i hada c section nearly 2and a half weeks ago can i have sex?

Samantha - posted on 10/29/2009 ( 67 moms have responded )

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i had a cesaerean secction nearly 3 weeks ago and want to have sex .

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Lindsay - posted on 11/10/2009

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i had an emergency c-section and had sex about 3 weeks after. i would say aslong as you are not bleeding and ur well in urself than go for it u will soon know if ur not comfortable with it or not.

Jeanette - posted on 11/04/2009

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I had 4 c-sections and I have to say I had sex within the 1st 2-3 weeks. We took it slow and made sure to use lubricant. Just make sure you are both clean.

Kelly - posted on 11/09/2009

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not unless you want to end up pregnant again... remember the DR saying NO sex or tampons ANYTHING for 6 WEEK!!!!

Danielle - posted on 11/09/2009

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i had a c-section & had sex about a week & half later. never had a problem. just gotta be careful. you know, gentle.

Cinderella - posted on 01/27/2014

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Doctors say 6 weeks for safety, if you don't want problems I would wait, because you are still healing, and don't want anything to open up. I had a bad infection in my incision just from walking around too much, imagine what sex would have done. Maybe you can just do some touchy feel things, but I would wait for the full on sex. Just think about how great it will be if you wait. Just don't go too long, or you might never have sex again. I haven't had sex in a year. My daughter is 5 months. :O(

If you do have sex, just be gentle, and just know that things will be very dry.

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Lovely - posted on 01/27/2014

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I have a c-section and we had sex in 3 weeks ago im just wanna know if im going to be pregnant again ?...

Julia - posted on 11/11/2009

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I don't recommend it. We didn't listen and we tried about 5 days after my c-section... I hurt for HOURS!!! It was horrible!!!

Stephanie - posted on 11/09/2009

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You are technically supposed to wait for six weeks, c-section or vaginal birth.

Paula - posted on 11/09/2009

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readin the post tht u ave got there is no horrors on havin sex after a c section i had 2 kids under c sections nothing goes wrong ull be tender all u do is take it easy if u feel its not right thn dont do it but beleive me nothing will go wrong i done it 3 weeks after my second child n nothing went wrong just make sure u use sumit so u dont fall pregers again .

Liz - posted on 11/05/2009

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You really need to wait for your 6 wk checkup before engaging in sexual intercourse. For your own benefit! have had 2 csections and tried sex early after my first and was in HORRIBLE pain for days from it ... not cuz he hurt me but the movement and pressure was just too much!

Tammy - posted on 11/04/2009

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I know it's hard but I would wait your the most fertile right now.

Stacey - posted on 11/04/2009

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I also had a c-section and we only waited 3 weeks. If your body feels ok and you're not too sore, I say go for it. Just take things slow and don't have rough sex. Tell your man to be gentle!!

Leanna - posted on 11/04/2009

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I had three C Sections... and while I am by now means a doctor, nor claim to have all the answers; I can say this. With my first section I was paranoid about what an appropriate amount of time to wait for sex was... By my third I had it all figured out. The simple answer is; it depends on you and your partner.



Take some things into consideration: How quickly are you healing? If you're like me, you were off meds before you left the hospital and a week post partum you could barely see the incision lines. If you are like others, 3 weeks later it still feels like a fresh wound. Start guaging that first and foremost. And don't forget, the healing process on sections is much longer than appearance. Your body will heal from the outside in and it can take years sometimes to be completely healed.



Another thing to consider, and I'll try to write this without blushing too much; is how rigorous are we talking? Also what positions and how long? It's not much different that having sex while your pregnant. You just have to be aware of your body and it's limitations.



Like I said, I played the paranoid game with my oldest and waited the 6 weeks until my checkup. With my most recent I made it about a week. When I stop bleeding and was feeling the desire again, I went for it.



Know your body, know your partners body, know your limitations... And if all else fails. Call your OB/GYN and ask. That's what they are there for!

Sarah - posted on 11/04/2009

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In most cases waiting for at least 6 weeks to have sex is important. The thought of getting pregnant again was enough for me to not have sex. I would be very careful...sex is always gonna be there for you later.

Brooke - posted on 11/04/2009

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No. You will get the green light at your 6 week checkup. Honestly, you really feel like it?! Good for you! ;)

Jamie - posted on 11/04/2009

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I would wait the 6 weeks, I don't need to go into detail with you...at this point you shoudl be able to move around and stuff, but wait till that appt, you don't need to injur yourself.

