Libby - posted on 04/17/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )
I lost my job in September. I was pregnant with our 3rd child who was stillborn in December. After that I didn't even feel like working and wanted to be home with my boys as much as possible. One is in 1st grade and other in preschool. I am currently pregnant with our 4th child and due in October. I'm trying to take it easy but I find it hard to get hubby to do little things around the house for me. Because I'm not suppose to have much physical activity I'm trying not to do things like carry laundry baskets and take the trash out, etc. I asked the hubby to take the trash out last night and he didn't. And then he creates all these extra little jobs for me by not cleaning up after himself. Like he'll leave his plate with napkin on it on top of the stove. Instead of putting the plate in the sink and trash in the trash can, I have to pick up after him. Or like when he washes his face and splashes water all over the counter and just leaves it there or after he shaves he doesn't rinse out the sink. Ok, so honestly I am not a great housewife, and it's not my favorite thing to do. But I feel as if I'm not suppose to complain about picking up after him. He doesn't tell I complain about anything. I just feel like I'm not suppose to since he's the one working hard outside of the home. And I know I'm working hard inside the home. But how do I get him to do those meaningless little things that would save me a little bit of time? Or am I just suppose to suck it up and do it all? This is the first time I've ever been a stay at home mom. I wouldn't have made this choice myself, but I was glad my work made the choice for me. How do I know what the happy balance is though?