How do I handle the whining anymore?

Kristina - posted on 01/07/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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You would think after two and a half years I would be able to tune out the whining/screaming/crying. Somehow it has gotten worse, and I have developed less tolerance for it. Sometimes I will just start crying becasue I can't stand it anymore. Any time I need to get something done whether it is help my daughter w/ a hmwrk problem, open a drawer to put the utensils away, close the refrigerator door, there is a distinct possibility he will be right there complaining. He wakes up in a terrible mood and will climb into bed and start kicking me in the ribs. I stand up and hold him- he gets mad. I sit down to hold him, he gets mad. I ask him if he is hungry and he answers no. I understand he is only 2 1/2yrs. old, I guess I just need some advice on how to handle this behavior all day.

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LeahDawn - posted on 01/09/2011

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Just wondering if he is talking yet? If he is tell him to use his words. My son is 1 1/2y and knows some sign language. When he is really being a "pill" I take him to his room and tell him to stay in ther till he can talk to me. Usually he is just frustrated and can't express himself or is tired. He has learned to calm down then "talk" to me. Start now woth a no tolecene(sp) to the behavoir and he will start to self regulate. I also agree that he might just be bored some of the time. Ask him if there is something that he wants to do while you are helping with homework. Hope things get better soon! Keep us posted.

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Shannon - posted on 01/09/2011

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um yea what they said and just watch it cause if he get away with it now... someday he will be bigger tan you... also not to scare you but my frends son is like 10 and dose that... he has some kind of disability check with your doc if it dosnt get better. most children straighten up with consistancy

Julie - posted on 01/09/2011

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2.5 is a tough age. It seems like 6 months after a birthday the young ones go through a rough phase where nothing makes them happy. Then they get to their birthday and they are angels again...at least that is what I have found so far. Remind yourself that even though he isn't a baby any more he still goes through major developmental changes and because he is trying to figure things out, he is moody because it can be frustrating, overwhelming and scary. Maybe if you empathize with him to show him you understand that he is frustrated he might relax a little bit? Or breathe a sigh or relief knowing that you understand what he is going through? It is hard as heck when you are in the middle of it, but hang in there. It will end soon.

Kristina - posted on 01/09/2011

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Boredom probably has a lot to do w/it. It's tough to getout right now w/all the snow(and he hates the snow), I am looking for play/activity groups - he needs other kids to play w/ for sure. Thanks!

Rene' - posted on 01/07/2011

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Maybe he is bored... I have a friend whose children whine and throw fits and my daughter who is 5 does the same thing... Most of the time it's because she has not been outside to let her energy out... My friends children do the same thing.

Jennifer - posted on 01/07/2011

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tell him you can't understand him when he is whining and then show him the voice to use, respond to his request when he changes the way he asks... put him straight down when he kicks you or take him back to his bed and tell him he can lay with you when he is ready to be nice and not kick. make sure you have an activity ready for him when you start homework with your daughter and really try not to stress about it, he knows he is getting a response from you negative or not when he whines, give it your best shot to ignore it and remind him the right voice to use when wanting things. good luck...having kids is tough

Monica - posted on 01/07/2011

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When my guy acts like that, I tell him he needs to go lay down cause he's acting tired. He either goes and gets in his bed, or he straightens up cause he'd rather stay up and play. It may work so well cause mine is older than yours, but I would still try it, if only to give yourself some quiet time.

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