I feel bad for wanting something so expensive.....

Leah - posted on 11/17/2010 ( 66 moms have responded )

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Okay so I am a stay at home mom to an almost 15 month old son. I have a polaroid point and shoot camera that takes about 10 seconds to snap a picture so it's really slow at capturing anything my son does and most of the pictures turn out blurry. I really want a camera that can catch any moment or thing my son is doing,I feel like I am missing out alot as it is. Anyways I want a camera that I know will be quick enough to capture anything my son does and a point and shoot isn't it. Problem is this camera with the package is abou $620,which includes the camera,a bag and an extra lens(which the lens alone cost $200,and I think it's a good deal). It is $480 at another store with the camera,a 2GB memory card and the bag. Has no lens to zoom in at things etc. Problem is my hubby thinks we can get it at this store when we dont even have the stores card so idk how we will pay $480 in cash.

I really want this camera,mainly because I want to upgrade from the one I have now and so I don't miss out so much on what my son does.

I feel embarassed and a bad person that I even want this thing. It feels like I am just here to serve and I am not allowed to have nice things. Do any of you moms feel bad about wanting something thats really nice?

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Bethany - posted on 11/17/2010

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it's not the camera you want, it's the opportunity to capture your son's life, and you and your partner's, in beautiful photos. You want to look back and think of the day or the moment, not the camera.

Spend whatever you need to spend to achieve what you want to achieve. You are both working, you are working at being a good mum so your partner can work outside the home. It's family money once it hits that bank account, where ever it comes from.

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Leah do what you have to do buy what the F*** you wnt i don't think people really care. YOU asked for advise so how about you stop being so friggin nasty to the people that offer it? Her name is Katherine NOT kathy and yes it makes a difference to people when speeling their names wrong because it just shows ignorance. Maybe COM isn't the palce for you if all your after is people to say " yes leah what ever leah"
So in all seriousness Grow up and live your life and don't come onto a place that isn't going to give you what you want. You need a reall additude adjustment.
Where did the chip on your shoulder come from?

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I used to feel bad about wanting nice things because my kids needed so much or so I thought. :) However, my kids are pretty well spoiled. I know it. They know it and their dad knows it. However, I believe as long as you are providing for your child you can have nice things for yourself as well. Just make sure you always ask yourself 2 things;
1. are all my bills paid
2. does my child need anything
If you can answer yes to #1 and no to #2 then go for it. :)
good luck and god bless

Lisa - posted on 11/17/2010

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I always weigh my options and feelings when making large purchases. I ask myself if I will feel guilty later if money runs tight. I have been wanting a newer camera for some time and have really wanted one with the fancy lenses, etc., However, for me I knew I would feel guilty spending $700 on a camera so I looked around and bought a really nice, quick point and click that originally sells for over $200 and I was able to buy a refurbished one from Kodak for $100.

Haley - posted on 11/22/2010

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Just like Lydia said don't feel bad. I have a Nikon and even with a baby on the way and this camera wasnt cheap I feel it was well worth it! I now will have great photos of my child when he/she arrives. I feel bad sometimes too but just let that feeling pass.

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OH MY emma it sounds like we have very similar husbands. My hubby decided he wanted to go into the paddock hooning and did his clutch. OMG 1500 is what it's going to cost us to fix it needless to say it's on the to do list and we have to save our arses off atm for it.

Nicole - posted on 11/23/2010

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I do not look at a camera as a purchase for you. You want it so you can capture family moments. If you can afford it I think you should get it. Good luck.

Sarah - posted on 11/22/2010

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I agree, as long as you can still make ends meet at the end of the week\month, go for it. You can't capture visual memories without a camera and like you said, you are considering a career in photography so its an investment. There's nothing wrong with a little indulgence now and then.

Leah - posted on 11/22/2010

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Thanks Nikki! Yeah I don't feel bad anymore because I know it's a great investment. Although others seemed to find the need to bash me because I wanted something they couldn't afford. Some people I tell ya! It's bad I don't feel the same way about my polaroid as you do your kodak. Wow nice Nikki!

