how can i get my little girl to sleep all night and stop wakeing up crying?
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Renae - posted on 01/02/2011
Hi Michelle, how many times is she waking during the night? For a 6 month old "sleeping through the night" is 6-7 hours straight. 50% of babies need at least one night feed until they are 12 months old.
When baby's do not sleep well at night it is usually either because they do not know how to go to sleep on their own or they have become overstimulated during the day.
First make sure she is getting enough sleep during the day. A 6 month old should not be awake for more than 2-3 hours at a time during the day before needing a nap of 1.5-2 hours - except first thing in the morning when the first nap usually needs to be 45 minutes after they wake up. Enough sleep during the day = better sleep at night.
Next make sure you have a bedtime routine so that she knows when she is supposed to go to sleep for the night.
Then, if she is still waking, you need to teach her to go to sleep on her own. You can do this without leaving her to cry - here are some brief, basic gradual withdrawal instructions (contact me if you need more specific instructions or are unsure about anything). If you do choose to leave her to cry, please contact me for info on cry interpretation first so that you can identify if she is in severe distress.
1. Get her used to being put in her cot relaxed but awake and pat or jiggle her until she is fast asleep - expect this to take 1-3 weeks.
2. When she is used to going to sleep this way, stop patting a little bit sooner, just after she goes to sleep but is not fast asleep.
3. After a few more days, stop patting just after she closes her eyes but is not asleep.
4. Then just as she is about to close her eyes.
5. Then when she looks really sleepy.
6. At this point time how long you are patting for (probably 15 minutes) and reduce the time by 1 minute every couple of days until you just put her down and walk away and she goes to sleep without crying.
7. If you stop and try to leave the room and she cries (which will happen especially in the first weeks), pick her up, calm her down, put her back in the cot and start again. You may have to start again up to 5 times when this happens.
8. Wait until she completely masters each step (minimum 3 days) before moving on to the next step. The whole process will take 4-8 weeks. Be consistent every time she goes to sleep, day and night.
Nicole - posted on 01/04/2011
Oh PLEASE don't take the advice about the formula made for night time!!! I am trained pretty well in infant nutrition for my work with WIC and those formulas are dangerous. They increase babies' risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. Many health and nutrition organizations want the FDA to pull that formula from the shelves. Again, scientific studies are now revealing that normal sleeping behavior among children is that they do wake several times throughout the night. This is their natural way of surviving SIDS. ALL BABIES need to wake several times throughout the night for safety. It's just that some can go back to sleep on their own while others can't. The ones who can't are considered "bad sleepers", but they are actually just being normal. Like I said, there are gentle ways that you can encourage her learning to go back to sleep by herself and this can help you get more Zs. Read "The No-Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantley. Wonderful book!!! You can check it out of your local library.
Crying for long periods of time has also been scientifically proven to increase the stress hormones in an infant. It's just not worth it.
Gina, peoples children are only whiny and such if the parent gives in when they have the tantrum. If we all left the store because our kids were freaking out we'd never get anything done.
In Norway where I am from, if the child starts having a tantrum, the mother ignores it and continues with the shopping. The child realizes this is not getting ANY attention so they seek other ways of communicating. Scandinavian children are among the best behaved in the world because we treat bad behavior differently. They grow up differently I suppose than other places.
The whole REM sleep thing as I stated earlier CAN be proven. Like I said, get your doctor to find a copy of the study. In almost ALL of Europe this journal is commonplace, from 10 years ago. Why American doctors have not made it public knowledge can only mean one thing: Sleep "training" is BIG business and docs get a cut of the dough so why tell you "it's supposed to be like this, it'll sort itself out as the child ages" if they won't get money for it???
Kathy - posted on 01/05/2011
First realize she cries for a reason at this age. Maybe she has a soiled diaper or is feeling a bit hungry. Try feeding her right before bedtime and make sure her bottom has clean seat-covers. I am against letting her cry at this age as she needs this nurturing time to develop her skills for later on down the road. Maybe she needs to be rocked to sleep and have that one on one time with her mom holding her and feeling secure.
Renae - posted on 01/02/2011
I have no intention of offending anyone, but I keep reading this and feel like I need to correct it...
