How soon would you have another baby ?

Alexis - posted on 12/27/2012 ( 41 moms have responded )

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Would any of you ladies plan to have another little one after having a baby 8 months ago ?

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Christine - posted on 01/05/2013

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I had mine three years apart which was supposed to be best for the kids. It worked out really well! They are all grown now and great friends. I am a postpartum doula and have seen some families that have kids one year apart and they really have their hands full. It's alot of work when they are that close.

Jen - posted on 01/03/2013

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my kids were 5 years old when i have my 2nd child. we planned to be that distance, so when they get to college it wont be difficult for me to send them to school. specially with the high tuition fees that we are experiencing now a days..

Julie - posted on 12/31/2012

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No! That's exactly what happened to me, unplanned, and I definitely don't recommend it. When my oldest daughter was 8 months old I had a checkup with my doctor to see about going on the Pill since I wasn't nursing anymore. She gave me samples and a scrip and said start them the Sunday after my next period started. It never started because I was pregnant with my 2nd daughter. I was very depressed at first. I wanted more time with my baby before having another one. I get really sick with my pregnancies so it was miserable being so sick and trying to take care of my baby. I was working full time and I would come home and my feet were so swollen. Then at 20 weeks I felt like my baby's head was in between my legs. My doctor checked and said I was dilating, already 2 1/2 centimeters. She said having become pregnant again so soon after my previous pregnancy, my body didn't have time to recover. My uterus and cervix weren't completely healed. My doctor said it takes 18 months to 2 years for that to happen. So I spent 3 1/2 months on bedrest and was hospitalized to 5 times to stop labor. I was lucky with that one that we managed to get her to term, but it was hard. Since I had to stop working my husband was working 3 jobs to make ends meet. Then I had a very active 17 month old and a colicky newborn who didn't sleep for the first 18 months of her life and my husband was stil working 3 jobs, one of them graveyard shift. So I lived through it, but I don't recommend it to anyone. My last two are 31 months apart and for me that is the perfect spacing.

Denikka - posted on 12/27/2012

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My kids were born 22 months apart. My son was just barely over a year when I got pregnant again (planned).
I know of at least one mom (a friends mom) who had kids 10 months apart. She didn't get pregnant when her older was 10mo old. That's 10mo between births :P I don't know if that was planned or not, but it happened :P

Under 20 months apart is a little too close for me personally, and they usually recommend waiting a full year between pregnancies, to allow your body to heal and build itself up again. But if you know the risks and that's how you want it...go for it :)

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Jessica - posted on 01/30/2013

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I have a 16 month old and a 6 week old. The 6 week old wasn't planned. I would not change it, but in the same respect, I regret not being able to give my first more one on one time. In the long run I think it will be great for them to grow up together, but in the mean time, the house is a mess, the laundry needs to be done, mommy needs sleep, and needs to hire a cook! Crazy wonderful chaos!

Wilmarie - posted on 01/28/2013

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I would suggest not having them too close together. I have a 6 yr old, 4 yr old, 2 yr old and 8 month old all so close together and they are a handful. I wish I would of waited. Reason I have so many is because the first two were from my first marriage and then my husband now wanted one of his own and we had my now 2 year old and the 8 month old was an oops and I was on bc the iud to be exact and still got pregnant with my 8 month old. Now I have my tubes tied. But anyhow I would advise to space them out a bit because you will have your hands full if they are close together. I would wait till your child is potty trained and out of diapers that way you won't have to buy diapers for both. Diapers are expensive I spend $60 every two weeks on a case of diapers for my 2 yr old and 8 month and pull ups for my 4 yr old because he still makes accidents. I hope this helps. Whatever you decide I wish you the best of luck :-)

Colby - posted on 01/28/2013

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I wanted to have another one as soon as I could after my daughter was born nine months ago then life happened.

Anna - posted on 01/24/2013

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i had my kids 9 1/2 months apart.My second child wasn't planed but i'm glad i had her.Its very stressful for me cause there so close together but yup its worth it watching them grow together.

