I don't think I can take another day!!!

Andrea - posted on 10/07/2009

I am also in the same boat. I have 5 and the two youngest are also close. Its like having twins. First and foremost, your husband needs to give that little extra. Is he a support system for you? You have to keep it together for the kids, because although they are young, they know moms stressed out. One thing me and the girls do is turn on music in the afternoons and dance around. Not only is it fun and lets you forget about the mess of the morning you had, but its also a bit of exercise to get you motivated and going:) Its a bad place to be and let me know if any of this helps.

YECI - posted on 10/07/2009

OMG FIRST OFF RELAX AND BREATH! I AM A STAY AT HOME MOM. MY SON IS 2 YRS OLD AND HE IS WILD. MY HUSBAND IS DISABLED AND IN A WHEELCHAIR. BASICALLY I HAVE TWO BOYS TO TAKE CARE OF. SPACE YOUR TIME. LET THEM PLAY WHILE U DO UR HAIR OR DO UR OWN NAILS. YOU COULD EVEN WORK OUT WHILE THEY PLAY. THINGS WILL GET BETTER. IT WILL TAKE TIME BUT THEY WILL GET BETTER. I JUST JOINED THE GYM AND I GET MY NAILS DONE AGAIN. YOU[LLL BE FINE HUNNN I PROMISE

Brandy - posted on 10/07/2009

what is the pain from How long have you been in pain I have a chronic pain problem and when I am hurting bad I see myself being short with my son and others also being in pain at times it is hard to motive myself because I worry if I do something the pain will get worse I think you need to find out why you have pain and maybe if that gets fixed you can handle things better going to a therapist is a good idea having someone to talk to can't hurt anything . when did it get so bad that you think you can't handle it any more did any one thing happen or it all just build up are you married try to get your husband to help out when he is home so you can have alittle time for you. you may be a mom who has to have sometime for herself you may need to get a job to be away from hom and kids to be able to have some you time even if it is just something part time . not every mother is ment to be a stay at home mom some people just can't handle all that a mom has to do everyday a stay at home moms job is never ending some people just don't understand that . Do you have family around you who can help you out to take the kids a hour or so each week to just give you a little break from it all ? I hope the best for you if you need to talk I'm here for you

Tera - posted on 10/07/2009

:You would do well to listen to Dr Laura. And listen for 1 week straight. You can also find her on the web. She has at least 2 books I can think of right now that would be helpful to you - In Praise of Stay at Home Moms, and the Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. The latter helped my marriage immensely! Which also helped to relieve a ton of stress.

Jessica - posted on 10/07/2009

I know it can be tough having 2 kids so close together. My first two kids have the same time span as your kids. Do you have any mothers day out places where you live? Also, what about daycare? I know it can get expensive but sometimes you just have to do it for a day to get back who you are. It will get easier as the kids get older. If you can't do daycare what about any friends or relatives to get help from. As for the dad, I am sorry but my husband is in the oilfield and is on call 24-7. There are times that he leaves before they get up and comes home after they have gone to bed BUT dad's help create the babies...we don't do it all on our own. Next time he walks in tell him point blank that you need some "me" time. And go do something for yourself. One thing that will help you is getting sleep. When the kids take a nap, take one yourself. Your body goes downhill without the sleep. With sleep you will be able to handle the stress which will help with your hair falling out and your patience with the kids. It will get better, I promise.