Babies do not sleep in REM all night. Babies go through the same stages of sleep as an adult but on a ratio of REM sleep to deep sleep they spend a lot longer in REM than an adult. Their sleep cycles are also around half the time of an adults. If you watch a baby (or any person) sleep you can see them move through the stages - deep sleep is when the muscles stop doing little twitches, they fall completely limp and the breathing becomes very short and shallow - that is deep sleep.
People are saying this REM sleep thing a lot on CoM lately, so I suspect some baby websites out there might be giving out wrong information.
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Stephaniematchett - posted on 01/17/2011
Osteopathy (especially cranial osteopathy) works wonders for both babies and kids. They respond very fast, no more than 3 sessions. The reasons why your baby does not sleep the full night are numerous, and all babies are different. I know that for my boy I used to associate a word with it "dodo" (which is French, I am French). Each time I was putting him to bed I would use the same cue. At first I would let him cry 5 mns, then come back, reassure, pad, then 10mns and so forth. He had osteopathic sessions as soon as he was born though, and never woke up more than 1 at night to feed, by 6 months he was sleeping from 7pm till 6.30am...Routine is very important. It is securing and gives them a rhythm. It builds up trust as well.
Deana M. - posted on 01/16/2011
have you taken her to the dr? It could be an ear infection or maybe even her teeth. It could also be separation anxiety. Try putting something in her bed that smells like you OR you can try sitting next to her crib when you put her to bed and gradually start moving away little by little over a period of a couple weeks or so. It worked for me.
Jennifer - posted on 01/14/2011
I just recently got my 7 month old to sleep all night! First, try not to let your little one sleep very long in the late afternoon. At first it is hard because she will cry because she is tired, but it will be worth it for you to get a full 8 hours lol. Second, try giving a little food like rice cereal along with the last feeding before bed. This should sustain her until the morning! Good luck!
Jessica - posted on 01/12/2011
babies need to eat every two to four hours at that age, even at night. if she is crying, try feeding her. their brain and body grows the most in the first year of life than any other time. she need the calories to keep up with her brain growth and her body growth... is she is crying, she is telling you something. if she is crying because she is hungry, she is telling you she needs to eat. and no amount of crying it out is going to change that she is hungry and it is not going to train her to not be hungry or not wake up in the middle of the night (she will be doing that until she is three and then you will be potty training at night so until whenever...). i would not be letting her cry for hours at this little. don't listen to your husband!
Renae - posted on 01/12/2011
Itsa - I am a sleep consultant and I read as much as I can of the latest research, however, I have never read from the Scandanavian medical journal... I dont think! The current agreement in the professional world is that babies spend 50% of time in active sleep and 50% in deep sleep. If there is evidence that contradicts what doctors and psychologists currently believe and are currently taught, I would love to know the authors names so I can find the research. Thanks
Edited later: actually, I do have articles in my database from Scan med journal - how bout that
I never believed in letting my baby cry it out - at any age. If she is crying in the middle of the night, its because she needs something, not because she is trying to manipulate you (that comes later). Is Layla breastfed or bottle fed? She could be waking up because she's hungry. Is it completely dark in her room? Sometimes kids wake up and go right back to sleep but if her room is too dark, it may freak her out...maybe try a night light. I know its tough to have a little one who can't tell you whats wrong, but you'll figure it out soon. My first guess though is that she is probably hungry. 6-month-olds can't hold enough in their tummies to keep them full all night.
Jessica - posted on 01/10/2011
my kids started sleeping through the night when they were three. when they were closer to two they started sleeping through the night and getting up once or twice a week for different reasons. my kids at six months were still getting up for a bottle two or three times a night and eating two times a day. they stopped waking up in the middle of the night for a drink around 1 and a half.
crying out does not work. if it isn't working, stop doing it. your baby is crying for a reason.