Jessica - posted on 01/20/2013

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I have 3 little ones! 20 and 19 months between them. It is a lot of work, and at times very stressful but seeing how close they are makes it so worth it. I have an older sister and younger sister; 7 years between my older sister and myself and 4 years between my younger sister and myself. I can tell you, 7 years is way too much, and 4 years is the absolute maximum spacing I would go if you want your kids to be good friends. But in the end, to each their own... there are definitely pros and cons to any spacing.

Bailey - posted on 01/19/2013

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My oldest is 5 my middle is 3 and my youngest is 3 months and I didn't plann none them it just happen but they are great !

Amanda - posted on 01/18/2013

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I agree. 3-4 years apart is better. They can go to the bathroom by there self ect.. We have 4 boys all together, 2 is my husbands, and 1 is mine, and we had one together. His is 13 and 10. Mine is 5, and one we had together is 19 months. I don't have to babysit the bigger ones which is really helpful, cause I can get stuff done around the house. Plus I love my sleep, peace and quite. Though thats me, everyone is different. You do what you think is right. It all depends on you, and what your willing to deal with, and how much you can handel. :)

Chasity - posted on 01/14/2013

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I just had my baby girl on 9/11/2011 and had my lil son on 8/13/2012. That is eleven months apart. I will admit it has been rough somewhat. Especially when my daughter finally learned to walk. Now my son is ahead of the game and can for the most part sit up on his own. I am glad they are so close because they already love each other so much. And they may can be in the same class when school comes around.

Jolie - posted on 01/08/2013

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Yes, but you have to do what you feel is right for you. I have 6 kids--my first two are 21 months apart, then there was a gap and we had another son when my youngest son was 4. Then 2 years later we had our 1st daughter, 13 & 1/2 months after she was born, my next daughter was born and 1 year & 10 days after that my last daughter was born this past August. The only time we were "trying" to get pregnant was with my 1st daughter, all the rest were unplanned, but I wouldn't change anything. I would've tried for another one asap after the birth of my youngest daughter, but I have other health issues that need to be addressed, so she will probably be my last baby.

Jen - posted on 01/07/2013

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I started trying for my 2nd baby when my 1st was only 3 months old. It took a few months to get pregnant, but I got pregnant when my 1st was 8 months old. It was the best thing I could do for my children. They are best friends, they do everything together. I ended up having 3 kids in 3 years. It is amazing. They all play together so great. I think it's easier to have them close together. They are all learning things at the same time. They are all on the level and interact well. We are now working on baby #4 :)

Ana - posted on 01/06/2013

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Oh, I also get that people want to "get them all out of the way" and then get "fixed" but I'm not seeing our life that way. I'm a mother, a mother for life and these are my child bearing years. I told my husband that I wanted to stop having kids probably about 38ish. So if we have 2 more by then, I am ok with that. But I still need my 3 year break, the others can be closer together. I should have a maid and more money by then to get more help!

Ana - posted on 01/06/2013

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No, not at my age. 33. Right now, I am 9mths preg and have a 31month old. And the hardest thing about me being pregnant with a toddler is that toddlers take a lot of energy to raise and when I am pregnant I am not one of thoes women who skip and hop and are full of joy the whole pregnancy. I'm more like Eyore from Pooh Bear.

I had to potty train her during this pregnancy, while I had morning sickness. I had to work her off her binki, wayy to many emotions between the both of us during that time. I had to take her out of school and keep her home with me because I left the military, which was a big change in itself, because she was used to being around other kids and having activites to do, now she's home with mama (preg mama) and it was a challenge. I love having her home, but it was a challenge. Not to mention that I have never been a stay at home mom, so I was just thrown all in at once and pregnant all at the same time. I was overwhelmed too many days.. I just recently have learned to grasp my way.

Folks can have their kids back to back if they choose, I don't judge on that, but we won't be having another baby until this little gril inside me is potty trained walking talking and in part time day care. Meaning for us, she needs to be at least 3 before we even try!

Sara - posted on 01/06/2013

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My experience is that my husband and his sister are like 19 months apart and they fought a lot. I was a little under two years older than my brother, and we fought quite a bit. My kids are two and a half years apart, and they get along wonderfully. I don't know if it's across the board, but I wouldn't really want a kid less than 30 months younger than his sibling. However, that's just my experience. :)

Also, I have a friend who had several babies in quick succession, and it really messed with her health. I don't know that two babies close together would have huge effects, but it might. I'd be really worried about my insides at that point. Heh.

