How can I make friends as a stay at home mom?

Crystal - posted on 01/23/2012 ( 30 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone! I am currently a stay at home mom of three children, and I really miss having friends!! I love staying at home with my babies but I often feel lonley, bored, and kind of isolated from the world! I have tried talking to a couple moms at my daughters school or at the park but with no success other than a quick conversation, it seems most of the moms I run into work full time. I dont have a clue how to go about meeting people anymore, it was easy back when I worked and was a part of society but now I feel lost in this department! Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated, I enjoy being able to speak to other people on the internet from time to time but an in person friendship is much better and something I truly miss! By the way I live in Gulfport, MS so if anyone lives in the same area and would like to maybe meet up for a playdate with the kids and get to know one another that would be great, or if someone knows of any kind of mom groups in the area (I have looked but have not come across any). Thank you in advance for any help anyone is able to provide me with!!

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Beth - posted on 09/12/2013

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MOMs Club International. If they have a chapter near you I HIGHLY recommend them to find other SAHMs :) Good luck! https://momsclub.org/

Jessica - posted on 12/28/2013

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I am moving to Oklahoma City from Los Angeles, CA and will be a stay at home mom to my 3 month old baby girl. I week know no-one but my husband's ex baby momma, lkl. Would love to meet other moms in the area and make some much needed friends....if anybody is from the area please do not hesitate to contact me :)

DeAnn - posted on 03/08/2013

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I think I saw another reply about meetup.com. It's the BEST site ever! It was created for this exact reason! It's really hard to make friends as an adult for many reasons now days for all kinds of people with different interests! You can go there & put in your city & interests (stay at home mom & even more if you like) and join one or more groups & find the ones that interest you. I LOVE my group! I have made Many close friends through it & meet new people all the time. We do so many things together & you pick & choose what you want to do. Also, if there isn't a group in your area, or if there isn't one that fits you... YOU can even create your OWN group if you like & others can join! There are so many people out there that are just like you! :)

Sheila - posted on 03/07/2013

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i have the same problem..and the two or three friends say oh i will come over on this day and never show up. I live in indiana and just really don't get out much. I have a 13 month old the youngest of five. i am done now. I would just like to talk to someone other than a 13 month old. Don't get me wrong i love staying home with him and being here when my daughter gets home from school. Yet at the same time i do get tired of doing the same thing over and over day after day.

Aimee-Grace - posted on 01/24/2012

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I found other stay at home moms in my area through www.meetup.com I would look there to see if there are any groups in your area. I also found a scrapbooking (my hobby) group that meets once a month and provides daycare. It really helped me connect with others, I hope this helps you. Good Luck!

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Naila - posted on 01/02/2014

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Hi, your problem is very similar to my own. I am a proud mother of a 2 years old boy and my immediate family is in Pakistan. So, I am quite lonely here without any friends and family. I have just taken one semester of my MPH program and then skipped 3 because of my son. Initially, it was tough of being alone all the time but then I have found a couple of activities for me like reading books. Now books are my best friends.

Sylvia - posted on 09/07/2013

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I am the only one of my close friends to quit working and I made new friends through preschool/school by looking out for other stay at home moms. I chat with moms all the time and organize playdates for their friends. Moms come over for coffee and always reciprocate by inviting me back. And what do you know.. some of them have become instant friends, others not so much. After all, you can't click all the time with everybody. But I find that this worked wonders for me.

Shelleygrantski - posted on 09/03/2013

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So many of these comments are so similar to my life,want to make friends. I'm in Augusta,Ga (Evans actually)

Asia - posted on 04/18/2013

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Hello Crystal I know your post was a while ago but there will be a Mother's Day event on May 4th 2013 you can get a massage go shopping,food, etc. the website is www.themotherload.us it will be a great way to meet other moms. It will be in the gulfport area as well :)

Tonia - posted on 03/05/2013

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Look for a mops (moms of preschoolers) group. They have a website mops.org that can help you find one near you.

Shelby - posted on 02/26/2013

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I totally know what you are talking about. My husband works evenings so I have all afternoon and evening with just me and the kiddos (and a couple hours of that is nap time). I started working from home and this has helped a lot. I work the hours my kids are napping and then have time to play with them when they get up. Some of the women I work with have kids the same age as mine and have become great friends as well. I also have started venturing out to play groups and other mom's groups (this is big for me I am pretty shy). I have also started reaching out to people at our church and have invited some of the ladies from there over for craft nights and other things like that. I hope this helps.

Rachael - posted on 02/25/2013

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I live in Biloxi and would love to make friends. I have a 3 year old so if you want to have a
Playdate let me know. We would love to get out of the house.

Maria - posted on 10/17/2012

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i feel the same way i just started feeling like this and i dont like it i dont know what to do .. :(

Tori - posted on 10/17/2012

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You are not alone! I am soooooo lonely and I am a stay at home mom of twins . When i found out I was having twins everyone was so negative already and then when I had them I was basically disowned by all my "friends". Having such a hard time now finding new friends! I call so many old friends all the time and am lucky if they answer or call back! I might try and start my own play date group like someone here suggested. I hope you find someone to be friends with cause God knows I feel your pain!