Lauren - posted on 10/07/2009

Call your OBGYN (whoever delivered your youngest baby) ask to speak to the nurse tell her you need a prescription for some kind of antidepressant or anti anxiety medication due to postpartum depression and tell them of your upcoming appointment, but that you need relief today!!! Seriously, do this I did and I took Welbutrin and it saved my life. Your OBGYN takes postpartum depression very seriously and they will not make you wait one more day for help! Going that route is the quickest way for relief b/c your OB knows you inside and out and delivered your children and will not turn you away. You still need to keep your appointment with the therapist to further work through things, but this will get you help today!
You definitely need a break, is there a family member or close friend you can call for help with the kids while you de-stress! Remember this too shall pass and your children are innocent in this, I know it is stressful, but try and calm down for your kids sakes! My friend is burying her 1 month old baby this weekend so keep things in perspective, at least you are alive and your children are healthy, you will look back on this moment one day, what do you want to remember about the way you handled the stress, what do you want your children to remember about the way you handled the stress? You will get through this, it won't kill you and will only make you stronger. Calm down, take the kids outside let them run free, whatever you can do so that you can take a break! Please contact me if you ever need to talk! Good luck!

Tiffany - posted on 10/07/2009

i know how you feel, im 22 and have 3 children under 29months. My husband was deployed 15 of those months. My hair was actually falling out in clumps becasue I was so stressed. You just need to get a break. wether that means breaking down and hiring a sitter for a few hours every other week or more if you need it. thats what you have to do. You have to be healthy and happy to keep your angels the same way.

Rachel - posted on 10/07/2009

Sit down take a very very deep breath and then ask make whatever you have to do to get the dad to watch them for the day...if he is not a viable option look up some sort of mothers day out program and take a day for yourself even if its just being curled up in your bed all day.....

Mollie - posted on 10/07/2009

Do you have family nearby who can help watch the kids some?



Sometimes when I get overstressed it helps to just get out of the house. I go to a friends house, where there is at least another adult to help watch after my son for a little while.

Jennifer - posted on 10/07/2009

jessica i am right there with ya girl! i have 3 kids, 10 year old who is always at school i have a 2 year old and a 2 month old and home 24/7 i have no friends my family lives lives far away and those who live close are always at work so is my husband he works 10 to 14 hour days comes home eats and then goes to sleep, if anything i only get help on the weekends when he is home! he thinks cause he has a full time job he shouldnt have to do anything when he is home he just dont understand how hard my job is too i work all day cooking cleaning feeding i wish i could just sit down and relax too..the only time i have to myself is when my kids both take a nap but still i am cleaning and doing other thing that need to be done at home.. just dont think you are alone in the world because you are not there are many women like you and me!! so stay strong not only for youself but for your kids too

Lindsey - posted on 10/07/2009

you definatetly need some U time! Do u have any relatives or close friends nearby who can look after the kids for a few hours so that even if you don't do anything/go anywhere you can have some time on your own, doing what you want to do, even if it's watching what you want to on the TV? I was in a position like this when my eldest was very young and 1 tip that was given to me was each morning, look at yourself in the mirror and find 1 thing, no matter how small/inconsequential it may seem, even something that isn't physical (for example, you're a good listener, your kindness etc) but each time make it something different, to build on your self esteem. I hope this is of some help but if you ever need to talk, message me on here! I too have low self esteem and although my kids are older, I too feel like you do, as I'm sure there are plenty of us mums in the same boat! In that respect, thank goodness for facebook!!!!

Amanda - posted on 10/07/2009

I feel your desperation. Been there! I had 3 all 12 months apart. Not easy. You must have at least one friend to come in a couple times a week to give you a break. Find a High School junior or senior to be an after school nanny. If a job is not possible, consider other opportunities for stay at home moms. Mary Kay is a great one. Contact me if you are interested in knowing more.

Andrea - posted on 10/07/2009

I have three kids and I'm a stay at home mom too. yes it is very, very hard. I am very stressed all the time too. my two little ones are 2 and 7 months. I got to this point where I made up my mind that I'm going to do the best i can and not think about eveything else. very hard to do. I have found getting up one hour befor the kids and spending sometime with my self helps. doing my nails, putting on makeup, anything just sometime for myself. I have my kids take a nap in the afternoon and ready a book for 30 to 45 min. now keep in mind thay are still kids and always don't want to go alone with the plan. but it's a start. I have taken all the bad things out of our house so I will stop wanting to get into it and it has helped a little. I also loss my temper with my kids but i just keep telling myself i don't want them to see that part of me and sometimes i have to walk away for a couple of mins. I also have put everyone in the house on a schedule as much of one as I can and it has helped a little.

