I feel like I'm disappearing

Kelsie Bo Robinson - posted on 07/23/2012

Hi! I feel the same way & i am glad i am not the only one i was feeling pretty pathetic. We just moved to colorado this last year. I am a stay at home mom with a 13 month old. I know no one in this town besides my husband and he works a lot & when he is home he is tired wants to relax or is doing his school work online. Ive never lived away from my family & not having friends has been really hard for me. I am very lonely most of the time and sad. I love being able to stay home and being with my son he is amazing but no social interaction is really hard. There are no mom groups around here and the one time i did go to the park with my son some other moms were really rude to me so we just left. I didnt want to run my mouth off plus my feelings were really hurt. After that i kinda gave up on making friends here. I stay plenty busy around here just wish i had some one to hang out with sometimes.

Tammy - posted on 07/23/2012

Oh gosh how I feel the same. I'm a mother of 3 and my husband is a truck driver so he's here every other day. I've been living in a new town for going on 3 yrs now and still don't know anyone. I don't attend church either and lord knows I don't have money to go anywhere. I feel stuck and my youngest is going to start school this year and I really don't know what I'm gonna do with myself other than cry probably the first few weeks. It's not that easy as u get older to just randomly meet ppl and become friends. Maybe that's just me, Idk. I love my kids dearly and couldn't imagine myself doing anything else but being their mother but sometimes you the person gets lost in all the chaos that is being a mother.

Melissa - posted on 07/21/2012

Yeah, I can relate. That's the life of a mother. Look for other mothers in your area to hang out with :)

Lauren - posted on 07/21/2012

I have very similar issues i am 22 years old and am the mother of 2 children. If you can guess not many typical 22 year old have children. Although i have grown up in the area i still live in none of my friends i grew up with have children! I long to go out with friends or even have time to be young but i can't because i am a mother and i love my children. My Boyfriend (their father and my boyfriend of 6 1/2 years) is very loving just the same as your situation works a lot and is tired when he comes home from work. I too sometimes feel like i'm disappearing! What helps a lot is to do inexpensive things that get you away from the house. Like taking your kids to the park and doing an art project there, or eating lunch there.I live in California and enjoy going to the beach, doing yoga or just going various outdoor activities with my children, it keeps both my children as well as myself active and its easy and fun! Packing the kids up and walking around the mall and quote on quote window shopping! They may seem like silly things but they are cheap and keep you from going crazy around the house! Please feel free to talk to me anytime! My name is Lauren!

Tiffany - posted on 07/19/2012

Check with your local library, go to story time..etc I had this happen wheb I moved to CT, our local parent & child center offered some really great classes for free. I met some really nice peopleand I found the more I got out of the house the more energy I had!! Good luck :-)

Jana - posted on 07/18/2012

that's totally the problem. I spend every ounce of energy on what's already going on. I can't find it in me to make friends. I don't have money to take mommy and me classes, I'm not religious so I don't have a church, I just hang with my kids and try not to fall asleep at the wheel! You're right, I gotta find a good coffee shop and find like minded people:)

Brianna - posted on 07/18/2012

start going to a moms group or mom and tots swim to meet other mommy friends and to get out of the house.

Kendra - posted on 07/17/2012

I am in the same situation. I moved from downtown Chicago to Omaha, Nebraska of all places (no offense to Nebraskans, it's just very different from city life). My husband also works a lot and we have 7 month old twins. I have no friends here, I feel really isolated and I'm sad that my family doesn't get to watch my babies grow. The twins are like 2 full-time jobs and I'm so tired all of the time that I barely have the energy to find groups to join and no energy to be "on" enough to meet people and build relationships. All I can tell you is that having the time and energy to invest in being social is half the battle. If you do, spend it on the internet finding groups and events to attend. Force yourself to attend something new at least a couple of times a month. If you look for people with common interests and/or lifestyles, eventually you will meet friends. Look for people that like to drink coffee. Some of the best conversations and bonding experiences I've had with friends has been over coffee. :)