How many of you are teen moms?
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Alicia - posted on 07/03/2010
lea, everyone on here had children young. so what? who are you to judge mothers for saving a life instead of getting an abortion. it depends on the individual, not on the age. no one said anything to you, stop jumping down peoples throats, were all here for support. if youre not a teen mom, get out of this specific post. its rude to bash on mothers trying to do whats right. grow up.
Michelle - posted on 07/04/2010
I was 18 when I had my first child back in 1994 and due to my age it ended up not being a good pregnancy. I had to have an emergency C-section (at 6.5 months) due to severe pre-eclampsia. My daughter was 2lbs 10 oz @ 29.5 weeks. Very scary for a teen to have to deal with all that by myself, but I did it and I think being forced to grow up and be responsible for another person was a good thing "for me." I wish you the best and congratulate you on your new little one. I dont know if it is possible for you to do this, but if you could take a couple classes either in parenting or psychology preferrably child development, that would really start you off on the right foot. Wish I had...didnt do it until after my second child 7 years later and sometimes get down on myself for how I raised my daughter. Anyway, this is alot more than you asked for but I hope it helps. Have a great july 4th and again..Congrats
Lea - posted on 07/03/2010
For those of you that think you are going to enjoy your life when your kids are grown... just imagine how you would feel if your kids turned around and had kids as soon as possible! Its probably how your parents feel right now! Just a thought.
Shannon - posted on 07/02/2010
I am not a teen nor was I when I had my kids but I work with a bunch of teen moms. They said the hardest part was realize that they were no longer a child, they had to be the responsible parent and that is was no longer about them. Suddenly they had the other person who needed to be more important then their wants and needs.
Once they got passed that and changed their thinking and attitudes. Things became a lot easier.
There are many, many successful moms that started out as teens. It is hard but it is hard at any age. Good luck and enjoy the little life you made.
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Nikky - posted on 08/06/2010
im 21 now but got pregnant just after my 18th birthday and now have 2 beutiful daughters with my partner. There are alot of teenage mums where i live almost all my friends either have kids, are pregnant or want a kid. Remember to have your alone time and a bit of fun, i dont get out much but my friends would come to my house and we would have a drink when the kids are in bed. So much easier and cheaper than trying to get a babysitter, but everyones situation is different.
I was 18 when i got pregnant with my daughter and 18 when i had her, with my second i was 20 when i got pregnant and 21 when i had her. I believe everything happens for a reason and i am glad i had my children young because now ,1 month after turning 24 i am scheduled for a complete hysterectomy in 3 weeks so if i would have waited it is possible i wouldn't have my precious baby girls:) Also it might be a liitle hard at first but it always gets better. My husband and i do pretty well for ourselves,we own our home, he works outside the house and i am a stay at home mom. I don't think it matters as much about the age as it does your maturity level. Hell, I was more responsible at 18 than alot of woman i know who are30 and older! Good luck to you and don't let anybody put you down or make you feel bad for your decisions it's your life not theirs !!!
Misty - posted on 07/20/2010
I had my first daughter when I was a junior in highschool. by the time i was 22 I had 3 daughters. 26 now, sounds like there are alot of us. I suggest the book sheparding a child's heart by tedd tipp. helps alot to understand your child and how to parent biblically.
Candyce - posted on 07/19/2010
I was 18 when I got preggo, 19 when I had him, 23 now and getting ready to celebrate his fourth birthday in a week *sniffle*. I was the first of my generation to have a kid, as well as the first of my friends, although they caught up pretty fast, lol. Most of them are baking their third and my twin sis just had her third last month. Craziness...
Dawn - posted on 07/19/2010
I was a teen mom. I had my oldest daughter at 18 one month before I graduated from high school. She is now 19 and has finished her first year of college. I wouldn't change a thing. I also had another daughter at 19 and a son at 23. I love being a mom. Even now through the teen years. The best thing you can do is learn about child development. Now while your still pregnant take classes on childbirth and newborn care so you can make informed choices. As they grow and you understand how they are developing you will be able to make choices about how to parent them based on their developmental level rather than just experiecnce and advice. You will probably find you dont agree with any one way of parenting but you will formulate your own for each child. Love on them, tons of kisses and hugs along with boundaries and routines will make them feel secure and free to explore their world. It is wonderful to see the world through their young innocent eyes. Enjoy them, cry with them, and surround yourself with people who support you and encourage you.
Jerie - posted on 07/18/2010
Hi Emily. Congrats on the baby! I hope everyone is healthy. I was 19 when I had my first child and she's your age now. I just had my 4th and final child a year ago. I wouldn't trade them for anything in this world. Good luck mama.
Traci - posted on 07/17/2010
I was 18 when I got preg with my son, gave birth a mon before 20th bday, 17 yrs plus 4 girls, hes my heart, if I had to do it all over again I would... I love him, I had to grow up fast, but got to grow with him... Some woman r just meant to be mothers no matter how old... Its not easy at a young age, but the rewards are great, waking up to that lil person every morning knowing they will always love u, & u could live without them... Good luck.. Hope I helped....
