How does everyone like being stay at home mommys?

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Toni - posted on 01/24/2010

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The grass is always greener!! I do enjoy being a stay at home mommy! I have a 17month old and am expecting in May... I have also been very proactive, I belong to a mommy meet up group, I look for free things to do around the area.. For the most part I try to keep busy.. Housework I could do without but its something that needs to be done and I would be doing it anyways even if i worked!

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I love it! At times I think I want to do something else with my life but then I can't figure out what. I like being needed and wanted.

Brianna - posted on 01/24/2010

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I LOVE being a stay at home mom, it is stressful at times but I wouldn't change anything, I love being able to spend time with my baby and take time to raise him. :-)

Tash - posted on 01/24/2010

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i think its better for our children as they can learn more through us in those early years and have one on one with us compared to daycare etc. do the housework when ur child is sleeping and it works, dont stress to get everything done, childs happiness comes first of course! dishes can always wait! i went back to work partime after my 1st child turned 1 and was very tired and stressed coz felt like i wasnt there for him (even though it was weekend work so his dad was having one on one with him) now ive just started a job where i'm lucky enough to be able to take my kids with me so hoping it all goes well!

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yes it is I like it but its really hard on my husband cause he's the only one who is working, well not at the moment, he's outta of work till March, but I;m going back to school in august for a bit of a change.

Cori - posted on 01/24/2010

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i love being a stay at home mom and my friends and family are happy for me (and sometimes jealous of me) that i get to stay home with my son everyday and see him grow up. i do notice however that i lose my patients with my son a lot faster than my husband but i put it to being around him all day every day and it can get a little much sometimes. but over all, i love seeing my son grow up and change and develop every day!

Markita - posted on 01/24/2010

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That it is....It's a little better now since my daughter started headstart...It gives her time away and me too...

Chelsea - posted on 01/24/2010

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it is stressful but i love it. The money problem sucks though, but you dont have someone else raising your child.

Markita - posted on 01/24/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom..I have a very independant 4 year old daughter so it made it easy to do all my house work...I also had plenty of time to teach her everything she needed to know to start headstart...It's very rewarding...You build a very close and special bond with your child...

Carlotta - posted on 01/24/2010

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I adore every minute of it. As I was growing up, whenever I would be asked "What do you want to be when you grow up?" I would say I dont know or "a teacher" or something. As soon as I found out I was pregnant w/ my son it was like a light bulb went off in my head "I wanna be a stay at home mom!" Unfortunetly I didnt land my dream job until Janurary of '09. 3+ children later I couldn't be happier!! Of course it has it's ups and downs but what job doesn't. lol

Crystal Lauren - posted on 01/24/2010

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I LOVE it ... at times, i agree, it can be a little stressful; but it's so awesome and rewarding! I love being home to watch my daughter grow and learn and develop. I don't miss a thing. I know when she's having a bad day or if she's sick and i know what she's been up to all day and i just don't think i could personally afford it any other way! I love to clean, and cook, and take care of my daughter. You just have to know how to balance it all and smile!

Dawn - posted on 01/24/2010

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I honestly enjoy it. The bills may be a little tight, but I can raise my son without worrying about what is going on with day care, and I don't miss any of the milestones. I have learned that housework may not get done as quickly as I like or the house may not cleaned as quickly as I like, but it's honestly the best decision my fiance and I made!

Yvonda - posted on 01/24/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom..its not always fun and easy but at the end of the day I'm satisfied knowing that I was the one to see all the smiles and get all the hugs!!!

Stefanie - posted on 01/24/2010

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I love it! and agree with everyone else that it can be stressful! But the way i look at it, chrildren are only small for a short time so spend as much time with them and loving them as you can. all the other stuff like the housework can wait at least til nap time. I had to tell myself that because i was really stressing myself by not being able to get things done at first.

Sara - posted on 01/24/2010

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I like being a stay at home mom but it can be stressful at times. I need to make sure everythings done like the dishes, laundry and make sure everythings picked up. but i love being able to spend everyday with my kids.

