I hate how people react when I say I'm a SAHM!!!

Harper - posted on 04/09/2012 ( 82 moms have responded )

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It really makes me so mad when people just roll their eyes when I say Im a SAHM...as if its the easiest thing in the world to be or if Im lazy! Anyone else ever feel like that and if they do what do you guys say when they treat you like that

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Danielle - posted on 05/15/2012

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I hate this too. I am a SAHM of a autistic child. My day is far from easy. I get 3 hours a day to myself while my son is at school, but I spend them doing things that are harder to get done with my son home, Like Dr's appointments, Physical Therapy and such. When peple say stupid things about me being a SAHM when they work I say well at least you get paid vacations, sick days and when you leave work you leave it AT work. My work is 24/7 no vacations, no sick days. You have one job title.. I have tons, then maybe I will list them such as Maid, Taxi Driver, Chef or whatever comes to mind at that moment. And I don't get raises or bonuses. Or show them my lovely schedule. I don't understand why people thing SAHM just sit home and watch TV. The only time I watch TV is when my son is in bed and EVERYTHING is done for the day. Being a SAHM is one of the HARDEST jobs. but the most rewarding.



Once my Dad's girlfriends daughter said I was lazy because I don't work. She has two kids and she works full time and she doesn't raise her children the grandmothers do (and I am not saying it's worng, people gotta do what they gotta do to support their families) and they have poor behavior. Being a SAHM I can say I souly raised my child That I can take the time to teach my son and help him with his studies.. I was raised by a SAHM and my mother and I have a great bond and I have alot of great childhood memories as for my husband, he was raised by a single mother whom worked alot and he never got to play with his friends on the weekends because he was forced to his grandparents. He didn't have a happy childhood and he doesn't want that for his children.

Erica - posted on 04/10/2012

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I get that a lot. I think its a little worse because I'm 23, people get jealous. Once someone said to me "Yeah it must be nice, your husband works all day and makes the money and you sit around doing nothing and you get to spend all the money." So I just turned to her and said "Yep! I love it! He does all the work and I have all the fun! Why would I ever want my life to be different?" smiled real big and walked away. That's what they think then fine that's what I'll tell them, I don't care. It just pisses them off more, which I actually find funny. :)

Melodie - posted on 05/24/2012

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At Suz, I dont think that true in all situations. I have been both. A working mom and now I am a SAHM, I like it to a certain extint, but when I was a working mom, my son didnt behave no better or worse than he do now. I work 2 days out of the week but I am lucky now to have family who will watch him while my husband and I are at work. My hsuband works full-time, and now I am working on my master's and if I could find a job, I would be a working mom. I'm at SAHM, by force of the economy. Now, dont get me wrong, I love being with my son all time and teaching him things but I would whether work to help provide for him as well.I dont llook down on working mothers or SAHM at all because both types of moms are making a sacifice for her family. Working moms are as good as SAHMs. My mom was a working mom, when I was growing up. I am now 25, with a bachelor's degree and working on my master's with my own family, i didnt get any less attention from her because she was a working mom. I was a very well behave child growing. ALL PARENTS MAKE SACRIFICES FOR THEIR CHILDREN

Leekeisha - posted on 05/20/2012

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I don't think she meant it like that. When you are a stay at home mom you are able to be more involved in your child's life. The front office staff knows me well at my oldest child school not because he is a problem( he is a straight a student) but because I am involved. I am able to monitor what they take in more. Your never no what your child is being exposed to under someone eleses care. I will never take credit from a working mom because I was raised by one and also all sahm are not that great.

Rachel - posted on 05/08/2012

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So far, the reaction I have had from people has been positive. Most of my friends say how few women choose to stay home with their kids. I know some women have to work to pay bills and such, but here's what I always thought of: When I worked, I made $10/hr. I LOVED my job and everyone I worked for. If I were to keep working, I would need to pay for daycare (which is essentially paying someone else to raise my kids), pay for gas to and from work, pay for convenience foods because I wouldn't have time to cook, not have time or energy to clean the house, buy work clothes, hire sitters some nights to spend time with my husband, and then have no extra money at the end of it. I loved my job then, but I love this job even more! My daughter is growing and learning every day! And I get to see it, and get to participate in it! I can't imagine leaving her to go to work... no way! :-)

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Heather - posted on 05/25/2012

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Hold your head high and say it loud!!! I've experienced the negative reaction...but have discovered that most people who react that way are ignorant! Most of my mom-friends who responded in a negative way have turned out to actually be envious of me! And who cares what anyone thinks anyways! It is the absolute hardest thing you're ever going to do, and the most worthwhile!