Maria - posted on 10/07/2009

I'm in the same boat as you! Stay at home mom with a 4yr old and 2yr old. I do something with my girlfriends at least 1 day a week. You need you time. Time when your not mom but your old self for awhile. We don't get breaks, holiday pay, sick days and vacation. We have to make time for ourself so we don't resent our hubbies or kids. Just get out of the house and don't feel guilty.

Shenell - posted on 10/07/2009

GOD.everything you said i went through and worse im a military wife and i was taken from my family moved to germany where i didnt have anyone i have to kids and im 26.my husband isnt deployed but he wasnt much help at first.i found a church home here.b4 that i was suicidal i already was diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety.so this whole situation made it worse i gained weight that made it worse cause im very paticular about my appearnace.i went to a therapist they wanted to put me on all kinds of meds i tried it but it didnt feel right.it made me feel crazier then normal..lol...so i tried what i was brought up on God.i went to church started to get counseling with the pastor.me and my husband started going together.i surrendered everything to the Lord all my feelings of hopelessness,depression,dispair,loneliness.everything it took time,continued getting spiritual guidance.i see the change now im more patien,more loving to my kids,to my husband,less angry and depressed.i still have hard times but i have 2 scriptures i read.psalms 27 & 91 everyday.i have a new circle you may want to check it young people who love God.it may help.



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i will pray for you jessica

Heather - posted on 10/06/2009

Communicate to ur fiance or close family members/friends u may have, that ur near the breaking point,, please can they help!!! Don't be afraid to ask for help...maybe there's a friend or family member that would help u to give u a couple hour a week break....Or the fiance on a day off, say hey i need to run to the grocery store,,,,you know that quick trip to the grocery store will give u a little break..and never know maybe the fiance will see how much u really go through and offer more help.. One can wish right!?! I know that it may be hard, but u will get through it, take it one minute at a time, whenever i have a frustrating moment with my daughter, i take a deep breath and think of a close friend of mine who's daughter was killed, and i say u know what i need to be greatful for this frustrating moment, because i know she would give anything to have a lifetime of frustrating moments with her daughter who has passed. ~~~

Bettiann - posted on 10/06/2009

Let"s face it some men are scum! that"s right I said it!!!! (some) I have 3 children 2 are 11 months 2weeks apart they are teenagers now 16,15 and I also have a 9 year old when my 2 oldest were little I had the worst time of my life being a young mom! actually it sucked! for a while. I had depression no help I was overwhelmed stressed was my middle name! I would sit there and cry at times! wondering if the next day would get any better. guess what it didn't!! was still the same for a very long time. Then one day I just said to myself they did not ask to be brought into this world. It is my job my responsibility to do whatever it takes to be the best I can be. so I did it all with a smile on my face an I am proud to say by myself. now I have 3 beautiful children that will grow up to be something special! and I made that happen! so fix you! what ever it is that needs to be done do it! whether it be counsiling,crissis help, anything that makes you a better person do it!! because it will only benifit your children in the long run! Good luck & God Bless! :)

Liz - posted on 10/06/2009

Have you got involved in a play group? I know that it is really hard to be at home all the time and for me going to a play group gives me a little sanity because the kids go and play while I get a little bit of adult conversation (even if it is broken up by telling the kids to behave) Also its a great way to build a network of friends in the same boat and it means you might get one or two woman who will take turns taking the kids for a couple hours so you can go for a walk or even do your shopping in peace... My hubby and I dont live near either of our families but we have friends that we take their kids once a fortnight and then they take ours so that we get to go out for dinner as a couple, its the best stress relief ever, and we get out of the house so we arent staring at the mess - sometimes our date nights are at MacDonalds or fish and chips at the beach cause we cant afford anything more fancy but it is so worth it.