Lynneah - posted on 01/24/2010

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It is super stressful. I have three boys 5,4,&2, they are so rowdy, My husband works 84 hours a week, and I would like to go back to work but at the same time I don't want to go back until my youngest is in preschool, I think that if you plan to be a stay at home mom you need a good routine, and scheduled one on one time with each child, which can be super hard sometimes, but very rewarding

Sebrina - posted on 01/24/2010

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go to the website call meetup.com

they have things in your community that moms get together with there kids and do stuff together. Its wonderful.

Ghita - posted on 01/24/2010

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I have been a stay at home mom for 3 years now with a 3 year old boy and I love it even if it is stressful. It can get lonely so I try to get out of the house as often as possible even for a walk by myself. I do not miss work but I do want to work to help pay bills. Don't worry about getting every single chore done, your child is more important. My husband helps out as much as he can. Make sure U eat enough healthy food like salads, juice and protein because that will help the stress. Fast food is not good for stress.

Kim - posted on 01/24/2010

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I don't think it would be as bad if my husband and my 10 yr old cleaned up a bit after themselves. I think that is what gets me upset the most. I'm not a maid, but I sure feel like one! My 3 yr old helps out more than they do. I do like being home to see all the firsts. I used to work in daycare and used to have to tell the parents all their kids' firsts and knew if I could I would stay home with my kids. It does get boring too. There are too many 2 faced people in my town. Friends when its convient for them. All my real friends are hours or days away, hard to stop by for a cup of coffee. I'm dreading when my kids are all in real school, I guess I will have to find a job again after like 13 yrs.

Amanda - posted on 01/24/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom. It's not for everyone, it takes a lot of commitment and patience but it is so worth it. I have two boys that are 18 months apart, 2 1/2 and 1. They are definitely a handful and there are some days I can't get everything done. You have to be able to say to hell with the laundry some days and do what the kids want to do. In truth, those are the best days! Good luck!

Erica - posted on 01/24/2010

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I like stayin' home w/ my son, but I get bored and wanna go places and can't. :S

Jessica - posted on 01/24/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom been doing it for a little over seven years now since my youngest was born..it has its trials but it is very rewarding I am raising my kids not a daycare center and not another stay home mom so my kids are growing up with our morals and not someone else's...and not only that but I never worry that someone who is watching my kids are mistreating them or lying to me about things we had that happen the lying over stupid stuff and like i said i do enjoy it the only negative that I can say about it is that it is lonely cause everyone you know is at work..But you take the good with the bad and the good out weighs the bad

Heather - posted on 01/24/2010

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I really enjoy staying home with my kids although I have to say that the hardest part for me is not have the same social atmosphere I had at work. It is hard not to be able to talk to another adult all day long.

Chastine - posted on 01/24/2010

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ITS COOL WITH ME BECAUSE I HAVE ALOT OF SIBLINGS AND WHEN WE WERE YOUNG I TOOK CARE OF THEM ALMOST ALLL THE TIME, IM VERY FAMILY ORIENTED. ITS A CHANGE FROM WORKING AND GOING TO SCHOOL NOW MY HUSBAND IS WORKING AND I STAY AT HOME WITH OUR TWO KIDS ITS COOL CUZ ME AND MY HUSBAND HAVE A RELATIONSHIP LIKE NO OTHER

Nancy - posted on 01/24/2010

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I am the mom of 2 teenagers who are 17 and 151/2. I would not change staying at home with them for the world. Especially when they were in pre school, elementary school and the beginning of high school years. Yea there are times that I wish I was working out side of the home. We could use the extra income. But they always let me know how much they have appreciated my being home for them.
When they were sick and needed to come home from school or stay home.
I came to meetings with teachers, parties, was a room mom a few times. Boy Scouts, Girl Scouts, FFA meetings and activities. Yea it can be hectic, but when your kids look at you and say THANK YOU MOM for being there for me, it is all worth it.

April - posted on 01/24/2010

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I find it stressful and rewarding at the same time. Yes, even thou I am a SAHM I take care of the cleaning, laundry, cooking and childcare. It does get stressful but it is also rewarding. I can teach my children how I want to teach them and what I want them to learn. I have twin girls that has just turned 4 and a baby boy on the way. My husband is so supportive and since I am pregnant he does take a lot of the responsability off of me so I can rest and take it easy before the baby gets here.