Leekeisha - posted on 05/25/2012

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In my opinion we do get paid for it. Being a sahm is a sacrifice, but I am able to give my kids more of my love and knowledge and more of my time. When in a group with other kids I can see the difference in the respect level and how they act. Just to notice their greatness at an early age is payment enough for me. My husband and I are excited to see what god has for their future

Suz - posted on 05/24/2012

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I think being a SAHM is wonderful! I am one too! I have a
15 yr old and a 7 yr old. Kids who's moms are SHM
Behave better than kids who's parents work. Besides its
A sacrifice!

Michelle - posted on 05/23/2012

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tanya, you have pinpointed that...it does take alot out of you when you are with the kids 24/7. i know how that is. i'm a stay at home mom too. i wouldn't have it any other way. my kids are safer at home and i know where they are and what they are doing. there are so many kids who are in daycares and etc who are being kidnapped, raped, and abused. no stay at home mom is lazy. our job of staying at home is a never ending job.

Tanya - posted on 05/23/2012

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i agree!! yes i am a stay at home mom too--i either get looks like like im lazy or dumb lol...i went to college had a job but chose to stay home with my kids--it takes alot out of a person to stay with kids 24/7

Stacey - posted on 05/22/2012

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I am not a SAHM but i am on maternity leave until October. I have 2 kids and I got a year off with each of them. A lot of people think that it is an easy job but I think that it is so diffcult. You do not get a break from them unless they choose to nap at the same time. At least when you work you get to have a lunch and breaks. Most days I realize at 1:00 that I haven't had anything to eat all day. It is also so tricky because you don't get to make your own money. So I have taken on the task of working a little from home around the kids schedules to help out with the bills a bit.

Leekeisha - posted on 05/20/2012

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I get the ugly looks because I'm a young stay at home mom and it is noticeable of what god is blessing us with. I believe that the same people who down talk being a sahm will take the position if givin the opportunity

Shakara - posted on 05/18/2012

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I JUST RECENTLY LOST MY JOB AND MY FIANCEE SUGGESTED I BE A STAY AT HOME MOMMY WITH OUR 16 MONTH OLD AND I DONT MIND BUT IT IS NT THE EASIEST AND WHEN I TOLD SOME OF HIS FAMILY AND MIND THEY ALL HAD THAT LOOK AND GOT TO JUDGING SAYING WELL MUST BE NICE TO LAY IN BED ALL DAY AND COOK AND CLEAN WHEN U WANT IT REALLY PISSED ME OFF BECAUSE I GET NO SLEEP TILL BED TIME CAUSE WHEN HE NAPS IM UP DOING WHAT I CANT WHILE HE IS UP SO THOSE WHO SAY SAHM IS THE EASIEST JOB MORE POWER TO BECAUSE I WOULD LOVE TO SEE YOU TRY...!!! SAHM!!!

Alex - posted on 05/18/2012

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Real people have respect for women, and men, who are strong enough to take less income so they can raise their kids themselves.

Robin - posted on 05/17/2012

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I think you should just ignore the people who have a problem with you being a SAHM. 9 chances out of 10 they are just jealous that you get to spend all your time with your kids while someone else is raising theirs. I love being a SAHM. I know that no one can take care of my kids the way I do. And It is a honor to be there everyday all day . Even if some times feel like ringing their little necks LOL.

Gena - posted on 05/16/2012

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WOW...I am surprised by all of these comments! I have never gotten anything but "that is great" and "You are lucky" when I tell them I stay home with my kids. I have even gotten "wow, that is great, I could never do that"! I have never been looked down upon or even questioned about it. Most people I encounter are so supportive and have nothing but nice things to say!

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 05/15/2012

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Sarah, working moms raise their own kids too. Having someone babysit is hardly someone 'playing mom' and I find it offensive that some SAHMs believe that all working moms have someone else raising their children and playing mom for them. Does that mean that when your children are in school that they have someone else playing mom as well? Or that single moms pay someone else to 'play mom' since they don't have much of a choice in being a SAHM or not.

