Amber - posted on 09/20/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )
I have had it!
My husband thinks that because he works full time, he doesn't have to lift a finger to do anything around the house.
I totally supported him for several years. He would not work, cook, clean or anything. I had my son and then went back to my nursing job only 2 weeks later. I worked 16 hours a day, 7 days a week, plus cleaned the house, ran errands, paid bills, went grocery shopping and did all of the cooking.
My job got so stressful that I had a terrible anxiety attack and was sent to the emergency room. The doctor said that my heart was out of rhythm and if I didn't quit my job and rest for a while I would be back with a heart attack. I was only 31!
I quit my job and told my husband that he was going to have to get a job because my health was at stake. He absolutely would not look for a job, so my dad hired him to work for his company.
I felt guilty about not bringing in any income, so I started up 2 businesses of my own- both of them are online and both of them are VERY busy. I work roughly 10 to 12 hours a day on them.
Now, I do that, plus clean the house and take care of our 4 dogs, 3 horses, goats, chickens, rabbits, cats and our 2 1/2 year old son. I mow the grass (4 acres out of our 17 with a push mower), wash the deck, AND I work on our cars. I just replaced an alternator in one of them this past weekend. Yes, I took advanced mechanic classes and do ALL auto repairs myself.
I clean the animal cages and cook all of our meals.
My main complaint is that he is a complete slob! He leaves empty cigarette packs laying everywhere. I counted 5 of them on our computer table. He leaves dirty, muddy clothes laying in the floor and will step over them instead of picking them up. He refuses to give any of the dogs a bath, help with the other animals or take the garbage to the dump.He refuses to change our son's diaper.
I sleep 4 hours a night because I try to catch up with housework after my online work is done. I am so tired. Everyone I know has commented on how worn out I look.
I have tried talking to him, screaming at him, withholding sex, everything. Nothing phases him. I have sit in the middle of the floor and cried my eyes out because I just can't handle it anymore, and he just goes to bed.
When I ask him if he likes living like a slob, he just shrugs and says "I don't notice it".
I don't know what else to do. There is so much more to this than what I am typing, but I really don't want to bore anyone.
Please, please, someone tell me what to do or give me some advice.