Kelly - posted on 11/04/2009

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Since it wasnt a vag delivery i dont c why not. If your healing well. Might get stomache cramps though. Good luck!

Heather - posted on 11/04/2009

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no you have to wait 6 weeks. You have been cut open you could rip open and have internal bleeding and be it could be disastrous. Just wait.

Filda - posted on 11/04/2009

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Good on you girl... Go for it I guess!!! 2 wks after !!! Only 1way to find out is to test the water & see.. Sex was the last thing on my mind after having a baby let alone trying to come to terms with what my body went through the pregnancy & birth...Good Luck & Take it Slowly...

Kim - posted on 11/03/2009

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You're feeling up to having sex? Wow! I thought 6 weeks was going to be a long time but after having a baby we were both so exhausted they only thing on our minds was sleep! I would definitely wait until your doc gives you the ok at your 6 wk checkup. A friend of a friend went in for her 6 wk checkup only to find out she was pregnant again! Agh! Give your body a break to heal - it just went through a lot. It may be hard but you'll be glad you did.

Joanna - posted on 11/03/2009

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I did after 3 weeks. It was my 2nd C-section. This time around I felt great after a week. I even had a blood transfusion and got my tubes tied.

Melanie - posted on 11/03/2009

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Man, I'd love your energy...lol. I had a c-section on 16th Oct and we are waiting (Dr's instruction) till after our 6 week check and am no longer bleeding.

Dawn - posted on 11/03/2009

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I had two c-sections...the 2nd one was a lot worse than the first...but, wanting intimacy with your hubby is normal...but you need to be sure your body is healed on the inside...remember they have cut deepto in your body and your uterus...you are risking a lot by ignoring your doctor. After both of my c-sections, my hubby at the time couldn't wait so we did other things to satisfy the need for intimacy.

Michelle - posted on 11/03/2009

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You want to wait and give your body time to heal. You can still tear stitches etc and cause permanent damage to your body. Talk to your OB. Mine said to wait 6 weeks. It's well worth it to not take the chance. You may be fine. Obviously some people are but it's not something you want to risk being the person who had problems because of it.

Kayla - posted on 11/03/2009

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i had a c section and had sex about 4 weeks later.everything was fine but it does feel like your losing your virginity all over again at first.

Jalyn - posted on 11/03/2009

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Trust me you do not want to have sex that early after a csection!! If you can get a check up with your doctor around four weeks after baby's birth you may be given the ok (I was with babys number 2 and 3) but most doctors wait until 6 weeks.

Amanda - posted on 11/03/2009

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I had a c section and started having sex as soon as I felt comfortable which was like two or three weeks after the baby was born. So I say go ahead and have fun.

Monica - posted on 11/03/2009

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that cesaerean, is like going surgery, so you would like to wait at least for month and a half or wait that your Dr. gives you the green light.

Stacey - posted on 11/03/2009

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I had both my kids by c-sec. You really should wait for atleast 6 wks. There is no harm in asking your OB to be sure! Everyone is different and he/she can discuss the pros/cons of this with how you are feeling.

Chrissy - posted on 11/03/2009

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Do what is comfortable for you, but remember, that you are very fertile after giving birth! If you don't want another little one right away you might want to wait or use protection.

Lori - posted on 11/03/2009

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My husband asked and my doctor said he would prefer we wait until 6 weeks after but if we did have sex, use protection! So 3 weeks after my c-section we had sex with protection. I had no problems, just told my husband to take it slow and he did. So it is really up to your comfort level...just use a condom!!!

Amanda - posted on 11/03/2009

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I had a C section and I started having sex again after I stopped bleeding...about 3 1/2 weeks! I say if it doesn't hurt your incision & bleeding is down go for it!

Jennie - posted on 11/03/2009

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I had 3 children all by C-Section it is possible to have sex after that short of recovery as long as you check with your doctor to be sure your healing well and if you do not see the doctor, it is a time to take it easy (no rough stuff)

Christy - posted on 11/02/2009

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Always wait until your checkup after any kind of delivery before you have sex. Better to be safe than sorry

Michelle - posted on 11/02/2009

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No you should wait till your 6 week check up .... there is a lot to heal on the inside. PLus you are VERY fertile the first couple months and you can go into your 6 week ..pregnaut

Susie - posted on 11/02/2009

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I had 2 c-sections. Waited the six weeks after the first one. At my 6 week appt the doctor asked if we had done the deed. We told him no, he was shocked. He said most people dont wait. I have even heard of people having sex while still in the hospital. After my second c-section I was comfortable enough after 4 weeks. I would say if you are comfortable enough, go ahead. Everyone heals differently.