When I worked my older daughter was in day care. I'm not rich either, just extremely lucky to have found 2 different women who ran in home care centres that were reasonable and flexible with my job schedule. I was a single mom with her and working in home care and in assisted living. Yes I was also lucky because I lived with my parents and my dad's job had him out of work at 2:30 in the afternoon and if my mom wasn't on a business trip or training someone too early I could have her drop my daughter off instead of doing it myself when I had the baby sitter who lived down the street.

BTW, my mom also worked and she and my dad raised myself and my brother. My MIL works and she also raised 3 boys as a single mom. Everyone had help, but no one else was 'playing parent' to anyone else.

Not everyone is cut out to be a SAHM or SAHD so it's not right to say that moms who do work are neglecting their parenting and passing the job on to someone else. I asked my husband if the situation was reversed and I was able to get a good paying job, would he want to be a SAHD. He told me no that his ADHD would make him go crazy, he wouldn't be able to stay at home all day. And quite frankly the same is true for me, as soon as I get my permanent resident visa I'm going back to work as well.

Sarah - posted on 05/15/2012

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I say "I raise my own kids cause I don't have anyone to do it for me. I'm not rich and I cannot afford daycare and I don't have someone willing to play mom for me for free like some moms do".

Terina - posted on 05/15/2012

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shyla i can relate to your post im too a sahm have been for 5 ys now. i have a 5 yr old and 2 yr old and a few of my husbands friends/family members have made the remark i dont know how you live like you do . i hate that... we have a mortgage doiing the garden and house up and generally have a nice life the diffrence is between me and them is that we dont on holidays every year we dont go out every weekend and we are careful with money, my kids dont have evrything but they go without either if that makes, but i do and i prefere it that way i can wait for my designer shoes til im at work basically and i think a lot of it was jealousy tbh. i think the people judging us for being sahm do it too often too quickly .we should all be able to live how we want without the fear others thoughts weather that sahm or working mums we do whats the right decsision for our family at the time

Gina - posted on 05/15/2012

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You are giving to much importance to people opinion. Don't forget that you work hard at home and your husband at his work place and you are the ones who bring the money, put food on the table etc. So, don't overwhelm your self with other people coments, they aren't the ones feeding you.

Rachael - posted on 05/15/2012

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People who say 'oh your just a stay at home mum' are completely ignorant. I feel sorry for them actually, as they are just making themselves look stupid. Try to shrug it off, being a SAHM is the most unselfish thing a mother could ever do. Society dosent need less SAHM's it needd less judgemental people.

Shyla - posted on 05/14/2012

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I know exactly how you feel, I just quit my job 3 months ago b/c i didn't feel comfortable leaving my son with his babysitter. But i went in there to go grocery shopping and i was telling my ex-boss that me and my husband was buying a house and she said "Are you sure you can afford that" I really wanted to tell her off and everytime i go in there i feel like they are all talking about me. It is a really hard feeling to deal with.

Taylor - posted on 05/13/2012

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I haven't really had many bad reactions to being a SAHM. My family knows that I'm probably working more at home that I was when I was working two jobs (I have a touch of OCD, lol). The only person who really has a problem with it is my dad, and that's because my mom was a woman, that happened to have a kid, that had the balls to say she was a SAHM. I don't blame him for being a little leery on the concept, and I try to explain to him that while I don't have a tangible income, I make it my duty to make sure my home is spotless and that my family is well cared for and has warm, healthy meals. :)

Terina - posted on 05/12/2012

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i see why though i did i too realsied i was going to create fear if i didnt loosen up ( my mum had it happen to her so she was suspicious of everone) but at the same time its hard to get that balance . think were kind of hijackng this post with this conversation....
what ever we do as parents however we do it for the benifit of our kids,over here where i am home schooling is normally not very commmon at all nd normally only happens s theres issues with a child at school so its un familiar to me

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 05/11/2012

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Ok. But to me it seems a little extreme. My mom was overprotective with myself and my brother when we were younger, but then she loosened up because she realised she couldn't keep us in a bubble.

Terina - posted on 05/11/2012

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totally agree i was in that situation myself in his home with my uncle who i trusted i just meant i understood what michelle was doing.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 05/11/2012

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Terina, even if you have someone invited inside your home doesn't mean they're 100% safe. As I said in my post, my mom and her sisters were molested by an uncle. I will never believe that just because you know someone or believe you have control over the situation you are 100% safe.

