Maria Elena - posted on 06/21/2010 ( 39 moms have responded )
I lost my baby @ 16 weeks, how soon can I get pregnant?
Maria Elena - posted on 06/21/2010 ( 39 moms have responded )
I lost my baby @ 16 weeks, how soon can I get pregnant?
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Suenita - posted on 08/05/2012
hiya so sorry for all your loss i have just had a mc my youngest child is 8 month and i have suffered 2 mcs in the last 3 month both the babys had stoped groing at 6 and a half weeks
Michelle - posted on 06/25/2010
So sorry to hear that you lost your baby. I am a mother of three daughters and between my second and third daughter I had a lost a baby I was about 13 weeks along. My doctor had told me to wait about 6 months because I had a lot of complications so I went on the pill for for 5 months as a precaution. And found out the follow month after being off the pill I was pregnant. You can get pregnant as soon as your cycle comes back but at the same I think you and your body need some time to heal because no matter how far along you are it is still a difficult process to heal from. Good luck to you.....
Kim - posted on 06/25/2010
I am so sorry. (((HUG))) It is up to your Dr. Most say 1- 3 months. Usually after your checkup they will be able to see how you are doing physically and mentally and be in a better position to let you know. I believe at 16 wks since it is 2nd tri it is 2-3 months. 1st tri is generally 1 cycle. You really don't want to try right away because there is a much greater chance of a chemical pregnancy, that is when you lose the baby usually within 10 days past your ovulation day.
Maria Elena - posted on 06/25/2010
Ladies, I cant thank you enough for your advice and kind words. Thank you and God bless you all!
Katheryn - posted on 06/25/2010
I am very sorry for your loss. It is never easy and even having a great support group, I found going to a counselor helped me where others couldn't.
Every Dr. is different and every person is different. The first few years that we tried and lost our babies, it was hard and we continued to try shortly after. After having so many losses I finally went to the Dr. She recommended that we rest for 1 cycle to start the "protocol" that she has to go through before sending to the specialist. BTW Most do not know that you only have a 36 hour window to get pregnant! Amazing and what a Miracle that we can even get pregnant!
After being unsuccessful with the Ob/Gyn. (3 months) She shipped us off to the REI~ Reproductive Endocrinology Infertility Specialist. During this time we had friends tell us to relax and don't think about getting pregnant and it will happen...Oh you are still young it will happen. I learned in therapy that it is nice that they are trying to be nice, but really deep down it truly does not help. It actually made me very sad and depressed. Why can't I get pregnant like everyone else? It can takes it toll on you. We started with REI when I was 32. Now 7 years later I am finally having our first baby. This baby has been in the making for almost 11 years! The advice that I got from our IVF Specialist, was to be on a very strict diet. NO Caffeine! This includes all decaf, and CHOCOLATE. Of coarse that also includes any and all soda. She strongly feels that even the slightest caffeine can cause problems. If you are one of those women who have a hard time getting pregnant. I listened to her, she has a 60% success rate over Stanford Hospital. Plus the proof is in the pudding as they say I am 34 weeks and everything is going good. If you exercise or do strenuous work, you need to rethink. Treat your body and mind as if you are pregnant take things a little bit slower take all your vitamins make sure that you have the correct protocol from your Dr. Mine had me taking certain vitamins and other types of pills~not drugs~ to give us every chance. My only regret is not going this drastic 7 years ago. It is what it is. If you are a religious person, PRAY every day and then some Visualize holding that Baby, Feeding that Baby, What the Baby will Feel like when it is moving inside of you, the not feeling good, EVERYTHING!!! Get plenty of rest eat healthy, stay away from junk food, but allow for it once in awhile. Just no Caffeine based products. I look at it, my cravings or a Baby? Baby always wins. Yes I miss Chocolate and my favorite Starbucks, But I want the baby more.
Side note, I see other women that have kept tract of when they lost their babies, I used to. It actually is not good for you to be reminded of what happened. Yes it is sad, and yes that life was precious and sad that it is gone, but God has a plan. Stay positive, have your sad moments, but only look to the future and visualize all the milestones that you will be experiencing with that baby and your loved ones. I hope that my story helped you look at things in a different light. I gave you the very short version believe it or not. But I am an open book. I will Pray for you and you family. Good Luck and I hope that we read very soon that you are enjoying the Miracle of God's Gift.
Marcy - posted on 06/24/2010
I'm sorry for your loss; I have had 2 miscarriages, and I know how painful they can be. For me, the wait until I was emotionally ready was longer than the wait for my body to be physically ready. You need to make sure you're ready to handle the emotions of pregnancy. If you're anything like me, you'll worry the entire time if the slightest little thing goes wrong (or I perceived it went wrong).
I had 2 years between my miscarriages, then 3 years before my daughter was born. 16 months later, I gave birth to my twin boys. My body needs help with carrying the pregnancy past the first trimester.
