I feel like a terrible mom.

Kellfrac6 - posted on 12/02/2017 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hi all. My name is kelley. I am 25 years old. I have a 6 year old daughter and boy girl twins that are 2. For the past 6 months or so I feel like I am just a horrible mom. The stress from them not behaving is physically and mentally taking a toll on me. My 6 year old does not listen and talks back constantly. My two year olds don’t listen and get into everything. I know it’s normal but I can not control my emotions anymore and constantly am screaming at them all day every day. I don’t know what to do. I feel like At this point they would be lucky to have anyone else As a mom because I’m just screwing them up. 😔

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Jelena - posted 3 days ago

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in spite of what the "experts" say spanking does work.
I tried everything else, then I tried spanking and wow what a difference
My suggestion, is don't be afraid to use spanking.

Mary Thompson method
When I spank them I send them up to there room, I find bible verses about whatever they did wrong (lying, disobedience) and discipline then I go up to there room.

I share with them the Bible verses, I talk to them about why what they did was wrong then I spank them. I give them whatever there age is in spanks, they the have corner time followed by giving apologies to whoever needs it.

I use it at last resort, express the reasoning, calm down and it 100% works.I never have to spank them twice in two days. It doesn't long term hurt them like some peoples. I have great kids! they behave and are very kid and sweet. We usually just have a talk and then corner time but sometimes they need a spanking.

Michelle - posted on 12/02/2017

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We all get to that point at sometime. I suggest you talk to your doctor or see a therapist. Depression can strike at anytime and there is no shame is asking for help. Admitting that things are getting too much is hard as we all think we need to be Supermum but in reality, we are only human and need to ask for help.
You are not screwing them up at all.

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Ophelia - posted on 12/13/2017

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I empathize completely. I think given your children's ages it's no wonder you're exasperated. I just turned 26, I'm pregnant and only have a 2 year old girl, and some days it's hard to just get of the house. So I can only imagine how it feels to have twin 2 year olds and an older one as well! My daughter is overall pretty good, or so people tell me. And I believe they're right. But she definitely tests my patience and I feel my fuse getting shorter and shorter. By the way I've been having physical symptoms as well that began way before this pregnancy, and that I'm pretty certain are the result of stress and exhaustion. I feel like I never recovered fully from my daughter's birth.
Other moms are out there taking their kids to exciting classes first thing in the morning and I feel accomplished if we simply make it to the park.
I'm trying to say that you sound completely normal to me. And if you ever want to chat feel free to reach out.
All the best.

Karen - posted on 12/08/2017

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lets chat your not a terrible mom just under stress kids need a routine and strong discipline from mom I would like to help lets chat karen

Cam - posted on 12/03/2017

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I agree with Michelle. Therapy can really help. I have five kids and one of them has ASD/ADHD. It is really tough. I work part-time and work from home because I have to attend to them every single day. Basically, the only thing that keeps me sane is "talk to strangers online". LOL That's how my husband calls my therapist.
But Jason, my therapist from BetterHelp, has been very helpful especially during my super toxic days. I just call or text him and he knows what to say to me.

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