Nikki - posted on 11/22/2010

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Not that it helps much now but I say get it! Why feel guilty for wanting something?!?!?! It's nice to have nice things. Us moms don't get enough for all the work we do :) How often do you get nice things for yourself?! And it's an investment if you start your business like you said! Which I totally want to do myself someday! But I'm not going to lie I LOVE my Kodak easyshare! lol It gets the job done and I have TONS of pics! I also started my own business so I can get us the nice things we want. And it's a way to get me out of the house since I'm a SAHM. So that's an option too! I can make $140 in two hours and easily $400 a month or more. Don't feel guilty at alll!

Lydia - posted on 11/22/2010

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don't feel bad about it it's so worth it. we got ourselves the nikon d5000 after our daughter was born, we had the money at that point and i do not regret it. we take lots pictures all the time and I think it's so precious for you and your child to have those memories captured. I regularly send picture updates to the grandparents, some friends and family and they all love it. I also try to stay on top of the album (which I design on the laptop and will get printed professionally around her first birthday. i will bind it in a technique that new pages can be added later on...)
my daughter loves photo shoots and she gets excited when she sees the camera. it's so cute.

Leah - posted on 11/22/2010

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I feel the same way tracy. That's why we save money so we can afford something really nice if we want it. I would love a new mustang,but it's not like I have that much money saved away,LOL. That would be nice.

Tracy - posted on 11/22/2010

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Yep, I'm with you Elysia, there are tons of things out there that I would love to purchase...But, we just can't afford it right now. But, if we could, I wouldn't feel guilty (so you get that awesome camera Leah!!! You deserve it!!). That's why I started a blog about saving $$!! LOL. I'm not allowed to post the link here, if you want it, check out my profile (I think it's listed there) or send me a message.

Elysia - posted on 11/21/2010

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im currently in the same dilemma not that i feel bad 4 wanting i feel it is justified to catch the very short childhod of my children, we just cant afford it at this very moment but when we have the spare money i will def be upgrading and making a good investment

Tracy - posted on 11/21/2010

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You're welcome - That's what we're for!! :) Making eachother feel better when we need it!

Tracy - posted on 11/21/2010

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Then don't feel guilty Leah! We tend to feel that way sometimes because we stay home, but the work we do is hard, FULL time...even though it's gratifying and we don't make any real $$, we are doing something more valuable than anyone can imagine. You are worth it!

Leah - posted on 11/21/2010

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KATHY-------And what different things can I do with the camera I have now. It's a point and shoot,takes about 15 seconds to actually snap a dang picture and they almost always come up blurry and its falling apart almost. AND the fact that if I buy a point and shoot I am going to keep buying them. With an SLR I wont have to upgrade anymore which is a plus. If I have this camera there is no need to spend a hundered dollars just going to a professional photographer when I can do it myself. So there is no need to be rude Kathy I have explained many times what my camera does,I find it to be a waste of money to buy a point and shoot every couple years when I can just buy a SLR and have fantastic pictures. Point and shoots are obviously what you like not what I like.

Tracy - posted on 11/21/2010

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You shouldn't feel bad for wanting things, but you do have to make sure it's something your famiy can afford. If you did all your research, found the best price, and you CAN afford it...then don't feel guilty!

Katherine - posted on 11/21/2010

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A. My nickname is not now, and has never been Kathy, something for which I am grateful on a daily basis.

B. Note how I didn't say ZOMG, don't get the camera!!!! I was actually suggesting trying different things for the camera you have, or ways of spending less money and getting better results since you seem to be concerned about the price. Way to be gracious and all, though. Kudos.

Shannon - posted on 11/20/2010

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I would not feel bad, if this is something that you love doing(taking pics and scrap booking) then buy it, your decision should mainly be weather you/your hubby can afford it or not. I'm a Divorced Mom of Two (2 and 5) and I do not hold back on things I like and want( within reason). Everyone has their "Thing" they love to do, mine is having a collection of Handbags
(Coach, Juicy Couture, and Betsey Johnson ).
You should never feel guilty of anything you buy! as long as you are providing for your kids and taking care of your household (bills are being paid) and your being sensible and saving some money each month, why not!! I do, I may not buy myself something every month, but if I see something that I really want its a large purchase(most of the designer handbags here in Canada/Calgary can run me around 200-700.00, I will indulge myself, you only live once!

