How can I get my toddler to quit screaming all the time?

Laurie - posted on 07/30/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )

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She has started this phase of just screaming, she screams when she is happy, sad, upset at all, it is just wearing on everyone's nerves.

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Valerie - posted on 08/06/2009

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I'm right there with you! My son is 13 months old and he screams with the highest pitch scream you can think of! It rings in my ears it's so loud. I tell him NO NO and he usually smiles at me and does it again. I am really hoping it is a stage that will pass very soon. I also say shhh and show him how to whisper. He hasn't figured it out yet, but I hope he does soon. My other two didn't do this, so I'm new to this one.

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I just let my daughter scream when it's in joy or play. I don't want her to loose her spirit. The only time she gets a no is when she does it in anger or is having a fit. If n doesn't work then she gets a time out. The biggest key is not yelling at her in anger cause she than learns that is how one acts when they are mad.Oh, and my daughter is 2.

Erin - posted on 03/04/2013

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Put your foot down that screaming in the house or car is not acceptable. Don't let others make you feel like punishing for habitually ignoring this rule is wrong. It can be very difficult to get this to stop because they often do it almost uncontrollably but still foot down on the ground and you can nip it in the bud eventually.

Victoria - posted on 01/08/2013

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Whatever you do don't tell the shhh. My 2 yr old now uses that on us when we try and tell her to do something and/or to be quiet. It is quite disturbing!

Casey - posted on 07/31/2009

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My daughters was never much of screamer - but she did go thru a phase - and even now at 4 1/2 can be really rowdy. When she was younger i used to say ouch, that hurts mummies ears! and she would be concerned that she had hurt mummys ears and it didn't go on from there.

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Laura - posted on 03/05/2013

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I think around 18 months is a hard age, just because little ones can't communicate what they want, or need or much at all. I do notice the more my kids can communicate the less screaming there seems to be. At 18 months I'm not sure a child can really understand a time-out to much. Trying to help them get words or signs for things they may need or want. I don't do much signs with my kids, but I have done please and more and its helps so much with the screaming because when they want something I at least know they want something because they sign please or more. Hope this helps.

Ann - posted on 03/04/2013

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I'm in the same boat. I've tried what seems to be everything. I've done the time-outs, speaking to her politely yet sternly, trying to show the difference between an outdoor voice and an indoor voice, and yet she still screams at absolutely everything. The only time she's not screaming is when she's eating or out in public. I just wish there was a better and easier way to get her to channel her frustration into something else.

Theresa - posted on 08/27/2009

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I have 3 girls ages 13, 10 and 18 months... they all did it and sometimes still do. I agree we only stop it when they are angry. The two older ones we just tell them to turn their volume controll down...lol

Valerie - posted on 08/06/2009

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I will add that I only try to stop him when he is doing it in anger. Playing and squealing is just fine. If it gets too loud and do remind him to shhh. I also have a very hard time not yelling over him to stop yelling. It is so hard when he is screaming so loudly that he can't even hear me. I have to remind myself that I am showing him that it's really OK to yell when I do, and that is the opposite of what I'm trying to teach him. I have to make myself get up and go to him and calmly tell him to stop. I've realized that I'm a little lazy when it comes to things like that, but then later on it comes back to bite me!

Leah - posted on 08/02/2009

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ahhh sounds like she has discovered she has a voice , it's surely just a phase, and will eventually pass , if she is old enough, try giving her cheerio's or something else safe to chew on and divert her thought's of screaming .... Best of Luck!!

Laurie - posted on 08/02/2009

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Thank you all for the advice. I forgot to put that my child is only 18 mos old, but some of the advice was very helpful. Thank you to everyone who commented.

Jennifer - posted on 08/01/2009

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like everyone else has said tell her we use indoor quiet voices inside and when your outside let her scream so she knows the difference between indoor and out. when you go to the park if she wants to let loose let her your outside. if she does scream inside tell her no then ignore it. dont make a fuss over it. best of luck and if all else fails you could always invest in a good pair of ear plugs. lol

Jane - posted on 07/31/2009

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it all depends on the situation. they can't express themselves so they get frustrated or they've found out they can scream so they do or they test the waters. i tell my 2 year old that she doesn't have to scream, just tell me what she needs. eventually it worked and now when she starts to freak out, i ask her what she needs help w/and she tells me. or if she's screaming just to scream, i scream louder than her and it gets a giggle and she's done. but when she goes up to her sleeping sister and screams in her face, she gets a timeout. (she actually told my husband last night that he was supposed to make her sit on the step after she screamed in his face.)

Vicki - posted on 07/31/2009

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my daughter has just started to do the same thing... She does it when she doesn't want to do anything or if I tell her no for somthing. I have just been ignoring her when she is screaming then when she has stopped I then engage with her again. It seem to be working as when she realises I am not bothered by the screaming she is stopping so they are becomming shorter and shorter!

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im afraid your toddler is screaming all the time because she is just being a toddler.. please dont put your daughter in timeout for screaming with delight/ sadness or when she is angry.. she is just trying to express herself.. after all she cant string together a sentence to tell you what she is thinking/ feeling.. try getting down to her level.. a soft ''shhh'' and say ''are you sad?.. can you say sad?'' and the same when happy or angry.. soon she may learn to say those words when the time is appropriate rather than screaming.. i think its better than punishing with a timeout just for trying to tell you something... HTH :)

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Tell her that screaming is allowed OUTSIDE only..."go ahead baby, and yell all you want, but outside on the porch. Mama will even put a chair out here for you to sit on." As long as she is no longer getting an emotional response from you, it might loose the appeal.

Amanda - posted on 07/30/2009

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Tell her "No, we don't scream in the house, we use inside/quiet/soft voices. When she does it again, tell her if she wants your attention she needs to stop screaming and use indoor/quiet/soft voices and then just ignore it. Mostly, they usually want the attention.

Jennifer - posted on 07/30/2009

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I would try to tell he "no" really sternly and remind her that it's quite voice in the house. If she keeps streaming right after you do that put her in a time out for a minute, maybe that will help???

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im afraid your toddler is screaming all the time because she is just being a toddler.. please dont put your daughter in timeout for screaming with delight/ sadness or when she is angry.. she is just trying to express herself.. after all she cant string together a sentence to tell you what she is thinking/ feeling.. try getting down to her level.. a soft ''shhh'' and say ''are you sad?.. can you say sad?'' and the same when happy or angry.. soon she may learn to say those words when the time is appropriate rather than screaming.. i think its better than punishing with a timeout just for trying to tell you something... HTH :)

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