyroid, something to consider if nothing else works.   Good luck ;)

Leanne - posted on 01/10/2009

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Quoting Adrienne:



I feel the same way- It's so nice to see that other moms are feeling the same way.  I say it's hard to have energy when it's ground hog day every day.  It does get easier- and I still use coffee in the morning and  a glass of wine to fall asleep.  (otherwise I'm up tll 2:00am!!!)






 






so so true! i say the same thing bout groundhog day! i have 2 children aged 3 1/2 yrs old and 20 months old. i'm so worn out each day. i set out with great intentions every day but become caught up in the worry of things to be done and guilt of not giving my children my full attention all day what with chores etc.. i love my children very much and at the end of each day thats what keeps me goin. its so easy to fall into the trap of  tryin to be a perfectionist; havin a spotless house and b a perfect parent all the time not to mention partner. i always feel like i'm failing 1 or the other. the advice i'd give is the same i should listen to myself, dont worry if  things aren't perfect around the house, enjoy ur children as they'll grow so fast. stick to a routine and establish rules/ discipline, [something i find hard]. and feel reassured ur not the only one.



 

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Leonor - posted on 10/09/2012

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hi Heather, i posted a question just today about the same issue!! what is going on with us!!! i do not know if i am sick... or is it depression... or is it hormonal??? When i go to Church, i keep asking God to send me the energy i need for being a good mom, and a good wife!! i really need desperately help, too! i tried several things, but my energy levels are down zero!

Jennifer - posted on 02/19/2011

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I've been feeling the same way. I jusy saw my doc yesterday, and she thinks I may have sleep apnea and is sending me for a sleep study. I still have my tonsils and they are rather large, so she is thinking they may be the problem, and probably need removed. Good luck with your sleepiness, it's exhausting being a mommy, but definately the most rewarding job ever!

Heather - posted on 01/11/2009

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Vikki its weird that you mentioned that bc i have chronic bronchitis & also rhinusitus (sp?) its where my sinuses are always messed up & i cant sleep alot because of that. what you said is exactly how i feel.. that no matter what i do i am always tired. Also its takes me forever to fall asleep at night. wel Thanks so much

Heather - posted on 01/10/2009

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i am so glad that i am not the only one feeling this way! all of your replies have helped me more than you know. I actually feel like i have peace of mind now! I did start working out a few months back & that did give me alot of energy.. for about a week... then the next week i was so worn out i just wanted to sleep all day long!! its too cold to take walks now but when it gets warm i think we will start back with our family walks.. anyways Thank you all so much! i am so glad i am not alone!!!!

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Something that has helped me keep my house clean is keeping the toys in the bed rooms. This keeps the rest of the house cleaner. I also get the kids to 'help' clean up. If you clean up the toys at nap time and bed time there won't be a BIG clean at the end of the day. My kids are 4 and 2 1/2 and now are in a habit of cleaning up. Also, if you have an estitition school in town, you can have a cheap get away and you will feel better.

Katie - posted on 01/10/2009

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In response to Help!! I have no energy. Let her get into things (in a safe way), Let her pull all of the pots out of the cabinet or all of the socks out of the drawer. She is learning more than you know when she does it.

Katie - posted on 01/10/2009

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I have a just 3 year old and 2 year old. My house looks like a tornado hit by 5 pm. I've learned not to waste my time...and energy picking up after them all day long. Before bed we play a game to see how fast we can get the toys picked up. Of course they son't get them all so after bedtime I take 5 minutes (and 5 minutes only) to gather the rest into a laundry basket. I've come to the realization that my house is NEVER going to be perfect so I don't worry about it anymore. I live in a contained chaos.

Lori - posted on 01/10/2009

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When my 12 yr old was born, I had fatigue really bad!  I couldn't get any energy and then had alot of aches and pains too.  Then I found out I have Fibromyalgia.  It's caused, usually by trauma...and childbirth was enough trauma for my body!  I've had fibro ever since.  I've gotten some better, but still feel tired alot.  We two homeschool kids, I just make myself get up...take a shower and get dressed.  That is half the battle.  Once I do that, I feel like I have more energy.  Try that. 

Dawn - posted on 01/10/2009

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haha!! adrienne i always say that i feel stuck in the movie groundhog day too!!!!!

Adrienne - posted on 01/10/2009

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I feel the same way- It's so nice to see that other moms are feeling the same way.  I say it's hard to have energy when it's ground hog day every day.  It does get easier- and I still use coffee in the morning and  a glass of wine to fall asleep.  (otherwise I'm up tll 2:00am!!!)



 

Lindy - posted on 01/10/2009

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Same problem here, I'd like to say that mine has gotten better. It hasn't. Started after the first one was born, she's now 5. Our other one is 3. It hasn't gotten better. I was walking this summer like they said exercise. Didn't help either. My doctor and I have been working on this for about 4 years. Still haven't found a solution. I wish we would because I hate not having stuff done.



 

Dawn - posted on 01/10/2009

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i feel the same way heather. i have a 3 year old and a 7 month old. i was doing pretty good the year before my son was born. my daughter was on a perfect scheduale...took a nap everyday...and went to bed a 7 everynight and would sleep till 7 the next morning. we used to get up and take a walk everymorning and i would do my errands on that walk. and then we'd come home and have lunch and a nap. now i can barely muster up enough energy to load the dishwasher let alone take a walk anywhere!! i'll let the house work go sometimes and then like beth said do it the next day when i do have the energy. somedays i feel like i'm on something cause i get really into cleaning. and then the next day i don't wanna get off the couch. i'm hoping that by spring when my son turns a year old it will get better. then he will hopefully be walking and i won't have to carry him everywhere. that's zapping all my energy right there!! my advice is to just hang in there...it will get better i promise.

Beth - posted on 01/08/2009

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Oops, I meant 2 1/2 year old (not 2 1/2 month old) he-he. Anyway, I have a lot of stay at home mom friends that have joined a gym to keep their energy up and get a bit of time away from their little one and to get some adult talk. I live in too rural of an area to do that but if you can afford it and have some place near by that has child care, that might be an idea too???

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Hi, I have three children and suffered from a big lack of energy with my first two children. After my first child, I used coffee to give me a boost and developed sleeping problems from drinking to much coffee. (about 5 a day.) When I was lacking energy with my second child, I went to the health food shop and asked for some supplements, as I was finished breastfeeding they recommended spirulina tablets. They are great, and i still use them to this day, as my youngest is 24 months. I suggest talking to either a doctor or nutritionist, or just the health food shop staff to find the best NATURAL supplements for you.

Heather - posted on 01/08/2009

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oh yes.. naptime. I love it. But lately when she naps i am usually right there with her snoozing away. I used to use that time to clean up & do things like that. I think its a viscious cycle bc when i do let it go then i feel like a terrible mom/fiance bc the house is out of order... thanks for your input!!

Beth - posted on 01/08/2009

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I have a 2 1/2 month old and feel the same way many days, I use coffee. Sometimes I just let it all go and make myself not feel guilty about it then I get a second wind a few days later to clean and do errands. I try to get my daughter involved in minimal household chores but it usually creates even more of a mess! I also moved a big chunk of her toys to our 'guest room' so if I don't feel like picking up the toys I can let it go. And to top it all off this week she hasn't napped once, I am hoping this is just a short lived phase. Nap time is a stay at home mom's piece of mind time.

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