Casey - posted on 01/10/2011
I think it's normal. Both of my kids were around 14/15 months when the good & regular sleeping thru really started. They do get there on their own, as long as you continue to respond to them & don't break their trust by letting them 'cry it out'. We only have problems when they are sick. Don't worry & hang in there... she'll get there.
never let a baby cry with out checking on them. She's probably hungry and that's just the way her body works. She'll grow out of it. Be patient and realize babies always cry for a good reason. Tough love is old school and doesn't work with 6 month olds and can be dangerous
Jessica - posted on 01/09/2011
very true on the sleep. babies at six month need 15 to 18 hours of sleep in a 24 hour period to help with brain development and growth. most babies give up their second nap by 13 months of age. they take two to three naps a day and sleep 12 to 13 hours a night. if a baby does not get enough sleep, they do not sleep well at night and that is the same if you keep them up late, they usually wake up earlier (why, i have no idea). i would comfort your baby and give her a bottle. if she does not want a bottle and you can't get her settled, i would assume she is teething. i would give her some ibuprofen and try to comfort her until it kicks in. it usually takes about 20 minutes but after five or ten minutes should be fine. she will cry for about ten minutes to settle herself back down and you can tell she is settling by her crying growing less hysterical and pauses in between cries. it is a struggle to get them to sleep through and as soon as they do they get sick and stop or they start teething and stop or they go through a growth spurt (which means they need to eat a lot more and are hungry in the middle of the night and need to eat) and stop. it seems never ending, but sooner or later she will start sleeping through the night. babies tell you what they need by crying, they have no other form of communication. i would not let her cry it out at this young of age but i would start teaching her some self soothing like crying for a little bit (the cry that winds down as they are fighting sleep but falling asleep at the same time) when you put her to bed (and after all her needs are met) and give her five minutes to see if she settles back down to sleep before you go in there in the middle of the night. but do not cut out naps if she is tired. she is way too little for that and her body tells her what she needs and how much rest she needs. i would also try to put her on a schedule/routine where she is fed, laid down, fed, laid down, fed, and put to bed at the same time every day with the same routine. i usually at bed time gave bath, lotion with a little massage, pjs, story time, bottle, bed, and that helped a lot. they start to learn to settle themselves down and learn what to expect and how to predict it if you stick to it every day. she might teach her self to settle down that way by knowing what to expect. it is hard, but remember, it does get easier and one day you will get sleep!! you could also try a pacifier...
Jennifer - posted on 01/07/2011
Every child is different. I am completely opposed to the cry it out method, because when my baby cries, it means she needs me. So what if it is only for a cuddle. If she were crying in the middle of the day for a cuddle, I would most definately attend to her, so why wouldn't I do the same thing at night? My first child started sleeping 8-10 hours at night when he was 4 months. My second child was 2 weeks, and my third child was up every 2 hours until he was 15 months. My 4th child is 3 months and usually gives me a 4-6 hour stretch every night. In her own time, your daughter will sleep. This stage only lasts for a little while, and soon enough you won't even have a chance to give her a hug when you want, because she will be too busy playing. So, soak up all those extra cuddles and lovins you can get now, even if it is at 2 a.m.
Krystal - posted on 01/07/2011
Just remember 6 months is really young. Are you breastfeeding? If so...nurse her back to sleep. I strongly do NOT believe in CIO, so I would never suggest that. Our little man is 19 months old, and is up every 2-3 hours all night long. But we cosleep, so I just pop him on the boob...and off to sleep we go.
Just remember, they cry for a reason. Letting them CIO, you are basically teaching them that you won't be there when they need you. They quit crying out of exhaustion...seems cruel to me.
TINA - posted on 01/07/2011
My boy is 7 months, he goes to sleep about 12:30 pm but wakes up two to three times before 3 am. I usually put the binky in his mouth and rub him a little and he stops, it only takes about a minute. I sleep in a bed right next to his crib. My mother in law says to let him cry so he learns to fall back asleep on his own. He does have like one and a half teeth now. Not sure what to do, but I really do not like to let him cry either, especially because I am right there and I don't want him to wake up my husband . He is in the other room and probably would not hear anyway . Should I maybe wait a minute or 2 to see if he falls back to sleep on his own? It does not seem like he really is awake when this happens and sometimes if I do not catch it right away he cries for like 30 minutes while I hold and rock him but still does not really seem fully awake while this happens. Any suggestions.
Sarah - posted on 01/06/2011
my daughter is now 21months and until last month she woke up twice throughout the night. we had to let her cry it out.. believe me it was soo hard and it took a couple of nights but she is now sleeping threw the night and even with a cold.
