I feel like the worst mom in the world...

Sue - posted on 10/01/2010

i think weve all done it whether its kids climbing out by themselves or us doing it but hey hes ok and how many times have you ever bumped your head and survived. Its just worry cos youre the mum so its a first for the baby book and forget it. The first time my son had nose bleed I got my camera out to take pics to send to grandparents then mopped him up. Dont feel bad!!x

Angel - posted on 10/01/2010

i know exaclty how you feel. except it was my bestfriend my son and i and we were in the ER because i was having a lot of problems with my chest and breathing and when i was talking to the nurse my friend was watching my son who was sitting on the bed with me. well he decided to jump to my friend and she had gotten distracted by a magazine and he fell off the bed onto the hard floor and i was so scared they ended up checking him out too i was so frightened especially when he started to pass out from it. everything was fine but we stayed an extra hour just to be certain. dont beat yourself up over it things like this happen to every parent eventually im sure. i know i rolled off a counter onto the floor at a week old lol.

Angeleen - posted on 10/01/2010

I'm so sorry, I hope he'll be okay. I had something like this happen although worse. When I first brought my son home, my Mother in law was at my house(she lives in Peru) and said she'd be visiting for a few weeks(stayed for 6 months) well she just decided to take my sons bedroom, so I had him sleeping in our room, although we didn't have a crib yet. I usually put him to sleep in his swing, but one night (he was only about 3 weeks old) I had him laying on the bed next to me, just laying down watching tv, and I still can't believe I fell asleep, it was so thoughtless of me, but I did. And I woke up to this terryfying, almost disgusting sound, like a huge egg cracking. I sat bolt upright and in less than a second I realized my little boy was on the floor face first. I picked him up, and I was just crying and crying, I was so scared. All I could remember thinking was "I'm the worst mother in the world" I even told myself if anything happened to him because of me I would kill myself..I know that's childish, but I just couldn't control myself he was so little and fragile, he trusted me and I let him get hurt. But we took him to the hospital they did a catscan and he was perfectly fine, nothing was wrong. He did only cry for about 10 seconds but I couldn't stop. But point is, he's fine and he's had a few little falls since then and barely even notices. We can't protect them from everything, although I wish we could. You're a good Mother, you're just human like the rest of us and make mistakes just like everyone else.

Amanda - posted on 09/30/2010

Our amazing God made our sweet little babies resilient because there are mothers our there who don't care like you do. You are not a terrible mom, you care, you cried and you probably held him way longer than he needed to be held...it's so normal and you are an amazing mom for being so humble and thinking otherwise ;)

Alexis - posted on 09/30/2010

Definatly your first child! Yes, by all means call the doc, better safe than sorry and a calm hearted mother is best, however be prepared for some Ooops (which this sounds like a complete accident) and some more bumps and bruises as your little one gets older. I dont know how old your lil one is, but if their not walking yet or trying to climb on everything your going to be in for a lot more falls. I hope I dont sound insensitive, I know I feel horrible inside and I try so hard to hide it so that my son doesnt pick up on it and worries himself, or uses it as a way to get attention. Like when a kid falls down and looks around to see if anyone is watching before crying or not. More than likely your lil one is just fine and your response is very normal and needed, its called caring and being protective of our children.

Nicole - posted on 09/30/2010

Dont feel too bad, My daughter is now 2 but when she was 7 months old i put her in her bumbo on the kitchen table, turned around to dry my hands, she got out of the bumbo fell off the table landed on her face and right arm. her mouth bled like something out of a horror movie. I took her to the Dr. the next day to find out she broke both bones in her right fore arm. Talk about the worst mom in the world. Shit happens...

Kendra - posted on 09/30/2010

sadly, i think i may be the queen on my baby falling off of things. =( but as i look back now i laugh. The first time ever was when she was about a month old. it was in the middle of the night and i was sitting on the couch, her in my lap, breastfeeding. we must have both fallen asleep because then next thing i remember is hearing her cry, i woke up and jump up to run to her room to get her, i forgot she was in my lap, next thing you know she is on the floor =(....lookign back i laugh cause it just shows you how tired i was from that first month of having a new baby!

second time was a couple weeks later, she was asleep and somehow wiggled off the couch while i was making her bottle. i got so scared i almost called 911..

then my husband, he had her on the bed with him....he was too busy staring at the tv and she fell off. (this time made me feel good cause i was not longer the only one who let her fall LOL)

she has fallen off of things a lot more now that she is walking and climbing up anything she can. she cries for a few moments then is fine.