Lea - posted on 10/06/2009

just take one day at a time ill say this though you need tme to yourself time to be more than just a mom ill tell you girlfriends help having someone to talk to and relate good luck

Becki - posted on 10/06/2009

I totally understand what you are going through!! 2 girls--2yrs the other 3 mo. Hubby works 3 shifts and his excuse is he's tired from work--oh and I am a stay at home mom. we can't afford day care if i got a job my job would pay for it so yea i feel you! she sleeps almost up until he leaves for work leaving me w/ the kids--feeding them, trying to get my 2 yr old involved and it's super hard. the saving grace through this mess is my dad takes amy my oldest one day a week for a few hours. it helps but wishes he could take her more often but glad he is involved in any case. i am not on medication but cry all the time. i probably should but scared i guess. oh the new thing now is he wants to hunt but then that would leave me w/ the girls yet another season. the grocery store is all i have to look forward to now which kind of sucks but it's an hour of bliss for me. it does get better once the kids are about 1-2 yrs. my support is my sister who i pushed her to call me almost everyday for human contact. it helps so much to talk to her.

Aniesha - posted on 10/06/2009

Playgroup is a really good thing, because you can talk to lots of other mums who are in similar situations, & is a great distraction for ur kids too. I could only suggest talking a lot, somehow even if it doesn't change the situation, it makes it more bearable when u talk about it. I know it can be really easy to get stuck in ur rut if u don't have someone to haul u out of it. Best of luck ay.

Robin - posted on 10/06/2009

sounds like I have been here before!! I have anxiety and this is EXACTLY how I use to feeel!!!! I know first hand how you feel Hun!!! Listen, the best thing for you to do is make the kids take a nap go take a hot bath and teach yourself how to relax agian, this is very important!! I got in such a routine that I took no "ME" time out of the day...I found myself waking up and going to sleep breathing nothing but my family and forgetting me. You have to tell the husband he is a part of the team too!! If he don't step up then make him!! Hand him the kids after making supper and he can feed them while you relax. taking a walk with the kids is also a great way to relax, lose weight, and allow the children to enjoy something at the same time. I know getting the kids ready and the stroller out seeems ike a big task but, just try it and take your time and you will see that is was well worth it. Once the weather starts getting bad you can also find relaxing time gor you by seperating the kids for an hour a day and teaching the to have quiet time playing with blocks, or a favorite toy buut only allow them to play with that toy at quiet time so it seems as if it is a treat to them as well as you :) Speaking as a mother of 3 boys ages 4, 6, and 12

Judi - posted on 10/06/2009

Exercise, even if it's just going for a walk will help, it's like a really weak anti-depressent, but free - pushing a stroller up a hill is good, find a exercise video do anything. My counceller reminded me that no-one ever died from an unmade bed, but that feeling of blah is not good. THe bath at night is good, mothers groups and great and just talking to someone helps.

Corrinne - posted on 10/06/2009

Being a stay home mom is rewarding but frustrating at the same time. Not only taking care of the kids but housework as well(and the hubby). But you are forgetting to take care of yourself. I'm glad to hear you are going to get help which is a great step, maybe help you to manage stress and everyday things. Do you tell your hubby you need the help? I had trouble with my hubby not helping around the house, even slacking on picking up his things, etc. I finally broke down and told him I need more help from him..its OUR house not just MINE, OUR kids not just MINE, etc. He has helped much more than before(occassionally slacking here n there though...men are not perfectLOL). I also explained how he wants the kids to pick up their things but he doesn't pick up his, not a great example for the kids. They had even said "Well, dad doesn't clean up" Do you nap when they nap? That always helped me. Or when they nap sit down n just breathe. If you don't take care of yourself n keep yourself healthy, both body n mind, there's no way you can care for anyone else. Good luck!