Marina - posted on 01/06/2013

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When my 1st was 17mo I got pregnant- they're 26 months apart and have been best buddies since the 2nd was about 6 months. When #2 was 15 months I got pregnant and he and #3 are 22 months apart and good buddies. So far so good for us! I felt it gave the older one time to become more toddler/less baby and have the full baby experience which I think is good. But whenever you feel comfortable is the real answer.
I started trying to conceive the 2nd and 3rd when the older babies were about 10 months, respectively. It took time to get pregnant though.

Amanda - posted on 01/05/2013

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Just to add, my daughter was not planned. There was no way I would have chosen such a small age gap.

2 lots of nappies, double the sleepness nights, my daughter was extremely coliccy so most nights in the first few weeks she wouldn't settle til 1am then she would wake my son up screaming. I think the first month I survived on a maximum of 3 or 4 hours broken sleep. Not fun when you have a hyper active toddler who doesn't napo during the day.

Diane - posted on 01/05/2013

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What does your doctor say? Usually, there's a professional opinion as to how long your insides take to heal completely. It has nothing to do with how great you feel outwardly, or, how some churches influence their women. No, I would never intentionally get pregnant with an 8 month old. Your body isn't ready, and your one on one time with a toddler just went out the window. Gone, zippo, nada, forever, and further more, you don't know if you'll have any difficulties with another baby or not, let's say colic, or refux, etc., which would cut into your time with your infant. That baby needs you. Why the rush? What's the real need behind this whole thing?

Amanda - posted on 01/04/2013

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I have a 17 month age gap between my 2, I fell pregnant with my daughter when my son was 8 months old.

I think the age gap you have depends on you. Some people like to pop them out really quick, others like to wait a while

Sarah - posted on 01/03/2013

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Hi my first was about 3 months old when i found out i was pg with my 2nd n as my first little boy didnt sleep much every hour he woke n plus like some of the other comments of feeling guilty of not having the one to one time with my first but its you choice n you get on with it now nearly 4 n 3 they are best buddies n i wouldnt change it for the world 11 months and3 weeks differents. Between the two

Emerald - posted on 01/03/2013

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I had a miscarriage with my first and then got pregnant 1 year later and have my sweet little boy!got pregnant exactly 1 year later,wasnt planned and was so excited and i lost the baby,we decided to try again immediatly and got pregnant just 5 weeks after the miscarriage!we now have a another sweet baby boy and they are 24 months apart,i would have liked closer but we are going to try one more time,we really want a girl!our youngest is fixin to be 6 months and we have started trying again :) if you feel ready go 4 it!babies are such a blessing!

Kaycee - posted on 01/01/2013

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My oldest 2 boys are 17 mos apart!!! The first 4 months after my 2nd son was born was crazy but now they are 4(5in April) and 6 and they are best friends!! If it feels right for you go for it! At times it's crazy but I wouldn't change it ever

Michelle - posted on 12/31/2012

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None of my kids were planned. But I got pregnant while nursing my son when he was 8 months old. It works out just fine. My son and oldest daughter are very close and they play together very well. My husband was/ is away often for work. It was sometimes hard but I enjoyed it. My youngest 2 are each 22 months younger then the next oldest. They don't get to share as much with the oldest, but they spent more time being the baby. It's up to you, but it's not a bad thing.

Dove - posted on 12/31/2012

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I would not, personally, plan to have kids with less than a 2.5-3 year age difference.

Stephanie - posted on 12/31/2012

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If you were completely find with no health issues during your pregnancy before, go for it! I would wait for two years... I had morning sickness for 9 months... it was bad nothing really helped. I just would not be able to take care of a baby and me.

Shalagh - posted on 12/31/2012

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Babies are the best birth control ever.I was freaked out. It took me a couple years to warm back up.And thankfully, eight years later at the age of 46, I'm pregnant with our second. Talk about love in the nick of time.

