How many of you moms out there do not work?
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Lisbeth - posted on 07/13/2010
Yeah I work as a nanny, personal cook, house keeper, stylist, personal shopper and anything else my baby and family needs, I just don't get paid in cash but I do get paid with something better pure LOVE. Does that count?
Bonnie - posted on 08/13/2010
I don't work but I have been studying almost continuously since my son was 3months old, he's now 4yrs, & he's been in childcare a minimum of 2days a week since he was 6months.. I would, however, love to work.
I honestly don't understand how so many mum's can be happy looking after their children 24/7! & I'm not saying that as a bad thing- I'm in awe of any mum who is solely a SAHM & wish I could be happy just being one!
Charis - posted on 07/24/2010
I'm a new stay-home-mum with a boy coming to one year old. Actually I'm battling with myself whether I should stay home full time to look after my son, mainly because of finance issue. My HB isn't bringing home a lot, but we're not in lack (Thank God for His blessings!). While part of me is convinced that staying home is best for my son (after all, not many kids nowadays have that privilege of having their moms taking care of them), I'm also torn that I cannot help my HB in terms of household income... yikez...
Ellen - posted on 07/14/2010
I gave up work to stay at home to look after my twin girls and it is hard work, running round in different directions all the time, but i wouldn't change it for anything, i love looking after them and doing new things everyday!!
LYDIA - posted on 08/15/2010
I THOUGHT THAT I WAS THE ONLY ONE FELT LIKE I WAS BEING TALKED ABOUT BECAUSE I WAS STAYING AT HOME WITH MY BABIES( EVEN THOUGH THEY ARE 7 & 11). PEOPLE NEED TO FEEL WHAT WE FEEL WHEN IT COMES DOWN TO OUR BABIES AND ABOUT HOW OUR BABIES ARE OUR LIFE AND THEY WILL ALWAYS NEED SOME TLC NO MATTER WHAT
Jean - posted on 08/15/2010
Kristi, I know what you are saying, its hard to have people treat you like somehow you are less intelligent or something because all you do is stay home with your kids. It really does take a lot of thought and understanding and intelligence, but it seems that somehow there is a stigmatism against it. Effectively dealing with the mentalities and emotional development of children is, in my experience, far more challenging and thought provoking than dealing with adults. Trying to reason with them, learn what they need and want, physically and emotionally, is a lot of work. I think its really great that you're making an effort and I think it should be applauded, I aplaud you, and all people who have kids in general (raising children in general is such a sacrafice and I know lots of people who don't want to do that), and being an at home mom is even harder in a lot of ways, you don't get the adult socialization that other women get when they go to work, and negotiating withchildren of all ages is challenging, but SO rewarding. It took me five years to stop feeling guilty for not working, and for not feeling like I was somehow less than my working mother friends. But I wouldn't miss any of the things I've been there for, the first steps my friends missed, the daily amazing miracles that take place as the kids are growing up. I know we get all the tantrums and the days where its so emotionally draining as well, but I hope you enjoy, like I do, all the amazing things you can experience when you can actually be there for all the wonderful experiences kids have! I wouldn't do it any other way, I wouldn't rather bring home a check than hear the first word, see the first step, be there for the first lost tooth, the little wonderful things my working friends miss.
Kristi - posted on 08/14/2010
I do not work but I am at home with 2 children under the age of two. My husband and I made the decision for me to stay at home full time last spring. I do enjoy being at home with my children but I still struggle with not being a career woman at times. It is a huge adjustment and I have found that people treat you very differently when they find out that you are a stay at home mom - that is something I am still trying to deal with. Once a woman becomes a mom she is viewed very differently, once a man becomes a father it seems like he is not viewed any differently.
Megan - posted on 08/14/2010
I am a stay at home mom. I am with my daughter 24/7 and I absolutely love it!!! Myself and fiancee agreed when we discussed having a baby that I would be a stay at home mom until the baby started school full time at which point i would either go to school or get a part time job. Our daughter is now 2 years old and I am thinking about taking a baking course in a couple of years so I can make some money on the side making cakes and such which I love. I am also thinking about becoming a Realtor. I know at first they do not make a lot of money but any and all money I would make would be money in the bank as we do not need the second income to sustain us.
My mother had to go back to work when I was 4 months old as that was the allotted maternity leave at that time and I was pretty much rasied by my grandmother and not in a daycare. I did not ever disrespect my grandmother, I never once looked down on her for being a stay at home mom I believe that by her being a stay at home mom and taking care of me (her granddaughter) it helped in my decision to become a stay at home mom.