LaTonya - posted on 10/06/2009

Hey if u have a hubbie and he works. On his day off you take off. I mean go take a walk, i mean something you like to do. its about feeling well enough to take care of urself so you can take care of everyone else. but leave them with him. he's daddy he can do it for a few hours. you do it all the time.

Veronica - posted on 10/06/2009

Just a couple of suggestions, one I found that Yoga really helps me relax, I even do the breathing when I feel myself getting tense. If you feel that you cant wait until your therapist appointment, talk to your familly doctor, he or she may be able to prescribe an anti depressant or anti anxiety medication that will help. It has helped me a lot. Hope all gets better for you and I can totally relate to what you are going thru.

Lidia - posted on 10/06/2009

Hi Jessica,



What really helps me is the get out of the house. No matter how crazy things are in the morning, force yourself to dress the kids, throw on some jeans, tie your hair back, and go. (Don't worry about what you look like- the only people you'll likely run into is other SAHM!) If you are breastfeeding, consider contacting your local La Leche League. It's so much more than breastfeeding info: I have made so many lasting friendships with like-minded people through LLL. Alternatively, go to your local Parent's Resource centre, drop-in centre, or even MacDonald's play place! Let the kids play while you chat with another mom. It is so nice to just get out of the house and feel like you had some you time. Another trick I use is sometimes, when I'm really worn out, I bathe the kids in my bathroom with the jacuzzi tub, and while they splash around, I put my (clean) feet into the tub and read a magazine while my feet get a soak. It feels like I took time to myself even though I was watching the kids!



In addition to the above, I strongly suggest you contact a crisis hotline, or call your therapist and ask to have your appointment moved up. Please don't wait- do it now.



All the best! :)

Meg - posted on 10/06/2009

I understand and my kids are off track(out of school) for three weeks! My kids are 10 7 and 5 months. Getting up and getting a shower helps and not staying in pj alllllll day.



I love this blog!



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Hope you like it also. Stephanies Story



She will be on Oprah Wednesday! Have a great day..you are never alone! Thanks for reaching out to other moms.

I wish moms were social like back in the 70's when my mom had me...so much support and love. They got out or hung out with moms and women all the time...NOT sitting at home only communcating through technology.



Invite a friend of your kids and the mom over to play! It always helps. Let me know how your day goes!

Emily - posted on 10/06/2009

Jessica, hi i'm sure you feel helpless and hopeless but know that this feeling will pass and your children will get a little older and a little easier to cope with. my youngest two are also aged 2 and 1 with 14 mths apart and i know how tough it is i'm at home 24/7 also and most days are really tough but i know that things will get easier because i also have a 9 year old and a 16 year old (all boys). Just hang in there, try not to get angry with them because they sense your mood and in turn react negatively to it so it becomes a circle. Try to spend some cuddle time everyday just sitting watching a cartoon with them or storytime. if the baby is getting into everything and your trying to get your chores done pop him in his highchair or somewhere he cant get loose and let your two year old do chores with you, give him his own cleaning cloth, sing the barney song clean up clean up everybody clean up, my little one loves this and is so proud when i praise him for a job well done.. (patience is the key) when they are naughty but try to breath and count to ten before you react and maybe now is a good time for trying time out we've started it for the two year old and he hates it but its working. I also know how hard it is to get out and about with two little ones i cant remember the last time i went to town, my weekly food shopping is a nightmare unless my partner will do it (under duress). i try to get them to a playground or just for a walk with the buggy or just out in the garden, mine love being outdoors but as it rains a lot in ireland thats not always possible so painting, making a camp for them under the kitchen table with sheets, all of these things will keep them busy and hopefully give you a break and put a smile on your face. also when your partner gets home in the evening why dont you get out for a short walk ALONE or the dog if you have one just to clear the head and let him take over for a while. You can contact me on facebook if you feel like chatting or just some support. Hang in there girl you're not alone and it does get easier.....they'll only be small for a little while, try to treasure it I blinked and my oldest baby turned 16.

