How do you avoid being a frumpy mom?

Karla - posted on 03/19/2013 ( 13 moms have responded )

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What is your routine to not becoming a frumpy mom? Please feel free to post links to makeup or clothes that you feel are comfy but not frumpy.

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Tina Marie - posted on 03/19/2013

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I always kept a 'list of rules' for myself. ( I learned it from reading a Woman Hospitality book many years ago, because I didn't know anything about being a mother, so I read all kinds of books. :) Make up your own to meet your home's needs.
Homemaking was my career, I also homeschooled so here's an example;
1). I always got ready first in the morning. ( It was my time. I refused to own a pair of sweatpants, still don't. and dressed for work).
2). I learned to get clothes, makeup ect. ready the night before, just like kid's clothes and husband's work clothes. (I had worked ina bank that wore uniforms listed on a chart so I didn't have to waste time picking it out in the morning. I'm lousy at that and would take a half hour just looking at my clothes.lol)
3). I always exercise a minimum of 30 mins per day. Many times I had to break it up in 10 min, incriments like leg lifts while folding laundry.
4). I never allowed myself to go over what I referred to as my 5lb winter weight gain.
5). I learned that I was the teacher of my children's health and grooming example, so I kept that in mind when I didn't want to be moving in the morning. lol.
6). I still recall reading that if my spouse left for work in the morning and I looked a mess and he came home to seeing me looking like a tired mess, then he subconsciously he would think of me as a mess. (Family and friends would too).

I learned that if I wanted others to take me seriously, then I needed to do it first. That was my motivation. My husband works and so do I. :) Hope this helped.

Lisa - posted on 04/01/2013

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At first with a newborn it's nearly impossible (for me anyways) to get dressed and shower in the same day never mind pulling together an actual outfit and doing my hair but once your babies start to become a little more predictable I think looking good is important.
I only wash my hair 2 or 3 times a week so that really cuts down on my getting ready because it takes ages to blowdry and I don't like to risk waking the baby with a blowdryer.
I wear tinted moisturizer with SPF - it evens out my face enough that if I don't have time for actual makeup it will do. If I'm going out I'll wear mascara and I love blue or purple eyeliner. It's so simple but looks like you've spent time on your makeup.
I have 1 pair or jeans that I wear practically everyday because they fit perfectly and look good with a blouse or a hoodie with my converse or heels.

I ALWAYS paint my toes.

When I really need to look good I bring my kids (1&3 ) into the shower with me then I let them play in the tub while I get my hair and face on. They will stay in there for ages playing happily and i can keep an eye on them while I get ready. Then when I take them out they're nice and clean and don't put their dirty paws all over me :)

Julia - posted on 03/31/2013

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1) DRESSES! I have an arsenal of dresses. No worries about finding a top and bottom that match. Knit dresses with empire waists are very forgiving if your weight fluxutes a bit and they flatter every figure. In the winter I buy 6 or 8 pairs of black tights once the weather warms bare legs. If you have on a dress people subconsciously think you look nice or took time on your appearance even though it is easier than finding a shirt to match your yoga pants.
2) get a good Donna Reed apron that covers top and bottom. Wear it when you are doing your kitchen stuff so your clothes stay nice
3) tinted moisturizer with SPF, 24 hour superstay lipstick (I swear it will still be on the next morning if you don't take it off) and mascara. Blush does an amazing job of kicking your simple make up routine up a notch and in a pinch you can yes it on your eyes too.
4) I wash my hair at night and let it dry while I sleep then I can just run a strightrner through it or curl the ends depending on if I want a sleek or playful look. I keep my hair long and the cut sinple because I find it is easier to maintain. On days where I a am really pressed for time I pull the sides back with a pretty clip or I do a ponytail and put a nice peice of hair Jewlery on it so it looks polished.

