How does everyone like being stay at home mommys?

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Sarah - posted on 01/21/2010

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i love not missing stuff with my children, but it is very stressfull and my hubby seems to not give a crap that i need a break at times. he is no help at all. i can never have my whole house clean. that is the only part that sucks it just seems like i am everyones maid and people dont apprehciate me enough. maybe i just have the wrong husband.

Christie - posted on 01/27/2010

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Love it...wish I had an alternate lifestyle...love it...can't handle it...love it....think I am the worst mom in the world as I wish to escape....love it....wonder if all moms feel this way sometimes....love it :-) (yes, we do!)

Kathleen - posted on 01/26/2010

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Being a stay-at-home mom is the best job on the planet and I love it. However, it is also the most under-appreciated job, and women who work outside the home tend to look down on me and act as if I don't do anything other than sit around watching soap operas and eating bon-bons all day. I often say I would like to trade jobs for a week with a mom who works outside the home so she could get a real view of what a stay-at-home mom does in a week's time!

Kelly - posted on 01/25/2010

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What u can do to help it to have a lot of activities for them from the moment they get up. Have a routine dont let them do what ever they want when ever. Dont forget to include nap tme. Yes you have to be prepared but it keeps u sane. For activities google fun activities for toddlers. Mix it up cause their attention span is extremely short.
The routine will be a bit stressful to at first but you will manage and you will be in control it also helps with discipline...
TRY IT...

Katy - posted on 01/22/2010

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I love it, love it, love it! I adore my 6 month old to bits and really enjoy watching him progress each day. It's so rewarding.
However, I've not worked for the last year and it was starting to really get to me. I didn't want to go back to working for someone else, holed up in an office somewhere. Therefore I've just become a Pampered Chef consultant. (Let me know if you are interested in doing this too by the way) It's great! I get to be Katy once a week, not just mummy. I love doing the cooking demonstrations and socialising with everyone. And I'm earning my own money too. Defo a good decision. And I do it once my son is in bed, so I'm not actually missing out on anything :-)

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Michelle - posted on 06/27/2011

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Being a stay at home mom is great but not easy, especially if you're a clean and organized type of person like me. But it's the most rewarding job in the world. We do need time for ourself and it's very important to us moms to have the ME time coz it made us a better and loving mom and wife.

Kimber - posted on 06/27/2011

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Patty iam sure glad that iam not the only one that feels like that want to run away sometimes ha!!! Thanks for that !!

Kimber - posted on 06/27/2011

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I Love it with all of my heart!!!!!!! I've worked befor,and yea there are times i wish i could talk to people my own age again,and having friends to talk to and go out to lunch with,but for the most part i would not change it for the world!

Kimber - posted on 06/27/2011

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I Love it with all of my heart!!!!!!! I've worked befor,and yea there are times i wish i could talk to people my own age again,and having friends to talk to and go out to lunch with,but for the most part i would not change it for the world!

Carlene - posted on 01/30/2010

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I get stressed out sometimes, house cleaning, family, plus after school programs...not too mention sometimes i feel like I'm losing myself. I love being able to take care of my family but with a school aged daughter sometimes I feel like Id be glad to be at work with some people to talk to

Louise - posted on 01/30/2010

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I have been a stay at home mom of 5 children. It's all I ever wanted, no career could be better or more rewarding. My oldest daughters are now 15, 17, and 20, and they are great, and so thankful that I have been here to raise them! For you younger moms who are overburdened with housework, I highly recommend checking out flylady.com. And for those who are lonely, check out your local MOPS group, or other moms support group, they are everywhere these days, and SO worth getting involved in!

Kristina - posted on 01/29/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom.... The idea of missing one of those precious moments makes me cry.... Ofcourse with having four kids the oldest of which is four sometimes I think about finding a job to have some time off :)

Yuli - posted on 01/28/2010

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Enjoys it cause of the fact that i could be with my daughter especially being the first one. But at time like what everyone else is saying its STRESSFUL and alot more work then an actually job. and the worse part about it is when you clean it only last while my daughter is SLEEPING! but I LOVE IT not complaining just sharing!

