How does everyone like being stay at home mommys?

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Renee - posted on 01/26/2010

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I find it stressful, mainly because it is just us all the time. I have two boys, 4 and 2. My 4 year old is now in Pre-K which helps. I find it that when I get around adults, I cannot shut-up. I need more adult interaction. I have been a stay at home mom since my oldest was one. I have enjoyed it very much. Last year I decided to go to school to help out with being confined to the house all the time, which just added stress. I have enjoyed the years with my boys very much. I am hoping to finish school and find a good job so that I can be home when they get home from school.

Sherry - posted on 01/26/2010

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it can be stressful but tack on a full time job and you more then tripple the load. if you feel that your not contributing try doing something along the lines of home party stuff... Tuperwear, Undercover wear, Avon if your feeling the pinch of pennies. Personally I'm an Undercover Wear agent and loving it... my hostess are pretty good about me bringing my babe along or if it's on a weekend my man has no problem watching the baby for a few hours.. AND it gets me outta the house for a while... Doesn't make alot-- aren't going to get rich quick but it does help in a number of ways

Amanda - posted on 01/26/2010

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Ive been a stay at home mom for 12 years now and i just started to mind my baby niece to let her mom go to work its hard you need to make sure u talk to at least one adult a day or you feel like ur goin insane lol

Shirley - posted on 01/25/2010

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I used to work before, but when my first child came along, I gave up my job and attended to my child's needs personally, but of course I made it possible to have some home based business so I will be able to contribute to the family's financial needs. My children are now both grown ups and I never regret having given up my job because, I believe I have molded them into a very good persons and the bonding/relationship we have in our family is something that is really rewarding. Although my son is now separated from us since he's working in a foreign country, the relationship grew even better with the help of today's technology of course. If you are contemplating into be a stay home mom, don't hesitate, no amount of money can equal the love, attention and tender loving care a stay home mom can give. Always remember, YOU are always there first hand, at every first achievement of your children. God bless.

Nia - posted on 01/25/2010

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It is the utmost stressful, enjoyable, emotional thing that I have ever done at the end of the day! And yet when I wake up in the morning its the first thing that I want to do :)

Whitley - posted on 01/25/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom! i wont lie, at certain times it does become stressful! and the only bad part about it is that if you do not have any friends with kids the same ago as yours it can pose a social problem in the near future! between all the dishes and laundry and cleaning it does get stressful but regardless of whether u stay at home or not you are still going to have all of those chores! so over all i would say that i love it! i love being able to watch every min of my kids grow up and never miss a moment while im working or something!

Katrina - posted on 01/25/2010

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It can be hard im not going to lie i have just started the world of being a stay at home mom, my son is 7months old and i am also a first time parent with not alot of support and at times i want to tear my hair out i miss adult conversation and all i seem to say all day is "bababababa" :) but i would hate to not be here. i would hate to be at work and only hear about the new things he has done that day or how he has driven someone else crazy. it is easer if you have good support of your family or friends, someone you can vent to because that is what will get you through the bad days and celebrate the good ones with!

Lesley - posted on 01/25/2010

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I love being a stay at home mother, it's hard, but also a blessing because a mother knows best! With that being said my work gets done while the kids are down for a nap, the best part of my day sometimes!

Lesley - posted on 01/25/2010

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I love being a stay at home mother, it's hard, but also a blessing because a mother knows best! With that being said my work gets done while the kids are down for a nap, the best part of my day sometimes!

April - posted on 01/25/2010

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i like it because i can be there more for my kids but it is very stresful sometimes

Misty - posted on 01/25/2010

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i love being a stay at home mommy with my soon to be 2 year little boy...i rather be watching him then some daycare center i know that i can teach him thigns others might raise him how my and my bd want to i feel hes safe with us and i wouldnt change it for the world i love being a stay at home mommy with my 2 year old boy

Nicole - posted on 01/25/2010

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I love it...yes, it is a lot of work but I would rather have days where I don't get in the shower before noon, rather than pay someone else to raise my baby.

Tiffany - posted on 01/25/2010

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Over all I love it!! it is a bit stressful at times..but im so happy to be able mom (I was told from 19 to 30 I would never have a baby) but now he is almost 3yrs. it was so much easier to get the house clean and stay clean when he was a baby..so what I do now and my hubby thinks it's funny is once I clean each room I take a phone pic of it and send it to my hubby to let him atleast enjoy it..more than likely it want look like that once he gets home lol..