Louvelle - posted on 03/22/2013

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I struggled with this too at first. Definitely living by the concept that you have to put yourself FIRST in order to take care of those you love is KEY. If you make sure your basic needs and desires are met, you are in a much better frame of mind to face the world and be happier about meeting the needs of your family. For me at first, I didn't think I cared about how I'd look after baby, but in the end I found that something as simple as taking 5minutes to do eye makeup to cover up my tiredness works wonders. I shower at night now instead of mornings ( no time) and make sure to schedule pedicures, waxings or haircuts. I got rid if frumpy clothes-not necessary! i get my son and i dressed before we go down to breakfast so else we might stay in pjs all day. i have long hair which is easy to pull up or tie back with a pretty scarf for those days i havent had time to wash it. Accessories ( such as necklaces, scarves, etc) go a long way to dressing up a plain outfit. Being a stay at home mom is one of the most demanding jobs ever-we deserve to take some time to take care of ourselves :-)

Julia - posted on 04/01/2013

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Christine. Try Hanes.com. They are having a sale. Really cute simple knit dresses very inexpensive. They have one with an elastic empire waist with pockets that I'm going to pick up in at least 2 colors. I LOVE a dress with pockets. You need them when you have kids.

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Julia - posted on 03/31/2013

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Also, buy a shower cap and don't wash your hair everyday. Second day hair styles better anyway. I shower daily but only wash my hair twice a week. This cuts down serious time because styles last longer. This might not work if your hair is thin or your scalp produces a lot of oils.

Pammie - posted on 03/30/2013

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I am a stay at home mom, and gained weight after having all 3 of my children. I recently have began losing weight from a product that boosts my metabolism. I have awesome energy and I have lost 13 pounds in a little over two weeks. Now I am able to buy clothes that I feel more confident in. I havent' felt this good in years!

Christine - posted on 03/23/2013

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Ive definitely gained a few pounds after having a baby and I have the same problem. Most of my tops are nursing tops that are worn out and linted after being washed multiple times. Many of my jeans are too small for me so I wear tights or yoga pants most of the time. I have a whole beautiful wardrobe that I can barely wear because I don't want any stains on them lol.
Besides needing to buy a new wardrobe, these are the things I do to try and not look like a frazzled new mom :)
I try to keep my hair appointments. I found that when I get regular hair cuts like once every couple months, I feel less weighed down. We make hair appointments as a family and my husband and I take turns watching the baby.
I found exercising really improved my mood and made me more confident of myself regardless of the number on the scale. I try very hard to go for a jog every day on the treadmill for half an hour after the baby goes to sleep. I do my stretches and I get some time to myself everyday.

Thanks for posting. I'm really enjoying reading how the rest of the moms get around looking so organized:)

Michele - posted on 03/22/2013

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I'm a SAHM and I don't use that as an excuse to live in oversized sweats and have no makeup/hair routine. Just because your not going to work doesn't mean you should let yourself go and be a mess because your running errands, cooking and cleaning. I have 2yr old twin boys and I always put myself together everyday, you never know who you will bump into @ the grocery store and I wouldn't want to answer the door to an unexpected guest looking like I don't care about myself.
I take a shower and wash my hair @ night, I always have everyone's clothes laid out @ night so we are dressed first thing in the morning and I've simplified my hair and makeup routine so it only takes a few minutes.
I also make sure to keep current with makeup, hair and clothes. Not to say I am driven by all the latest trends but keeping in style and not getting stuck in a particular era keeps you updated and fresh looking. I MAKE time to go to the salon for regular cuts and color and I keep my nails and toes manicured, even if I have to do it myself!
You can be comfortable without looking sloppy, it just takes finding what works for your age and body type and not tying to cover up because you don't know what else to do.

Jessica - posted on 03/22/2013

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Hi Karla.
I'm a mum of four, two in high school, two in primary. I don't have a lot of time to put an outfit together, most mornings I do the school run in my gym gear but I always make sure that my hair is pulled back neatly, wear a little bit of foundation & blush (not too much I'm in gym gear!) & a bit of mascara. Later on I change into a 'proper outfit'. You can pull together some really nice outfits with just having the basics. Today for example I had on a pair of skinny jeans (don't have to be skinny) a nice white 3/4 sleeve top (a nice button up white shirt is always great) & a pair of leopard print ballet flats. Again my hair was done nicely. Even pulled back in a pony with a nice clip is great. A little eye liner, eye shadow & lipstick. (the more natural looking the better!) I always try to have my nails nice, usually clear but toes a vibrent red or other colour.
Tights are great too & are everybody's best friend! Wear them with a long shirt & boots, a shirt dress (hides wobbly bits!) or a mid length jumper with boots. Just remember that your top has to cover your butt & just a bit longer!!
Try googling some of your fav celebs in their casual style, what to wear with leggings, ect. I also have my eyebrows waxed regularly & sometimes my eye lashes tinted.
Good luck with everything!!

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