i hada c section nearly 2and a half weeks ago can i have sex?
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Leanna - posted on 11/04/2009
I had three C Sections... and while I am by now means a doctor, nor claim to have all the answers; I can say this. With my first section I was paranoid about what an appropriate amount of time to wait for sex was... By my third I had it all figured out. The simple answer is; it depends on you and your partner.
Take some things into consideration: How quickly are you healing? If you're like me, you were off meds before you left the hospital and a week post partum you could barely see the incision lines. If you are like others, 3 weeks later it still feels like a fresh wound. Start guaging that first and foremost. And don't forget, the healing process on sections is much longer than appearance. Your body will heal from the outside in and it can take years sometimes to be completely healed.
Another thing to consider, and I'll try to write this without blushing too much; is how rigorous are we talking? Also what positions and how long? It's not much different that having sex while your pregnant. You just have to be aware of your body and it's limitations.
Like I said, I played the paranoid game with my oldest and waited the 6 weeks until my checkup. With my most recent I made it about a week. When I stop bleeding and was feeling the desire again, I went for it.
Know your body, know your partners body, know your limitations... And if all else fails. Call your OB/GYN and ask. That's what they are there for!
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Marlen - posted 6 days ago
Hi i just had my last baby and my last 4th c section also I got three more weeks to go for my postpartum check up and my overs hurt so bad and I am in Heat i never felt like this before is this normal it's my first time feeling like this
Cinderella - posted on 01/27/2014
Doctors say 6 weeks for safety, if you don't want problems I would wait, because you are still healing, and don't want anything to open up. I had a bad infection in my incision just from walking around too much, imagine what sex would have done. Maybe you can just do some touchy feel things, but I would wait for the full on sex. Just think about how great it will be if you wait. Just don't go too long, or you might never have sex again. I haven't had sex in a year. My daughter is 5 months. :O(
If you do have sex, just be gentle, and just know that things will be very dry.
Paula - posted on 11/09/2009
readin the post tht u ave got there is no horrors on havin sex after a c section i had 2 kids under c sections nothing goes wrong ull be tender all u do is take it easy if u feel its not right thn dont do it but beleive me nothing will go wrong i done it 3 weeks after my second child n nothing went wrong just make sure u use sumit so u dont fall pregers again .
Liz - posted on 11/05/2009
You really need to wait for your 6 wk checkup before engaging in sexual intercourse. For your own benefit! have had 2 csections and tried sex early after my first and was in HORRIBLE pain for days from it ... not cuz he hurt me but the movement and pressure was just too much!
Filda - posted on 11/04/2009
Good on you girl... Go for it I guess!!! 2 wks after !!! Only 1way to find out is to test the water & see.. Sex was the last thing on my mind after having a baby let alone trying to come to terms with what my body went through the pregnancy & birth...Good Luck & Take it Slowly...
Kim - posted on 11/03/2009
You're feeling up to having sex? Wow! I thought 6 weeks was going to be a long time but after having a baby we were both so exhausted they only thing on our minds was sleep! I would definitely wait until your doc gives you the ok at your 6 wk checkup. A friend of a friend went in for her 6 wk checkup only to find out she was pregnant again! Agh! Give your body a break to heal - it just went through a lot. It may be hard but you'll be glad you did.
Dawn - posted on 11/03/2009
I had two c-sections...the 2nd one was a lot worse than the first...but, wanting intimacy with your hubby is normal...but you need to be sure your body is healed on the inside...remember they have cut deepto in your body and your uterus...you are risking a lot by ignoring your doctor. After both of my c-sections, my hubby at the time couldn't wait so we did other things to satisfy the need for intimacy.
Michelle - posted on 11/03/2009
You want to wait and give your body time to heal. You can still tear stitches etc and cause permanent damage to your body. Talk to your OB. Mine said to wait 6 weeks. It's well worth it to not take the chance. You may be fine. Obviously some people are but it's not something you want to risk being the person who had problems because of it.
