How to tell a 5 yr old kid that her room is not a scary place to sleep?

Wheng - posted on 02/14/2012 ( 18 moms have responded )

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My 5 yr old girl is very scared to sleep alone in her room even the lamp shade is on. This is always the big issue to us every night.

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Wheng - posted on 02/21/2012

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Thanks Lyana, i've tried it too plus the glow in the dark shapes in her room. Seems it didn't work either. Just last night she had a scary moment again and the spray last for 3 days and she started to cry again last night. This is making me so disappointed but will have to try something else again :( Even I sleep in her room is not working b'coz all she wants to do is sleep with us which is not going to happen as the hubby couldn't sleep if she's in our room. This is making me so sad :(

Michelle - posted on 02/15/2012

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My oldest son used to be afraid of monsters so I had a "Monster spray", I just used a bit of lavender oil mixed with water in a spray bottle and srayed that around his room (under the bed, in the closet etc). The lavender has a calming effect as well and he was happy with that.

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Melvinder - posted on 01/09/2013

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wheng this is melvinder a 10 year old i suggest your 5 year old to google her mouth wash her face and prey to god and tell her not to drink soda after 3pm if this does NOT WORK LET HER SLEEP IN YOUR ROOM FOR COUPLE OF days if she has a older brother that is not scared and let her sleep in his or her room oh yeah if she does not have a space in your room use some matresses i hope this works please go to circle of moms and write back.

Kimberly - posted on 01/05/2013

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My son is also afraid to sleep in his room. If he hears a noise he freaks out and is hysterical. I tried everything night lights dream pets stars on the ceiling. But nothing works. So i always have to sleep in his bed until he falls asleep, I cant take it anymore. So now my husband is fed up and is losing his patience. HELP

Jenny_D - posted on 02/29/2012

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I had similar problem with my then 2 year old daughter (now 3). She was so terrified that she would shake and scream! It took almost 3 months for things to get back to normal but I made sure that we played in her room during the day so she was used to being in there and having fun in there. Also, I made sure we did a comforting bed time routine every night that included, and still includes, reading a book, saying prayers and humming/singing a song. I didn't really make a big deal about the fear but in my mind started fresh every night as if there was not a problem. When she saw that my husband and I were not worried, things eventually calmed down. Good luck! It's not fun!

FlyBaby - posted on 02/29/2012

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Not sure what to suggest but didn't want to read and skip! Our DS is 2 and has a very small room, which is very basic. Not much decor as there isn't room for it. We keep the room very dark and I think that helps him to focus on sleep instead of looking round his room. We use a blackout curtain and keep the lights off when he goes to bed. We actually put him to bed in the dark, and we lean over and sing 3-4 songs while he's snuggled up in the dark. Not sure if that helps, but hope you get on OK xx

Lyana - posted on 02/21/2012

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My daughter is 7 and my son is 4, and they both get to sleep in my bed one night a week (weekend nights so there is not disruption for school). My husband also joins in, and sleeps on the floor in my kids bedroom on the opposite nights (daughter with me, hubby with son).



Maybe spending some time with her in her room would help. I buy some glow sticks from Dollar Tree every couple of months, and I have the kids go play in their rooms (together) after dark using the glow sticks as the only light. They have a ton of fun, but have never had trouble sleeping in their own room (just their own beds, even when they were younger and their bed was in my room). Since it is dark and there is just a little light, but they are having fun, it may help your daughter if you play with her like that.



Best wishes!

Lyana

Wheng - posted on 02/19/2012

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Thanks Lydia and Jill, for now she is happy with the spray and told me the next day that the monster left but came back in the morning? hehehe sound silly but I told her keep spraying and it will go away coz her spray is very powerful to scare them away. Thanks guys !

Jill - posted on 02/18/2012

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what exactly is she scared of? monsters? noises? shadows?



when my toddler went through this phase, i got a small squirt bottle, filled it with water and a few drops off perfume, tied a ribbon around the neck with a sign that said "Monster Spray". my daughter would spray the door frame and window frames in her room before she went to bed. because it was something she could do herself and actually smell like "monster repellent" it really calmed her fears and it worked like a charm! she really thought the special spray kept the monsters out of her room.



the good thing is that this is a phase and it will pass. in the meantime, try to be understanding and patient. i know it's easier said than done!

Lydia - posted on 02/17/2012

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have you tried to talk to her during the day to find out what exactly scares her? maybe the nightlight makes a weird shadow that looks scary, or she thinks there are monsters...

when I was little we had a cupboard dividing the room and that was so scary as I couldn't see what's behind it when I was in my bed... and always was afraid there are witches behind that cupboard.

you could try to put some quiet music on maybe that will help.

Wheng - posted on 02/16/2012

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@Inga, I wish she could sleep with us too but the thing is we don't fit all 3 in the bed and hubby is always complaining. In my culture we always sleep with our parents which I think my girl adopted from me. But when hubby is out of town I let her sleep over with me :) Thanks to you.

Wheng - posted on 02/16/2012

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Thanks Dorothy maybe I should change her night light with princess, coz up to now she still likes the on she got when she was a baby with the birds in it.

Inga (Uttara) - posted on 02/16/2012

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My daughter's room is beautiful! It also has princess wall stickers and night light. She is 6 and she still most of the time sleeps in my room. She is scared and does not want to be alone. I don't make a big deal out of it. I know that one day she will be ready to sleep there all the time.

Wheng - posted on 02/15/2012

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@Michelle...maybe I could try that spray again with lavender, when she was 2 yrs old we tried it but she was so mad that under her bed will get dumped. I'll try this again tonight and see if it's gonna work. Thanks much.

Wheng - posted on 02/15/2012

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@Cynthia, her room is small and just enough for her she hate the tent and thinking she don't see us huh. Thanks for some response.

Cynthia - posted on 02/14/2012

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maybe it is a scary place. if the room is too big that can be the problem. get a bed tent so he wont get overwhelmed with the huge room. good luck

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