Stacey - posted on 01/24/2010

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I love it sooo much but I am soooo exhausted. Take the good with the bad. After 5 years of stay at home mummy I really am to scared to go back into the workforce. Don't have to worry about that as my youngest is only 4 months and I don't plan to think about it until she is in school anyway.
I just looked through some photoes of the kids and me and it really hit home that if I wasn't a stay at home mum I don't think I would be smiling and having as much fun as I am.

Erin - posted on 01/24/2010

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i love it because i can get my toddler in2 a proper routine of sleeping and meal times and also doing the housework takes up alot of time, i can then prepare dinner in the afternoon before my partner comes home from work and also take my toddler 4 walks in the day, i wouldnt trade it for anything :)

Cindy - posted on 01/23/2010

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It is stressful, but just knowing that I'll be able to be there when my baby takes his first steps or says his first word makes me really happy. I really want to be there when that happens. I didn't want it to end up that i would come home from work one day and the babysitter or the daycare says "He said his first word!" or "He took his first step!" And then I would be so upset and sad knowing I missed that. So pretty much my plan is to get a job again after those 2 specific things happen because to me those are 2 of the most important things I don't want to miss. My husband wants me to get a job now, but it's not like we are struggling financially, but he just wants us to have some more extra spending money. My husband always says "There's alot of parents that don't get to see there child take their first step or say their first word" And I said "Yeah and I don't want to be one of them"

Alicia - posted on 01/23/2010

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I only have a 6 month old. So I'm still pretty new. But during the discussion with my husband about me being a SAHM, I made it clear that the 'M" stood for "Mom" and not "Maid." If I don't get to all of the housework because I'm spending time with the baby, I don't stress it. I also have gotten to know my neighbors and have found out that there are 7 other SAHM/Wives on my block alone. We've dubbed ourselves the "Desperate Housewives." We support each other, call each other, text each other and visit each other. We try to make ourselves as available to each other as possible, 24/7. We have lunches when all the older kids are off to school. The Housewives (not moms) will come over and hold the baby (while keeping me company) so that I can cook dinner or finish the laundry. Even the working moms on our block get in on the action. It's nice to know that you can find somebody home if you're getting loopy and want to take a walk or just talk.
I also pointed out to my husband that my job is 24/7 with no weekends and vacations when he was trying to compare it to his job. That point won me some alone time. Get your husband involved. He can take the baby for an hour and a half if you feed the baby right before (if you're breastfeeding...otherwise, he can figure out how to get a bottle together). I get in the car and drive with the radio up and the windows down or I light candles, grab a book and settle into the tub. I also want to point out that fathers do not "babysit," they parent!! So don't feel badly when (not if) you need to just hand him the kids and walk away.
Utilize nap time!! Use it for what you need at that moment. Sometimes, I eat (usually for the first time that day) or I take a nap or I do nothing, especially if it was a particularly busy day. It's okay to do nothing, by the way. Reading a book, doing devotions, exercising, and sleeping is just as important as housework. It keeps you sane and happy and helps you keep centered so you can function as the best mother and woman you can be.

Bonnie - posted on 01/23/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom, we have eight children most of them are in school all day but i still have a 3 yr old and 6month old twins at home during the day, its all about scheduling properly. I did work since i had children and i find it much easier to be home all day and get everything done rather than being at work all day and then putting in another full shift at home, i find it easier to keep everything caught up being a stay at home mom, i dont find i have enough hours in the day now i couldnt imagine trying to work again and take care of the house too, not to mention that it is awesome not having to work and spend every dime on childcare

Joan - posted on 01/23/2010

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i love being a stay at home mom, i get to spend a lot of time with my lil girl, plus i get to see her growing up n not missing anything. its just that sometimes it gets lonely so when u think u have enough ask ur husband to watch ur baby n go out with ur friends....thats what i do....