Ericka - posted on 10/06/2009

A stay at home Mom is the hardest job there is out there. And some people don't realize how much work it is. I have been a stay at home mom for 15 years. I have 3 kids. Ages 15 soon 16, A 14 year old and an 11 year old special needs. It is the hardest job ever but also the most rewarding. It is very stressful I swear my teenages hate me most of the time. And some time ago I did try to go back to work but did not work out. I missed my job at home. I often tell my husband "I will trade you jobs for 1 day". His response is always no thank you I could not do what you do. I feel for you with young children. but over time it does get easier. I would put it to your husband in this form. Let him know that you are not only a mother to his children but you are everything. A docoter, a teacher, referee, cook, maid and the list just goess on. I think you got the idea. You do need some time to yourself. It will help. No matter if its just 15 min in the tub or a walk. Also would help to be with other mom's. Some adult conversation is always good. I agree with Tracy. Trust in the Lord and lay you problems and frustration with him. He will always be there. You would not believe how much that helps. Hope things get better for you. Good luck to you and God bless you and your family.

Krissy - posted on 10/06/2009

First let me say that being a stay at home mom is never easy. I have two girls, ages 12 and 4 a half year old. I not only care for them 24/7 but I care for a sick mother as well as my own health isn't good. Everyday I feel like screaming, but I just remember that one day my girls will be grown and then I can get 5 minutes to myself. LOL My girls are 8 years a part which makes things even crazier. My oldest has all kinds of things going on with girl scouts and after school stuff. My little one doesn't understand why she can't do things her sister can. My husband who should be an adult is like of the kids. He does work 40 plus hours in a week so that I can stay with our girls, but I feel he could give me a hand even if it's only 5 minutes a day. On those days that I do feel like screaming. I do this.... I ask my oldest to take her sister out in the back yard to play while I go into my room, I turn up the tv and I scream as loud as I can. You would be amazed how much better you feel. Then I go outside with my girls and we play some kind of game to keep them both busy. Each day I have to be at my mother house at least 4 hours a day to do her care. While I'm caring for my mother my girls are doing their school work because they are both homeschooled. Something else you could try is sit down with your husband and explain to him that you are stressed and you understand he works, but you need him to help at least one hour a week. So you can just be you. No ones mom or wife. It's good that you have that appointment if you can't get it sooner make sure you keep it. They will be able to help you get through to your husband. Take care and GOD bless. Hope this helped you a little.

Jessica - posted on 10/06/2009

see if you have any friends or family that will help with the kids and ask around to see if your friends or family has little jobs for you to do

Melanie - posted on 10/06/2009

My husband had three days off in a row a few weeks back and he helped me out a little (only cos I made him) after day two he was chucking a tanty and saying we can't have any more kids (we only have one little girl - almost 6months) It was all to hard for him and to tirering!! Yet lets not forget ladies they have the real job we have it eazy!!



Jessica - You need to leave your kids with someone you trust (so you wont be freaking out worrying all day) and get the hell out of the house!!! Even if you just go sit in the park with a coffee and a good book, and honey, go get your hair done. What will make you feel better is getting up each morning dressing in some nice clothes doing your hair, make yourself feel good about you! Also try doing some exercise - exercise creates endorphins the body's own happy drug, even if its simply getting the kids and going for a walk. (I was told to do this when I was pregnant after I had some really horrid stuff happen)

Amanda - posted on 10/06/2009

i wish i could just hug you because it sounds like you really need one do you have a good friend that you can talk to and trust with any thing. Or are you close to your mum or any family member because you need to talk to sum one now and let them know how you are filling i have been there and it's not a good place to be plz find sum one to talk to it helps

Narelle - posted on 10/06/2009

I don't think you should wait until next month. You should call again and tell them your situation to get an earlier appointment. If not there are helplines you can call or even online counseling. Your GP may be able to get you some earlier help.
Try and get out everyday for some exercise. A walk in the fresh air can make you feel better and exercise can relive stress and help with weight loss.
Try meditation or just some quite time to your self everyday.
If you don't have anyone to look after your kids. You could look into some occasional care so you can have some time out.