Donna - posted on 01/06/2011
My children r 23, 21, 22 & nearly 2... The saying goes every child is different well i say tat is soooo true... My 21yr old boy wood have a nap during day for 30-40minutes & b awake on off constantly all nite for 18months it drove me insane but i took it on the chin i tired tis & tat & everything in between nothing worked. His brother who's now 20 wood go down for a nap & sleep agood hr or 2 & than sleep all nite not a prob... 18yrs difference between my 20 yr old son & my 2yr old daughter. She wont go down for asleep during the day unless we go out in the car somewhere or go for a stroll in her pram or shes dead tired & falls asleep sumwhere (which harderly ever happens)... She sleeps all nite has done since she was 3mths old (a god send) but i have trouble getting her down every nite. She hasnt slept in a cot since she was 12mths old & i wont let her cry/scream herself to sleep due to an incident wiz her so called father (mr know all father of the year) when she was only 4mths old... I think its wrong to let em cry & get all upset b4 going to sleep. I was raised never to go to bed angry or upset...I dont want my daughter to perceive bedtime as an upsetting event i want her 2b able 2 have a good nite dreams not nitemares about mummy & bedtime. We do the dinner, bath, milo, teeth brushing, watch tv b4 bedtime we even read a book b4 bed (not every nite) & I lay wiz her (every nite) till she goes to sleep but tis laying down bit gets me.... Plus it makes it harder when we share a room as there is 6 adults in the house... So im at a lose as well. Try going thru the motions, wet, dirty, wind, in need of cuddle, did anything happen during the day to upset her, maybe colic u dont know about... My daughter had stomache colic was unable to burp or fart normal tat cazed alot of discomfort & painful she was hospitalized at 2mths old when we were told tis..... Trial & error im afraid Cheers Donna
Katrina - posted on 01/06/2011
My daughter is 4 1/2 months old and so long as she has some form of solids about 6:30pm and a bottle about 8 have found the Haylee sleeps right through until between 6:30 and 7:30 in the morning. So just a suggestion try feeding a small amout of solids let the little one have a break and follow with a bottle. The other thing that helped when she first started sleeping through was to not actually wake her but give her a top up bottle before i went to bed and allow her to stay asleep
Renae... They DO sleep MOST of the night in REM, thats the ONLY way the brain can rebuild and repair.
Ask your doctor for a copy of the Scandinavian medical journal, Norwegian isse on infant and baby sleep. They have done EXTENSIVE studies on this and they have actual PHYSICAL proof of it.
Stacia - posted on 01/06/2011
I also had a very hard time getting my child to stay sleeping at night, I breastfed her and she got very use to having it at night. I was totally against the cry method until I had no choice but to try it! The best thing you can do it teach your baby how to self sooth. Yes the crying was very hard to deal with but it only lasted a little while and after just a couple of days it worked! It has not only been a wonderful thing for me but also for her. Now when she awakes at night she may do a 5 second whine and then puts herself right back to sleep. Trust me I hated the thought of having my baby cry and even talked down to the mothers who did until I was faced with a situation like this. It was my fault to nurse her back to sleep everynight when she was getting old enough to not need it that much. I needed to fix it:) The reason she is posting this question is because she wants helpful ideas to change the problem, not to continue what she has done and just hope for a change.
Krystle - posted on 01/04/2011
1) She's probably teething. 6 - 10 months my son didn't sleep well. Have you tried tylenol?
2) Separation anxiety. When she goes to sleep now she remembers you still exist in the middle of the night, and needs to know you are still around.
Either way, it's just a stage. A terrible, difficult stage. But I believe in always responding to a cry (just a little fussing is different. But a cry needs attention in my book!).
They sleep through the night when they are ready and able, and I'm sorry to say, I think it's just a rough patch for you that you have to "ride-out".
(Also, Well said Nicole!!)