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Being a Stay home mom is hard work!! very stressful, Because not only do you have to take care of you kids, pick them up from school, follow ups and Doctor appointments, house errands, but you also have to maintain the house clean, laundry, dinner, lunch and breakfast, if your breastfeeding, potty training, if you have a pet that requires attention, not to mention the wife duties. puffff it's exhausting. But it has it's rewards like attending award ceremonies, first soccer game, watching them toddlers grow, things that you get to see and then tell the hubby about it so he can have an update!! so in all this I love my Job!!!

Crystal - posted on 01/23/2010

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I love it, but at times it does stress you out. you fell like you do not have an adult to talk to.

hopefully i will make some friends on here so that I can have some support!

with that being said, it's rewarding to have your child come up and give you love and a big smile...will leaving you a surprise in her diaper! lol :)

Rachel - posted on 01/23/2010

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My son is only 3 months old, and I love it already! Sometimes, I think I'll never stay on top of housework, but when he's grown and out of the house, I'll be thankful for the time we spent together and not care that the house wasn't perfect when he was a baby.

Crystal - posted on 01/23/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom. Sometimes it can be stressful but most of the time mine ain't. My husband works a full time job and doesn't want me to work and I am so happy he doesn't because if I did I would have missed out on a lot of my little girl's first.



The advice that I could give you is just look at the positive things about the situation. Enjoy every minute that you can. They grow up way to fast and one day they can be just watching tv and the next they can come up to you and say mommy watch what I can do and show you hw they learned to do a flip or show you how they can count to 5 or smething like that. I hope you can get something from this.

Z - posted on 01/23/2010

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To tell u the truth it is a bit of everything. Very tiring cos its a non stop job. When u woke up in the morning u know all the chores that need to be done. Then, when u have some time u need to teach and read some books to the children. This is very essential to them. U must do it. If they take nap. Then u have time for urself. Then, its time for them to go and play in the playground. In the evening cook some meal then watch tv and sleep. The routine will change here and there but basically thats what i do with my time. My time with my hubby is also very limited. But u have to make time for ur husband, because thats is the most important part of ur married life if u know what I mean. So, very truth n honest.

Holly - posted on 01/23/2010

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i hate it but i got four kids and they drive me nutz but after a while u get use to it. as long as u dnt have any kids tht have to be on meds. for stuff like a.d.d. then u should be just fine. i need meds. for my son but they dnt want to give them to him. i think they r stupid but i guess i just have to live with it rite. i just hope things get better for us.

Arika - posted on 01/23/2010

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I LOVE it. I am a working girl, always had a job, never stayed home, but I am enjoying every minute of being home with my baby. I didn't get to do that with my first child...

Bekki - posted on 01/23/2010

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Kayla Calahan, My little boy wants to be held all the time too! he's the same age.. And Ilove being a stay at home mum! wouldn't change it for the world!

Jenny - posted on 01/23/2010

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I love it!!!! I love to be able to stay at home to take care of my daughter without worrying about finding babysitter for my daughter. Spending time with her is fun and able to keep house clean, cook foods and do the laundry.

Kymberly - posted on 01/23/2010

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I think I have a love/hate relationship with being a stay-at-home mom. I am a mother of a 4 year old boy, a 3 year old girl, a 20 month old boy, and a 6 month old girl. My husband works all the time to allow me to be a home, so I almost never see him. I have no family or friend help. I have not had a "date night" with my husband in almost 2 years, and as of right now I have not left my house in a month. Sometimes I feel like a prisoner. I love being able to spend time with my kids, and raise them how my husband and I feel is best. But I really don't have anything else. Which makes me very stressful, because sometimes I just want someone to talk to who understand what I am going through, and not be judgemental about it. I love my husband, but he is the judgemental type, so talking about women things is a no go. But I would never trade anything in the world for my kids and the time I get to spend with them. Soon they will all be in school, and I don't ever want to regret not spending enough time with them while they were young.

Christina - posted on 01/23/2010

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i love being a stay at home mom this way i dont miss a thing...and i know my children are getting the care they need

Samantha - posted on 01/23/2010

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i love being a stay at home mum,i get to watch my little boy who is nearly 2 grow up,but it does have its down sides...i get very lonely and urge for adult conversation as i am very cut off from friends where i live plus the money isnt great! BUT i wouldnt change it for the world just to be with my son.

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