I FEEL GUILTY SOMETIMES FOR BEING A SAHM

Angelique - posted on 07/23/2011

No, I don't feel guilty because I do work...I just don't get paid monetarily for it. My husband and I both agree this is the best choice for our family. I would count your blessings and push the guilt away. Who's to say that one day down the road when your little ones are bigger and in school tha you won't have an opportunity to contribute financially to your family. They grow so fast. All three of mine will be in school this coming year and it's hard to comprehend how much time I'll have on my hands now. Things change quickly so enjoy it while you can!

Jessica - posted on 03/27/2010

My husband told me I'm too mean when I work so he would rather me stay home. I commend working mothers who can "do it all". I get really frustrated when I come home from working hard to a giant mess all over the house. Too much work!! Plus homework is never done. I don't feel guilty because as a SAHM you have more control over kids learning that working mothers don't. Kids with stay a stay at home parent tend to do better acedemically. If you are keeping up with the children as well as the household then definately don't feel guilty! (That doesn't mean everything needs to be spotless and dinner on the table when he comes home. It just means that he's not working and doing ALL the household things too.)

Shellee - posted on 03/27/2010

Sometimes...I can hear the cogs turning in his head and see the worry on his face even though we are comfortable. But my hubby loves coming home to the kids and spending time with them. He loves a happy home and always tells myself and the kids if Mum isn't happy, then home isn't happy. So I try and make it that he has that to come home to everyday. One of his biggest rules is to never bring work home.

Lisa - posted on 03/26/2010

It is a job you just don't get payed for it. It is the most important job anyone can do. YOU ARE RAISING A PERSON. What could be more important!!!

Grace - posted on 03/26/2010

I do feel a little guilty sometimes... My husband is in the Navy. It would cost us more to send our child to daycare than for me to work. And even if I had a part time job, say in the evenings after my husband got home, that would just give us more stress as I'd hardly ever see him. It is also hard to find new jobs everywhere that we move. Since I didn't go to college the main jobs that I can get are entry level and by the time I could get promoted, we have to move again. So it's constantly being paid minimum wage at jobs that I hate.



We cherish our time together. Though he has spoken about him getting a second job on the weekends. He doesn't want me to work. He tells me that I already have a job. I take care of our child and keep the house in order. Dinner ready and on the table by the time he gets home at night. I sort of pamper my husband, he does help around the house and with the baby and pets. But for the most part I take care of everything.





At times it is trying and hard. But then when I am doing these things it makes me feel better and that I'm 'earning' my keep. ;-) Being a stay at home mom is the hardest job I've ever had, but the most rewarding. Most people can't say that they love their jobs as much as I do!

Erika - posted on 03/26/2010

It must be tough for you not to feel guilty, but you shouldn't as long as you are both on the same page. He wouldn't be working two jobs, if he didn't agree with you. Being a SAHM is the best thing in the world, in my opinion. Continue to stay home, if you are financially able to.

Hope this helps a bit.

Erika
http://www.4MyFamilyandMe.com

Kristin - posted on 03/26/2010

Sometimes, but I also know that these early years are going to just fly by. Soon they will all be in school and then I will have so much more free time. Then if we need it and I want to, I can go back to work.

Right now is a really tough time to be a SAHM. The economy is in the tank. The dollar is barely worth the paper it's printed on and the cost of everything just seems to keep going up. If you are concerned about being home from a monetary standpoint, look at ways to decrease the household finances. Not fun, and I know not easy. But if you and your husband are talking and doing what you can, you will be okay and you are doing the right thing for your kids by being home with them. Chin up, you are doing great.

Jane - posted on 03/26/2010

I was a sahm too. You should not feel guilty. Your job is the most important job. I know my husband would probably rather have two jobs instead of staying home w/ the kids! It is a hard job but so worth the sacrifices that you make for them. My children are grown now and I have 3 grandsons with another one due any day. I wouldn't change a thing. Keep up the good work. As a mom you will always feel guilty about something... : )

Lisa - posted on 02/25/2010

As a Mom and now a grandma...I will tell you are making the right decision. The time you have with those babies will go with a blink of an eye. One minute I was changing diapers the next minute we are changing my grand baby's diapers. No money in the world is worth loosing that time.

Amber - posted on 02/25/2010

you have to think of it this way..... how much would you have to earn to pay for extra childcare and is it worth it... usually the answer is the same NO. SAHM have the most rewarding job in the world....keep ya chin up. it'll get easier :)

Jess - posted on 02/24/2010

I do, I hate sitting at home knowing the bills are piling up. I have a good paying job waiting for me to return to. I have made the decision to go back 6 months early. So in 2 weeks I will be a working mumma 3 days a week and dedicated stay at home mum the remaining 4 days.



I don't believe my daughter will suffer at all and I'm certainly not giving her to strangers to raise... Im making a sacrifise, to make sure she has a roof over her head and clothes on her back. If you can find a way to make money for your family and suits your situation, I say go for it !

Breezy - posted on 02/24/2010

When times get hard, as a mother you feel like you need to be active in getting things back on track. Having that stable home is your way of contributing! If your feeling guilty find ways to cut back on your household costs! Offer to do things that maybe your husband would normally do, so he can spend that priceless time with you and your kids not errands or a honey-do-list. Examples- mow the lawn, budget (clip coupons), wash the car, do all your errands on one day of the week rather than spread out through the week, (this cuts down on gas expense) etc. Nothing is more important that supporting your husband, and asking him if you should go back to work may be an insult to him. Be his back bone, his strength and set that example for your children that mommy and daddy work as a team!

Tara - posted on 02/24/2010

I did, at least until my husband and I sat down and figured out it would cost us at least twice as much for me to work than to stay at home (figuring in daycare costs, commuting, etc). Plus we both feel that it's really important for US to be raising our kids instead of a daycare.

Ala Ala - posted on 02/24/2010

yes, i do feel guilty too sometimes. but remember, it is better to care for our children than have total strangers care for them. it is better for our children to grow up knowing us, as parents and not merely providers. and it is so much relief am sure for your husband to come home knowing his children are safe, fed and healthy because you were there.

talk about it with your husband. so you will not feel so guilty.

Medic - posted on 02/24/2010

I guess I would if my husband was sacraficing time with me and the kids so I could do it.