how much is too much hugging your 3month old?

Sara - posted on 04/14/2011 ( 28 moms have responded )

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I guess I am hugging my baby so much and I am afraid it might be problem when he gets older.

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Annie - posted on 04/15/2011

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I was always told that you can't love a baby too much. It teaches them love, trust and security. Like others have said, you might want to make sure that the baby is getting enough tummy time and time to learn to be independent. They are only babies once though!

Donna - posted on 04/15/2011

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If you are bfing then you can be cuddling for hours a day just doing that! Don't worry, the only issues can come at night as it can be argued that learning to settle themselves is a skill for them, and you can delay that to your own detriment. I don't mean don't cuddle at night, just don't necessarily totally rely on that to get them to sleep.

Mabel - posted on 04/14/2011

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Ladies I give my 2 yr old so many hugs during the day he will actually roll his eyes at me but then I get the little side smile that just melts my heart and I grab him again...=)
Hug all you want to.Make that baby the most loving kid you can and when he is older he won't have such a problem with the affection.Devin tells me he loves me all the time.That is all I want to hear =)

Tinker1987 - posted on 04/14/2011

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there is no such thing as hugging your baby to much! there are just some people out there who have a more military toughlove approach with their kids.shame on them.my fiance had parents who werent affecionate and now that he is adult he hardly sees or talks to him.so im going too spoil my son rotten so i always have a close bond with him!!

Candy - posted on 04/14/2011

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Enjoy Enjoy and Enjoy !!! When he is older he want want you too. You can Never give to many hugs as far as I am concered.

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Chairettie - posted on 04/18/2011

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There is no such thing as too much affection at 3 months old - all they need is a clean diaper, sleep, milk and your love - lots of your love!!!!!!! It is just as important as the other 3 necessities :o)

Momof1 - posted on 04/18/2011

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I don't see any problem with hugging or cuddling your baby too much. I've been told and I've read things saying that if you hold your baby all the time, they will be attached to you when they get older and they won't be able to do anything without you. Well let me tell you, I was constantly with my baby when he wasn't sleeping. Holding him, nursing him, kissing him... and now at 17 months, he is sooo not attached to me. :( Even when he was younger, like 7 or 8 months, he stopped liking to be hugged and held. Which was very sad for me. But he loves when daddy holds him.

Hayley - posted on 04/18/2011

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you can never cuddle your baby too much. I love cuddling my little girl and I do it all the time.......I even have her in a sling when I do the house work. It doesn't make them clingy.....infact quite the opposite. I cuddled my eldest 2 a lot too and they are not remotely clingy. Just very confident and secure :) You hug that baby as much as you want.

April - posted on 04/17/2011

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I love hugging my kids. I hug them all the time because one day they won't want to be hugged so much :( i'm taking advantage of it while they're little :) You can't spoil a baby so don't worry about it. :)

Kylie - posted on 04/17/2011

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my son is 2.5 he is a happy independent loving boy, i hug him when ever i can, even now, though he will often want to play or show me something rather then have a hug these days! but it is really hard i think not to hug them alot when they are so little, as long as your little one is getting that developmental tummy time and stuff, you can't hug them enough (i used to put my son on his mat for tummy time, and then lie on the floor next to him and talk to him or touch his hands or feet)

Jenni - posted on 04/17/2011

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Huh? How would too much affection be detrimental especially to a newborn? That's crazy talk, hun!
You've waited long nine months for him! Don't feel guitly about wanting to cuddle him all day. How could that possibly be harmful to anyone?
You can't spoil a baby, remember that. ;)

Jasmine Dawn - posted on 04/17/2011

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I Love hugging my Son!!
people tell me it'll make him clingy but i dont care i want my son to know how much i love him and i will cuddling as much as i like and you should do the same :)

Christina - posted on 04/16/2011

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I have to agree with all the Mommies that responded.. You cannot hold or hug your little one too much. Love is unconditional and should be given freely and often, especially to our children..

Jessica - posted on 04/16/2011

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I have 4 children, 7, 5, 2, 14months. All are different but they all need the same thing. UNCONDITIONAL Love, hugs and kisses. It is imposible to show too much affection to a child. It lets them know you will always be there for them and you love them unconditionally. DON"T LET ANYONE ever try to convince you that you are spoiling your baby buy hugging him/her! Your baby needs to know she is secure with you. Keep doing what feels right in your heart. You know what is best for your child. You are doing great. Enjoy the loving, snuggling moments now because as they get older you lose many of those close moments. Kids grow up faster than you know.

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I don't think you will run into any problems hugging your baby too much. My daughter was hugged so much by my husband and I so much for her first year that a lot of people told us that she was going to be spoiled and not be able to adjust or self sooth. Now she is a well rounded 3.5 year old who still loves to hug us as much as she wants.

Holly - posted on 04/16/2011

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You can not hug and hold anyone too much. A baby cannot grow without touch. I held Holly ALL the time and now she is 8mths. and wants to be on her own playing, exploring, crawling and then comes for cuddles when she wants them. Don't worry about the future just do what you feel is right now!

Melissa - posted on 04/16/2011

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There is no such thing as to much! You cant spoil your kids by giving them to much love and attention...I think the more the mre independant and loving your child becomes...read Dr Sears and Dr Spocks views on it...I give my boy sooo mcuh attention and love and he is very independant!!!

Amanda - posted on 04/16/2011

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You cannot hug, kiss, or in any other way show too much affection to a young child. There will come a time when he's older where you want be able to hug him as much as you want.

Ashleigh Jade - posted on 04/15/2011

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It will only be a problem when hes older if you do not allow tummy time or use cuddling to put him to sleep. The sleep routines you start now stick.

Other then that hug away! Its a wonderful way to bond with your child and it feel good too! :)

Angela - posted on 04/15/2011

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I don't believe that there is a such thing as too much hugging I have a four month old lil girl and I hug and kiss her more times in a day than I can count.

Charlie - posted on 04/14/2011

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WHAAAAT ?

There is never enough time in the day for the amount of hugs I want to give my boys !

Sal - posted on 04/14/2011

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hmmm too much hugging, poor baby,unless you never put him down there is not too much

Stifler's - posted on 04/14/2011

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Pffft there is no such thing as too much cuddling they are only little once don't waste it. My son is 1 and we have cuddles all the time!!

Amber - posted on 04/14/2011

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If you are still hugging your son every 5 minutes and he is starting college in the fall...then you can worry :)

Bonnie - posted on 04/14/2011

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You can't spoil a baby. They don't know any better. Give them all the love you want.

Erica - posted on 04/14/2011

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In my opinion, you can't love your baby too much! I hug my 5 month old all the time. It's impossible to spoil a baby. :)

Erica - posted on 04/14/2011

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In my opinion, you can't love your baby too much! I hug my 5 month old all the time. It's impossible to spoil a baby. :)

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