Terina - posted on 05/11/2012

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megan i think what michelle was getting was the fact if someone enters your home they are invited and she has control over who comes into the home. i applaud her for doing that im pretty sure her kids know they can trust her and also pretty sure its a natural thing she has taught them how to defend them selves to a degree. what ever way we teach our kids the results are the same at the end we end up with eduacted kids with worldly understanding and morals no matter how or where its taught ! at least they are being taught in the 1st place ( which is more i can say for some people i know) good job michelle nice to hear you have the abilty and patience for it

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 05/11/2012

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I get crap sometimes for being a SAHM. Especially when it also comes along with being in favour of universal health care. I've been told that I'm lazy and expect everyone to take care of me. FFS I was in the workforce for 12 years before being a SAHM. I'm only a SAHM here in Canada because I'm an imigrant from the US and I'm waiting for my Visa to go through. I can't work until that happens then I will go back to work either as a phlebotomist or a care aide.

Thankfully I only get crap from uninformed strangers who like to add words that don't bear repeating. My family is very supportive and understanding. And since my husband is still looking for work I get to spend make up time with him since before I moved we lived on opposite ends of north America. My husband is also a great help to me because he helps with our daughters and the housework (he even does dishes!) I like that I'm showing my daughters that you can do what you want and be whatever you want to be whether it's working outside the home or in the home or being a SAHM.

Honestly I don't believe that all working moms are jealous of SAHMs. Some of them might be, others just don't understand why someone would want to have a never ending 24hr job and being accused of being lazy. I don't even understand it myself. All I see is never ending loads of laundry that need to be folded and put away, meals to be made and groceries and such to be bought. Being a SAHM isn't for everyone and I believe that both positions should be respected.

Michelle, you're basically teaching your child that the world is a scary place. As for keeping your child safe: You can get molested as easily by a friend or relative of the family (statistically it's more likely that sexual assualt and molestation happens with someone the child knows- don't believe me then ask my mom because her uncle molested her and her sisters) Also look at that guy down in WA (I live in Canada- every state is down except for Alaska) who killed his kids and blew up the house. He wasn't a stranger, he was a parent. You'd do better teaching your children how to defend themselves and that they can trust you that you'll listen to them.

Michelle - posted on 05/11/2012

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I say to all the stay at home moms....Just because people roll their eyes and so forth...that just shows their ingorance and more than likely their jellousy. Some people wish they can stay home and have their husbands take care of them, but they don't. Women who have their husbands taking care of them are fortunate. God says for the men to work and take care of his wife and children. We are to stay at home and take of our homes and children. Our work of staying at home is a never ending job. Some people think that all you do is stay at home and do nothing...well they are wrong. At least when they get home, their jobs are done and we are still working....taking care of our children and cleaning, fixing food and ect. So, I say..congrats to all who stay at home and does what's needed and not worrying about what the heck someone else thinks. I just say they are jellous and not me. I have a husband who works hard and pays bills and does his job and comes home and he even helps me when I'm doing dinner and helps clean up. I don't ask for help, he just helps me. I take care of my kids and teach them. I feel more safer with them at home than in a public school. So many children are being malested, abused, raped, bullied, killed or kidnapped. I know I don't have to worry about my kid getting on a school bus and not coming back home or being bullied and or even sexually assualted. Yes, there could be bad people to come around your home, but at least you are together and you can have protection for your children and yourself if someone comes in without invitance.
There are so many children that has both parents that works and not around and the children gets in so much trouble or don't even have the quidance they need and they're not as close as those children that are at home with mom.
So good luck with all stay at home moms and congrats to you for being a stay at home mom, this shows you have alot of guts and I respect each and everyone of you!

Jenna - posted on 05/10/2012

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I fortunately live in a place where a lot of people are SAHM's so there is a little bit more respect for the job. I take what I do just as seriously as the lawyer next door or the teacher down the street. People used to do the eye roll type reaction when I was a teacher, though. Everyone judges everyone on different things.

Bethany - posted on 05/09/2012

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I have to admit, my life is actually pretty cruisy. I have a loving, supportive, working husband, I have one healthy, intelligent, obedient (mostly) 3 year old child. I have the car. We have a separate signatory joint bank account.

I have never felt judged, more like envied. No one has ever said I should work, they all say I'm lucky I don't have to. No one has ever made me feel inferior to the mums that maintain a home, and work all day, and see their kids for 2 hours before bed time.