Gina - posted on 01/28/2010

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I like it, but sometimes i think about going back to work. I've talked to my husband and he thinks i'm crazy and that a i don't like staying at home. I'd just like to work a couple of days. I watch my cousins little girl, but don't have any time to myself. It's not a money thing, i just would like to be with other adults once in a while and i think i would feel like my family apreciates me more.

User - posted on 01/27/2010

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I love being at home with my kids, but I am definatly feeling the money crunch from being a single income family!

Crystal - posted on 01/27/2010

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I like it, but agree with everyone else that it's stressful at times. I enjoy being able to snuggle my kids in bed in the mornings, play or just "observe" them play - watching them learn things on their own, explore and be there if they have questions. Its nice having my routine, doing things on MY time and not anyone elses (i.e. boss). Definitely have to get away for my personal space though at least once a week ... keep my sanity.. it can feel like you're all "boxed" in at home when you're there 24/7. The job never ends.

Denyse - posted on 01/27/2010

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I like being home with my daughter. I couldn't send her to daycare. Staying at home does get stressful sometimes, but I try to do a lot of things to keep us busy, like Mommy and Me and My Gym.



Sometimes things are put on hold so that I can do something for her, but I wouldn't change anything.

Lorraine - posted on 01/27/2010

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I love it because I'm home when my son gets home from school and I help him that and it doesn't bother me to laundry and make dinner. My husband didn't force me to work it was my decision to stay home.

Summer - posted on 01/27/2010

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My kids are GREAT I love them soooo much and love being with them all the time. Even when they or my day stresses me out I'll take that stress because its what I really love and always wanted to do and be! These "little days" won't be here for long! Enjoy your little rascel(s) no matter what stage of life they are in. They are gift from God- everyone of them! XoXoXo to all the kids out there!

Arielle - posted on 01/27/2010

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yea its stressful for me to right now, my daughter just turned 5 months. she is always cryin for my attention! she doesnt like me to put her down most of the time, so its hard for me to get stuff done around the house. but i am working on her to let her to let me get some stuff done during the day. she has her good and bad days, but im still hanging in there. in the mean time i learned how to do everything 1 handed! and i mean just about everything, except the dishes, and take a shower lol

Elizabeth - posted on 01/27/2010

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I am in my third year, and loving it at this point. The first year was aweful, I hated it and was (I regret to say) even a bit resentful toward my second daughter who was new born at the time. It is just so much different than working and has so many dramatic lifestyle changes that come along with the package. All in all, I love to work for my family, they are more appreciative than any boss and the bonus' with them are so much more rewarding!! It's definitely not for everyone though!!!

Terri - posted on 01/27/2010

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It is the hardest thing I have ever done but I would not let anyone else have my job!

Stephanie - posted on 01/27/2010

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i love it but sometimes it is stressful. i love being the one to teach my kids things instead of someone, read to them, sing songs with them. Know when there going to get a cold before it starts and all that wonderful things. I love when my daughter tells me she loves me, or wants to hug me,and when my son looks at me with a big smile on my face. Other times i want to run screaming from the house pulling my hair out. with the tantrums, screaming, crying, running around, continuously touching everything and no matter how many times you tell them no they still do it. but what can you do there kids, and no matter what you will always love them. I think there is always more great than bad.

Bobbi Johnson - posted on 01/27/2010

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i think being a stay at home mom is the best thing for the child and the mother. i know in some circumstances both parents have to work, but i feel if people lived a little simpler, they could enjoy their children while they were little. i worked in childcare for years and seen so many children dropped off art 6:30, 7:00 am and not picked up until 5:30 or 6:00pm. Monday through Friday. from the time they were 6 weeks old! then they go straight to kindergarten. when do the parents get to enjoy their children? they dont! by the time they get them home at night, it's time to fix dinner, do homework and baths. and if the child gets in trouble through out the day, the parents are either too tired or feels too guilty to discipline them then. i mean, they only have 2 hours with them in the evenings. who wants to spend that fussing? who wants to spend their summers in daycare? i remember being 8 and being so happy for may to get here cause all i wanted to do was sleep late and hang out at home.today's kids are in school/daycare year round! so the true question is... r we willing to sacrifice our wants for nicer cars and nicer tv's and toys more important than our childrens memories and happiness? i love my daughters more than anything, and i want them to be as happy as possible. i want to know that i did the best job possible to guide them and prepare them for the future. and i cant do that if they aren't with me. who do you want to raise your children?