Darci - posted on 10/05/2009

There are days when my husband has offered to become the stay-at-home dad, and it is that comment alone that makes me realize that I would really MISS my three children under the age of 4. It is fun to watch them grow up, but I definitely have days when I wish I could work outside the home for a day or two while he stays home to get a good picture of what I do everyday. Before my newest came along, I would substitute teach math (and his job would allow him to stay home with the kids) in the local middle schools & high schools... but, I am the sole source of nutrition for the baby, so I am home and really enjoying it lately. Now that my oldest has started preschool two days a week... life just seems busier, and my days go fast. But, there were MANY days when time just seemed to crawl... especially when I was pregnant with my third with all day morning sickness and had a 2-year old and a 1-year old at home... hopefully, the good days are on the horizon for you too.

As someone before mentioned, just take it a day at a time. If this is a day when the kids need your attention, leave the cleaning until tomorrow and make simple meals (peanut butter & jelly sandwiches, grilled cheese, chicken nuggets/patties you throw in the oven, yogurt, fruit). I find that I am most productive with the cleaning when the kids are sleeping (naps or night). Someone else also mentioned that taking a shower, getting dressed (you and the kids), and getting into a routine helps so much; I would have to agree. When we wait too long in the morning to get ready... it is a much tougher day.

We also love to go to the library or the park. Sometimes, we even get to meet other moms in the same boats as us... It is where I have met some of my best friends. It helps to be about other humans to begin feeling human again.

I'm saying a prayer for you tonight that you might find peace for this challenging time in your life. Know that is won't always be so challenging.

Lisa - posted on 10/05/2009

Jessica, I am right there with you.....I too am a stay at home mom 24/7 and feel like I get no help either. At least during the week, it is all on me. He never does laundry, dishes, cooks, etc. He recently looked at me and said you need to go back to work....What, I have a 10yr old, 4 yr old and 3 month old and they keep me so busy, I hardly have time to breath, let alone go back to work.

I try really hard to concentrate on the fact that I am a stay at home mom and with all the stress, and anguish comes all the great times too....You get to see, hear and experience firsts with your little ones, he doesn't. You get hugs and kisses all day long, he doesn't. I love the funny things that kids say, I would have missed so much that my 4 yr old son says if I was working and he stayed home!!!

Hang in there, there are better days ahead!!!

Rachael - posted on 10/05/2009

I agree with the woman, Tracy, who posted before me. God is always there for you and the fact that you have asked for help is a sign that He is there and wants you to know that you are not alone. I am going to send you an email, it's something I wrote at a time in my life when I was feeling particularly alone, I hope it helps.

Tracy - posted on 10/05/2009

Try to remember this the Lord is always with you! He is there watching over you and your children. When the kids are upsetting you. Stop and take two mins to yourself put them in a safe place. Then just sit down and pray and asked the lord to take your stress and anger. Leave it with him right there. Take to breaths and look at them preaty baby that the Lord gave to you, You love them like the Lord loves you. Your his child and he will never leave you.

Savannah - posted on 10/05/2009

I know how you feel... I only have one little one, but it's to the point where I can't even walk out of the room without her screaming bloody murder at the top of her lungs! As for feeling down I just write how I feel out and the release seems to help and when it comes to feeling like a woman well, I forgot what that was like a long time ago. very rarely do my husband and I spend anytime together because he's always working and then when he gets home he just wants to play games and sleep so I NEVER get a break from my daughter. As for work I could help with that I work for a non-profit marketing group of mostly mothers and wives that is teamed up with an international wellness company and would love to share more information with you. :)

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Dani - posted on 10/05/2009

Call a local crisis hot line!!! I'm a stay at home mom myself, but have a masters in psychology and spent 10 years in the field. It's HARD being a SAHM. Please don't wait until next month! Best to you...

