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Help Me!!! How do I get back to being a SAHM??

Kylie - posted on 07/01/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I've been working casual hours at a school for about 3 years, nothing regular, a few days every now and then. About 7 weeks ago the office manager broke her ankle and office assistant broke her hip!

So I was asked to help out. I ended up working 3 days a week for the last 7 weeks. Both my kids were either at preschool and/or with a family member.

My son is 3 and he's handled this pretty well most of the time. He's pretty attention seeking when I'm home, but he's not so full on.

My daughter is only 1. She crys everytime I put her down. She's completely out of her routine. So far today I have gone to the toilet with her on my lap, eaten breakfast and lunch while holding her hand, and I am typing this while she sits with me. If I put her down she will chase me and scream and scream. Even if I put her down to change her.

They have offered me one day a week till the end of the year, we really need the money. But I feel like I am doing completely the wrong thing here. How can I make her feel more secure. I am I doing the wrong thing?

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Kelly - posted on 07/02/2012

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I agree with Louise, most kids go through this. I do not think working one day a week will be harmful, in fact, I think it could be great for her.
To help her transition, I would recommend keeping a very regular schedule and planning something fun for her to do while you work. So if you do the one day a week, keep it on the same day every week (if possible). If you can, make sure she goes to the same caretaker every time as well, and they do something fun. Eventually, she will start to look forward to her time with the caretaker, and be excited about returning to you as well. She also won't be so clingy because she will know that you will be around until that time--right now, she is clingy because she has no idea when you are going to leave her, so she is soaking you up in full just to be prepared. Once she has the routine down, she will not have the need to do that.

Louise - posted on 07/02/2012

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All babies go through this whether you are a working mum or a stay at home mum. My daughter was the same and I never went to work. I ended up having her in a baby carrier on my chest for about a month as she would yell constantly. If you want to work and need to then she will be fine. I am sure she settles when left within a few minutes. It is you that gets more upset. She will learn that this is part of her routine and will stop. The phase will pass and normality will be resumed. Dont dwell on this, she is just voicing her opinion that she would rather be with you. But I am sure she has a great time at nans house and soon forgets about missing you.

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