I am my own worst critic, given my fortunate life, and think I should be doing more in the home, baking and cleaning and playing productively and such. No one could make me feel worse than I can make myself feel. But most of the time I don't feel bad, I feel fortunate. When I'm napping on the couch after lunch, I feel for the mums out there doing it hard in the 'real world' and squeezing 48 hrs into every 24, and wouldn't swap for quids.

Michelle - posted on 05/08/2012

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A SAHM is the hardest job on earth but it's the most rewarding job too. Don't they know that SAHM's job is 24/7? Advance Happy Mother's Day and enjoy watching this Ad for us... Moms.

Jess - posted on 05/08/2012

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*ahem. yeah, I know.



It's hard not to answer the not-so-innocently-asked question I inevitably get, "what do you do all day?" without sounding like an ungrateful, whiny OCD freak.



There's a Facebook anecdote going around that I've reiterated in varying renditions and usually get's the conversation turned toward more interesting things without making too big a deal over the "what have you done with your life" reaction.



It goes something like: a husband came home to find his kids still in their underwear eating food out of boxes and wrappers, soiled and soggy clothes on the floor, a puddle under the kitchen table, toys on the stairs, toothpaste smeared on the bathroom mirror, etc. and his wife still in pajamas curled up in bed with a good book. When he asks her what happened she replies, "Remember when you said last night that you didn't know what I do all day? Well today I didn't do it."



:)

Michelle - posted on 05/08/2012

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well i've had people look at me funny because i stay at home with my kids and i also homeschool. they will even ask..." how is your kids gonna graduate?". i say well, first of all i stay at home because if i put my kids in daycare, it would take all the money i have of a paycheck(if i worked),and at least i know where my kids are and they are safe. there has been kids in daycares that don't even come home because they've been kidnapped, some comes home with an illness that you've never heard of. some die from being in there. and of course some gets raped or malested. as for staying at home and homeschooling. i tell them that i homeschool my children the basics..reading, writing and math and that i know they are safe and they can get a graduation degree.I mean have they heard of colleges at home?????Yes, i've told them that. and i don't care if someone looks at me funny or don't like me because i'm at home watching and teaching my kids. we are to watch, take care of and teach our children. God says this in the bible.If people don't like it, they need to look elsewhere. as for being lazy at home watching the kids..people are full of it. When you are at home watching your kids and teaching them, it is an unending thing.you start when they wake up and you stop when the go to bed.you clean up after them and everything else in the house. So how can that be lazy? men, is supposed to work and support their wives and children. yes, they work hard for what they do and when the get home they are tired. at least their jobs are done when the clock out...we are constantly working at home....cleaning, washing clothes, feeding the kids, etc. our job is neverending!

Terina - posted on 05/08/2012

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i feel exactly the same way , i know in some peoples cases they have to work but i alwats felt deep down even before i had kids i wanted to be home with them and fortunatly i am in a position with my husband that allows us to that and like you alma i think my husband likes the fact that his dinner is on the table the kids are looked after his clothes are cleaned the house is tidy its me that gets up to the kids in the night and early mornings and if i was to go back to work i dont think he would welcome the fair split in duites. and yes i think the trouble with the mil is they are envious but without being rude i dont have 6 kids like she did so she probably hd to work and actually she had a 15 year old to give er free child minding anyway! im not digging at those that do work i just really qppreciate the fact that i dont and while it is constant i will look back and see the benifet and i guess i do now when people comment on how polite my son is which saying please and thannk you etc and yes its pretty big headed to think thats all down to me but lets lets face it no one else taught him those manners :-)

Alma - posted on 05/08/2012

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I completely get what you're saying Terina! My in laws expected me to go back to work, but I didn't understand their need to meddle in what really was none of their business. I have been a sahm for 13 years. In that time, someone has always had something to say, mostly from my husband's side. If my husband got me something nice like an expensive handbag, my MIL would ask "why do you need that; you don't work". Haha some people! My mom stayed home to raise us 4 kids and my MIL had to go back to work, and I think she has always been a little envious of me being able to stay home and enjoy my kids. It hasn't been easy with one income, but we're not starving either. No vacations or new cars but that's okay. Being there for my kids at a moments notice, being able to have witnessed everything, has been a huge blessing. My husband never forced me to go back to work. He likes that I'm home with our kids and that dinner is on the table and that the house is clean. I didn't want anyone else raising my kids; I had them, they are my responsibility. If people don't like it, oh well. It is certainly not my problem.

