Brittany - posted on 07/26/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
My husband has been miserable at work. Work has basically taken over his life. We can't do anything (and I mean ANYTHING) without him getting a text or call about work. Some of it makes sense to call/text about, most of them don't.
So he's been looking for a new job. No big deal. I'd rather have my husband back. The problem? his work now told him that he has to give them a date to step down. So that means, if he doesn't find a job in time, we can't pay our bills or rent. He doesn't plan on quitting, since the kids get almost free swimming lessons and we get a free membership. He will not only be taking a cut in hours, but a huge cut in pay ($2+).
I now kind of wish he had kept his mouth shut at work about it.
I did ask him if he wanted to switch, and I work and he stay at home. Child care is not an option. It is way to expensive and I like my kid's not being tyrants and not learning bad behavior from peers. He is afraid to since he thinks that no one will hire him later, even if he goes to school in the mean time.
Right now I'm the one who has to do his job hunting, and sending out resumes. He honestly doesn't have the time. When he's not working he's eating, asleep, or in church.
I have no idea what to do at this point. We can't break our lease and move in with family in the time frame that his work wants his final notice. I'm starting to have panic attacks over the idea that all of the money I've saved up so that we can do fun things or get necessities for the kids will have to be set aside for when he doesn't make enough.
We did it once after he go laid off after our daughter was born. We barely got by with a huge amount of help from family.
I know that if I am freaking out and stressing like crazy that he's feeling even worse. So I don't feel like I should vent out all of my anxieties to him.
I realize this is long, and not really asking so much for help, but venting it out somewhere might help me collect what bits I can, so that I can make some type of half assed plan.