Grace - posted on 12/30/2012

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If all is well, I say let it flow. Smooth pregnancy, strong support, newborn is doing well. Why not? They'll grow up to be best friends. That was the plan for me and my husband until he forgot to "be there" for the family he was working so hard to support. I'm also surrounded by women who have 2-4 kids less than 12 months apart. So it's a normal thought to me now.

Susan - posted on 12/30/2012

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I'm already thinking about #3, only because I'm 38 and not getting any younger. My 2nd is 3 months old now, and my first is 3.5 years. This wasn't by choice- we started trying for our second one when the first was 8 months old, but it wasn't in the cards for us. We had a m/c, and all in all it took 2 years to get pg with my second. It was a ROUGH pregnancy, and a terrifying delivery where we thought we were going to lose the baby... and this cost thousands out of pocket in spite of insurance! Yet here I am, thinking about having another baby. If men had to do this.... :) I think the more, the merrier. You can't focus on the short term circumstances. Yes, it is very hard when there are several in diapers, needy, and super-dependent, but you have to think about what you want your Thanksgiving table to be like in 30 or 40 years. The short term is, well, short, when you look back. The children we make now are life long blessings tho.

Elfrieda - posted on 12/30/2012

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I think 18 months is on the extreme close end of things, and 4 years is a little bit far apart. It's all personal preference (and chance!). Some things to consider are: your support system, your patience and sleep deprivation tolerance levels, how much time you want to let your older one be the baby (because you'll look at her differently when you get a new baby)

Kate - posted on 12/30/2012

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My youngest are 14 months apart. I had 3 kids in 4 years. I don't regret it at all! The kids are very close to each other and are interested in many of the same things so they play well together. I love them being close in age

Kristen - posted on 12/30/2012

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My children are just under 18 months apart. I got pregnant again when my daughter was 9 months old. This was planned because we wanted them close in age. Also my daughter is very independent and was walking at 9 months and nearly potty trained at that time. The fact that she is so advanced made us even more comfortable in our decision to get pregnant again so soon. I know the recommended time between pregnancies is 12 to 18 months to let your body fully recover, but I didn't have any issues. I also needed both my children for 13 months, so I was 5 months pregnant with my son when my daughter weened herself. It was not easy, but I do not regret it. If you think you are ready and you are healthy enough for another pregnancy then go for it!

Nicole - posted on 12/30/2012

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My youngest 2 are 21 months apart. The last one wasn't planned but we did plan on having 1 more. They are both girls and it was crazy at first. Now they are good friends at 4 & 6. I would have waited another 6 months @ least just because they are only little once and I feel our 6yr old missed some of the 1 on 1 time that the other 2 had. From the mom side, I had just lost all my baby weight & put it right back on so it was harder to lose the next time with 2 little ones. It's totally a personal preference & it also matters how much your hubby helps out. If you feel you are ready, go for it. I didn't have the chance to think about it. :)

Megan - posted on 12/30/2012

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I got pregnant with #2 when #1 was 5 months old. They were born 13 months apart. I got pregnant with #4 when #3 was 3 months old. They were born 11 months apart. At one point I had 4 boys aged 4 and under (4, 3, 11 months, & newborn). I absolutely loved having my kids so close together, and yes they were all planned, but I certainly know that it's not for everyone! I had my 5th child (a girl) when my oldest was 7. Go with your gut on this.

Fatima - posted on 12/30/2012

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It really depends on you, your level of patience and your body. My kids are 5 years apart and it is working well for me because I can't handle things or noise. And I also love my sleep..

Denikka - posted on 12/28/2012

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The time is right when you're ready for another one :) There is no *perfect* age gap between kids :)
Some people like having kids super close together, some prefer to wait until the older one is potty trained or in school. Some have a HUGE gap between their kids (I've recently seen 14 and 18 yr gaps around CoM either actual pregnancy or wanting to get pregnant).
So whatever you feel is right, will be right for you :)

Rachel - posted on 12/28/2012

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My middle son was 10 months old when I got pregnant with my youngest so they're 19 months apart.
I think it's great that they're so close in age.

Alexis - posted on 12/28/2012

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Thank you Denikka , I know plenty of people that got pregnant sooner than that lol . We want another one but I dont know when the right time will be to have another one .

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