Dani

Amanda - posted on 10/05/2009

One Day @ a Time! Thousands of us out there feel the same way. I carry guilt for being short with the kids, & honestly I don't really like the person I am today. However, I have to remember that my kids didn't ASK to be born & this life I have is for them. So whatever I can do to help me be a better person & give them 100%, than lets do it. Try to think more of the positives. EVERY night sit down & write 5 positives down of the day. You should also consider yourself lucky you can get councilling, I can't afford it! Now, I'm not trying to make you feel like your problems don't matter cuz they do, & i totally feel ya but I'm sure you'll get enough advice & compasion Just trying to take a more helpful route. Chin up girly. Go for a 25min walk when Hubby has the time to watch the kids, even if they are in bed. One the exercise will help start your work to weight loss & give you some You time, plus fresh air & is good! More importanly, you need to talk to this father or fiancee of yours. Sit down NICELY & not just pointing the finger & explain how you feel, everything you wrote us but without attacking him (men don't respond well to that) You need to ego stroke a little & let him you appreciate him & how he is working to provide for the fam but... If he doesn't listen & feel for you, & agree to give you more support than he's not the one! The man you marry should appreciate the JOB that you do & love you for it. So write down positives, talk to the man & walk, lastly don't forget your kids need you so YOU be the best you can. It will be better, ONE DAY @ A TIME

Terryl - posted on 10/05/2009

I have four children that are all 5 and under! My middle two are 14 months appart also and I stay home 24-7 also. I try to include the children in everything that I do. Let the two year old help you with everything. I just try to keep mine busy helping me. when I feel frustrated with the children, I read the book chicken soup for the mother of a toddler. try it! It will help you. the other thing that i did to help myself is loose weight. it will make you feel tons better. Count 1200 caories a day and you will loose weight. try to take the kids out every morning for a walk. I find that if I get up and get everyone dressed that I feel better. if you stay in PJ's all day, youwill eat and feel ucky. Am I correct? you can do little thing to keep yourself feeling better at no cost. I really hope that this helps.

Carrie - posted on 10/05/2009

I totally understand... and I am expected to do every thing because he works... well some days i just don't feel like it... I will be 25 in a few weeks and i have a 3 and 2 year old that are 13 months apart and there are days that I feel the same way.. some days when i can tell its going to be a long day I call someone to come pick us up so I have help with them or some movies they love will keep them out of my hair for some time... I sit there with them and read a book which calms me down.. there are days when my son can press every nerve in my body and i snap at him... afterwards i feel terrible about it but he just never listens to me... i know it can be hard but all you can do is just try to find ways to calm yourself down... or when there dad gets home or whatever just go out even to go to the store for a break or a walk! Good luck and hopefully every thing will work out!

Michelle - posted on 10/05/2009

Talk to him and let him watch the kids by himself for a couple hours.

Jessica - posted on 10/05/2009

Thanks for understanding and I will try that!!!

Dawn - posted on 10/05/2009

Meetup.com - Check out their website & find a Mommy group near you. I was really hesistant at first but I'm SO happy I did it. Then again, I wasnt entering a group of total strangers since I knew a few of the girls already BUT if you can get past that first initial meeting, it's great. Really helps with all the emotional stress that the kids can tend to put on you. Its a difficult job.

Jessica - posted on 10/05/2009

No their father and I are engaged but I do all the work, he uses the excuse that he has a real job and needs to relax too!

Jessica - posted on 10/05/2009

Woodstock, VA

Marina - posted on 10/05/2009

jessica. where are you located? we could coop babysit so we can have woman days?