Terina - posted on 05/08/2012

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i hear what you are saying ive had it too , imagine how they would react if we rolled our eyes at them for working ! each to thir own id say, im a sahm and have been 5yrs, its the only job ive ever been any good at ! and the only job im not gonna quit at ! if someone wants to work or has to fine but why should we be in the catergory of being lazy when actually its far from it. my mother in law expected me to go back to work 2 weeks after having my 1st born because `thats what she did ' and she looked after all the other grandchildren so i guess she thought thats how it was going to be and yes she made me feel bad dropping in it it wasnt fair to let j my husband be the only one to g out to work but i didnt see it as fair that i put my child in daycare or me to work full time and then come home and carry on with the housework and laundry and get up through the night and really early rising cos one thing i do know the jobs around the wouldnt have been split ! i think in my situation i was damned if i did damned if i didnt nd besdies whats it got to do with everyone else how you live. if i get hassle for being a stay at home the quickest thing that shuts certain in laws up are the fact that i wont miss out on 1st words or walkiing etc ( its sounds a bit bitchy but it wipes the smile off their face ! they expect the same off me cos thaey did it i think they find it hard to accept that) being mum is the hardest job you can do yu only get one chance ! and it comes naturally to love your children and do the best you can but one thing is for sure i wasnt prepared for the crap that came with it i.e the constant battle with husework and constatnly having input about how things should be done or the negative responses by being at home i thought I was doing a good thing and as long as my kids are happy well mannered and can say at the end of I did a good job then im happy and you shuld be too and be proud of yourself that YOU are raising your kids. your making a diffrence to them and giving them things no one else can x

Eva - posted on 05/07/2012

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I used to get that, but haven't heard it as often lately. When ever someone would make a comment about me being lazy or not having a real job. I used to challenge them. Bet I could last longer at your job then you could at mine. Then I would give a list of all the things that a sahm has to do. No one bothers me anymore.

ROSA - posted on 05/07/2012

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People think is the easiest thing to do, but is worst than working!!! The good thing is that you spend more time with your kids.. Which most likely these people just go pick up their kids from babysitters/ day care, get home and put them to sleep.. What type of parent/child bonding is their!!!

Alma - posted on 05/03/2012

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Lol... I use to get this from my brother, but I still love him. He was injured on the job and had to stay home with his girls. Now he knows first hand that it isn't the easiest job in the world. Most recently, I got it from my SIL. She stated that I was lazy and 'don't do sh*t' and that her brother pays for everything. Needless to say, we don't speak.

Elle - posted on 05/03/2012

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I recently joined the ranks of SAHM. I have 2 bio kids and one foster daughter. Went from one FT and one PT job to SAHM. I can honestly say I am WAY busier as a SAHM than I ever was working FT. And man, it's way more pressure! I am responsible for shaping these little beings, not to mention make sure they are clean, fed, socialized, healthy, etc. I truly don't regret the decision though. I am a busy body at heart and feared the SAHM thing wouldn't be "busy" enough or "challenging" enough. These 3 kiddos fed me those words for lunch and dinner. One thing I am really thankful for- now I look forward to each day with them versus before I was just going through the motions because I was burnt out by 7pm. And I get the best part of them each day- the mornings, when they are rested and happy! Before, they were at the tail end of a day full of stimulation and had the patience of nothing. Yep, so now I nod and smile and rub it in how lucky I am to have a sugar daddy and was able to choose to do what I wanted. Sometimes I spin it back and make them feel how they are trying to make me feel and say - wow, you'd RATHER work than be home with your kids? Then they mention they couldn't afford to stay home and I see they really are jealous!

Annaleigh - posted on 05/02/2012

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I don't usually get it, but I'm always running errands and being my husband's secretary, plus we have 3 kids. People can be so rude though, just let it go.

Christina - posted on 05/02/2012

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People that frown upon "SAHM" have not lived it. I'm 26 soon to be 27 with a 5 month old and I worked from 16 to 26 full time no breaks. After having my son, my husband and I were able to have me stay home...after all...I would be working just to pay for day care. I would rather raise my son and teach him everything then have someone watch him take his first steps or crawl. That's my choice. One of my great friends tried to stay home with her children...she just couldn't do it. It wasn't for her. All moms should do what they are comfortable doing.
Being a stay at home mom makes you give up things...like a second income. My husband and I live with my 93 year old grandmother because we can not afford to buy a house on ONE salary. We can not get a new car, we can not go on vacation. It's not easy giving those things up. There is nothing I want more then to give my son a house and a backyard....but we can not for now. I find those things more upsetting to me then being cooped up in the house. I can handle being alone in the apartment (upstairs of my grandma's house) but I get more and more upset that my friends are buying houses and I feel like I'm missing out on something. I should mention that we have ZERO privacy in my grandma's house..people are constantly just "stopping by" and waking my son up for NO reason other then to see him. So I guess I'm on the complete other end of the spectrum because I'm not lonely...i'm never left alone.