Just today she tripped n hit her head on the tv stand, she cried so i went over and hit the tv stand and said "bad bad" she started laughing so hard, she went over and starting hitting it too. haha.

Kylie - posted on 09/30/2010

when my son was about 4 months old he fell head first off our couch, i'd leaded forward to get his bottle off the table, and when i turned around he was about to fall, i got my hands to him just as he hit the ground. i felt like the worse mum too. but he was fine (we rushed to the dr), and so many other mums were telling me similar stories about their kids. it seems like all babies fall at some stage.

Wendy - posted on 09/30/2010

I would not worry at all. As a mom of 3 boys, I can tell you that there will be many more bumps and bruises to come. (Wait until he starts walking or running!) Babies and toddlers are very resilient, and I'm sure he's just fine. I guarantee you that something like this happens at least once to every mom, no matter how careful we are. You are not a terrible mom at all!!! If it makes you feel better to talk to a doctor, then I think you should do whatever makes you feel good. I'm not sure where you live, but there's often a nurses line at hospitals or medical centers available 24/7 where you can call and ask advice (for free). We have a local one and I've called it many times for myself and my kids. It's a handy number to have if you can find one local. :o) If not, call my local one: 425.899.3000 ext 2.



Best of luck to you and know that you are a GREAT mother!! :o)

Jessica - posted on 09/30/2010

By the way, somehow, my first son rolled off our bed at 4 months old. My second son took off his seatbelt on his highchair and tried climbing out when the whole thing tipped onto him (bye-bye high chair, you're not coming in my house again!). My 2 month old daughter: so far nothing has happened. Thank goodness. The more kids you have the more experience you have. I do know that one day she'll fall or get a boo-boo.

Jessica - posted on 09/30/2010

Its understandable how you feel. Is this your first baby? Thats how I was with my first too. Now I am on my third and I don't sweat the little stuff. All kids fall at some point. Your kid is probably fine but next time you see the doc (God knows they seem them enough) tell him/her about the fall. Probably nothing is wrong. I know you feel awful but don't. I know that is easier said (or typed) than done. Learn from your mistake and move on. It was an accident. There will be many more. What is important is that you clean him up, comfort him, and learn from your mistake. It is unwise to sit and feel guilty for yourself because of this.

Amanda - posted on 09/30/2010

I kno how you feel I was getting my daughter dressed 1 moring on the couch. She dropped her pasifier a turned around to get it and sge rolled off. I freaked. After she was threw crying she was fine. But I couldnt stop thinking of the worst. I took her to her dr. and she was fine. Hearing the dr say that made me feel a million times better. I'd suggest going to the dr. just in case and to ease your mind. You will feel so much better.

Stifler's - posted on 09/30/2010

Once i got my baby out of the bath and I knew full well he was rolling and just absent mindedly left him on our bed and stepped back to get his nappy and suit amd he was like SPLAT on the floor. it was so stupid i just wasnt' thinking. He was fine though.

Kasey - posted on 09/30/2010

I dont think you are the first parent that has happened too! My son fell off the lounge chair when he was about 3 months old (i have no idea how as he couldnt move!) I felt awful! If you are concerned about him get him looked at by a doctor, but im sure he will be ok.

Tara - posted on 09/29/2010

I have had something like that almost happen to myself. I was changing my daughter on the bed and I turned to get something, only took not even a few seconds and if it wasn't for my husband walking in at that moment and grabbed her before she fell, she would of and I felt horrible for days and like a bad mom when she didn't even fall, so I can imagine how you feel. Things like this happen, my daughter has already hit her head a few times just from crawling and learning to walk, I swear to my husband that I am going to get a helmet for her head. Just know that things like that happen, no matter how closely you watch them, sometimes they will fall, hit there head, bump there head, cut themselves, all we can do is just try to make sure they don't get any added bumps or bruises to normal raising. I hope this helps!

Candi - posted on 09/29/2010

I know I have to count my blessings. Kids can really get into some stuff. To add to my earlier post, I got up one morning to find my daughter on top of the refrigerator and my son on the floor telling her which cabinet the chocolate was in! Now my kids are 11, 10, and 5 nd we have not had any broken bones, nothing really bloody. My youngest daughter did have whats called "nurse maid's elbow" and she has had a few episodes, but our dr showed us how to pop it back into place! Funny story, my daughter gave herself 2 black eyes the other day. I don't know how. All I know is she was chasing her brother through the house and she fell, and her knee made contact with her eye and turned both of them a blackish color. I didn't even know until this morning. I guess it didn't hurt too much. lol.

Candi - posted on 09/29/2010

Also... Just because you will remember it, he won't!