Jessie - posted on 01/04/2011
i cosleep but i also BOD and cloth diaper, it makes it real easy for me and usually unless my 15m is having a rough night we sleep just fine and i have a 3m but yeah you just need to kind your knich for what is best for you and your baby
Whatever size diaper she is wearing during the day, put the next size on her at night to absorb more urine and avoid middle of the night diaper changes....when she wakes up wait for a couple of minutes before going into her room,she may also just need to suck on something for a few minutes, so put some room temp water in a bottle and give that to her for a quick drink and then put her back in bed. I did all of this with my son when he was 9 weeks old and it took 2 nights to get him to sleep through the night ...he has been sleeping through the night ever since and I haven't had to feed him in the night since then either...he will be 18 months old on Friday
Alyssa - posted on 01/04/2011
I've read that babies go through a seperation anxiety around 6-8 months.
My son is almost 8 months & wont let me leave the room without him screaming. This has also caused him not to take naps during the day, and he gets up a few times a night, just to make sure he hasnt been left alone.
I'm not totally sure if I agree with leaving them to cry. I, as a new mommy cant leave my baby alone in his crib, crying. To me, if he's crying.. then there has to be a reason.
I just now starting a night time routine. & it helps him fall asleep by himself & on a good night, he'll sleep from 7pm-5a.m.
You need to do things that work for you & your baby!
You can get advice, but what works for some other mommy, may not work for you. =]
Amber - posted on 01/03/2011
my daughter used to wake up just to "wet her whistle" she wouldnt even eat a full ounce. so what i started doing was when she would wake up for her little drink i would just pat her back to sleep or rock her depended on how much she was crying. it worked for me. she's been sleeping through the night since she was 3 months.
Heather - posted on 01/03/2011
LET HER CRY MY DAUGHTER SPET THROUGH THE NITE AT 2MO OLD U MIGHT ALSO WANA TRY THE FORMULA THAT IS ESPECIALLY FOR NITE TIME IT JUST KEEPS THEM FULL THAT ALSO WORKS A LONG WITH LETTING THEM CRY WITHIN A FEW NITES THEY SHOULD SLEEP THRU THE NITE U MIGHT ALSO TRY A SOUND MACHINE OR LIKE THOSE FISH THAT SWIM AND PLAYS MUSIC IT ATTACHES TO THE CRIB
Samantha - posted on 01/03/2011
I have a 9-month-old little girl who has been sleeping through the night since she was about 2 months. Unusual for me because the first didn't sleep 6 hours at a time until she was 5 months old. ANYWAY, the second one, I guess got used to my routine. Before bedtime, and the routine is still the same, I change her, put her in her crib, go get her bottle that has been warming, pick her up and sit down in the rocking chair, feed her, have her sit with me a bit to burp and do her babytalk (she's very active). Then, I start wishing her a good night sleep, etc., give her a big squeeze (hug), lots of kisses, good night again, and put her in her crib. Pull up the side (my crib is in perfect working order because I assembled it correctly). Turn on her Ocean Wonders music, turn on the Playskool Gentle Vibrations, turn on the fan (for the white noise), turn on the night light, turn off the room light. Grab the empty bottle. Exit the room. She's usually asleep within 5-10 minutes of my exit. To be clear, we CANNOT do things like this with our first daughter (almost 3) ... she STILL likes rocking, but that's another story. My point of all of this is it's ROUTINE. ROUTINE, ROUTINE. I think we our second daughter, since I did the same thing every night, she figured it out and actually would cry MORE with me rocking her. The first time I just plunked her in her crib and she stopped crying and turned over, I was stunned, and happy. She did sometimes wake up in the middle of the night, and I was trying desperately to sleep, so I would feed her again, and put her back in and she would drift back to sleep again. After a month or two, after she had gained enough weight to sleep more (and she gets 1-3 naps a day, then and now), when she would up in the middle of the night, I just tried this: I would stick in her pacifier, put the music and vibrations on and then exit. To my happy surprise, it worked! She turned over and went back to sleep. Also, she sleeps with a small, light little bear that she just loves. She holds onto him while she sleeps. Maybe you could try that. Try a pacifier and a little bear or bunny or kitty or something. But something very small, so if your child sleeps with it on his or her face (like our daughter sometimes does), there would be no way she or he could suffocate. (Her little bear is just a head and a flat body, and so tiny, but she just loves him. So much so that I have to bring him with us when we visit family.) Anyway, so try the pacifier thing in the middle of the night, and try sticking to the same right-before-bedtime routine every night. Good luck!!!!! OH, but If the pacifier, in the middle of the night, does not work, and your child continues to cry, then you could try a diaper change and burping first. You want to avoid feeding because then you'll continue that every night. Try a diaper change, a burp and then the pacifier. Put her or him back in the crib and leave or rock, or whatever you do. If your baby still cries, then she or he is hungry and not ready to sleep through the night yet. They need to gain enough weight to sustain them through the night. I hope this helps.
