how do i deal with a liar

Terina - posted on 05/22/2012

thanks ladies, your all pretty much saying the same thing,which gives my answer i spose, we happen to walk home together sometimes as thats our route home but yes i think ill make a concious effort to stear clear if i can ( aprat fromt he walk home which cant be helped) but also makes it quite difficult when she shares some of the same freinds of which some dont know the extent of her lies or even shes lied at all .

Stifler's - posted on 05/22/2012

I would avoid her indefinitely.

Amanda - posted on 05/21/2012

Personally I would give her a wide berth.
I can't stand liars and if it was me she wouldn't be my friend anymore.

My dad was (and probably still is) a compulsive liar. They do it so much that they actually believe what they are saying is true and the worst part is people belive them.

Sammy - posted on 05/21/2012

I have had several friends that were pathological liars. The best advice I could give you is not to confront them as they do not really know what the truth is and will only make up more lies to cover the ones they have already told. The best thing you can do for yourself is to report her if you think there is harm to the child and if not then don't worry about reporting her and then distance yourself as much as possible from her as you can. If she asks why you are not having as much to do with her just explain as calmly and as nicely as you can your suspicions and how it worries you.

Chelly - posted on 05/21/2012

Personally wouldn't confront. I know several compulsive liars that will lie about what they ate for lunch, as if I care if they had chicken or beef! Personally I would distance myself from this woman as if you confront her it will be a confrontation and she will dig her heels in and make up more lies to save herself. Better to leave it be. If you were family or friends for longer I'd suggest otherwise but being that you don't know each other well you may want to simply put some space between the two of you.

Tabitha - posted on 05/21/2012

I don't know, I can't figure it out either.

Terina - posted on 05/21/2012

why do they do it ! its sick , i beleiv in karma and thats the worrying thing...... boy that cried wolf !

Tabitha - posted on 05/21/2012

Also, an allergy test is several pricks of the skin with various allergens on them, not a blood test...lol. She really is something else. I have a friend like that, she embellishes everything! We don't talk much, she knows I'll call her out on the fib so she steers clear of me when she's tellin a whopper!

Terina - posted on 05/21/2012

ive also looked up compulsive and pathelogical lying in adults which seems more applicable as she isnt actually harming her child ( i dont think ) but definalty likes the attention she obviuosly gets fromt the fact that she has such bad luck ! theres no particular thing she lying about it dosent always involve the poor heatly of her son. or health at actaully shes been known to say police have had to be called because of some incident at her house where the kids dad turned up and what i can make out munchausens is based on illness where as the majority of hers is but not always

Terina - posted on 05/21/2012

yes and a grave site too ! i have thought about that but its getting her mum without her there which is the difficult bit. i know for fact that these are made up a couple of times i had to remind her she had scans, she dais the baby was born with no skin on her head yet she had blonde hair!? never saw any scan pics, never spoke about the baby moving until we asked her, the boyfriend i believe was completly made up soldiers dont go missing in afgan and they decide to look 3 days later and then find them on camp the whole time ! her son has got asthma but if he has it that bad why the hell does she leave him with me without a pump and let him run home i nver once saw this kid out of breath im sure if a kid with astma needs a nebulzer to breathe at night would weaze at a 10 min run home ! he has no scars from surgery if he has hole in the heart im am aware they can do catheteer repair through the groin though,her sons twin wass till born called josh and yet she says how she wouldve love the name josh for her son jake which makes no sense what so ever. and they didnt know there was a twin until the day jake was born, yet she brought double of everything!? the nan and her cancer issue... she apparently has prostate cancer,women dont have a prostate! her son had to have allergy testing 3x they tried to get blood with no sucess she rekons he saw the xray bed and fitted when i said to her they dont do allergies in an xray room she replied no the door was open and he freaked when he saw a bed, blood tests in out nearest hospital are near the entrnce and x rays are near a and e . when in said if it was that seriuos theyd have sedated by now she rekons they tried to do that too but he dont like needles they dont sedate kids of 5yrs old with needles they do it with gas mask ! i really do think she has this munchasens but where do we go fromt ere !

Tabitha - posted on 05/21/2012

If you know her mom well enough, I would talk to her. Just to mention it. I wouldn't press too much. But it wouldn't hurt to mention your concerns and let her go from there. I would start out by asking how "Nan" is doing with chemo or ask her if her daughter needs anything to help ease the pain of losing an infant. If those things are true, she's going to tell you how they're doing. If they're lies, she's goin to ask you what the hell you're talking about.

People who lie about their lives all the time can't keep it straight! I'm not surprised that she forgot about her baby's funeral since there was no funeral. Wouldn't there have been an announcement in the newspaper, a listing for friends and family to come show their condolences?

Terina - posted on 05/21/2012

thats true, i read that link its one i came across before when i had my own suspisions on the fact she may have munchousins, i dont think she would actually harm her son but i know shes always making appointments at the doctors and hospitals ( or so she says) but myself and another close freind have noticed others aking questions now because we know her they are obviously noticing too! the day of the funeral ( of her made up baby ) she was at the school laughing and joking and i had invited her round for coffee and her reply was yes ill be round in morning and suddleny said oh no i cant actually i have got olivias funeral ! who forgets their own daughters funeral for christ sake ! i know her mum do you think thats an option to go down to talk to her mum but i wouldnt wanna upset her mum though? but at the same time her mum may know she has this problem

Tabitha - posted on 05/21/2012

The kids can be friends at school. I'm not friends with all of the parents of my children's friends. And if it comes down to it and she won't allow them to be friends after you've stopped hanging out with her, he'll make new friends.

Terina - posted on 05/21/2012

its hard as our kids are in the same class and are freinds so would be such a shame for my son to not have him round to play because his mum cant stop lying but i had already thought about the munchousin syndrome , theres always something badly wrong nt just your everyday mishaps. will read your link

Tabitha - posted on 05/21/2012

Call her out on it then leave her by the wayside. Who needs friends like that? It sounds like a case of Munchausen by proxy which can be dangerous for her child if someone doesn't catch on. I've dropped the link below, let me know what you think. If you think her child could be in danger, make a report. If you think she's just lying but not really endangering him, just stop being friends with her. When she asks why, tell her the truth(something she probably wouldn't recognize). Other than reporting it, I wouldn't waste anymore time on her.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/M%C3%BCncha...