Emma - posted on 07/17/2010
I was 16 when I got pregnant with my first child. I was abused by her father and the act that created her as well as all the acts around it were not consensual. Domestic violence is a hard thing to shake but I did it, and my parents were very supportive of my pregnancy and supported my decision to keep my daughter. It was a very difficult time in my life, but we pulled together as a family and got through it. My daughter is now 14, I am married and have a total of 4 kids, so I assure you life does go on after being a pregnant teen. You have a rough road ahead of you without some kind of support system, be it emotional, financial, or just someone else there to help you get things done while the two year is being tempermental. I wish you the best Emily!
Malhin HammershÃ¶j - posted on 07/17/2010
I was only 13 when I got pregnant and had my first child, a baby boy. That was 11 years ago now.
I had my second when I was 16, a girl.
Had twins when I was 18, both girls.
Had my fifth child when I was 19, a girl.
My sixth when I was 21, a boy and at age 23 I had my youngest, a girl.
Today Im 24 and have given birth to 7 kids.
Tiffany - posted on 07/16/2010
well technically I'm not a teenager but every teenager dreams about turning 21, getting your first legal drink and enjoying it. I turned 21 while I was still pregnant and 2 weeks later my baby came. 3 weeks later I attempted to go out and have a drink or 2 while his godmother watched him. The ENTIRE time I was out I was texting her, looking at his pictures on my phone and telling my boyfriend I wanted to leave already. I was gone for maybe an hour & a half. I love my son so much. I couldn't even go out without him on my mind every second. With me being only 21 i'm still considered young to be having kids on my mom's side. They look at me like "I wonder if she even likes being a mom?" or "She's too young." I even had my aunt tell me she'd take raise my son. NO THANKS. lol
Sally - posted on 07/15/2010
on behalf of ALL the teen moms (then & now), i thank you Lea, because no matter how hard you try not to get into that situation it will happen eventually. when i found out, i gave myself 2 options,a: adoption,& b: keep baby, i chose op b,i am against abortion unless it has to be done,(serious reasons only) i was already out of school for 3 years,& knew i could take care of myself & the baby & did,then i moved to a new town &was working 2 jobs when i met my husband, i had another baby but i was 21 when i had her, to this day i do not regret having either kid.
Tiffany - posted on 07/15/2010
I was 17 when I got preg with my baby boy Aden, 18 when I had him, !9 when I got preg with my baby girl Baylee, 20 when I had her and 21 now. Plan on havin my 3rd and prob stop there within the next few years. I think it dont matter how old you are when you have them, if you care for the child and love the child the way a mother is suppose to, you are a mother, not a teen mom, A MOTHER, and also an adult.
Ashley - posted on 07/15/2010
When i found out i was pregnant with my first child it oct. 2006 and i was 17. he was may 28th 2007 which put me at almost 18
( my bday is in june) and when i found out i was pregnant with my 2nd child it was in feb 2008 putting me at still 18 but he was born in oct. which made me 19. I was a teenager starting out. i am now 21. my oldest is 3 and my youngest will be 2 in october.
Rebecca - posted on 07/15/2010
i was a 3days into 19 wen i had my first and had to do it all on my own besides my husband anyway. but im glad i had my 2 kids young coz i plan to have more. hope you have an easy ride thru your first few months with your baby.
Adrianne - posted on 07/15/2010
I married my highschool sweetheart when we were 18, 8 months later i got pregnant with our first daughter, who will be 5 next month. I was 19 when i had her and turned 20 shortly after. I now have three children, ages 4, 2, and 1. It is a challenge some days and its always exhausting, but there is not a day that goes by that i wish i would have waited or done things differently. We have given up alot for them and thats ok with me. I know i will still accomplish my goals, it will just take a little more time and patience :)
Isela - posted on 07/15/2010
I got pregnant at 16 had my son at 17yrs.
And the minute I saw him I melted and knew what love is all about, although I wasn't such a good parent from the start because I was young and wanted to live it up everyone in a while I missed a fee years of his life. When he turned 5 I had my second child and I was 22yrs it was a lil girl and all I can say that it was much different at 22yrs I felt much more mature and knew that I had matured at that moment I saw her. I thank the lord he brought her in my life because she showed me how to show my love and now I can share that same love wit my eldest. I'm now so much older and look at my children in awww. They are such great people despite me being a teenage mother I'm proud because they truly are amazing human beings and if I had to do it all over I wouldn't change a thing. I have been blessed with amazing kids and they are doing amazing things in this world. Love you Crizzo and Dalis (my nerds)
Gretchen - posted on 07/14/2010
I was 20 when I got preggo. I was scared. I knew I wouldnt be able to do it. But I am. MotherHood will change who you are for the rest of your life. Me getting pregnant at such a young age has effected me in some way. I wanted to wait until I was 25 to have kids but 25 came sooner than planned. Being a young mother is stressful and puts a drag on you. But dont get me wrong I absolutly love it and I wouldnt trade it for the world.
Tracey - posted on 07/14/2010
i was 18 when i found out i was pregnant which me and my parnter were so happy about because we had been trying to concieve for 4 months and i was 19 when my daughter was born. she is now 5 months old and yes i am a young mum but i wouldnt have it any other way because everyday she does something new and different and is really a joy in mine and my partners life.
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