Carisa - posted on 11/20/2010

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I want one of those cameras too because so many of my pics come out blurry. If you can afford it, don't feel bad. I mean, if it's a matter of you getting the camera (for the family) and your son getting more toys when he has a ton, go for the camera...you can't get those pictures back. Now, if it's a matter of the camera or food on the table, than I'd have to go for the food. You are definitely allowed to have nice things.

Leah - posted on 11/20/2010

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Thanks Vixi that's exactly my point. I've missed so many moments as it is :'(

Vixi - posted on 11/20/2010

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there are moments when u would love to have a camera at hand and a good quality one at that. It's not selfish of u to want a good camera to capture the precious moments u can never get back. xx

Leah - posted on 11/20/2010

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I've done my research kathy I never said it automatically means better pictures. I'm getting what I'm getting. End of story.

Katherine - posted on 11/20/2010

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My Canon point and shoot was about $200, and has absolutely no trouble getting good quality pictures of my son. Learning to use the manual settings really helped my ability to get good pictures with the camera. The automatic setting is for crap, I tell you. Getting an expensive camera doesn't automatically mean better pictures, sadly. What's really helped me a lot was getting a copy of Lightroom to help clean up my pics. It's been invaluable.

My only complaint with the point and shoot is that it doesn't have the ability to attach a flash, so I've learned how to make diffusers on the fly to help with the lighting.

You can also rent cameras and lenses to try them out, and see if they work for you. You may want to try that for a week or two before you make a big investment.

Leah - posted on 11/20/2010

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Amanda why bother responding when you going to say that and YOUR the one making me feel bad about it just because I want nice pictures of my child. GEEZ!

Amanda - posted on 11/20/2010

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#1 you have to look at your budget and figure out if this camera is a realistic purchase. If you have a balance on credit cards, or loans to pay off or have a hard time living paycheck to paycheck buying this camera is a very bad idea.

#2 you don't need an expensive camera to take good pictures. Mine was $150 and it takes great photos. Eventually I'll get a nicer camera but right now paying off my student loan and credit card are much more important.

I suggest check out Kijiji or other classified ads, perhaps you can find your camera second hand and save a bunch of money.

Sara - posted on 11/19/2010

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i feel the same way ! i really want a nice camera but just cant bring myself to spend that much, im not understanding why people keep suggesting a point and shoot when you clearly said you already have one and want a nicer camera ... lol, i say go for it girl, its so worth all the memories you are going to capture :)

Leah - posted on 11/19/2010

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And dawn for an SLR it's pretty affordable. I have a point and shoot thats not up to taking a great quality photo and I have missed out from so many of my sons moments already and I won't anymore. I won't be kicking myself because I know it will be a great investment for this family because we will have great photos to look at of our child and future children. My son has everything he could want and need and he'll be getting more for christmas as well.

Dawn - posted on 11/19/2010

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My canon quick shot is actually rather fast and rarely blurs its a lot more affordable at about $125. I know I always feel guilty when I buy myself anything expensive cuz I know I'll be kicking myself as soon as money gets a little tight or my hubby or one of the kids wants something and I can't afford it. Also another plus aspect it easily fits in my purse or pocket.

Leah - posted on 11/19/2010

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I know it's bulky Amy and I really don't care. It's faster at taking pictures than my point and shoot. And I want great photos to look back on 30 years down the road instead of blurry photos. And I WOULD like to have this camera. And everything my son has he uses EVERYDAY,and he has everything he could ever need. And the camera package went down in price.

Amy - posted on 11/18/2010

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I have an SLR and got it because I started a photography bisness. Still with kids you are not always fast enough. The down side is its balky and you can't just take it with you every where and takes time to get out. I still love mine and would not get rid of it for the world!! I think that we as parents should save for something that we would like to have. We would spend money on our kids for things they want and don't even use!! If you are going to use it then its worth it.

Leah - posted on 11/18/2010

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Of course my child is well off and doesn't need anything. I wouldn't even be considering it if he wasn't!

