Raina - posted on 07/29/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
My husband and I have been married for 2 weeks but been living together for 6, we have 3 amazing boys who are exhausting. My husband works on an oil rig, even though he comes home every morning (he works the night shift) i feel like he is not apart of our lives. He wants to be the friend not the parent, but complains that I am grouchy all the time and dont have patience with the kids or him. He wants to sleep wake up and sit on his butt, when I leave him with the kids so I can run errands he lets them watch shows I do not allow, do thinks I do not allow them to do, and he teaches them inappropriate "Potty humor". We just got into a fight how when I get mad at the boys I go off the deep end and make a big deal out of nothing but when he gets angry with the he acts like a bully.He had a terrible childhood with a mother who was more of a psycho path than a real mom and a father who worked all the time and treated him like a pathetic excuse of a life. How can I get him to MAN up and be dad instead of friend? I read parenting books all the time I go to classes all the time I want to be a better mom than I am but i feel like i cannot implement structure because he will not follow it himself. I feel like a terrible mother because I cannot emotionally control my feelings anymore.
Please no haters I already feel like a piece of trash for being such a crappy mother.