Like I said. I love it and would not change it for the world. I love waking up to hugs and kisses from my little girl and I love hearing her run through the house screaming and everything!!! She is the best thing to ever happen to me (other then my fiancee) and the fact that I get to actually raise her and not a daycare worker is beyond what any job could pay me!
Jean - posted on 08/12/2010
Full time with overtime and on call (of course all parents are this way.....). BTW, I'm NOT supermom. I'm more human than most. I guess I'd just like to say that I have no desire to work outside the home and with how busy I am just keeping us alive, the house clean, properly fed, interacting positively (and sometimes not so positively) with my family, I have no time to work from home either. I do my part by keeping our living expenses low and we don't really have the desires for all the material things that most families seem to really want. We don't really like to travel, we're home bodies, and my husband and I love to cook and I like to bake. I'm doing what I've always want to do, be at home raising my kids and taking care of my house. I have days when I wonder why I got up that morning, but I NEVER have any desire to get a job outside the home, I just wish sometimes that the kids could sense that I'm overloaded and have a fight free time......but kids aren't always like that so some days are trying, but I love what I do and its nice to hope that there are some other mothers out there that have the same feelings. I feel like I should have been born a century ago, like I don't fit with my peer group. Feels like most of the time most moms just want to work and don't want to be with their kids. Makes me feel like I'm odd and isolated so I just don't socialize much because I can't really relate to anyone......
Jean - posted on 08/12/2010
LOL, I find this funny. When I was in elementary school we were told to pick a career path and to write about it. I told my teacher I wanted to be a stay at home mom and she told me I had to pick a "job". I think its really sad that some people seem to think that being an at home mom is easy or that we are not intelligent, capable people. I work harder than any of the working people that I know. I take less time for myself and I have less hobbies. I get less sleep. I watch an average of four hours of tv a week, often with husband or kids, and I get on the interent for email or facebook an average of two hours a week. I'm BUSY all the time. I have four lovely children, 2 to 8, and I'm 5 months pregnant. I don't believe in allowing my kids to watch much tv, so we're busy all the time (we've got a two hour a day max for computers & tv). We eat out every six months or so, I make homemade bread from flour I grind myself and our baked goods are all homemade, my kids love to help bake (not so much into the cooking thing). I'm the maid, the daycare provider, the cook, and the financial advisor. Not to mention I get to do what I've always wanted to do since I was six, I get to spend each and every day with my kids, even the one's when I cry because no one will get along, and the days when we go for two hour walks and play at the park and everyone is happy.
Cassandra - posted on 08/06/2010
I am a stay at home mom! I go to school and I have internship which is my last week next week. I come home clean and cook. The best part is if i have school or internship my husband or my mom help me out. so mostly im at home all day doing alot. I enjoy being a stay at home mom. I rather have that then put my child in day care.
Melissa - posted on 07/28/2010
I work from home. So I am a stay at home mom, but I also work from home and get paid a good salary. I am able to be there for my kids yet I contribute to our family in a monetary way as well. And my income will be so much that in the next year my husband will be able to quit his job and stay home with us as well! We are living a life of "dreams" not a life of "wishes".
Sharon - posted on 07/27/2010
I am a stay at home mum for nearly 9 years now, have odd jobs in between, but find it hard to work, especially when the kids are sick, school holidays, doing home work, after school activities, clean the house & cook the dinner. I am applause to all the mums out there working part time or full time, don't know how you guys do it, but good on you!!
Rene - posted on 07/27/2010
I do not work, but really wish I did more and more each day. I just graduated from Kaplan University for my Associates Degree in Criminal Justice, and I can not wait to find an occupation within that particular field. I love my children and my old mans, but sitting at home with 3 to 4 children all the time it really takes the life out of a person. Your nerves get so out of wack, and just want some time alone, and some much needed peace and quite.
Cara - posted on 07/27/2010
Chances are not a single mom on here doesn't work. If you are mom, even a stay at home mom, you still work. A mother's work is never done. I think what you meant to ask is "how many moms are stay at home moms". And your answer to that is most likely a large majority of the moms.