Bonita - posted on 01/25/2010

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I love it, my own mother was absent most of my life when i was young and needed her the most, I love been there for my son 24/7 whenever he need me. I love been with him watching him grow and learn more and more everyday :)

Brandie - posted on 01/25/2010

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Like most of the mommies, I love being able to spend time and teach my son. It is definitely rewarding. My sister is also a stay at home mom, so we go to each other's house once in a while. Some times I feel bad, tho, because my husband works 6 days a week to support us. I would like to get a part time job, but we decided to wait till our son goes to school. (Will be kindergarten this year..) I love spending time with him. He's such a great character.

TEKESHA - posted on 01/25/2010

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i love it just take one day at a time just know that it will be there tommorrow so dont stress yourself out on small things enjoy yourself & your baby!

Kalah - posted on 01/25/2010

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oh course i love it more than anything. watching him grow and learn right in front of my eyes its amazing! but i would love just a couple days of just rest.. sleeping in, going out without have to pack a diaper bag lol!! but its worth it !!

Laura - posted on 01/25/2010

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It's hard, a lot harder then anyone thinks it is. We don't just sit around. But I love it, I have fibromyalgia and it's hard for me to work and care for are girls. It's a 24/7 job that doesn't get enought creidt for. I try to keep up with everything but it's still hard.

Rachael - posted on 01/25/2010

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i LOVE it! of course there are those days where it would be nice to be away, but you have those days with a regular job too! i like being the one raising my daughter instead of a daycare or someone else.

Laticia - posted on 01/25/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom. Granted as everyone says on here you can't get alot done around your house but I wouldn't trade the time I have with my daughter for anything. And thankfully I have a very understanding husband. All he asks for is that the laundry gets washed, it doesn't need to be folded. What else could I ask for???

Lauren - posted on 01/25/2010

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I like it alot being with him and just looking at him makes my day but i really miss being around other ppl and working and going out. I miss my freedom, and i'm with u it is really stressful but its all worth it.

Heather - posted on 01/25/2010

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its the hardest and most rewarding job ever. your children will grow so fast. enjoy it while you can and be grateful to have to option to stay home. not all mamas are so lucky!

Rachel - posted on 01/25/2010

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I LOVE being a stay at home mommy, its about to end and im sad about that! Myne will be starting kindergarten next yr and their is no reason for me to stay home full time when that happens. It has been so much fun and so rewarding, and I feel for people that miss out being able to stay at home and have that early time with their children.

Christa - posted on 01/25/2010

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It was rewarding at first, but husbands and partners tend to get into this baaaaad habit of just letting you do EVERYTHING since you aren't working. I've been stay at home since I was 6 months preggs (due to bedrest), and my son is 14 months old now. I'm going absolutely crazy and i'm bored out of my mind...... I finally got a job with West At Home an at home customer Service job www.westathome.com I take inbound calls at home and get paid direct deposit. hours are what you want them to be. training was boring but worth it... at least I can get my hubby to do laundry and dishes now ha! i'm going back to school in May though cause at home after 2 yrs old is not for me. Maybe later when my kids are older i'll want to be at home again who knows. Good luck though!

Alisha - posted on 01/25/2010

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I love it over all, however there are days werte i wish i was working outside the house. I have 3 children ages 3, 2 and 3 months. Im having a hard time right now as i fell 10 days before my baby was due. I am unable to do a lot of things now. I ahve extreme pain if i move around lots and tryin to deal with 3 children i just don't get the relax time my body needs. HOwver i do love it and WOULDN"T change it for the world. some days are way harder then others thats for sure but i have the most wonderful children i could of ever asked for.

Paige - posted on 01/25/2010

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I love it !!!! I am a mother of 4 daughters and I wouldn't change it for the world these times with our kids are precious and yes it can be stressful but so is a 9-5 I just feel that the time we spend with our kids now with have greater rewards later in life they need us just as much as we need them it just is hard to see sometimes.....

Carrie - posted on 01/25/2010

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Its great but I find it lonely sometimes, Im a mother of 4 .. and man its tough some days but I still manage to keep a clean house and happy kids raised by their mother not a sitter.