Patty - posted on 01/27/2010

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Most of the time, I love it. But there are days when I want to run away and never come back!.....

Elizabeth - posted on 01/27/2010

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it does get stressful at time with trying to keep up with household chores..but i wouldnt trade it for anything in the world.i love being with my babies 24/7!!

Demetria - posted on 01/27/2010

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I lost my job when I was 5 months pregnant and I felt like crap at first. Until my daughter arrived I was obsessed with being Martha Stewart since I couldn't provide financially. My mother had drilled me over and over about being independent and not relying on my husband and I felt completely useless after losing my job. Now, I realize I have a job, and its tough as hell! My husband constantly tells me I work harder than he does. He will have a Daddy day with our little girl and he often texts me freaking out because our little girl is throwing an atomic fit. Whenever I get home he reminds me that I have a tough job and he can't believe I do it every day. The laundry sometimes takes a week ( we live in an apartment and my daughter is afraid of the basement), and sometimes I join her for nap time because things get tough. But even if our house isn't in tip top shape, just caring for our four month old is a full-time job.

Samantha - posted on 01/27/2010

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i love it, you get to bond with your baby. theres plenty of time for the housework when they have their naps or happy in their chair etc. and if you go to work you're going to miss so much of their lives.

Bridgette - posted on 01/27/2010

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Because of Autism it is hard (Hubs, son and daughter). I love the fact that i can get my son from school if his autism is triggered by something at school and he needs to come home. However i really need a job its like we can barely afford for me to be home. I want to stay home but have a very flexible job. Carolee becareful my autistic son saw my husband french kiss me and wanted to french kiss me too. LOL

Donna - posted on 01/27/2010

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While it is rather stressful, I still love it. I started baby-sitting from home so I could help contribute to our overall cash flow. My daughter is 22 months old and my husband is away quite often which doesn't help things very much.

But I do enjoy what I do. I get to see my daughter grow a little more each day and if I'm behind on some of my household chores, then I get behind. It's not that big a deal.

I wouldn't change this for anything.

Julie - posted on 01/27/2010

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Getting to influence little lives is the most wonderful and rewarding job I've ever had!!!

Marisol - posted on 01/27/2010

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i like it because i don't have to worry about my kids. it can be stressful at times with all the house work and every thing else that comes along with it but i'd rather be with my kids instead of worrying. I have three girls and they can be fun at times than they can make it hard but i would not trade staying home.

Kathy - posted on 01/27/2010

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I have been both a stay-at-home mom (at present) and also a working mommy. Both are stressful, however, I think that being a full time mommy is the HARDEST job there is on earth!!! Life was so much easier when I could go destress for eight hours with coworkers. These days I stare at the same four walls day after day and have very limited adult interaction. My babies are 2yrs & 1yr (12 months apart) and dressing them, packing for them, loading them into the car, getting them out of the car, you get the idea... we stay at home a lot! The worst part about my job (stay-at-home mom) is that my husband is against it, not supportive at all, can you say added stress...

The reward is I get to see first had all of my babies "firsts"! But sometimes, on those crazy days when both babies are cranky and crying all day and the mess is piling up and I can't seem to get a thing done, I wish I was back working outside our home.

Mayra - posted on 01/27/2010

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its great! i just wish I was better at taking photos with her. :( she's is a well behaved baby which makes our experience even more exciting and memorable.

Renee - posted on 01/27/2010

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I love being able to spend so much time with my daughter. However, having been a working mom until recently I miss having adult conversations with my co-workers and friends and work. I also feel I have lost a little bit of myself in that I don't have that one thing that is mine and mine alone, which before was my job. But I am glad to now be able to see all of my daughters milestones.

Amanda - posted on 01/27/2010

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I love being a stay at home mum. My nine and a half month old boy seems to learn something new every day. I wouldn't want to miss it for the world. But I do need that adult interaction to keep me sane.

Yvonne - posted on 01/27/2010

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its tough been at home all the time in a way its great to see them growing doing all the thing they do. in a way its all about your chrildren. but its not forever time flys really we wont know what to do with ourselfs when ther in school? but im sure we will figure it out.