Jalyn - posted on 11/03/2009
Trust me you do not want to have sex that early after a csection!! If you can get a check up with your doctor around four weeks after baby's birth you may be given the ok (I was with babys number 2 and 3) but most doctors wait until 6 weeks.
Lori - posted on 11/03/2009
My husband asked and my doctor said he would prefer we wait until 6 weeks after but if we did have sex, use protection! So 3 weeks after my c-section we had sex with protection. I had no problems, just told my husband to take it slow and he did. So it is really up to your comfort level...just use a condom!!!
Jennie - posted on 11/03/2009
I had 3 children all by C-Section it is possible to have sex after that short of recovery as long as you check with your doctor to be sure your healing well and if you do not see the doctor, it is a time to take it easy (no rough stuff)
Susie - posted on 11/02/2009
I had 2 c-sections. Waited the six weeks after the first one. At my 6 week appt the doctor asked if we had done the deed. We told him no, he was shocked. He said most people dont wait. I have even heard of people having sex while still in the hospital. After my second c-section I was comfortable enough after 4 weeks. I would say if you are comfortable enough, go ahead. Everyone heals differently.
When you go in for that six weeks checkup they will do a physical exam. This is to make sure your cervix has closed completely. You should have been told not to use tampons, douche, or have sex. NOTHING goes in there till the doctor has CONFIRMED that the cervix has closed.
Cara - posted on 11/01/2009
You dhould wait I had sex at five weeks after having my second daughter and I am now a mother of three. I had two beutiful babies in 2008. So I would wait until you talk to your Dr. and get on BC. Plus it can mess stuff up so wait until your 6 week check up.
Nicole - posted on 11/01/2009
I have had 3 c-sections. I would not recommend it till after 6 weeks. My doctor said NO driving for 2 weeks and NO sex for 6 weeks. You need time to heal. Even after 6 weeks the only workouts you can do is walking. I was told no heavy workouts i.e. no weights or sit ups till 4 to 6 months.
Jayde - posted on 11/01/2009
I have had 2 cesareans now and I wouldn't recommend having intercourse just yet, you need to give you insides plenty of time to get back to full working order. Maybe wait till it's around the 4 week mark before you try and do it very slowly...
Cheryl - posted on 11/01/2009
Ive had 5 c-sections -seriously - NO SEX for at least 5-6 weeks later. the odds for infection are way up there! not to mention that the pain after sex is AS bad as contractions!!!!!!! Its just not a safe or smart idea. Trust me, i understand the urges - duh chemical changes- manual sex - by yourself or your partner (although not for everyone) can offer some satisfaction.
Krissy - posted on 10/31/2009
I have had 2 c-sections and a hysterectomy. All three times my doctors told me 6-8 weeks. Even if you are feeling good doesn't mean your insides have healed enough. If you bust your stitches on your insdes it could be dangerous. You could always call your doctors office to ask their advice. They would know best. In the mean time, enjoy your new gift. They don't stay babies long. It seems like you blink and they are teenagers. Good luck and GOD bless!
Kaelee - posted on 10/31/2009
We only waited about 2 weeks after but I was ok to do it. I say that if you feel up to it then its ok just be prepared to stop if anything hurts or feels uncomfortable take it slow. You may think you are ready but once you get into the act its like hold on a sec maybe Im not ready and that ok too. Good luck and congrats on your new little one
Amber - posted on 10/31/2009
We waited till I was feeling okay enough, which was only two weeks after my C-section. I was fine with it. I was never told to wait by my doctor and didn't even need a check up after the second week. But you need to do what you are comfortable with and of course depending on how you took the surgery. If you had a difficult surgery (eg: lots of bleeding, unforseen complications) then you might want to wait longer.
Angela - posted on 10/31/2009
I had a c-section with my daughter and the doc really does tell you to wait the 6 week period cause your body has to really recover from the major surgery you just had. The after birth bleeding will probably end at the 6 week mark. It'll be safer then. I hope that helps.
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