Husband sleeps days, how to get anything done?

Stifler's - posted on 08/07/2011

Does he have days off? Because on his days off I'd do it and make him help if he refuses to let you clean when he's sleeping for work. That's what I did when my husband worked night shift and I did day work before we even had kids.

Melissa - posted on 08/07/2011

my husband works nights. 3pm to midnight. i feel the same way. i dont get anything done while he is here so after he leaves i get it all done. thats why i take my daughter to run errands, go to playgroup and etc. its hard but i guess i have to do what i have to do.

Katherine - posted on 08/07/2011

The thing is is that you work 24/7, he works what? 8 hours-12? I bet you don't get a ton of sleep with an 8 month old since he is not there to help. He needs to wake up for a few hours and HELP!!!!
That's all there is to it.

Christina - posted on 08/07/2011

Thanks ladies... maybe it's just me, but by the end of the day when he goes to work I am too wiped out from the kids (3 yrs and 8 mos) to do any chores, so it has to be during the afternoon. I guess he's just going to have to step up and watch the kids while I do chores!

Amanda - posted on 08/07/2011

My husband does shift work over three different shifts. I can never get anything done when he's home either.
I normally do the stuff like running errands or taking the kids to playgroup or the park in the morning so he gets a decent sleep then do things like hoovering in the afternoon.
Other than that I do what I can while he's not in the house so that when he is on nights the house isn't in too bad a state

Tara - posted on 08/07/2011

I agree with Brandi. My husband works straight graveyards, gets home about 6:30 am. I'm really lucky that he usually sleeps like a rock so I can get a fair bit of stuff done during the day, but if it's something loud (like vacuuming) I usually either wait until he's up or gone to work.
I usually put off anything that has to be done in/around our bedroom until he's up but I try to do little projects while he's sleeping.
Big projects wait until his days off. My girls are 3 1/2 and almost 2 and I let them "help" too. They know that toys go back into the toy cubby when they are done, garbage goes into the garbage can, dishes go in the sink, etc.
I've also just started doing something that I found out about when I was researching chore charts and things that adults with ADHD (my husband) can do to help organize - break a task into 2-5 minute increments. Most of the time it will get done within that time, and breaking it into smaller time chunks actually seems to get it done faster for me because it doesn't seem so overwhelming.

Beautiful - posted on 08/06/2011

My husband works the graveyard shift, goes in at 10 and gets home about 9:30am he stays awake for a while, if we have errands to run or just to hang out so usually gets to bed around 1-2:30pm. If I feel I need to clean up our room or the upstairs I try to do it before he goes up. But if I cant get to it I cant get to it. It doesnt get too messy though just a BUNCH of clothes everywhere. And if I need to get in the room while hes sleeping to put laundry away... or try to anyway I just put all of his stuff in one basket and take it at one time. Some of my cleaning I just put off untill hes gone for work like the kitchen if its my 3rd time cleaning it that day, laundry, vacuuming ect. I do alot of little things eveyday that keeps my house from being completly destroyed, the "big"projects like kids' rooms and ours I really try to leave for his days off that way I can focus on it and get it done and he watches the kids.