Joni - posted on 11/02/2009

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Definitely not recommended. I had a c-section and doc told me to wait til staples were out and at 6 week check up.

Angela - posted on 11/02/2009

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oh my gosh no! wait, do what the doctor says! i had an emergency c-section, had sex about 5 weeks, very uncomfortable. my stitches split!! i got an infectionion and now have a bigger scar!

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When you go in for that six weeks checkup they will do a physical exam. This is to make sure your cervix has closed completely. You should have been told not to use tampons, douche, or have sex. NOTHING goes in there till the doctor has CONFIRMED that the cervix has closed.

Cara - posted on 11/01/2009

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You dhould wait I had sex at five weeks after having my second daughter and I am now a mother of three. I had two beutiful babies in 2008. So I would wait until you talk to your Dr. and get on BC. Plus it can mess stuff up so wait until your 6 week check up.

Nicole - posted on 11/01/2009

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I have had 3 c-sections. I would not recommend it till after 6 weeks. My doctor said NO driving for 2 weeks and NO sex for 6 weeks. You need time to heal. Even after 6 weeks the only workouts you can do is walking. I was told no heavy workouts i.e. no weights or sit ups till 4 to 6 months.

Jayde - posted on 11/01/2009

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I have had 2 cesareans now and I wouldn't recommend having intercourse just yet, you need to give you insides plenty of time to get back to full working order. Maybe wait till it's around the 4 week mark before you try and do it very slowly...

Nadine - posted on 11/01/2009

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You can have sex once your bleeding stops, your incision is healing well and you feel ready (I am a nurse).

Cheryl - posted on 11/01/2009

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Ive had 5 c-sections -seriously - NO SEX for at least 5-6 weeks later. the odds for infection are way up there! not to mention that the pain after sex is AS bad as contractions!!!!!!! Its just not a safe or smart idea. Trust me, i understand the urges - duh chemical changes- manual sex - by yourself or your partner (although not for everyone) can offer some satisfaction.

Krissy - posted on 10/31/2009

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I have had 2 c-sections and a hysterectomy. All three times my doctors told me 6-8 weeks. Even if you are feeling good doesn't mean your insides have healed enough. If you bust your stitches on your insdes it could be dangerous. You could always call your doctors office to ask their advice. They would know best. In the mean time, enjoy your new gift. They don't stay babies long. It seems like you blink and they are teenagers. Good luck and GOD bless!

Kaelee - posted on 10/31/2009

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We only waited about 2 weeks after but I was ok to do it. I say that if you feel up to it then its ok just be prepared to stop if anything hurts or feels uncomfortable take it slow. You may think you are ready but once you get into the act its like hold on a sec maybe Im not ready and that ok too. Good luck and congrats on your new little one

Tiffany - posted on 10/31/2009

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Your body is still healing. Give it time to rest. There are many other things you can do besides intersourse that are just as fun. Don't over do it....congrats on the new addition!

Amber - posted on 10/31/2009

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We waited till I was feeling okay enough, which was only two weeks after my C-section. I was fine with it. I was never told to wait by my doctor and didn't even need a check up after the second week. But you need to do what you are comfortable with and of course depending on how you took the surgery. If you had a difficult surgery (eg: lots of bleeding, unforseen complications) then you might want to wait longer.

Jane - posted on 10/31/2009

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you can't have sex regardless of what you had without seeing your doctor first and waiting 6 weeks.

Angela - posted on 10/31/2009

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I had a c-section with my daughter and the doc really does tell you to wait the 6 week period cause your body has to really recover from the major surgery you just had. The after birth bleeding will probably end at the 6 week mark. It'll be safer then. I hope that helps.

Heather - posted on 10/31/2009

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i didnt have a c-section, but by one week after baby i wanted to go at it again with hubby hahaha ... i didnt even have a 6 week check-up but we did end up waiting till that time just cuz thats what we were told was safe... for c-section tho, i would think youre probably ok if you are feeling up to it, but it couldnt hurt to call the doctor!!

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