Candi - posted on 11/17/2010

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It is true the Canon is bulky and cannot just be tossed in your purse. However, you won't get that quality pictures with any other camera. Like I said earlier, my macrolens gets used a lot! How else can you get in depth pictures of insects and flowers? I took a picture of my daughters Eye! It is awesome!! I also enjoy my 200 lens when I am across the auditorium from my child accepting an award from school, but I can get a picture as if I am right beside him/her! I am thinking of getting my kids point and shoot cameras for Christmas. They all have the love for taking pictures...

Leah - posted on 11/17/2010

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Oh! And Kelly I have a Polaroid point and shoot too it's just not as good at taking pictures :(

Leah - posted on 11/17/2010

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Yes Kelly I know what you mean and your not disouraging at all. And if I get it--well that all depends on my husband as he's the one getting it for me. And I am super excited to hopefully open it up for christmas,I don't care if I have to lug a bag all over. That's not really a bother for me. And I have actually held the canon DSLR and LOVED it,it really feels comfortable kind of feels odd with the big lens LOL.

I know,isn't that weird emma? How guys can do that but if we want to do something nice for ourselves once they look at us like we're crazy.

Stifler's - posted on 11/17/2010

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I feel guilty sometimes for buying myself jewelry for every birthday and Christmas instead of things I need. I have no idea why since men have no guilt buying new seat covers or wrecking their car hooning in a swamp and spending $500 to get it fixed in one weekend.

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Leah.....can relate. felt guilty about asking for money to buy my hair dye (gave up on actually going to a real saloon years ago)...it's on sale for $10.99. And then I also wanted some different coffee flavours in KCups for our Keurig - they're about $15.99 for a box of 24. Hate this feeling! But my hubby is pretty good himself too.... we always discuss purchases. We've just learned to go without basically. You get used to it. But if your hubby spends willy-nilly, then that's not fair, so I would discuss it with him. If you can afford it though, I don't see why a SAHM can't have something nice for herself. Yes, even a Coach handbag! We earn it!

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Hi Leah, I am a photographer and I LOVE LOVE LOVE the Canon DSLRs. I used to own two businesses that market products to professional photographers, and I have a little photography business on the side, it's not much though, just a hobby that covers the cost of itself :P.

Anyway, If you love photography, I highly recommend the Canon Rebel series. They are great for beginners and you can't beat the price for DSLRs. I will say, however, that you will end up longing for a point and shoot not far down the road if you are anything like myself.
The thing is, DSLRs are very bulky, you can't just toss it in your purse or diaper bag for a trip to the park, you have a whole other bag to carry around, which for me, was just not practical. I do love my DSLR, and I wouldn't trade it for the world, but if I could only have one camera, I would choose a point and shoot and invest in Photoshop.

I have a Canon Rebel, and a Fuji Finepix. The Fuji is quick enough to capture everything my little one does, it is just as quick as my Canon, BUT red eye is a problem, as is noise in low-light situations, and shadow lines when the flash is off center. I love it because it is always with me and I can fix any of those issues in Photoshop in less than 5 minutes.

If you really want a DSLR, definitely get the Canon (but I don't like Canon point and shoots), but just know that a lot of times, you are just not going to feel like lugging the DSLR and all the lenses around with you, especially as your little one gets older and more mobile. I don't want to discourage you from getting a DSLR, but I don't want you to regret your purchase either....Good luck with your decision, if you have questions, feel free to inbox me :)

Stifler's - posted on 11/17/2010

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I felt the same and was too scungy to buy one. I finally bought a Nikon D3000 and thank god, the pics are so much better. I feel like I've missed out on so many moments having a shite camera that I don't want to miss with the new baby. Honestly, how much money do we spend on toys for the kids, stuff for hubby, stuff to fix the car etc. I say just spend the money and love the pictures and forget about it. It will be worth it to look back at the awesome pics in your album in 30 years time.

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You can upgrade to a pretty descent camera for a lot less than $700. I just spent $150 on a 14 mega pixel Sony Cybershot and its more than good enough. I take more pictures than most people and they are 9 out of 10 times the picture is clear and red eye free. It also takes great pictures in low light. You can get a nice Cannon for around $300. $700 just seems like too much if you aren't a photographer.
If you have $700 to spend, then spend it. I agree that having a good camera is important. You can still do it for less if you need to.

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