Candi - posted on 09/29/2010

JUST REMEMBER: With bumps to the head you NEED to worry if the bump dents in instead of popping out to make a bump! Sorry..IDK how to word that but that's what my dr told me w/ my 1st son!

Jessica - posted on 09/29/2010

This is great..Now i don't feel so bad. I swear i am more clumsy then my kids. I have shut my kids finders in the car door. I was busy gettin one kid out of the car while my oldest son climbed on top of the car, some lady yelled at me about not paying attention to my kid. I did know he was up there I got my kid out shut the door and he was leaning down and oops there goes his fingers (not hospital required--swew!!! Other people who don't have children are so annoying tellin' you how bad a mom you are--I'd like to slam there fingers in my door just for the fun of it--lol.. then there was the time me and my 4 kids were going in to a reasurant with a heavy door I had opened the door and did not expect it to shut so quick as I turned around to make sure other child was right behind me and could open door for them..well child infront was squished by the door--holy crap I felt horrible. Anyway stuff happens thank god kids are tough and surpringly out of 4 kids we have had one broken bone... Ya and guess i was a bad mom cause I wasn't there when he sat on his brothers heavy bike and it fell on him..he was in the care of a sitter but guess who still gets the blame...Yep the Bad Mommy!!! makes it feel like it but we're not perfect and we only have so many hands and so many eyes..

Yamira - posted on 09/29/2010

Don't worry it happens to all Moms!...I had my son on the bed with me and I turned my head and he feel off the bed and he busted his lip!...there was blood all over his mouth...I thought he had broken his teeth, but it was his top lip!...I almost called the ambulance, but I checked him and he was ok!...I almost had a heart attack!...I felt so guilty that I did not let him go all day!...he loved it!...lol!..I think he even got used to it!...but my baby was ok after all..so don't worry it happens!

Kira - posted on 09/29/2010

aww thanks everyone for making me feel better! As a first time mom its hard not to worry about everything! Thanks for your words of wisdom and support :)

Sarah - posted on 09/29/2010

Haha! I love that, Rebecca: Adult proof! Kira, middle child used to climb out of his high chair, throw himself off the couch, bed, chairs...if he wanted down, he'd get down any way he could. He had so many bumps and bruises I was sure the doctor would suspect I was abusing him! lol. He's two now, and still at it. I still get that feeling of guilt when he hurts himself, feeling like I should have done something to stop it, but the fact is that accidents happen. You didn't mean for him to fall, and you cannot go back in time and stop it from happening. Just learn from your mistakes and move on. He's fine, and you will be too! He's probably already forgotten about it! As you've already experienced, I think "traumatic" accidents are worse for parents than for the kids! Just the fact that you're concerned shows that you are a loving, caring mother. Your son is a lucky guy. :)

Heather - posted on 09/29/2010

Kids fall off things. It is a terrible but proven fact of life. I believe it traumatizes us more than them. They are blessed with the ability to forget these things. The fact further exhibited as they mature into teenagers( forgetting that is!) My son Spencer,now 17, fell down the stairs almost daily. Yes I said daily. And that was with gates strategically placed at the top AND the bottom of the stairs. He just climbed over and then you would hear this thump, thump, thump, thump. And we would say," Oh there goes Spencer down the stairs AGAIN!!!!" he was our daredevil. He jumped off one of our neighbors roofs in the 5th or 6th gr.He broke his foot. He told us he stubbed his toe. OF course we didn't believe him...but this was par for the course with him. Life was never boring. God equips our babies with special protections I believe for some circumstances

Claire - posted on 09/29/2010

i have had my son have so mant accidents he nearly fell out of his high chair as i pooped upstairs to put some washing away and he was having a drink when i came back he was stood up near to fallin out, also he has fallen off our bed twice. this doesnt mean your a bad mom sweetie. children are prone to accidents xx

Rebecca - posted on 09/29/2010

Oh Kira- I completely understand how you feel. When my son was 2 weeks old he threw himself of my chest (I was propped up in bed) and he landed on the carpet on the floor. He was 100% fine- but my heart broke. He was extremely strong for his age, and I wasn't prepared for it. But these things happen. A very wise nurse once told me that babies are adult proof... :) They really are tough and we just can't predict everything. And you if try- you will end up going crazy. YOU ARE A GREAT MUM!!! We all make mistakes- but that is apart of life! We often have to learn to forgive ourselves. :)

