How will I know when I'm ready for baby number 2?
Michelle - posted on 06/01/2011
You'll know. None of my kids were planned and I have 3 aged 3 and under. It's crazy but I do love them. I was 30 when I had my son so we decided keep going with the what ever happens mentality. You never know when you're not going to be able to have kids once you get to 30 (not a situation where we're too old or anything but the day is coming). So we kind of left it up to God and I can't imagine my life without any of them. It's personal though. Everyone has different circumstances in their lives. My guess is you'll just have a gut feeling about it.
Tasha - posted on 06/01/2011
I agree its totally personal, only you know your situation. For me, i thought id never marry or have children, im 31 now, married almost a year with an almost 5 month old. I never knew how much i loved babies till i had one, i was never one to flock to have to hold babies. And i think i knew i wanted another one by the time my oliver was 2 months old, not now but id like to try when hes about one, id like them close so maybe theyll be friends and theyll be outa the house sooner!
Christy - posted on 06/01/2011
I think when you're feeling baby hungry you're ready for baby number 2. As difficult as it is to have babies two years apart or so, once they're a bit older, they are such good buddies. At least mine have been. If you're struggling with the first one, I'd wait awhile, it actually is really hard to have two little ones.
Cheyenne - posted on 06/01/2011
to be honest i dont think any women is 100% ready. im pregnant with #2 and even though it wasnt planned for another year we are happy, but im terrified of having 2 under 2. i think every women goes through one thought of there own of what could happen with 2. but you'll know if your ready. for me it was i missed having my son as a baby, hes 16 months old and just running around everywhere and it makes me sad that hes growing up so fast. plus he spends alot of time by himself so it will be good to give him a sibling
Bonnie - posted on 06/01/2011
Really it is a personal decision overall, but it depends on your comfort level. Do you think you can care for two young kids? Do you have the space for another child? Do you want your children to be close in age or a considerable gap to not have two in diapers, etc.?
Katherine - posted on 06/01/2011
Well, wow it looks like you have a young baby? I don't think you're ever really ready. I just made sure mine were far apart in age. Some people like them closer in age though. It all depends. Then you have to wonder if you want 2 under 3 and so forth. Either way it's a lot of work. How much is your husband willing to help? I would sit down with him and lay out some rules before hand so that you aren't overwhelmed with 2.
Even though he works, that doesn't mean he can't help a bit.
I would get a signed contract too lol. Have you decided BF or bottle feeding? How you're going to manage in the night with 2? Just some things to consider.
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