Nicole - posted on 01/03/2011
Ummmmm Gina, my children aren't whiny, spoiled brats. As a matter of a fact the ONE of my four children that I got talked into using the cry-it-out method with is my most difficult child. Yes, children do cry sometimes, but I think purposefully ignoring the cries of a baby (who can only express their complaints, discomforts, etc. with crying) is a bit harsh. It does not mean "abuse" to me, but I do find it harsh.
Gina - posted on 01/03/2011
there is a difference between not responding and neglecting. if the baby is dry, full, with no illness....then there is nothing wring with them crying. and I think it's mighty righteous of you to accuse someone you don't know of abuse. my children are very well taken care of, and happy. I am a parent who believes in letting babies cry. furthermore, I believe that mothers who coddle thier babies all the time tend to raise whiny, spoiled brats.
Gina, what an awful answer. Thats just tough, no love at all. Sorry but it's true. A 6 month old baby crying, there is a reason. Whether it's needing food, a change, comfort, reassurance or whatever, ALWAYS respond to a baby's cries. Anything else is neglect and abuse.
Karen - posted on 01/02/2011
The more I talk to moms (and read on COM) the more I've come to the conclusion that kids will sleep however they will sleep and it really doesn't depend much on what the parents do.
Once I came to that conclusion and decided to just survive through a child who wakes frequently regardless of what I do (currently 25 months waking 2-5 times a night), I handled it better. Really, you do what you can (routine, enough naps, the right food, exercise, etc) and then you just deal with the result (a good night or not).
My advice to moms with frequent wakers is, take it one sleep stretch at a time, don't look at the clock, and cosleep - those things combined have saved my sanity.
For our information, how often does she wake, for how long, and what have to tried so far?
Nicole - posted on 01/02/2011
I think everyone talking about the REM sleep is just trying to say that sleep patterns among infants and toddlers vary from that of adults. I did misread some of what I read to read what Renae is saying, so I am trying to say that Renae is correct. Babies have "active" sleep (which resembles REM sleep in adults) and then they move (if not awakened during their "active" sleeping phase) to a deeper sleep. Their active sleep is longer our REM sleep and their deeper sleep cycle is much shorter than ours. So, this means that biologically, infants are meant to sleep for shorter periods many times a day to equal 14 to 20 hours per day. This actually helps them to avoid SIDS.
Nicole - posted on 01/02/2011
My children were almost 2 before they slept through the night. It will happen when they are ready to. A 6month old baby needs you and should not be sleeping through the night (8-12 hours straight). They have little bellies and need to be near you! Hang in there! It does get better. Try to nap with baby.
Nicole - posted on 01/02/2011
Sleeping through the night is a developmental milestone like learning to crawl, walk, talk, etc. And just like walking and talking this can vary from child to child. Also, sleeping through the night is one of the milestones that can take the longest. BUT, there are gentle and loving techniques that you can do to encourage less frequent waking, but she is still quite young. Children under the age of 12 months generally still need to wake at least once. Hang in there! I know it can be tough, but after 4 children, I have learned that it could have much to do with each individual child. All four have had different sleep patterns. I have a 15 month old who has NEVER slept longer than 3 hours at a time (and those were good nights), while my child before him slept 8+ hour stretches by the time he was 5 months old. My other 2 were somewhere in between. She will only be a baby for such a short time in the totality of her life. Breath her in and bask in her babiness for as long as you can. My eldest is going to turn 10 in a few days and I wouldn't mind to have one of those sleepless nights when he was a baby back because now he's all grown up (or thinks he is anyway) and acts as though he doesn't need me for anything. =( Until he wants to talk me into buying something for him....