User - posted on 01/25/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom.. Although it does get crazy. I have 2 wonderful boys and 1 Daughter (who doesn't live with me) I have been Married for 13 years. I do get bored and would like to meet some friends who live in Deltona or Orlando,fl.Thank you fro listening to me.

Angele - posted on 01/25/2010

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Loving it...am a stay at home mum for a short time only...and sometimes I miss on not working. but seeing my little one doing her firsts says it all!! very very rewarding!!! feeling lucky that I have the opportunity to stay at home with the little one !!

Missy - posted on 01/25/2010

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I like being a stay at home mom, but there is days to where I am sooo stressed & tired b/c sometimes it seems nothing is ever done. I did however take some college classes to work toward a degree & also to give myself a little time away from the house & a little break from the kids that seem to help a lot.

Connie - posted on 01/25/2010

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love, love, love it! I hated depending on sitters and the house was never organized or clean and life was always just too chaotic when I worked. I miss the work force (I'm a workhorse) but I am so much happier at home. Now I put all of my hardwork in at home and it's paying off!! Broke all the time though!

Rebecca - posted on 01/25/2010

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Kayla - posted on 01/25/2010

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i find it to be very rewarding, fullfilling but yet stressful and exausting...but i wouldnt trade being with my son for anything. i get to watch him grow on a daily basis and we have a wonderful bond (untill daddy comes home lol) for the first few months of doing it and on occasion i start to feel a bit isolated and bored with it...but thats just when i pick up the phone and call a friend or a family member. the only negative thing i can think of is that it has caused some minor tension between me and my husband. he works all day to support us and i know he feels like he misses out. and then there are the times where i'll slip up and say "im tired" lol...then he'll just go on how im at home all day lol. but as im sure all of us will agree being a stay at home mom is very exausting physically and mentally. but i love it...and feel very blessed.

Kelly - posted on 01/25/2010

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What u can do to help it to have a lot of activities for them from the moment they get up. Have a routine dont let them do what ever they want when ever. Dont forget to include nap tme. Yes you have to be prepared but it keeps u sane. For activities google fun activities for toddlers. Mix it up cause their attention span is extremely short.
The routine will be a bit stressful to at first but you will manage and you will be in control it also helps with discipline...
TRY IT...

Sharon - posted on 01/25/2010

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When their babies in fun, I loved it. But not my son is 2 years old and sometimes I feel like pulling my hair out.

Kelly - posted on 01/25/2010

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It is stressful but when u have been through the day cares i have been through u will find all the strength and motivation needed. I have a 32 mths old daughter who have been mistreated and neglected at daycare providers and no one can account for accidents that occurred. I have even been accused for sending her with the stratches about her arms just because they dont want to take responsibility for their negligence.



I have concluded that until she can talk or communicate with me, I will be a stay at home mom. Not knowing what is taking place at a day care is enough motivation for me.

Charlene - posted on 01/25/2010

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I love it! Yes its different because I'm use to working but I'm loving spending time with her! That way u don't miss out on anything!!! But I will agree with u that its stressful! Tamarah's 13 months now and shes already at the terrible 2s stage!!

Janice - posted on 01/25/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom... but it has it's moments..haha! With my oldest child I had to work because I was a single parent. I missed out on alot of cool things.. and I still feel bad about it.. but I had to do what was needed of me. When my husband and I got pregnant with my second son I decided that I wanted to stay at home and raise him... I am glad I did... even though sometimes I could use a day off. Now I have three sons.. two of which are at home. I love seeing them grow and develop... the best part is knowing that I am the reason they are doing so well. I have done it both ways and prefer my at home job over a career. LOVE MY BOYS

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It's been pretty hard. My hubby left me for his pregnant girlfriend Christmas 2008 when she was 3 momths old. He was cheating on me from 7 months pregnant. I had to move 4 times in 12 months, I lost the military benefits and support, I had to go on welfare, and I had to look after my baby by myself. It was the worst time of my life, and I had to just get through it because my baby needed me to be there for her 100%.