Jasmine - posted on 01/27/2010

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it gets frustrating. I do everything in the house. and anything that deals with my daughter. i take care of it. its great that i get to stay at home and be with my daughter 24-7. but sometimes it would be nice to have a break. a part time job might work. :-) just so i can be outside of the house. but its really nice that i didnt get to miss anything on her firsts!

Kelly - posted on 01/27/2010

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i find it very stressfull im 25 and have a 6 year old a 21 month old and a 6 week old so my house is never tidy for more than 5 mins as soon as i get it sorted they have messed it up again. i never get a hot meal or warm cup of tea and i cant even go to the loo without them following me, but i wouldnt change it for the world. i tryed the working mum thing when we just had our eldest and because i was at woked i missed the first time she crawled and her first steps these are things you can never get back and i will never forgive myself for missing them having a bit more money coming in is not worth missing those presious moments taht make life worth living

Susan - posted on 01/27/2010

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It's rewarding to see my little girl develop and grow. Every day it's something new and I would not want to miss out on it. However I have never been so lonely. I miss being at work so I can talk to grown ups. I find that now that she is 16 months she is a little more independent and I can at least get dinner cooked and clean up a little, but the major house work still waits till the weekend when my husband can help just like it did when I was working.

Kelly - posted on 01/27/2010

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i find it very stressfull im 25 and have a 6 year old a 21 month old and a 6 week old so my house is never tidy for more than 5 mins as soon as i get it sorted they have messed it up again. i never get a hot meal or warm cup of tea and i cant even go to the loo without them following me, but i wouldnt change it for the world. i tryed the working mum thing when we just had our eldest and because i was at woked i missed the first time she crawled and her first steps these are things you can never get back and i will never forgive myself for missing them having a bit more money coming in is not worth missing those presious moments that make life worth living

Julia - posted on 01/27/2010

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As a SAHM, I'm very lonely. Bored. Tired. But on occasion, my children do something amazing that makes me sure that I've made the right decision. I need to find another purpose in life, something else to keep me excited,

Cindy - posted on 01/27/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom. It gives you a chance to spen good quality time with your kids. Yes it can be stressful, but in the end it's worth it. You get to see those kodak moments that you might not be able to see if they were with someone else.

Cindy - posted on 01/27/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom. It gives you a chance to spen good quality time with your kids. Yes it can be stressful, but in the end it's worth it. You get to see those kodak moments that you might not be able to see if they were with someone else.

Cindy - posted on 01/27/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom. It gives you a chance to spen good quality time with your kids. Yes it can be stressful, but in the end it's worth it. You get to see those kodak moments that you might not be able to see if they were with someone else.

Cindy - posted on 01/27/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom. It gives you a chance to spen good quality time with your kids. Yes it can be stressful, but in the end it's worth it. You get to see those kodak moments that you might not be able to see if they were with someone else.

Ashley - posted on 01/27/2010

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I am a stay-at-home mom and love the precious smiles, hugs, an moments we get to share together. I like knowing I am the one that is there for them. I have been able to see all the first smiles, first steps, first words, and the first day of school. There are also dishes and laundry that pile up. A house that looks like a tornado ran through it and the ever many messes that the kids make and the frustration that ensues but I constantly remind myself that this time is special an passes too quickly. I also remind this everyday to my husband who doesn't have as much patience as I do. :) Patience is a virtue for sure and it is something that I constantly pray that will increase in me because you needs lots of it.



Mommy of four children

Raising an eight year old, three year old, two year old, and an infant

Dayna - posted on 01/27/2010

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For some odd reason, I always thought being a SAHM would be easy, LOL! I love being a SAHM, I honesty can't imagine being anything else, and I don't want to be a career-woman. But that being said, being a SAHM is HARD and incredibly stressful. I never fully appreciated adult conversations before, and get really upset at the H when he comes home and just wants to laze around! Its fulfilling at the same time as "dreaming of a vacation", lol.

Dayna - posted on 01/27/2010

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For some odd reason, I always thought being a SAHM would be easy, LOL! I love being a SAHM, I honesty can't imagine being anything else, and I don't want to be a career-woman. But that being said, being a SAHM is HARD and incredibly stressful. I never fully appreciated adult conversations before, and get really upset at the H when he comes home and just wants to laze around! Its fulfilling at the same time as "dreaming of a vacation", lol.

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