Babies are physiologically made to sleep in REM throughout the night in order for brain reparation. All day long they are bombarded with a million new sensations, pictures, words, motions, sounds, movements, etc etc etc etc. During naps they are so PHYSICALLY exhausted so they sleep in DEEP sleep. At night though, their brain puts their body in REM or light sleep. That is the only sleep in which their brains can repair, sort out new information and build new cells. Any noise, even their own breathing, can wake them from this. It's unfortunate but it is how they develop!
Also, babies are more comfortable with mom and or dad because during the day you give them comfort and reassurance. At night, alone in their crib, they don't get that which is why it is so difficult for them to get back to sleep after the inevitable waking. My husband and our son share a bed at night, it's their time to bond, snuggle etc as I am home all day with him. This way, I get a good nights sleep and daddy and baby spend much needed time together (even if they're just sleeping!).
Remember, it won't last forever and you're DEFINITELY not alone!
Nikki - posted on 01/02/2011
I agree with everything Renae said, that's exactly what I did with my daughter, I wasn't comfortable leaving her to cry, I found a gentle sleep method, very effective and less distressing on both of us. I particularly agree with ensuring the have a good routine and sleep during the day, so many people told me to cut my daughters sleeps during the day, I refused to it doesn't work, in fact it backfires, they become over tired and harder to settle at night. My daughter is now 14 months and she has a great routine, 2x 1.5-2 hour sleeps during the day and usually 12-14 hours at night, my daughter is not a big eater, so there are often days where is has one feed during the night, which I don't mind. Good luck
Gina - posted on 01/01/2011
with my first...I did the several times a night feeding and comforting thing. the first time he slept through the night was when he was almost 3!!!!! babies get accustomed to routine and don't like to stray from it. if they know they will be held and comfort fed everytime the cry-that's what they will do. my youngest son is now 14mths...and he sleeps 11 hours straight every night and has since he was 6 mth(except while on travel...). at 6 months thier bellies are big enough to eat enough to sleep at least 6-8 hours through the night. it's hard to hear them cry...and maybe it's easier in the moment to just hold them or feed them to sleep, but in the long run it's much harder on them, and you.
I do agree with making sure they are not wet, teething,ect. but if it's an ongoing issue....then it's just them wanting the middle if the night comfort.
Cassie - posted on 01/01/2011
At certain ages they are suppose to get at least a certain amount of hours. I would check with your pediatrician to see what it is bc I don't remember. I do agree with Sarah about not letting her cry to the point of her being distressed
She should have her different cries so you can tell when something is really wrong. I know my neighbor who just had a baby always puts her daughter to bed in her crib even if it's for naps. So now that's really the only place she will sleep which is good. You may have to try a few different things to see what works for you and her.
Tiffany - posted on 01/01/2011
For me, it was getting her on a scheduled routine. Is she waking up crying because she is wet, hungry, uncomfortable? Is she teething? Acid reflux? There are so many reasons she could be waking up. Does she nap too long during the day? Try to figure out those things first, and then getting her on a schedule should help. We give my daughter a nap around the same time every day and we cut out her 2nd nap around 7 months or so. We put her to bed at the same time every night. The only time she strays from this schedule is if somethings wrong, like if she is sick or teething.
Sarah - posted on 01/01/2011
I have the same problem! My daughters 9 months old and just wakes up for comfort feeds all night. I've decided that its easiest for me to just feed her and then she just goes back to sleep. :)
I would have to disagree with letting her cry and scream until she falls asleep, though it may work sometimes, it has been proven than it can in some cases, be psychologically damaging to the baby, I don't mean to offend anyone saying that, its just mine, and my MCH nurse and GPs opinions, but i guess everyone has their own.
Do you know why she is waking up so much?
Cassie - posted on 01/01/2011
Is she crying because she needs to be changed or fed? If when she cries you change her and feed her then just lay her back down. She'll cry for awhile but as long as she doesn't get the hysterical crying she'll be ok. When she gets the hysterical crying then pick her up so she doesn't think she is abandoned then calm her down and immediately lay her back down. I always stayed in the doorway where she could see me for a few nights and then just slowly put more space between us until she would go to sleep on her own. It didn't take more then a week or two. Good luck!!
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