She's 16 months old now, and I'm looking at going and doing a 1 yr Uni course and then teach high school part time next year. I would like to stay at home with my baby, but that's all we've done, and without a vehicle, we don't really get to do a lot of things, and I think she is missing out on having fun, when all I'm trying to do all day is catch up on housework, and cook meals and budget. I feel so bad all the time. I feel she is missing out, and how much easier things would have been if my hubby hadn't have strayed...

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Megan - posted on 01/25/2010

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My mom was a stay at home mom. She has always said what a blessing it was. I am a stay at home mother, and I know what she is talking about. It can get a bit stressful with a three and five year old, but they don't stay young forever. So I try to take it all in. It's cool to watch them grow everyday. It is also nice to have great girlfriends to go out with ever so often. Date night with the hubby is important too. Like they say, stay at home moms have a full time job without getting paid for it. The blessings and rewards for what we do are awesome. They don't stay little forever, soak it all in.

Megan - posted on 01/25/2010

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My mom was a stay at home mom. She has always said what a blessing it was. I am a stay at home mother, and I know what she is talking about. It can get a bit stressful with a three and five year old, but they don't stay young forever. So I try to take it all in. It's cool to watch them grow everyday. It is also nice to have great girlfriends to go out with ever so often. Date night with the hubby is important too. Like they say, stay at home moms have a full time job without getting paid for it. The blessings and rewards for what we do are awesome. They don't stay little forever, soak it all in.

Darylann - posted on 01/25/2010

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It is the best! There is nowhere I would rather be than with my baby boy every day. It is harder to get things done around the house than I thought it would be though. Sometimes I have to remind myself to take a break- quality time spent with my son means so much more than having a spotless house. I don't feel like stay at home mom's really get the credit they deserve though. My fiance will come home from work and say that he would rather have the "easy job, sitting at home with the baby all day". It pisses me off. When people ask what I do, and I reply that I stay at home to take care of my son, it's like I don't do anything. The way I see it, staying at home to take care of your child is the best thing you can do for them, and something that I am extremely grateful for. It is hard work (A 24 HOUR JOB!) and deserves way more respect!

Qihm - posted on 01/25/2010

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I love being home with my son! Some days though, I wish I could have a REAL day off. My honey tries hard to take care of him and let me sleep in when hes off work, but I wake up wtih the house in pieces waiting to be put back together. I think it'd be easier if I had a larger support system but my family and friends live 900 miles away and the only family he has are distant or constantly ill.

I finally told him that sleeping in is nice and all, but I'd really appreciate some awake off time, and we are now trying days that daddy and the boys go out for a guy day.

As far as scheduling goes I have a written schedule that i refer to and then a piece of paper that I write down what I actually plan to do that day. It really helps me, especially because I have 2 days where I do no house work, I just enjoy my family and we order in or he cooks for those days.

Betty - posted on 01/24/2010

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i love staying at home with my childern. but i do wish that i could go to work sometimes just to be around something other than diapers,crying , and fighting. Please dont misunderstand me i treasure each and every moment with my babies. but to want alittle adult time it dont mean i love my babies any less does it?

Katie - posted on 01/24/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom, but like most mom will say it is stressful. I guess you just have to be cut out for being a stay at home mom. There are some woman who just can't stand being at home while the husband or boyfreind brings in the only income. I'm only 22 so my social group was changed really quickly when I found out I was pregnant. I miss being able to go out with the girls my age whenever we decided to. I also know that I get to have an experience that they won't for a few more years if at all. Now that I have met some more mom's that are close to my age it is alot easier to say no to going out, because I know that if the other mom and I go out, I won't have to worry about what to do with my son(16 months) or whether they will get upset about him having to come along. At first I was scared to death because I hadn't really had any experience with small children, so I didn't know anything. SInce I have been a mother I will say that even though I still get scared at times. I wouldn't change it for the world!!

Rachelle - posted on 01/24/2010

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i love it but it is very stressful on days. it is very rewarding too though, cause I get to see my daughter all day long and not miss out on the little stuff...i missed out on the little stuff for the first two years...and that is time i can never get back...that crushes me...

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I am not gonna lie to ya, it's a challenge every day! It's so worth it, especially at the end of the day when I lay them to sleep and I hear those works..mom, i love you or get a BIG hug from my little guy.. I lay myself to sleep knowing I a stay at home mom, made an huge inpact on my children. It impowers me for the next day to know I can do it! Yay!! = )

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