Alicia - posted on 07/27/2010
I am a substitute teacher, which means I may get called in to work once a week or 5 days a week, but I consider myself a stay at home mom because I am home with my kids most of the time, summers off, home by 4, and I volunteer at shool any way, why not get paid for it? Its a great way to make extra money, get out of the house, and do something I'm passionate about while being able to work my own schedule and I can honestly say my kids come first, if I feel like I should stay home today, I simply say, "I can't today", I think I have the best of both worlds:)
Hollie - posted on 07/27/2010
I stay at home with our two boys...the oldest will be starting kindergarten in a few weeks and I also provide childcare for 2 little boys and a little girl during the week. By watching other children, my kids get to have playmates and it works out great!
Heidi - posted on 07/25/2010
I'm a Stay At Home Mom. So I don't get paid for the work that I do - but, heck yeah I work! My hubs put it very nicely in my last mother's day card: "If you got paid appropriately for all the work that you do, we'd be billionaires." Gotta love that man!
Ashley - posted on 07/23/2010
i don't work but I do go to school full-time. However, even when I wasn't going to school i was home with my son 24/7 because childcare costs, especially for infants, is an outrageous amount. Now it's a little bit better that my son's in preschool bc i don't have to pay as much anymore and I can go back to school knowing he's being productive n safe while I'm studying.
Christina - posted on 07/23/2010
I think some of you moms are looking to much into this post (which in my opinion is just weird, the post that is) I think we all know that sahm "work", I don't think that's what the OP was asking. I think she was asking who has an outside job.
Diana - posted on 07/23/2010
I am a stay at home mom, and wouldn't have it any other way. I feel very blessed to have been a part of Samuel growing up with me being around 24/7. We have had mannnny great times together, and wouldn't trade them for a job any day. Our children grow up too quickly as it is. To be able to be there for them all the time, makes you feel pretty special. Working moms, I feel have it pretty hard, they not only have to work, then they have to come home and do everything else too. Staying home is a job too, because of everything we do, I just wouldn't want to balance the both. I feel you miss out on too much, when you have to work. Kudos, to those who do both. All moms need support and praise.
Dawn - posted on 07/23/2010
i am a sahm and i chose this job because i simply could not see paying for someone else to care for my kids , an entire paycheck would go to paying childcare so what's the point in that?! once both of my kids are in school full time i will persue continuing my education and possibly a pt job while in school. being a sahm can be difficult and you definitely have to make financial sacrifices such as no longer being able to buy those expensive shoes or handbag in the store window and most of the time my kids are better dressed than me , but it is worth it and i wouldn't change a thing
Jennifer - posted on 07/23/2010
i have been a single stay at home mum since my eldest who is 18 was born, i have a 15 year old too and am glad i got to spend all those years with them, now they are grown up i am currently on job seekers and sign on every other week looking for work.
Chasity - posted on 07/22/2010
I am a stay at home mom and i love it. I have a five year old and now a 6 month old. When i had my five year old i only got to stay home with him for the first three months of his life. It was soo hard for me to go back to work and send him to a sitter all day. Now with my six month old i am home all the time. I think to be home with your kids is the best thing for them. No worries about how they are being treated by the sitters if its someone you have never used before. That is a big thing for me, i won't just hand my kids off to any one person i don't know. I would recommend staying home at least for the first year or two if you can.
Danielle - posted on 07/22/2010
Sing it Lisbeth!!! i'm with you. I don't work out of the home, but i am a hard worker.... sahm's are chefs, nannies, we do laundry, clean, and every day i'm either an engineer (building trains all day) or a toy repairer. i find all things lost, kill all bugs and i can check my mail, make a doc's appt, cook dinner and change a diaper all pretty much at the same time. Now that's working.. how many men do YOU know that can multitask like that?? LOL
Joy - posted on 07/22/2010
I'll admit to working part-time at a job that pays, but in the end half the paycheck goes to childcare. I used to be full-time, but dropped down to part-time after my daughter was born. I work Mon-Fri in the mornings then go home with the daughter for the afternoon. When/if we have a 2nd child I'll be a SAHM full time.
So I couldn't decide if I should have joined this group or the working moms one. I joined both.
Christina - posted on 07/22/2010
I do not work. My husband told me when we started having children that he didnt want to spend the money on out side help. He said that he would rather me be at home because he knows it would make me feel better about who is watching him...(which is me) and plus the benifit of being a stay at home mom is you get to teach them there ABC's and teach them to count to 10 or tie there shoes.. I love being at home with our son.. he surprises me everyday with something knew and i dont want to miss that not for a minute!
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