Cecilia - posted on 09/28/2010

Don't beat yourself up over it, it will happen more than you think, this won't be the last time, my son fell off the bed when he was around 1 yrs old he was in our bed in the middle of us he scooted at the end and hit his head on the wooden floor it woke us up and we were terrified he'd gotten really hurt, felt horrible checked him out and kept hiim up for another hour then put him back to sleep it happens I don't think the hospital is necessary just pray for your ability to get over it and not to worry so much :)

Paulette - posted on 09/28/2010

I think it might have happen to every parent at least once. My son fell like that once and I think I cried more than him. My daughter fell at the store and a lady(the same lady) keep coming up to me to see if she was ok and told me a horror story of her husband and made me feel even worse. She has even fallen down the stairs. Called the doctor with all the big falls and everyone is 100% fine. I really believe God is really with my kids. Remember accidents happen and you know you'll feel horrible. But that's what good parents do. I'm amazed at how tough they can be. Hope your little one is ok.

Sarah - posted on 09/28/2010

Aww please don't feel bad!! Things like this happen to kids all the time...it amazes me how resilient babies can be!! My son has fallen and hit his head on our wood floor a few times. My parent's fireplace had a loose brick on the corner of it & we failed to get it replaced. Before I knew it, my son had pulled the brick out & it landed on his bare foot. He screamed bloody murder & I cried so hard, because I felt absolutely TERRIBLE. His toenail split open at the bottom & a few weeks later, his toenail fell off completely. :( But, it's all grown back now, so it's all good lol. Anyway, he's 12 months old now & just started walking a few weeks ago. I'm sure we're in for even more bumps and bruises along the way. :)

Vickie - posted on 09/28/2010

Kira, I know how you feel. I believe as mothers we all do. Just understand that these things are going to happen, there will be many bumps and bruises down the road. It sounds like you did exactly what needed to be done, and by some miracle you will find that with each new accident you will know how to react.
Keep hugging that baby and remember that with all the scares he will give you that you will always be there for him!
*HUGS* to you too mommy, hang in there! :)

Maura - posted on 09/27/2010

After everybody told me I was too protective, I agreed to spin my daughter around by holding her hands. Dislocated her elbow!!!! She has also had two concussions falling out of chairs, a near rupture, and a broken toe. There's probably more for you in store too. Now you both know, always unhook baby last. But there is so much more you can't prevent. Now it is time to forgive yourself mom :)

Sharon - posted on 09/27/2010

I feel bad everytime one of my boys fall, hits their head, or loses their balance. I have come to the realization that it will happen and there's nothing I can do. They'll fall when they learn how to stand, walk, and run. I just have to be there to kiss their boo boos and to make it all better. :)

Deborah - posted on 09/27/2010

It happens boys will heal moms and dads will learn how better, as long as he is okay that is all that matters. :)

Misty - posted on 09/27/2010

It is always scarry whe your child gets hurts. I have two kids my son is 10years and my dd is 3years. my son used to get hurt alot and it is heart breaking, He has fallen down a flight of stairs when he was 2 and I called the doctors right away. They said to watch him to make sure he was acting like him self. I watched him very carefully and he was fine he had a bump on his head. And to this day he is always getting hurt. My dd tripped down our front walk way stairs and I rushed her to the emergency she landed on her back and her arm was twisted back. they got her in right away and thank goodness she was fine no broken bones. To this day she is always getting hurt, but you have to remember its a part if them growing up they will fall get bumps and bruses. We cant always catch them but we just need to be there for them, I always feel the same that a part of me dies at that moment, its a feeling of helplessness, but you sould always call the doctors office no matter what time of day it is for any small reason, they always have a answering assistance that will have someone call you back at any hour of the day. Dont feel ashamed by calling they are there to give you the support and help that you need.

Jodi - posted on 09/27/2010

I'm sure he's fine. Babies are so resilient! I was changing my daughter while we were on vacation, & I laid her on a twin bed. We have a king size bed at home, so obviously a twin is much smaller. Anyway, I turned my head for a second, & bonk! She fell onto the floor. She was 6 months old at the time. She cried for a little bit, but I'm sure it was more from being afraid than it was from being hurt.

Your incident this morning will be the first of many. They actually do get easier to deal with, so chin up :o)

Jess - posted on 09/26/2010

My daughter has learnt how to get out of the straps on her high chair. She is forever wiggling out the bottom of the chair and falling onto the floor. She thinks its funny. My heart stops every time she does it. Sadly she is so fast at it now, it takes her just seconds !

As our babies grow bigger they will get many scrapes and bruises along the way. Its not childhood unless you come out the other side with a nice child hood scar.