The bottom line is you need to do what you feel is best. If you feel you are ready to get pregnant right away, go for it on your next cycle. Good luck to you, and I pray you don't experience another miscarriage!
Tracy - posted on 06/24/2010
as soon as you want. i miscrried at 9 weeks, fell pregnant literally straight away, expecting #3 in 2.5 weeks. try whenever you feel ready. i think of it as the baby i lost came back to me.
Samantha - posted on 06/24/2010
you cn get pregnant agen str8 away i had a miscariage an gt pregnant within the saym week
Tanya - posted on 06/24/2010
Hi I am sorry for your loss! I too lost my baby boy at 17 weeks on 15 Dec 09. 2 1/2 months later I was pregnant again but miscarried 2 days before my first ultrasound. I am again 8 weeks Pregnant and am having difficulties again. And I now have found a doctor who will monitor me as I am bleeding with this one as there was a small subchorionic hemorrhage found. My recommendation is to wait, let your body recover. Although it is said you are most fertile straight after loosing a baby but you need to look at what you also need and to consider what is best for you. If you cant decide talk to your obstitrician.
Good luck and if they are doing tests to find out why you lost your baby I hope you are lucky enough to get some answers. Feel free to privately message me outside of here if you want to.
Edit: we have now lost this one I was expecting, due to hemorrhaging and it clotted instead of passing through.. we are now able to have this investigated as we have lost 3 in a row. I hope your not like me and this second one is more successful. Although we are extreemely blessed to have 2 here on earth with us...
Tiffany - posted on 06/24/2010
I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks in March 2008. I had my son March 2009. We waited 3 months and got pregnant again. The doctor wanted us to wait at least 2 months for my body to get back to normal, but I truly believe that it has to do a lot with when you are emotionally ready. No matter how far along you are, a miscarriage is devastating. I am so sorry for your loss. Good luck with everything :)
Jessica - posted on 06/24/2010
First, let me say that I'm so sorry. I had a miscarriage almost 2 years ago at 9 weeks. My doctor told me to wait 1 to 2 cycles before trying to get pregnant. I waited 1 cycle and 6 weeks after the miscarriage I conceived my beautiful healthy daughter who is now 10 months old.
I htink it depends on each situation and each doctor. I read so much after my loss and everything was so contradictory. I read that sometimes you have to wait longer to conceive if you had a D & C.
Your doctor can tell you what he/she recommends.
Janissa - posted on 06/24/2010
I am so sorry. I have had two miscarriages and I know how you feel. My doctor told me I needed to wait two normal menstrual cycles so you can give your uterus a chance to heal. I am now pregnant again and halfway through it. My doctor prescribed extra folic acid to take along with my prenatals and I swear this is what helped me. But not everyone is the same. Talk to your doctor about any concerns. Good luck to you in the future.
Crista - posted on 06/24/2010
Sorry to hear that you lost your little angel. I lost 6 little angels..And when i was emotionally ready my doc told me to go ahead and try agian but that was a year later only because of my losses..so it was really up to your body
Mindy - posted on 06/24/2010
First off I am very sorry to hear you had a miscarriage! I had one a few years ago, and it is a very misfortunate thing and sad. My dr advised me to wait a few months but it is up to you and when you feel your ready. Best of luck!
Amy - posted on 06/24/2010
My mom had a miscarriage and went in for her 6 week checkup and found out that she was 4 weeks pregnant with me. If you feel that you and ur body are ready for it...go for it.
Ashley - posted on 06/24/2010
i was about a month when i had a miscarriage, and we tried after that and i was pregnant 3 months later! You know what you can handle, so if your ready to try again for a baby then i dont see why it would hurt. My girl is perfectly healthy and everything went fine. Hope this helps and I hope everything works out for ya! Sorry you lost the baby!
Dawn - posted on 06/24/2010
I got pregnant with my son 2 weeks after I had to abort an ectopic pregnancy. So very fast.
Clare - posted on 06/24/2010
Shavonne - I worked for a fertility specialist and obstetrician before becoming a SAHM and 3 cycles was the advice he gave his patients
Maria Elena - posted on 06/23/2010
Thank you ladies for you comments! I really appreciate the support. :)
Ruth - posted on 06/23/2010
I would say give it about two cycles then try again....Really sorry about your loss ♥
Shavonne - posted on 06/23/2010
so sorry to hear that. I had a miscarriage on October 1,2009 and we got pregnant right after we miscarried. My dr told me that as long as all the tissue left the body then you can start trying again.
I think that it helped me to not get all depressed about loosing my baby angel. So if you got checked out and everything is good then go for it. GOOD LUCK :)
To the women above my post..It is very unlikely to have another miscarriage right after you have one. The reason most dr's say to wait is because some women are sad and depressed and depression can cause miscarriage.
Clare - posted on 06/23/2010
Apparently the risk of further miscarriages is higher if you get pregnant too soon, the Dr I used to work for suggested waiting 3 months or more before trying again. Best of luck!