Amber - posted on 05/02/2012

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Most people don't really say anything to me when I tell them i am a SAHM. The only ones who have really made comments to me are my aunts. Like they would say " OH it must be nice to sit a home and do nothing! " Really! Yeah that's all we SAHM"s do is just sit and watch tv while our babies take care of themselves.

Hope - posted on 05/01/2012

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In my honest opinion: that means they're just jealous! ;D Love your haters lol!

Kelli - posted on 04/30/2012

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Oh i totally agree! And my huby works on the rigs and is gone every two months for three wrrks and everyones likr ur so lucky im like ya im blessed but i am mommy and daddy at times with nooooo break

Katherine - posted on 04/30/2012

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I totally understand! I dream of the days I can just sit on my couch and eat bon bons but since that's nevergonnahappen, I just remind the people who think it's an easy job of how it's actually a 24X7 job and there are many days I'd rather be working in front of a computer earning a paycheck instead of listening to a whiny toddler and cranky baby :) Hang in there, we all know and appreciate how much you do!!

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I stay around our home alot (parks and shopping) because most women in our neighborhood are at home. I actually had one young girl say to me that she could never be a SAHM because she would be SO bored. I just smiled at her. I have a 17yr old who has special needs (who I home school), and a 4 year old, and a 20 month old. There are days that I realize I never even went to the bathroom until my husband gets home. I don't have time to care what others think. I have actually had people ask me what I plan on doing after the little ones are off at school. Its as if being a SAHM is fine as long as the kids are there all day. After that you have to go out and get a job. I still plan on being at home. There are sick days, school vacations, snow days, and then what should I do if I am at some 9-5? I feel sometimes they are jealous, so I let their comments slide off my back.

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I think that you should pay them no mind, The truth is, SAHMs and Working Moms are exactly the same. Neither one has the easier job! Its hard for both parties and the people who can't see that are close minded individuals!

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I haven't had anyone say anything luckily ( to my face) when I say I stay home with Peyton. 3 other friends of mine also stay home so it's not bad....most I have encountered say " good for you" that's the best thing....I have been lucky! My mom is on disability with liver disease and my tro aunts and mother in law are retired so we do things together. My husband sometimes makes me feel like I'm lazy sometimes but he also knows its easier cuz he works out of town a lot and we either go with him or drop P off at grandmas and we go outof town.....

Jennefer - posted on 04/27/2012

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Tell me about it. Every woman in my family does not agree with my decision. They're more concerned about "if" it doesn't work out then I'm screwed.



Honestly, it's so irritating that everyone who hasn't done it thinks it's a piece of cake but especially with a baby or toddler, it's a job that lasts throughout the night as well. Some people need to just mind their own business!



But good for you! Even though it's a hard job, I think it's the best and most rewarding!

Leslie - posted on 04/27/2012

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I dnt get that yet lol, i been a SAHM for 4 months and its because im prego and im due in 5 weeks, but after that ill be staying home. But seriously lots of moms wish they could stay home, i know i did while i was working and i have a 3 yr old. So i just say most of them are JEALOUS !!! NOT MANY MOMS CAN STAY HOME. they work cause they have too, but i eNjoy staying at home, and always will be proud of it.

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I get the looks also... When people find out that I am a SINGLE SAHM, they really roll their eyes.

I've had people call me lazy, and pretty much worthless. (I feel that way a lot)
Thankfully, my mom helps me and my children out and I do things around the house, so I'm not a lump.
It hurts... especially when it comes from family, but I just try to suck it up and deal with the fact that not everyone is going to agree with what I do. I've tried finding a job, and have gotten rejection letters/emails, and 99% of the time, I get no phone call or letter at all.

I cry--- a lot.

If I was a nurse, I would be set. There are all sorts of nursing jobs where I live, but I don't have the education for that.
I enjoy the time with my children and I know I have to make the best of it while they still want me around.

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