Fiona - posted on 09/26/2010

Please dont feel bad, these things do happen. My daughter has often fallen off the couch(not too bad though), once she fell head first off the bed :-( i felt terrible all day. I contemplated going to the hospital, but got decided not to cos i was scared the would take her away, and tell me i was a bad mum :-(
Hope you feel better now after hearing other stories, and venting.

Lauren - posted on 09/25/2010

i know the feeling! when my son was about 9 or 10 months, he's now almost 1. i was sitting on the couch watching tv and he had pulled up next to me. i heard something outside and turned to look out the window and out of the corner of my eye i thought my little boy was about to fall onto our tile floor. little did i know he was just fine and was still holding onto the couch, but i reacted as if he had fallen and turned very fast to grab him by the arm and keep him from falling. but instead my hand hit him right in the face! i felt terrible! he cried for less than a minute and i cried, harder than him, for a good thirty minutes!
accidents happen to the best of us sweetie! and the best thing is, they won't even remember it happened ten minutes later! :))

Leslie - posted on 09/25/2010

You're not the worst mom.......we've all done it. my son fell off the couch at 3 mos., down the stairs at 7 mos., and out of his crib at around 18 mos. He dislocated his elbow when my husband grabbed his arm just as he was about to fall off the bed. That was a hospital trip......but the worst part was it kept happening!!! After 3 trips for the same thing, I thought for sure CAS was going to pay a visit. I hit my daughter in the head with the van door once. sure I've done a couple of things to #3 who is 11 mos. right now......but now I know it just comes with being so busy and overtired. And contrary to what some may say.....we do not have eyes in the back of our heads. I can't keep track of all 3 of them all the time.....so there are gonna be bumps and bruises. Good thing nothing heals better than mommy kisses!

Tasha - posted on 09/25/2010

I totally understand how you feel. My oldest daughter was still pretty little and my husband went to turn around to answer me and barely hit her head on a door frame. I had never seen my husband feel so bad for doing anything before.

Sandra - posted on 09/25/2010

please don't feel bad! these things happen. Your reaction tells us that you in not the worst mom, but in fact a good mom, because only a bad mom wouldn't be worried.

To make you feel better... my husband had moved his weights and my weights from the garage to the spare bedroom (its getting too cold to work out in the garage) Anyways I was getting her ready for a bath and she walked over to the spare bedroom and didn't think anything of it. I didn't think she would be able to lift any of the weights. Well to my horror she was able to lift up a 10lb dumbbell (still not sure how its possible because she is 11 months old) she dropped in on her foot and started to scream bloody murder. My heart sunk and I felt like the worst parent in the world. I looked at her foot and made sure nothing was broken. she was all smiles about 10 mins later...but I know EXACTLY how you felt.

Candi - posted on 09/25/2010

Let me think bck when mine were little. My son rolled off the bed onto hardwood floor at 2 weeks old. It was a king sized bed and he was in the middle! Don't know how it happened. When my daughter was about 8 mos old, she fell down a flight of stairs and ended up with a goosbump on her head! She was fine, but pics with the Easter Bunny that year looked rough! That fall will puzzle me til the day I die! She ws nowhere near stairs, the door for the stairs was shut, she was in a walker in another room and there was no clear path to the stairs. When she was older, she jumped out of the grocery cart at the store...reminder, she is not a cat, so landing on feet didn't happen! She was buckled in! My youngest got her feet tangled in the kitchen chair and fell out of it smacking her head on the wall! Kids will get bumps and bruises, broken bones and black eyes! Its all part of being a kid. I do have to say, all of these happened when my kids were little. They are now 11, 10, and 5 nd nothing more than a bruise has happened in the last 3 years. Maybe they have gained coordination, but they are good, healthy, and smart kids! Maybe the head bumps knocked some sense into them. The funny thing is, they didn't even cry for most of the falls! Kids are tough little things

Emma - posted on 09/25/2010

The exact same thing happened to my friend and me in pizza hut! She was mortified but baby was fine, it makes you feel sick inside but accidents do happen, at least we can learn from them and as I told my friend at the time 'babies bounce' they are tough little things and I'm sure your little one will be fine, you'r not the first and I doubt you'll be the last! It's obvious you are a good Mum because you feel so bad, you feel so bad because you love him so much!!

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 09/25/2010

I know how you feel…I did something similar to that….when my son was only 3mos old….and even to this day when I think about it…my heart hurts and I still feel bad…my son is now 6mos and is fine, was fine, but he was so little…I felt like a horrible mom to…because as a mother your suppose to protect and keep your child safe from all harm…..and that day I didn’t, and what was worse it was me who hurt him…..