Danielle - posted on 06/22/2010
I miscarried in Oct., then surprise the next month I was pregnant again! If ur emotionally ready, then let God help u w/ ur decision.
Eileen - posted on 06/22/2010
In July of 1997, I had a miscarriage in which I actually saw the fetus. When I returned to the doctor for a 30 day checkup, she took a urine sample. When she came back, she told me to sit down and hold on: I was pregnant again! It was a difficult pregnancy, and she came prematurely, but she's now 12 and practicing karate as I write this. :)
Cristina - posted on 06/22/2010
I'm sorry to hear of your loss, but the good news is that as Kencheska said, right when the cycle, and to it seems that after a miscarriage, most women get pregnant so soon after. good luck.
Janet - posted on 06/22/2010
Very sorry to hear of your loss.... I would personally recommend giving yourself around six months to heal emotionally and physically.... ((hugs))) Jxxx
Jessica - posted on 06/22/2010
My doctor said that it is best to wait 6 months to a year to ive your bidy time to recover from the trauma. Plus it will give you time to recover as well.
Jawaka - posted on 06/22/2010
Sorry for your loss. As long as your doctor says you are ok internally you can try right away, however emotionally are you ready. We miscarried twice before we had our first child at 14 & 16 weeks. We decided we weren't going to try and about 6 mths later we were pregnant with our now nearly 12 yr old daughter.
Candice - posted on 06/21/2010
i tryed again 2 months after mine but i was 4 weeks with the first and 5 weeks with the 2nd miscarriage
Colleen - posted on 06/21/2010
if you and your partner are ready to try again, you can conceive during your first cycle, as long as it's a normal one. They say normal is 3-5 days and not clotty or too heavy. I don't believe anybody truly emotionally heals after a miscarriage.. it's been almost 3 years since mine, and still haven't healed completely from it.. and I now have my 7 month old.. So, it's really up to you and your partner if you guys are ready to try! Good Luck!
Natasha - posted on 06/21/2010
I'm so sorry for you loss. I have had 3 miscarriages (all early on at around 7wks) The first time i didn't want to fall pregnant again straight away so i waited a year. Then i fell pregnant first try but miscarried that one too. Then i was pregnant again 2 weeks later and had my son in April last year. I had my third miscarriage in march and am still not pregnant again. It is very frustrating for me as last time i was pregnant again so soon! I hope it doesn't take long for you. All the best xoxo
Angie - posted on 06/21/2010
My doc said you should wait til about 4 months to really start trying. I lost twins at 12 weeks and was devistated. That was August 2007, Just after Christmas I was pregnant with my now 21 month old son.
I will say give yourself some time for healing both physically and emotionally. You need it right now, surround yourself with people that love you. I didnt realize how important that was until I did, the support was very healing.
Sorry about the loss.
Soleil - posted on 06/21/2010
I'm so sorry, it's never easy to loose a child. I miscarried before my youngest son, and we were pregnant again about 3 months later. He was actually twins, but we lost the other... just keep trying as long as your dr has given you the thumbs up, your body will decide when it's ready. Good luck!
Christy - posted on 06/21/2010
I am sorry that this happened to you! It is a emotionally painful thing to deal with. :(
I was only 9 weeks along when I M/C and was preggers again 2 months later. I think if you were that far along you should wait at least 3 months, that is what most Dr's say, anyway. They told me I should have waited 3 months before I started trying to have another baby.......
Cheyenne - posted on 06/21/2010
i know what it feels like.i lost my 1st baby at 4 months in oct 2008, then i got pregnant agian in feb and lost that one march 2009. and then i got pregnant while i was on my period the end of april and found out end of may. we werent gonna try for awhile and had sex only one time after that. so we were surprised. and now i have a healthy 5 month ols son.
Maria Elena - posted on 06/21/2010
Thank you so much ladies.
Alana - posted on 06/21/2010
Technically, you can get pregnant right away. As soon as you have a period you're back on the ovulation train. Persnally, I conceived 4 months after miscarrying. We started trying right away.
I know a lot of people say you should wait until you've healed emotionally. I never got over losing my first baby. I never will. But my life went on and now I have a wonderful, beautiful baby boy that I love more than anything. You know best what you can handle. :)
Kencheska - posted on 06/21/2010
Sorry for your loss. The good news is you can try when your cycle arrives. My suggestion is that you wait a little to get past the emotional loss. That takes more time to heal than your body does (I know because I lost a child at 34 weeks). I would wait at least 12 weeks to 16 weeks before actively trying again.
Laurie - posted on 06/21/2010
So sorry you lost the baby. I lost one at about 12 weeks several years ago and emotionally you need a while to come to terms with it - especially if you really wanted the child. Physically you can get pregnant on your next cycle so if you don't want to get pregnant right away make sure you use birth control for a while. I would tend to give your body a couple cycles to recover from being pregnant first though if you mean to try again right away.