Jessica - posted on 07/18/2012

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Similar situation with me, are you still in Gulfport? My son, Alex, is two and neither one of us know anyone worth time around here, lol. Hope to hear from you!

Jessica - posted on 07/18/2012

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Similar situation with me, are you still in Gulfport? My son, Alex, is two and neither one of us know anyone worth time around here, lol. Hope to hear from you!

Ashley - posted on 06/27/2012

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In a sad way it does make me feel etter that i am not the only one with this prolem... I know how you feel I moved to a whole new city for my husands work... I love staying home with my kids, sometimes i would love to have girl talk or hang out once in a while....

TaNisha - posted on 06/27/2012

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i know exactly how you feel because i'm in the same situation. too bad i'm in nashville ,tn but i would still like to become friends since i don't have any either. lol

Lisamarie - posted on 06/19/2012

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Not sure it will help but we have local SureStart Centers for mummy and babies but we're in England, not sure if you have anywhere like that where you are?

Mackenzie - posted on 06/18/2012

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Hi Crystal! I have had the same problem living in NC. Before my son was born I was always busy and sinve then I've been a stay at home. I love getting to spend time with my son but it geys lonely.But as of the 7th of july my husband will be stationed at Keesler! We were down there a couple weeks ago to find an apartment. I loved the atmosphere but its bigger than Im used to and Im suddenly worried that I wont be able to make friends and meet people. There seems to be so much great stuff for kids down there but its never fun to not have friends to bring along. Im hoping I will be able to meet other moms! If i find a connect group for moms ill let you know!

Valerie - posted on 01/27/2012

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I had the same problem and totally understand how you. My husband and I moved to a small town where groups were already established. However, my husband is a professor, so the university hired several other new faculty this year as well. In order to meet people, we did a new faculty night at our home. Most of the people who showed were the ones with kids and were in the same boat as us- no friends. So, after meeting a few moms, we just made our own play dates. It took a lot of initiative on my part, but I now have several friends.

Another way I met friends was through some of the local churches. I'm particularly religious, but there are several SAHMs in the area and they meet for all kinds of things...parenting classes, support, etc. I would check and see if there is anything like that going on.

What about a local library? Are there any activities you can take your kids to there and hopefully meet someone. If you are the new person, usually you have to be the one to start a new friendship.

I also don't know how old your kiddos are, but what about a friend from school? Maybe as parents you could meet.

Or if there are other kids in the neighborhood, could you have a potluck or BBQ sometime? My husband is super social and I've had to work at it, but having get-togethers seems to help meet people, especially if they have kids to.

I also agree with other moms. Start your own group. Post it in a local paper or online. Put up flyers at a local YMCA, library, church, grocery store. Hang in there and try not to get discouraged. It's hard finding that right fit but if you keep at it, someone will come along :)

DiDi - posted on 01/26/2012

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I have the same problem, I just moved here ( London, Ontario) and met few moms in the park talked exchanged phone numbers tried to reach out for some with no luck, some work and others go to school so very busy! I miss having my friends! I just started taking my son to martial arts! And I will register for an ice skating class!

Crystal - posted on 01/26/2012

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Well only one my children are in school, she is in Kindergaten, and I have met a few of the moms of kids in her class and been to a couple of birthday parties and while they were nice people their really wasnt enough common interests or anything that we would ever hold a conversation beyond our kids.



None of my kids currently play sports or anything, the boys are 3 and my daughter is 5, and all the sports/activities they are interested in doing they are to young for or its very expensive to go only 2, maybe 3 times a month.



I hadnt thought about joining like community/volunteer groups it is something I will have to look into and see what I can find.

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You have to meet and chat with hundreds of moms before you find a few that you really click with and want to be actual friends with.

Talk to moms at school, at the park. Take your kids to local storytimes (check bookstores, coffee shops, and libraries) and talk to moms there. Go to a "mommy & Me" class once or twice a week and talk to moms there. Do your kids play sports? Offer to be team mom and talk to moms at games and practices.

You can also volunteer in the community to meet others--they are less likely to have kids the same age, but you are more likely to have something in common if you meet doing something you are both passionate about. Meals-on-wheels and adopt-a-grandparent, are great if you need to take your little ones with you.

Cmoline32 - posted on 01/24/2012

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I'm having the same problem. We recently moved to a new town and I'm really struggling with not knowing anyone. It's a small town area and seems like people already have their own little groups of friends established. I run an in-home child daycare and I can't even get anyone to show interest in that. Very frustrating.

Meg - posted on 01/23/2012

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Hi Crystal,



For me nothing really existed in my area either. So I started 3 groups! If your comfortbale with that, pick some hobbies or interests and start a group, post ads at the grocery, library, on kijiji, etc, and you'll be surprised how many people there are just waiting for someone to take the initiative. For me I started with a nature walk mommy group weekly, then did a book club (though we rarely discuss the books :) and a toddler imagination/music play time group. People come and go and it takes a bit of organization, but I wouldn't have met any of them otherwise and I'm now close with 4 and we even get in the odd girls outing. Its so worth giving it a try! Best of luck!

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